Are you a dom, a sub, or a switch?

Contributor: anonymouse anonymouse
I'm a switch, and can only be with other switches. Sometimes I want to submit, sometimes I don't.
12/23/2010
Contributor: abntroll58 abntroll58
I work in a high pressure job so I am a sub at home, although not 24/7 but big time in the bedroom
01/02/2011
Contributor: Angel deSanguine Angel deSanguine
I am a Switch. Before I met my husband I had never submitted to a male-bodied person, only women and masculine-of-center queer folk (and even then rarely.) My husband is also a Switch which works out beautifully.
01/03/2011
Contributor: TboyTy TboyTy
I am a boy, through and through. My alpha and I joke "service with a (sometimes forced) smile"
01/03/2011
Contributor: celibacysucks celibacysucks
I am so much a sub that it frightens me. Especially since, in the world that is NOT the bedroom I am the boss of every relationship I am in...or at least try to be. Everyone knows me comments on the fact that I am so bossy. It's just my nature.
01/08/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
I voted Switch, but I'm primarily submissive. It depends on who I'm with and what the situation is as well. Tonight, for example, I switched and ended up topping two men. Just as quickly as that had happened, I was bottoming once more. So, yeah, it just depends.
01/09/2011
Contributor: qqqqqqqqqqqq qqqqqqqqqqqq
I personally call myself a sub, however most people see me as a switch. Naturally I am a sub, however I am highly attracted to other subs. Because of this, I have put myself in a dom role in order to play well with someone whom I found very attractive.
01/09/2011
Contributor: vanillaSpice vanillaSpice
Switch, but I lean a bit more toward dominant... which I think makes it more exhilirating when I do bottom.
01/23/2011
Contributor: Pixel Pixel
I'm a switch, leaning more towards Domme. It takes one hell of a Dom to get me to sub for them.
01/25/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
I'm naturally a sub. That being said, I'm really curious about being a domme, especially when playing with people that I don't know super well. Being submissive requires an enormous amount of trust, so maybe I could play with more different people as a domme.......
01/25/2011
Contributor: Mr.Skillfu Mr.Skillfu
Quote:
Originally posted by LavenderSkies
Post your position
Switch with my wife....but dom with others....
01/25/2011
Contributor: Vaccinium Vaccinium
I'm functionally a dom, but that's only because my wife has absolutely no interest in being anything but a sub. I'd sure like to switch places at least once to see the other side, though.
01/26/2011
Contributor: TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
sub.
01/26/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
my boyfriend and I are both switches, and though we both do prefer the submissive side of things, once in a while one or the other of us will just NEED to take control!
01/27/2011
Contributor: thedude thedude
usually dom
02/03/2011
Contributor: Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
remind me who "wears the pants?" or for many who wears the dildo
02/03/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
I'm generally a sub although I can switch if the situation is right
02/03/2011
Contributor: Miss Madeline Miss Madeline
I am my Owner's sub. I bottom to regular play-partners. I have switched on occasion (especially for fire play!). I identify as a submissive bottom.
02/03/2011
Contributor: BadassFatass BadassFatass
I'm a Switch. A lot of the time my feelings of dominance or submission to someone depends on how I see them as a person, for some reason.
02/13/2011
Contributor: kittychilla kittychilla
switch. def. i love to be his little pet..but i also love to treat him like my pet every so often.
02/17/2011
Contributor: Happy Camper Happy Camper
You could say I'm top-curious. I'm learning to switch but I have way more experience bottoming.

But I really don't fit into any of the above categories because I prefer to identify as a sadomasochist. Submission doesn't come too voluntarily from me and I really don't take most orders well. Protocol drives me off the wall. But I love bottoming and if our relationship had to be defined as dom/sub, I suppose I would be the sub. Just not a very good one.
02/17/2011
Contributor: RammaJamma RammaJamma
I'm a complete switch, I love being both dom and sub. I get cravings for subbing though, sometimes I've just got to have it.
02/20/2011
Contributor: Joie de Cherresse Joie de Cherresse
I'm usually always sub, but I enjoy handing out orders from time to time myself...
02/28/2011
Contributor: MR.G MR.G
This is from a thread I started on GSPOTS but it has a GREAT OTK application too which discussed around pg 6 of:link

For anybody who has tried the GSpot technique and found that it works AND likes a spanking now and then - COMBINE the TWO.

A good OTK and every 10 swats or so give her two to five rapid G-Gasms and then 10 swats. Alternate that back and forth. Keep it rapid and frenzied, pull her hair, lock only one leg down so she can kick the other around, keep one arm firmly over the small of her back so she feels (and IS ) trapped and can't get away. MAKE her submit just a little longer than she wants to. She'll be screaming and begging you to stop. Don't. Part of the thrill for her is NOT knowing if you'll just keep going until she goes completely nutz or passes out from the intensity. I don't think most women can continue this for more than two or three minutes once they start having G-Gasms. It is just too intense. The spanking combines the kinkiness and submission AND the GSpot orgasms can be administered almost like spanks..."WHAT did you call me? OK - That's TEN more!!" It is awesome.

Afterwards reward her with a COLD cold cream bum rub. Aloe Vera based
body lotions are great. Put it in the fridge for a while first. When you start spreading the COLD cream over her red cheeks she'll melt. Give her a few more (slower - softer) G-Gasms while you're doing the bum rub.
02/28/2011
Contributor: 13 13
Quote:
Originally posted by LavenderSkies
Post your position
As a scorpio...
I have Dom tendencies, but I am a sub at heart and try to squelch my scorpio nature.
03/01/2011
Contributor: guy4guyz420 guy4guyz420
I'm a very submissive person but really only when it comes to the bedroom.
03/01/2011
Contributor: slynch slynch
we switch it up
03/01/2011
Contributor: gladiola gladiola
Sub. I tend to giggle at myself when I try to be a dom.
03/03/2011
Contributor: Scarlette Scarlette
Sub with a partner I really trust and I know Im going to be with for a while. Switch other wise.
03/05/2011
Contributor: charip charip
Most certainly a sub. Not once have I considered myself otherwise. I can play the part of a dom, but it really feels awkward and forced. Being a sub comes naturally to me.
03/12/2011