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When asked how many sex toys you own, do you group in BDSM toys with that or do you consider them to be different?

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Contributor: Sera Sera
Well, they are a bit different...and yet kind of the same. But I would consider them different.
08/31/2010
Contributor: clp clp
I actually consider all of them my 'toys', just 'toys' generally. So sex toys and D/s toys fall under the same umbrella. Each are for privileged or private use.
08/31/2010
Contributor: softkkisses softkkisses
I'm new with a lot of this so for now my answer will be together this might change latter
08/31/2010
Contributor: DustBunny DustBunny
Totally different stuff really, even stores differently in my house. You can find collars, cuffs, and locks all over, but toys stay in one area of the bedroom.
10/09/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Nope, I don't count them in my toy number. It's more of an accessory if I had to put a label on it. Unless it has a toy purpose too like the pony plug for example, I don't lump it with toys.
10/09/2010
Contributor: sbon sbon
I would group them all together.
12/24/2010
Contributor: Lady Neshamah Lady Neshamah
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
Personally, I own lots of BDSM toys, but when somebody asks me "how many sex toys" do you own, I only consider my vibrators and other *sex* toys. To me, BDSM is seperate from sex, and they are a separate category. I was just wondering if ... more
yes, bdsm is different from sex for me as well. bdsm doesn't always have to be sexual.

i would totally say that kink/bdsm toys aren't sex toys.
12/24/2010
Contributor: MrRainybowbow MrRainybowbow
It doesn't matter what their made for or how their used their really all the same.
01/16/2011
Contributor: Mr. & Mrs. Peg Mr. & Mrs. Peg
I don't think of our BDSM gear as toys.
01/17/2011
Contributor: TboyTy TboyTy
I see them seperately, but together if that makes any sense. My usual answer to this question is to simply flash a devious smile and say "plenty" or "would you like to find out?" if I'm interested in the person.
02/04/2011
Contributor: KatPawz2003 KatPawz2003
i lump them together because if a toy is involved then it is in some sort of kinky D/s or S/m or even B/d way. My vanilla sex life is pure sex, with no toys.
02/04/2011
Contributor: Serendipity Serendipity
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
Personally, I own lots of BDSM toys, but when somebody asks me "how many sex toys" do you own, I only consider my vibrators and other *sex* toys. To me, BDSM is seperate from sex, and they are a separate category. I was just wondering if ... more
I would group them together in general but would probably give a more specific breakdown on the types of toys/items I had. BDSM items are a category unto themselves.
02/07/2011
Contributor: Ajax Ajax
For me, it's all the same. Everything we use or do leads to sex. If the BDSM gear was a part of our lives out side of the bedroom I imagine I would feel differently though.
02/13/2011
Contributor: CynicallyYours CynicallyYours
for me, for the most part, toys are toys!
02/13/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
I think it is all used for sex so all lumped in together.
02/17/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
Personally, I own lots of BDSM toys, but when somebody asks me "how many sex toys" do you own, I only consider my vibrators and other *sex* toys. To me, BDSM is seperate from sex, and they are a separate category. I was just wondering if ... more
I don't group my bondage gear and whips as sex toys. But I guess in theory, they are. I'm just more comfy calling specifically vibrators and dildos my sex toys.
02/22/2011
Contributor: Miss Morphine Miss Morphine
I tend to lump them together because we often use the standard vibes, plugs, etc. during play.
07/10/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
BDSM is counted separately for me
07/10/2011
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Lump together. One and the same.
12/17/2011
Contributor: 131231e43 131231e43
I keep it simple. I lump 'em together.
01/20/2012
Contributor: Allstars316 Allstars316
I would say all of them together.
01/21/2012
Contributor: Ms. N Ms. N
I *keep* them together, but I would consider them to be separate. Even here, for example, I have two wish lists for toys - one for regular sex toys, and another for BDSM toys.
01/21/2012
Contributor: dks210 dks210
I lump them together. It's all used for sexual purposes anyway.
01/23/2012
Contributor: eroticmutt eroticmutt
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
Personally, I own lots of BDSM toys, but when somebody asks me "how many sex toys" do you own, I only consider my vibrators and other *sex* toys. To me, BDSM is seperate from sex, and they are a separate category. I was just wondering if ... more
I consider penetrating/penetrable toys to be sex toys, while I consider whips, floggers, masks, etc to be props, they would be grouped separate.
03/10/2012
Contributor: Gdom Gdom
I tend to include BDSM gear in the "sex toys" category. Of course, I understand why it might seem strange to categorize certain things--rope, for instance--as "sex toys," but that seems to be more a problem with generalizing and categorizing than with BDSM gear being sex toys. If it's an inanimate object used to make sex more fun, I'll just go ahead and call it a sex toy (that just makes more sense to me than drawing arbitrary distinctions around what we call things).
01/11/2013