Sexis Social: A publication by EdenFantasys community

The Passion of the Newness

There is an amazing thrill to doing that “new thing.” I remember the first time I stepped on stage, the first time I kissed a boy, the first time I kissed a girl, the first time I kissed someone’s boots, the first time I was spanked to tears…

I’m batting my eyelashes at you, didn’t you know?

Lacking in the flirting department? Nanamondoute has advice for the ladies on how to grab his attention!

#ExpressLove - The Littlest Expressions Make the Biggest Impression

Being the wife of a truck driver is a extremely challenging task. It takes a lot of patience because you are usually the only person that they have to vent to when they have a bad day or there is a troubling situation.

Can Divorce be an “Expression of Love?”

As the author of a column called “Devil’s Advocate” I’m no stranger to causing controversy, but I was genuinely astonished that what I thought was an innocent comment ended up “offending” so many people when I posted it on Facebook.

No Shame: Coming Out Positive

Why don’t clinics routinely test for this when we come in? Why are we so disproportionately represented? How many women give birth and transmit the virus unknowingly to their babies?

How Don Draper Sells Us a Bum Rap On Love

Don Draper is a role model for millions of American men – but is that why we’ve become increasingly unhappy in love?

Got a question for a prostitute?

Check one out at Ottawa's new Human Library!

See Mom, It's Like This...

Mollena shares a deeply personal conversation with her mother about just exactly why she lets people hurt her.

New Recommendations Released for Treating Transgender Patients

Who knew sensitivity wasn’t a trait native to caregivers?

Truth Is Better Than Fiction

The temptation to make something up when confronted with questions about your kink can be strong, but most often, the truth in some form is better than trying to get away with the little white lie.

Is Casual Sex Good for You?

As I look back on 2011, I realize one thing I’ve come to understand more this year is that our society is a lot more prudish than we like to think it is. First let me say that I think everyone should have a clear idea of what's right for them when it comes to sex. Navigating how and when and why you're getting it on is important; telling other people what to do, however, is offensive.

Seven (Random) Suggestions for Submissive & Slave Types!

There is no one rulebook for how to do this thing we call BDSM, Power-Exchange, Master/Slave relationships, etc., etc. One of the things I most enjoy about perverts is our limitless capacity to forge our own damn path, thank you very much! I’ve done a lot of weed-whacking through the jungles of kink in order to find ways that work for me.

Dating: Dealing with Crazy

Passing around those sad or disturbing emails people receive after disastrous dating situations seems like it's all in good fun — but isn't it important to remember there's someone out there who perhaps needs some advice on how to accept rejection with grace, dignity and a little less sociopath-like decorum?

Diamond Symbol Banned from Mother-Toddler Group

It just looks too much like a vagina.

Seven (random) Suggestions for Dominant Types

There is no one rulebook for how to do this thing we call BDSM, Power-Exchange, Master/Slave relationships, etc., etc. One of the things I most enjoy about perverts is our limitless capacity to forge our own damn path, thank you very much! I’ve done a lot of weed-whacking through the jungles of kink in order to find ways that work for me.

The Hardest Words To Say

Why are the smallest words in our language the hardest to say? When looked at impassionately, these opposing tiny words are easy to write and say. They practically draw no attention; that is until we add emotion. Then they can become almost impossible to use. What are we talking about? The words that compose the shortest sentences in our language: “Yes”, and “No.”

“No” Means “No.” So Why Do Some Women Teach Men It Means “Maybe?”

The more the sex positive community talks about the importance of respecting boundaries, the more alarming it becomes when, in mainstream dating, some women have been encouraging men to do the opposite for decades.

The Prime Directive — It's Not Just For Starfleet

When you look at “Power Exchange” relationships – that is, relationships that are based on someone giving over control of some facet (or all aspects!) of their lives to another person – it seems obvious whose needs, wants and desires come first. The master over the slave, the dominant over the submissive, top over the bottom.

Or is it?

A Conversation On Faith, Love & Open Relationships with Rusty Lazer and Corinne Loperfido

Recently, Loperfido and Lazer took the time to speak to TinaV about their new blog and the specifics of their open relationship.

Is Divorce Really A Bad Thing? A History of Marriage (and Divorce) — Part 2

Last week when news of Kim Kardashian's divorce shook up the Internet, I asked: What's with the so-called “sanctity”of this marriage? Does the institution actually have any sanctity?

The short answer? No.

Stalking Young Teens Makes for Disturbing Art Exhibit

Let's face it: Some kids make it a little too easy.

Waking Up Your Inner Word Slut: How To Open Up And Say "Take Me!"

Let’s spend a moment on Oral Sex. We don’t mean the licking, slurping, sucking kind; although we love that kind too! We mean opening up your soft, warm lips and sending luscious vibrations through those little white chords that say, “I want you to fuck me. Slow. Fast. Long. Hard.” And, “Please, make it hurt… just a little.” Want to talk about that? We do.

As Sex Ed Discussions Heat Up in U.S. ... Consider Finland

They're much more comprehensive. And their teen birth rate is half that of the U.S.

'Go Ask Alice' Under Fire as Sex Ed Resource for Kids

New York curriculum for mandatory classes draws scrutiny.

Sex and Pregnancy: The First Trimester

It's possible there are as many myths and misconceptions about sex and pregnancy as there are babies being born. So what's fact and what's fiction? In this three-part series, Lady J, as a part of her own pregnancy journey, takes us through sex and pregnancy, one trimester at a time.

I Hate Dating, I Like Relationships

“Dating” sounds like a dirty word to me, and not in a good way. I love traditionally dirty words in the right context, but dating? Not so much.

For This 14-Year-Old ... It Didn't Get Better

Buffalo, N.Y., youth commits suicide over bullying.

Rate Me — Not: Why I Don’t Want to Know How Many Stars Your Ex Gave You

These days, you don't really have to go on a first date with a total stranger. You can Google, you can hunt them down on dating review sites, you can get a glimpse into who they are before you ever get a glimpse of them at all. But is this really the best way to get to know someone, or the most accurate for that matter?

Tuesdays With Nina: Negotiating a Threesome (or Foursome) with a Reluctant Partner

Setting up a scene that involves multiple partners and making the space that allows for everyone’s feelings and expectations can be tricky, but it's important to make sure all involved are comfortable and understand the rules if you want to pull it off without acrimony or fostering resentment.

Is Masturbating to Porn Cheating?

Readers are always asking us this question, and the masturbator in question is pretty much always a man. Sometimes his female partner writes to us, asking if she's right to feel cheated on. Other times the man himself writes to us, asking why his partner can't understand how benign his porn masturbation habit really is.

Creating and Nurturing Open Relationships

You've considered it. Maybe you've even talked about it, but how do you actually go about opening your relationship to include other people? The direction and design depend on you, but there are important principles to keep in mind to ensure success.

Tuesdays With Nina: We're All Responsible For Our Own Orgasms

Your boyfriend has only made you come once in a year? Is that his fault or is it yours?

Alcohol & Consent: Why the Double Standard?

Whacked out, drunken-ass consent is still consent; otherwise we have to reexamine a woman’s right to drink.

Non-Orgasmic Sex: An Introduction to Lazy Lovemaking

Does No Really Have To Mean No?

Do you feel positive emotions when you hear the word “No?” If kink is your preference, you may have eroticized this word but taken out of the context of role-play, the word probably still causes you to wince. “No” signals that you may not get something you want and that is rarely cause for celebration.

Nikol Hasler: Dumping Ground

So, I guess you could say that I haven't been myself lately. This month has been consumed with trying to hold myself together through a really ridiculous break up. It's been confusing and messy and I've been a nutcase.

Tuesdays WIth Nina: When You Give Head, Shouldn't You Get It In Return?

It's only fair, isn't it? You go down on your partner and then it's your turn right? Tit for tat. Quid pro quo. So what's the deal, why aren't you getting yours?

‘Panties Across the Bridge’ Raises Awareness of Cervical Cancer

In Cincinnati, they also do “Bras Across the Bridge.” And why not?

Asking for What You Want

Asking those we love for ANYTHING can be problematic. Our culture encourages us to be independent, self-made islands unto ourselves. We are each doing it our way and win or lose, we wear our failures and successes as testament to our personal worth or lack thereof.

The Scarlet Letters: “SE” for Sex Ed

In a perfect world, every child-guardian relationship would be punctuated with down-to-earth, all-your-questions-answered talk about the young person’s emerging sexuality.

How Do I Tell Someone I'm Kinky?

You meet someone new and you wonder...is he kinky? Will he run screaming into the night when I let slip my taste for being tied up? Now is not the time to panic, now is the time to sit back and carefully consider how to introduce your kink to someone you think is vanilla.

Nikol Hasler: Oversharing

When I was a little kid I was a total weirdo. I would talk to anyone, anywhere. Homeless guy on a bench? Tell me everything. Mother at the park swinging her child? Let's chat about swinging and did you know my grandpa died when my mom was a teenager and her mom is crazy and did you know my neighbor Mrs. Pinkski has a little dog and she thinks I stole her tulips but I was on roller-skates?

Solicitation: The Secret Life of Johns, Part Five — What About The Wife?

Prostitution hurts marriage, doesn’t it? This has often been used as an argument against sex work — it’s not only demeaning but endangering to unknowing wives. But, this isn’t an argument about the morality of sex work — it’s about the morality of cheating. Still, when talking to Johns, I had to ask: How are the wives actually affected?

Do Dominants Really Need Aftercare?

Aftercare is a much debated topic among those who are into the rough and tumble play of BDSM. Whose responsible, what is needed and how long it should last are often discussed, but with the submissive in mind. Dominant aftercare is a phrase you almost never hear.

Taking Dirty Pictures

In preparation for a new collection of short stories to be published, Johnny Murdoc embarks on a new experience, shooting a nude pictorial, which will be included in the upcoming book.

Polyamory for Monogamists

Whether you're the one excited about trying poly or the partner who's been approached to open up the relationship, you don't have to just guess and hope about the outcome of this venture. There are things to think about, scenarios to talk about, and tools to use to figure out whether your monogamous relationship has a good chance of withstanding the switch to polyamory.

Secrets of a Sex Writer: Unpacking My Relationship Baggage

If you ever see me on the street, chances are, I'll be carrying at least three bags. More than likely four, possibly five. Usually I have my purse, a bag with my laptop, various magazines, books & papers, then a few others with shoes, gym clothes, more books, maybe a bottle of seltzer. The bags are, as I told someone recently, a part of me, but they are also, literally & figuratively, my baggage.

Advanced Roleplay: A Manual for Making the Fantasy Happen

You've heard the roles before: naughty nurse, horny pizza guy, frisky babysitter, suave pool boy...but what if the roleplay you're into doesn't fit into porn's top ten? Whatever your ideal fantasy scenario is, you can accomplish it with a little work.

Totally Tame Oral Sex Photo Illustration Freaks People Out

Student newspaper in Florida is fined and censored.

Tuesdays With Nina: How To Tell Someone About Your Fetish

Nina offers advice and thoughts on how to go about sharing or discussing your sexual fetishes with family members, friends or new sexual partners.

Obligatory Sex

Are there occasions when you owe your partner the obligation to have sex with them?

An Open Letter to the Creepy Guy on the Internet

Do Straight Women Need an After Sex Doll to Cuddle With?

Scottish Teens Happier, Healthier, Using Condoms

It's nice to see a survey that doesn't go all crazy about young people having sex, don't you think?

Tuesdays With Nina: Emotional Infidelity, Take 2—Having Feelings and Deciding What Do With Them

If you are in a relationship with someone and fall in love with someone else, is that a betrayal? If you don't share these feelings with your significant other, is that a transgression?

The Appetites Project: Planning A Diabetic Menu For Romance

When our society thinks of sexy treats, we usually think of truffles, whipped cream, chocolate fondue, dessert wines...all things that can be extremely unfriendly to diabetic partners. As with any other dietary restriction, perfectly wonderful romantic nibbles can be procured with a little thoughtfulness, common sense, and communication.

How To Say No To Sex

I realize that this article is supposed to be about having sex but chances are that if you’re sexually active you also need to know how to say “no” to sex.

Tuesdays With Nina: Stop Being Just Friends and Generate Some Romance Instead

How do you stop being the guy every girl wants as a friend and start being the guy with whom every girl wants to flirt?

Nikol Hasler: Emotional Safety

Most people watching this already know what BDSM is

Secrets of a Sex Writer: Yes, Even Sex Writers and Call Girls Get Jealous

Recently, I decided to take a break from sex and dating until November, when I turn 36 (but not writing about sex and dating!), and part of my impetus for doing so is to give myself time and space both to work on myself, and to sort out a lot of unresolved feelings and right at the top is jealousy.

Kinky Roommate Etiquette

In the best of all possible worlds, we could do whatever we want, with whomever we want, whenever we want... but for those of us who live in the real world, having sex can be a process of negotiation—especially when the real world includes sharing your living quarters with others.

Emotional Infidelity... Is it Cheating?

If you've negotiated a monogamous relationship with your partner, you've probably set up some ground rules. For most, that means no sex with someone who isn't your significant other. Sounds simple, right? Well, "it ain't necessarily so."

Psychotherapist May Be Fired for Gay Conversion Therapy

Undercover journalist records efforts at “cure.”

The Bloggess' Avalanche of Giving

One small request generates an outpouring of support for those in need.

Sex “Don’ts” for the New Year

Welcome to 2011! Do you have a long New Year’s resolution list? Lose weight, get in shape, save money, have more sex, switch political parties, move to Canada or perhaps give Kim Jong-il a sexy tickle until his wiki leaks?

Happy Nude Year in Vancouver

Icy swim by naturists benefits amputee children.

Kutcher, Moore, Beckham, Middleton, et. al.: Pay No Attention

Science group fights bad sex and health advice from celebrities.

Sexy Calendar Benefits Domestic Violence Victims

“Strength is Sexy” in Lehigh Valley, Pa.

Fighting Spam, One Bigger Dick Ad at a Time

Lawyer aims to empty our inboxes of dreck.

Sex Clinic Shutters in Shanghai

Students would rather get information on the Internet.

Dirty Holiday Cards, Thanks to Google Instant

Web site lets you make a greeting full of (censored)

BYU Study Says Premarital Sex Hurts Long-Term Happiness

We're looking for some second opinions, here ...

ChaCha: Sexual Advice from an Unlikely Source

Over one billion questions answered … including “Can I sodomize you?”

Sex and Anger, Part 2

Last month, we looked at how both acting out or suppressing anger can lead to angry sex or no sex at all. Today we delve into anger management. By learning to channel "darker" emotions in a positive way, you can actually boost intimacy and sexual response.

Craigslist Yields to Pressure in Canada

Company pulls erotic service section from web sites.

Controlled, Conflicted & Stressed Out Over Sex

Modern relationships can be complicated. Sometimes when things don’t work out, it’s not always a simple matter of just being able to walk away. What happens when love dies and your sex life seems over, but you’re stuck in a situation you can’t leave?

No Sex Please, We're Egyptian

Documentary filmmaker explores complex marital relations in the Land of the Pharaohs.

Mr. Sexsmith’s Other Girlfriend: How to Survive the Winter Holidays as a ... Whatever

So, you’re queer.

Neurotic and Married? Scientists Say: Have More Sex

(This probably works for well-adjusted singles, too.)

Ford Foundation Gives $4.1M to Study Youth Sexuality

Grants will support “innovative research.”

Déjà Vu Dating

Einstein’s definition of insanity was doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. Applying the same principle to your love life is a proven method to madness.

Devil's Advocate: Whose “Sex Positive” Is It, Anyway?

Sex and Anger, Part 1

Secrets of a Sex Writer: Sleeping With Married People

Mr. Sexsmith’s Other Girlfriend: Celebrating the Body Erotic

Mr. Sexsmith’s Other Girlfriend: Just Do It: Sex in Relationships

Em & Lo's Sex Advice for Grown Ups—A Guide to Orgasm Etiquette

We hope we don’t need to point out that just one orgasm, for one partner, is not the finishing tape of a sex run. Instead, think of sex as a three-legged race—your partner can neither compete nor cross the finish line without your help, and vice versa. Each partner should make a concerted effort to satisfy the other partner before throwing in the towel.

Setting Sail for the Isle of Muliebrity (Womanhood!)

Tuesdays With Nina: Young, Sexy...and Celibate?

"The course of true love never did run smooth," Shakespeare once sagely said, but for the young man who is seeking advice today, the booty train has spotty service at best, and might be headed for derailment. Can Nina help him get his love life back on track?

Tuesdays With Nina: An Owner’s Manual for the Ultimate Pleasure Machine: Your Body!

It seems simple: Tips for exploring the wonderful land of sex. But sex is a country that has many destinations worth exploring as well as rules of road, local customs and attractions. Do you feel like a stranger in a strange land? Not sure what to bring along; what to leave behind? Or how to get to the top of the local monuments? Let Nina be your guide.

Secrets of a Sex Writer: The Nonconsensual Play Party Voyeur

Tuesdays With Nina: Sex For Newbies, Part 1: Kissing, Porn & Making Love

Adam and Eve were tossed out of the Garden of Eden for taking a bite out of the apple that fell from the Tree of Knowledge. Trouble was, and still is, that a little knowledge is a dangerous thing, especially when it comes to sex. So what do you do when you've been raised in a conservative environment and have not been exposed to deeper learning about the carnal world? Ask Nina, of course!

Mr. Sexsmith’s Other Girlfriend: Mapping Emotional Armor

Your Travel Guide to the Island of Machismo

Today we welcome Veronica Monet to the SexIs crew. If you just don’t get the opposite sex, don't worry. You CAN learn to understand your partner. Whether you’re straight or gay, vanilla or kinky, monogamous or poly, Monet says we all have something to learn about “cross-cultural fertilization.” Life’s a journey. Let our expert tour guide help you make the most of your travels in Libido Territory.

Mr. Sexsmith's Other Girlfriend: Speaking Different (Love) Languages

Rebel Love: Bi-Sexual in the Big Easy

Editor's Note: This is the debut of Rebel Love, a new column focusing on unconventional relationships that work in spite of social ignorance and public judgment. Each month, a nontraditional couple—or not couple—will share insights into how they’ve managed to stay happily together while not fitting the mold.

If you and your partner(s) would like to be considered for an interview, please email us with “Rebel Love” in the subject line.)

Men and Women Both From Earth, Cool Mill Offered for Naked Obama Prank

Old “neurosexist” ideas about the differences between genders are being challenged by scientists—specifically the notion that men are biologically from Mars and women are hard-wired for Venus. Turns out, it may be more nurture than nature than previously thought.

Mr. Sexsmith’s Other Girlfriend: The Life Lessons in Swing Dancing

Look at your partner when you’re communicating with them.

When you decide to do something, pay attention, commit to it, and follow through.

Secrets of a Sex Writer: My Domme Side

Tuesdays With Nina: Talking Dirty

Sometimes, "aural sex" can be really hot, but how do you know what to say, and when to say it? How do you keep from cracking up? Learning the language of love can be difficult, but it's also dirty and fun. Just ask Nina.

Secrets of a Sex Writer: My “Trendy” Post-Breakup Celibacy

The End of “What If?”

A recent story in the UK’s Telegraph reports that Facebook is cited in roughly one in five of the country’s online divorce petitions, but millions of avid users swear the reconnections are mostly harmless fun. Have these quantum leaps forward in technology created a society addicted to its past?

Tuesdays With Nina: Asking for Something New in the Bedroom

Tuesdays with Nina: Communication & Generosity

Who is responsible for you having a happy sex life? Hint: It's not your partner. Nina explains that without a healthy emotional state, good communication, and mutual respect for one another, no amount of bedroom acrobatics will save a bad sex life.

Diary of a Sex Surrogate: The Devirginizer

Not every woman in their late 30s can say they devirginized four men in one year. I can. Over the course of several months, I spent intimate time with four adult male virgins, from 24 to 38 years of age. Two had overwhelmingly positive outcomes, and two did not.

Five Ways to Improve Your Sex Life

I won’t lie: Sex has saved me. From myself especially. From going so deep into the spirals of my own brain which could drive me crazy. But when everything is perfect, there is no mind in sex. There is just feeling; just the body, moving, stretching, pulling, reaching, opening, pulsing, listening, taking, giving; just sensation.

Clit Sensitivity & Piercing, and Knowing When it's "Time" To Orgasm

This week, Nina takes on two very different questions. First, she tackles the issue of clit sensitivity. Does it diminish as we age? Can a clit piercing enhance pleasure? Next, a considerate young man wants to please his lover, but is worried that he's climaxing too fast. Find out why Nina says: "There's no such thing as coming to soon."

The Bloggess: Magic Words That Make Him Tell You the Truth About Where Your Socks Are

This month I’m doing a series of articles to prove to my grandmother that my sex column is just as good as anything from Cosmo by writing my own stories inspired by actual Cosmo titles. This morning I was supposed to tackle…

Dr. Dick on Demand: Making Marriage Work

Getting ready to marry and finding yourself with a case of the cold feet? Never fear; Dr. Dick is here, with a primer for all you betrothed to-be to find your own sexual success.

Tuesdays with Nina: An Intro to Threesomes

How does a couple prepare for a threesome? How do you know if it’s right for you and your partner? Why is the fantasy often better than the reality? Nina explains it all!

Dr. Dick on Demand: Healing Sexual Trauma through Sensate Focus

One of the most difficult things for me to deal with as a therapist is the aftermath of sexual trauma. And I know that the trouble I have with this is only a tiny fraction of the difficulty my client has as he or she faces his/her past.

Dr. Dick on Demand: The Open Relationship Model

Deviating from conventional model. Is it worth it?

The Bloggess: Things you should never say on a first date.

Or ever, really.

Project: Good in Bed—Yes, I So Rocked His World!

Last I wrote, I was feeling like an old, haggard, dull excuse for a wife—the very type of wife who might have a husband who wasn’t particularly interested in bedding down with her. I can tell you, worrying that you may no longer be attracted to your husband is one problem. Worrying that he may no longer be attracted to you? That’s a problem of an entirely different magnitude.

Diary of a Sex Surrogate: Who’s Your Sex Surrogate?

One woman’s up close and personal mission to help others work the kinks OUT.

The World AIDS Day Project: One by One

In candid interviews, Guy and Debra from the AIDS Service Center NYC make true ASC’s promise of ‘helping many one by one’.

The World AIDS Day Project: Anatomy of an AIDS Activist

AIDS activists are a diverse group. The faces, the voices, the hearts, the minds, the goals vary from each to each, but they all have one thing in common: the courage to act on their convictions. What does one look like? Anyone. Everyone. Take a look in the mirror. It might even be you.

The World AIDS Day Project: On the Frontlines of the Forgotten War

For Executive Director, Sharen I. Duke and the dedicated staff at the AIDS Service Center NYC, the battle rages on. In this video interview, she provides an overview of ASC's ongoing mission.

Failure to Communicate

When it comes to verbal communication, my husband generally have no problem finding things to discuss. Actually, one of the things I love most about him is that he truly listens to me and respects my opinions. But there’s one topic we both stumble over—sex. Actually, it isn’t the topic of sex per se, but being able to effectively communicate our wants and needs.

Turning Off the Turn Offs: How to Find Detours around Sexual Roadblocks

The things that turn us on are determined not only by our individual preferences, but by the culture in which we live. The same holds true for those things that effectively turn us off.

The Talk

Why is talking to our progeny about sex so awkward? Does it have to be?

Project: Good in Bed—I Want to Have Sex. I Want to Have Sex…

That’s what I’ve been telling myself...let's see if I can make it happen.

Dr. Dick on Demand: Virginity

Virginity is a very touchy issue in just about every culture on the globe. Curiously enough, it’s almost always exclusively about female virginity. This sad double standard gives rise to emotional conflicts for both genders. But again, it is young women and girls who bear the brunt of it.

Cyrano in 140 Characters or Less: The Art of the Love Letter—and Email

These days, not even poets are squeezing their hearts into love letters. We live in a fast-food world. And while love still isn’t something you can order from the drive-through, modern courtship is a reflection of the way we live: fast, easy, and a little out of control—like a quick email, an instant message—or a throng of twenty-first century Cyranos Twittering their love...in 140 characters.

Synching Up Your Sexual Clocks

At 6:00 each morning, you are likely to find me out cold. My husband on the other hand, is most likely laying next to me, wide-awake, trying to cajole me into a daybreak quickie. At this time of day I am barely capable of keeping my eyes open, much less my legs, and he knows this. However, this doesn’t stop him from trying—and hasn’t stopped him from trying for the last six years.

Faking the Big “O”

News flash, folks: You may think you’re a powerhouse in bed who can get any partner off, but according to a University of Kansas study, of students they interviewed who were sexually active, 67 percent of women—and 30 percent of men—faked orgasms.

Surviving Infidelity: His, Mine and Ours

Infidelity in marriage is like a Ming vase that’s been shattered by the person you loved and trusted most. That’s what my life felt like the night I found out my husband was cheating on me. I shared that with someone who’d been through it as well, and she said she wanted to turn her broken pieces into a beautiful mosaic. I think—and hope—that is what my husband and I have finally done.

Dr. Dick on Demand: Fighting Fair—a Tutorial

I have just the thing for all you folks out there who are in a relationship. If you’re like every other couple I know, you have your share of tension. And let’s face it—tension leads to fighting. And fighting, if not done fairly, can lead to hurting your partner—even if that’s not your intention.

Fat Lips & Other Smack Talk: The Language of Fat

No matter how you say it, it seems everyone is talking about body size—either their own or someone else's. Fatspeak is a national obsession. So much talk is meant to belittle that it’s easy to give offense where none was intended. Here's a quick lexicon on Fat Language. Consider this a travel phrase book to the land of Fat where the roads are often dangerous, unmapped and slippery when wet.

The Practicality of Polyamory

Explaining your relationship status isn't easy when you've got a wife, a girlfriend, and a boyfriend (or what I like to call a Full Set). "It's complicated" doesn't begin to capture it. But while we may be unique, there are lots of people who practice polyamory. It can be pretty confusing for the participants themselves, so it's not always easy to explain to everyone else.

Observations of a Sex Positive Gypsy: There’s no such thing as a stupid question

I get a lot of questions. Some are good, some are bad—some just get asked over and over and over. Let's run down the top five...

Come Out, Come Out… …or not. Whatevs. It’s cool.

We find ourselves and we find our loves in our own unique ways – that’s just how it happens to be. For a whole bunch of us, this means we get caught in a closet (or ten) somewhere along the line. Fortunately, we get to decide for ourselves whether or not (and how) we want to come out of those closets. There’s a lot to consider.

Dr. Dick on Demand! The Anal Sex Guide: Giving and Receiving

As promised, here’s Dr. Dick’s highly anticipated seminar on being a great ass-fuckin’ top. This is a companion piece to an earlier tutorial for you novice bottoms out there — Liberating the BOB Within. This tutorial is for anyone who is considering being a top, regardless of whether the meat injection is 100% prime, or a beef substitute (a strap-on dildo), these words of wisdom are for you.

Sex and the Suburbs: The Dry Spell

It’s inevitable that all couples will go through it. And when you add needy children that expect to be fed, bathed and nurtured every day to the relationship cocktail, the chances that sex is going to take a backseat for certain periods of time is almost completely unavoidable. The question is, how long is too long?

Dr. Dick on Demand! Liberating that Big Ol' Bottom Within

So—you’ve finally decided to become a B.O.B. (Big Ol’ Bottom)? Tired of missing out on all that ass-play everyone’s talking about? Been secretly tripping on the exploits of your favorite porn stars? (“Jeez, would ya get a load of that—his hole looks like the Victory Arch in Paris, for God’s sake.”) And now you want a piece of the action for yourself?

Sex and the Suburbs: Chips, Dips, Chains, Whips—Exploring BDSM and Kink

Momma’s got a brand new bag. And it’s full of paddles, floggers, and restraints. It’s time to get your kink on!

Guess What, Honey? I’m A Kinky Old Perv!

So you’ve met the person of your dreams—only you haven’t got around to telling your new honey your dirty little secret...

As Different as the Next Girl

Being a trans woman myself, and having dated a number of other trans women, I occasionally have people ask me for tips or advice on being sexual as or with a trans woman.

Sex and the Suburbs: The Great Anal Debate

Okay, moms—take your fingers out of your ears: it’s time to talk about buttsex!

Observations of a Sex-Positive Gypsy

Being a sex-educator isn’t all glamour all the time. And for Sarah Sloane, it’s more about being a sex-positive gypsy, traveling the highways and byways to deliver the good word—sort of like an evangelist, with a strap-on. In her first column, our heroine reflects on life, long-distance sex, and the evils of cheap hotel beds.

Sex Therapy—What Is It and Who Needs It?

I’m often asked about my work as a sex therapist. I’m surprised at how few people have any sense of what we actually do. While I can’t speak for all my fellow therapists, I can tell you a bit about my own practice.

SexVoxing: Now That You Can Laugh About It...

This week on SexVoxing, something a bit more personal...What is the most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you during sex?

Sex and the Suburbs: We Really Need to Talk...

This week: an open letter to dads, husbands and/or partners, from the mothers who love them but want—or, rather, need—more foreplay).

Sex and the Suburbs: The S-E-X Talk (You Knew It Was Coming)

When it comes to talking to your wee little ones about the birds and the bees (and specifically, why Mommy and Daddy are doing it), the truth often WILL set you free—and it just might get you laid more often.

SexVoxing: Sex for Bookworms

Today on SexVoxing: What book on sexuality do you think should be required reading?

SexVoxing: Techniques to Grow On

Today on SexVoxing, we’re going to take a walk on the wild side of ‘what if’: What tip or technique do you wish your ex had known?

Confessions of an Ex-Virgin: What I Learned about Sex by Not Having It

One cold November night the year I turned fifteen, I kissed him for the very first time. Seven years and thirteen days later, we finally made love. What happened in between?

Exes & Sexes: The Twits of Splitsville

From Facebook to Twitter to Myspace to AIM, YIM, and Skype, our love lives have transitioned seamlessly into the constantly evolving fabric of Web 2.0. But what do you, a savvy social networker, do when your love live goes awry? Kal Cobalt sorts through the tweets, status updates, and Skype logs to find out.

The Slavette Diaries: The Myths and Realities of Masters and Slaves

A Peek at Life Behind the Black Leather Curtain

Would You Like to Swing on a Star? The Hows and Whys of the Swinger Lifestyle

Are you a swinger, baby? Do you want to be? Swinging has come a long way since the 60s...explore the new swinger lifestyle and decide if it's the place for you.

Veruca Salt Gets Laid

On Craigslist, the user can find anything their heart (or other organ) desires. Is this a healthy thing - and who's doing it? Cherry Trifle finds out.

Catching Cancer Off a Toilet Seat: The Truth about HPV

There's a lot of talk going on these days about HPV, from hysteria to disinformation, to the occasionally sharp pang of truth. Sarah Sloane pulls back the blinds and takes a closer look.

Stop in the Name of Love: Safewords

Safewords are words or signals called out, usually during BDSM-related play, to either slow down or completely stop a scene. Citi Kittie gives us some deeper insight into the ins and outs of safewording – but take note: chances are that your boss will not respect your safeword when you use it to try and get out of that overdue spreadsheet.

5 Ways to Ruin Your Sex Life through Communication

Want to know some great ways to mess up your relationship...or would you rather get some hints on how to prevent it?

Marital Arts: Negotiating Sex with Your Long-Term Partner

Keeping your sex life fresh and exciting is dependent on one crucial thing: communication. From negotiation to fantasy lists, 'as you wish' to anti-fantasy lists, let's take a look at a few of the options out there for better improving your sexual communication skills.