This month is Sexy YOU month everywhere on EdenFantasys and SexIs. As a wonderful coincidence this theme falls during a time when I am rediscovering what makes me feel sexy, and confident. When I’m taking the time to indulge myself in large and small ways.

As many women do after a break up I’ve immersed myself into doing things for me, and only me. I’ve spent a great deal of time soul searching, finding what makes me tick, and what makes me purr. The few months before the break up were really hard ones. I lost myself in them in more than one way. I also lost my sexy. That however, has changed.

I’ve learned that spending extra money on a lotion that makes me feel luxurious puts a little extra sway in my step. Using a shampoo that is sulphate free and contains argan oil makes me flip my hair a little more. It makes it softer and gives my confidence a boost. For that matter taking the little extra time to dry my hair makes it ringlet curly even more than usual. The curls make me feel sexy and feminine.

There are so many physical things that make me feel sexy, not only the above. Things as simple as the garnet ring on my finger, the tinkling of my earrings swinging into each other, a bra giving me more lift than usual and a well fitting shirt, and especially the necklaces around my neck that rest on my chest, and the longer chains that draw the eye between my breasts. Physical reminders that I’m sexy are everywhere.

What about the non-physical things though?

Some days I just wake up and feel sexy. My hair co-operates, my eyes look more piercing than usual.

Other days I definitely need some help. I get self-conscious and pick at things. My self-esteem isn’t the greatest but I’ve learned ways to bump it up, or completely obliterate that un-sexy feeling. I think an obvious one is somebody flirting with me. Nothing makes me smile as much as being flirted with. It doesn’t matter if it’s a guy or a girl. It means somebody has noticed me, and likes what they see or hear even if I’m having a really down day. Even better is when that person is a gorgeous guy or girl. I will have an extra bounce in my step all day.

When I’m alone I listen to music. Not just any music but something with a good beat that I can move to. I can’t dance worth shit but give me a good beat or a strong attitude in the lyrics and it excites me. I will move my body and I will feel sexy and confident all by myself.

I think part of this for me is my hips. Not just my hips but also my curves in general. I’m not a tiny girl, but all my extra weight is proportionate. I don’t have one particularly bad area, as most people tend to talk about. The excess is spread out evenly. So, it accentuates my curves the same way they would be accentuated without the weight. I am blessed in that way. I definitely want to lose the weight and believe I would feel even sexier but the curves themselves make me feel sexy. Lying alone in bed I will intentionally lay on my side so I can run my hand along my hip and over the dip and up to my breasts. I love it. The shape I have been blessed with makes me feel sexy even with the weight.

To me, being sexy comes from confidence. The higher my confidence goes, the sexier I feel. If I’m completely deflated and sad, if I’m self conscious and shy, how am I supposed to feel sexy?

Sexy is being confident above and beyond anything else. It’s being happy with who I am, and loving myself. Sexy YOU is being comfortable with yourself and extenuates the parts you like the most. Put on the kick ass red lipstick, wear those dangly earrings, line those gorgeous eyes, and wear that awesomely low cut top or dance around in your bra and panties. Do what you can to make yourself feel sexy. I didn’t for months, and now I can’t remember why. I love my sexy, and I love Sexy You.