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Is the UMD “white privilege” ad campaign racist?

The University of Minnesota, Duluth (UMD) is sponsoring a bold new advertising campaign aimed at achieving racial justice by raising awareness of “white privilege.” But is this campaign a positive measure? Or just as racist as the issues it claims to highlight?

The Passion of the Newness

There is an amazing thrill to doing that “new thing.” I remember the first time I stepped on stage, the first time I kissed a boy, the first time I kissed a girl, the first time I kissed someone’s boots, the first time I was spanked to tears…

I’m batting my eyelashes at you, didn’t you know?

Lacking in the flirting department? Nanamondoute has advice for the ladies on how to grab his attention!

Fat: Mind Over Matter?

A recent study on body image shows overweight people who lose weight find themselves still lingering in the “fat” mindset. Another reports people view those who lose a lot of weight in a more negative light than even overweight people who maintain a stable weight. What, then, is the point of losing weight?

Living Life Labeled

Why does society pressure us to label and define our sexuality?

Summer Skin: How do you keep it safe?

I’m not a girly girl by any means and I don’t have a normal regimen that I use on a daily basis all year long to protect my skin. However, in the summer I do pay special attention to my skin and try to prevent it from becoming sun burned and becoming dry. Dry skin is very common in the summer so I am going to offer some suggestions on what I do to keep my skin soft in the summer.

Why So Uptight?

I was recently on a business trip and had an afternoon to kill and went to a museum for a change of pace. As I was walking around all of the great pieces of art, I noticed something. Back in the Renaissance people were not afraid to have everything hanging out and on view to the world.

Three Life Lessons About Love and Sex That I Learned from Fearing Both

Pulling myself up by my bra straps and facing fear – that’s the greatest reward thus far from my journey stepping toward the edges of human intimacy.

#SexFeed: Centers for Disease Control Roll Out Drugstore HIV Test

Will rapid, affordable and anonymous HIV testing help quash the HIV crisis?

Money Talks, or Does It?

Recently, I read an article discussing whether or not gender equality had changed the rules on who should pay on a date. Like the author, I also grew up thinking that when I was older and dating, the man would automatically pay for the first date, and probably any future dates. It was his responsibility assigned to him by gender, right?

Summer Pleasure: Is “Fat Acceptance” Just As Dangerous as “Thinspiration”?

“Thinspiration” – images meant to inspire anorexics in their pursuit of skinniness – are no doubt dangerous. But is the pursuit of “acceptance” for being dangerously overweight any better?

#SexFeed - Have scientists proven that homosexuality is genetic?

Scientists say they have identified the “gay gene” – but is that a good thing or not?

Sex and Happiness: Where do you fit in?

Much is made about happiness in pop culture and media. We’ve become a society affixed on the idea that it is our prerogative, a formidable right, and anything less than outstanding and endless satisfaction of whatever expectations we’ve collected along the way is a real and serious crisis.

Money Talks: Should he pay?

Should men still be held responsible and expected to shoulder the financial burdens? Even in such small things as paying for the first meal?

My Dream

What happens when your dream doesn’t run along side your lover’s?

How They Touch Me

I remember holding my boyfriend’s hand in high school. There were ways our fingers fit, over and under, woven together, that felt right, and other ways that just felt…weird.

She Plays, He Plays: Operation Pussy Power

Since the 50 Shades craze, there has been a lot of talk about kegel exercisers. Sales for these little lady helpers have skyrocketed across the board. But which set is best for your body? Rydell Johnson gives you the scoop on four sets carried on EdenFantasys.com.

Sex and Pregnancy: Trimester Two

My second trimester started out with a bang. Two, to be exact.

Are student loans killing the traditional family?

National student loan debt has surpassed $1 trillion, topping credit card debt for the first time and has prompted new calls for a student debt bailout. At the same time, marriage and birthrates are falling, while the average age people tie the knot is inching ever upward.

Body Image and Sex: Are they related?

Body confidence is a huge issue when it comes to being sexual. Study after study, in all areas of the globe, continue to show that more than half of women are concerned about their body image. Many men are affected by this as well, with gay men showing even higher rates of body dissatisfaction than women.

Does Your Partner Mind if You Touch Yourself in Bed?

I confess that I have trouble sleeping if I don’t have an orgasm that night. It usually doesn’t even matter if I got off in the morning, or if we had sex four hours before bedtime. If my body has already gotten over the endorphins, I have trouble sleeping.

Six Steps to Freedom

Getting over a master is never easy. One must first decide they’re ready to move on, and then set their mind and mood for catharsis and deprogramming. Yes, we said deprogramming. Read on to understand why.

Breasts: Bigger, Sooner and Laced with Jet Fuel?

Women think of breast cancer as the sole boogey man lurking under our breastbones, but jet fuel in boobie juice and toddlers developing buds make it pretty obvious: the environmental impact on mammillary health is double-D huge.

This Week In Sex: Should we sue HIV+ patients for not taking their meds?

Two bits of news hit the headlines this week, and together, they raise alarming questions about how best to tackle the HIV/AIDS crisis.

Planning is a Form of Foreplay

My wife is a tremendous person. She works very hard in her career, and takes her roles as wife, mother and friend just as seriously. I try to make sure she knows how much I appreciate her during all months, but especially in May, and on Mother’s Day, I take time to make sure she truly feels appreciated.

A dominant serves? Isn’t that ... counter-intuitive?

Among the more persistent illusions non-kink identified people have about the pervert milieu is that we kinksters live in some sort of rarified place where protocols reign supreme, and those who would call themselves masters lounge about being waited on by doting droves of swooning slaves.

#ExpressLove - The Littlest Expressions Make the Biggest Impression

Being the wife of a truck driver is a extremely challenging task. It takes a lot of patience because you are usually the only person that they have to vent to when they have a bad day or there is a troubling situation.

#ExpressLove - The “L” Word

So this month’s theme here at SexIs is all about expressions of love. I think the most obvious way to show your love for someone is to tell them. Unfortunately, it’s also one of the hardest things to do as well.

#ExpressLove - Love is a complex and many-splendored thing.

Its meaning to us, as individuals, is as unique as snowflakes. No one person’s definition of it is going to be exactly the same. In the same way we think about and define love, we also have diverse ways of showing it.

Can Divorce be an “Expression of Love?”

As the author of a column called “Devil’s Advocate” I’m no stranger to causing controversy, but I was genuinely astonished that what I thought was an innocent comment ended up “offending” so many people when I posted it on Facebook.

No Shame: Coming Out Positive

Why don’t clinics routinely test for this when we come in? Why are we so disproportionately represented? How many women give birth and transmit the virus unknowingly to their babies?

#ExpressLove - Selfless Acts

Sometimes it’s the simplest things in life that bring about the greatest joy, and I consider selfless acts of love to be the best expression of love that anyone can ever receive.

Generation Fear: How I Survived HIV Education in the 1990s

9 Strangest Birth Control Secrets from the Ancient World

Did you know April is STD Awareness Month? In honor of this, we asked our writers to talk about sexually transmitted disease and infections, contraception and sexual health. Tucker Cummings found some pretty odd birth control methods. Here are nine of them!

#ExpressLove - Because of Jack

Was there a person in your past who affected how you express love or your ability to be loved? Maybe someone who taught you what love is? Kat’s someone is Jack.

#ExpressLove - Into the Deep End in Our Open Swim

So, how does an open relationship begin? And is it just a case of “Hi, we’re swingers.” and you’re having sex with someone else? Here’s Smokedawg’s story.

Loving Expressions

How do you express your love for your spouse? Maybe a surprise gift when they’re not expecting it? Or doing a chore they usually handle? Or a trip to the Caribbean?

Expressing Love Through Time Spent

“Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity.”

– Henry Van Dyke, 1852-1933

A Journey Into Self Love

There is a lot of talk about the importance of self love, and I’m not just talking about masturbation. How many times have you heard the following platitudes (often when you’re single and miserable, and wish people would just shut up):

Scent-uality, Aural Sex and Beastly Boys

Studies about how the nose weighs in on mating also have the potential to uncover the workings of some of our most primitive mating behaviors. Which can go a long way in explaining how we sometimes we find ourselves in the strange predicament of being aroused by a “Beast”.

The Road to Domination

My journey was not the most common, but I believe it made me the best I can be. It was an odd progression of finding my own way early on, dotted with self-education, and topped off with a healthy dose of rigid, formal education.

Confronting Pandora’s Box

I tried incorporating things into the sexual activities with my lost love. He unenthusiastically obliged and never gave it any full effort. It’s not something I want to ever feel like someone is doing only to satisfy me. I want them to do it because they enjoy it, as well.

How Don Draper Sells Us a Bum Rap On Love

Don Draper is a role model for millions of American men – but is that why we’ve become increasingly unhappy in love?

Can a white, middle-aged, heterosexual mom of two be “Two-Spirited”?

As her understanding of gender and sexuality have transformed, the author realizes that it’s going to take more than an understanding of biology to answer an age old question: Is it a boy or a girl?

Sexy Me on My Terms

None of that is what makes me feel sexy. Yes, I love sexy lingerie, and relaxing, but that’s not what makes me feel at my sexiest. The number one thing that makes me feel the sexiest is when I am with my friends having a good time.

Size Matters

I’ve been hearing a lot about the fat acceptance movement. Many people are touting it, and it seems that if you suggest that many people in the United States (and elsewhere, especially in the Western world) are overweight and that it’s a bad thing overall, it makes you a discriminatory, judgmental jerk.

Oh, Beautiful You—It Doesn’t Take Much Work

I’m not going to be a jackass and say that being beautiful is easy. Few things worth doing in life are easy. But it doesn't take nearly as much work as you might think. Well, in my opinion, anyway. All guys might not agree with me, but I think more do than you women might think.

Define This: V-point Relationship

Who doesn’t love to learn new things? Education is uber sexy. So Lady Dream Kitten thought she’d educate us on V-point relationships.

Tell Me You Want Me

What’s so sexy about submission anyway? Why do people do it? How can someone enjoy pleasing someone else all the time without getting their needs met in return? Mollena has the answer.

Sliding Backwards

How have we slipped so far so fast, with perhaps more backsliding to come? On the face of it, that doesn't make sense, even with so many cranky and fascist old white guys in leadership positions in the local, state and federal government despite men being only half the population.

Build a sexy self-image with sexy self images!

It can be hard to feel good about yourself when you don’t see much diversity in the body types and appearances of people deemed “sexy” by the mainstream media. So I decided to take matters into my own hands by working with several talented photographers to create my own sexy photos!

Treacherous Times For Hymens, Uteri and Vaginas

The author contemplates if we are “one step closer to saying good-bye to an era when simply being a woman is treated as a preexisting condition” as Senator Barbara Mikulski stated, or heading into the equivalent of the sexual dark ages in our own civilized backyards?

I've got confidence in my curves.

This month, our parent company, EdenFantasys, wants to know what is sexy TO YOU or what makes YOU feel sexy. So, we asked our columnists and contributors to help kick-start the discussion here on SexIs. Serenesub knows her curves are sexy and that's sexy in and of itself!

Perfect Imperfections

AndroAngel's acceptance of their “imperfections” is definitely sexy!

3rd Anniversary: You can't do it without one of these!

In honor of our third anniversary, we thought we’d dredge up some of our awesome past. We’ve got so many posts in our archive that meant so much to us – and we hope to you! – and shouldn’t be forgotten. So over the next couple weeks, we’ll be sharing some excerpts with you.

Sexy is a Journey

There's so much more to being sexy than just body image. Here's what Roland concentrated on when he decided to get his sexy back.

Sex After Baby

Couples, who have had a child, or more than one, have had to confront the issue of their sex lives after the little bundle of joy comes into the picture.

Take a Cue from Your Childhood

Is play really just for children? Does that even make sense? Adults like to have fun, too!

Mr. Sexsmith Says: You Can Get Your Needs Met Within Monogamy

Presidents’ Day Protest Teaches Lawmakers a Lesson in Fact-Checking

All eyes are on Virginia as their government decides whether or not to state-sanction rape.

Being Ken is as Hard as Being Barbie: Why Body Image is a Male Problem, Too

Some so-called feminists would have us believe that “body image” is an almost exclusively female problem. It isn’t. Men face an equal, and perhaps greater, challenge measuring up to today’s physical standards.

The First Wet Dream

Ever wonder what it’s like to transition? Are there changes we don’t often hear about? Chris Corrigan’s got a few interesting experiences to share.

Sexual Health Benefits of Love and Romance

While some of us are hating on Valentine’s Day for various reasons of our own, this author points out a number of awesome health benefits. Health benefits from a “Hallmark holiday?” Read on.

Sex Cult: Singing the Praises of Chemistry

So, just what is it that causes that excited, gnawing, obsessive feeling we get when we’re “hopelessly in love,” huh? And why does it feel so bad when we fall out of it?

Totally (In)Appropriate Valentines for Your Valentine

In order to prepare for Valentine’s The Bloggess shares with us some of the worst and most awesome cards you can give out. Feel free to print and use on people you’d like to never see again or who have very good senses of humor.

Red Alert! Valentine’s Day is tomorrow!

Did this come as a surprise to you? Don’t worry! Midori’s got you covered.

How To Turn Me On

The best way to turn me on is to be yourself, whoever that is. Way too many people posture and try to seem like someone they’re not, and I find that confusing.

My Not-So-Funny Valentine

Dateless? Don’t sulk. Buy yourself an Oreo cheesecake, a pair of shoes or a night at the girly bar and count yourself lucky this stuff isn’t happening to you.

Study Says Women Would Rather Be Frigid than Fat

What would you give up if someone would pay your bills?

Women Prescribed Defective Birth Control Able to File Suit

But don't expect to get too far. It’s easier to prove a botched vasectomy.

Pfizer Recalls Defective Birth Control Pills

Ladies, if you were prescribed these pills, return them and get tested.

Tuesdays With Nina: Husband is Impotent and Won't Seek Help

Everybody makes jokes about how once you get married, you stop having sex, but it's really no joke when a couple struggles with issues that prevent them from having a satisfying sex life or in the case of some couples, any sex life at all.

New Potential Male Birth Control is Promising

How about an ultrasound to make your sex safer?

State Senator Introduces Bill to Ban Fetuses ... From Food

Oh, no! What’ll we do without our Embry-Ohs?

Alibi Now More than Something You Give Your Wife

Now we just have to figure out what to do about the glitter.

Rick Santorum Says Rape Babies are a Gift from God

Nurse Ratched puts his presidential campaign on suicide watch.

Strippers Are Sexy

Gossips love to speculate that strip club visits equal marital doom, whereas I don't think you can infer anything from a strip club visit other than that a guy likes to look at scantily clad women.

Mom’s Sexcapades Prompt Teen to Dial 911

Maybe some soundproofing is in order?

I Love, Therefore I'm Nuts

Andrew Shaffer gives us the skinny on the private lives of 37 philosophers, in Great Philosophers Who Failed at Love, all full of various types of affairs, angst, desire, despair and scandal.

Britain Allows Abortion Clinics to Advertise on Television

Don't worry! Ads won't be all abortion, all the time.

Newt Brings Open Marriage to the Campaign Trail

Apparently "one man, one woman" only applies to LGBT relationships.

Got a question for a prostitute?

Check one out at Ottawa's new Human Library!

Mr. Sexsmith Says: Don’t Worry, Be Kinky

Stepping out into the world of dating at the age of 18 is scary enough without adding the worry that your kinks will make people think you're a freak. Mr. Sexsmith offers some sage advice on coming to terms with who you are and building up the courage to step off the dating curb.

“Donorsexual” Ordered to Stop Giving Away His Sperm

It would have been okay if he were having sex.

LGBT Parenting Studies Prove Pope Benedict and Rick Santorum Wrong

We like it when science proves us right.

Tuesdays With Nina: Coping With Painful Sex

Nothing can be so frustrating as a condition that keeps you from enjoying your favorite sexual position!

Ostrich/Human Love Affairs the Next Big Thing?

They will be if the ostriches have their way!

Nikol Hasler: Bros Before Hos

Tim is my best friend, and I love him enough that I would marry him as long as one of us were dying within a year, because I'd probably stop being able to handle being married to him after that.

Penis Tattoo Causes Permanent Semi-Erection

Maybe he won't have to take Viagra anymore?

RealTouch Brings Their Technology to the Military

Now you can have sex with your partner while they're overseas! Sort of.

I Can't Predict My 2012 Sex Life — and I Don't Want To (Most of the Time)

The biggest thing I learned about sex in 2011 is that, like life, it's unpredictable. Every time I thought I had a handle on my desire(s), on what I'm looking for, and not looking for, the universe threw me a curve, a challenge, a dare. I was engaged in a power play scene with the universe and it was my master, big time.

Greece Now Pays Their Criminals

Who knew pedophilia was a medical disability?

See Mom, It's Like This...

Mollena shares a deeply personal conversation with her mother about just exactly why she lets people hurt her.

Stephen Hawking Confirms Women are a Mystery

If he doesn't get women, nobody ever will.

New Recommendations Released for Treating Transgender Patients

Who knew sensitivity wasn’t a trait native to caregivers?

Weak Implants Filled with Fuel Additive

’Cause they like to guarantee Cancer in France.

Truth Is Better Than Fiction

The temptation to make something up when confronted with questions about your kink can be strong, but most often, the truth in some form is better than trying to get away with the little white lie.

Can we blame Columbus for Syphilis or not?!

He is to blame. He is not. He is to blame... Oh, who knows, really?

Is Casual Sex Good for You?

As I look back on 2011, I realize one thing I’ve come to understand more this year is that our society is a lot more prudish than we like to think it is. First let me say that I think everyone should have a clear idea of what's right for them when it comes to sex. Navigating how and when and why you're getting it on is important; telling other people what to do, however, is offensive.

Winter Pep Rally Prank Leaves Most Parents Scratching Heads

What’s worse? The principal doesn’t see the problem.

Seven (Random) Suggestions for Submissive & Slave Types!

There is no one rulebook for how to do this thing we call BDSM, Power-Exchange, Master/Slave relationships, etc., etc. One of the things I most enjoy about perverts is our limitless capacity to forge our own damn path, thank you very much! I’ve done a lot of weed-whacking through the jungles of kink in order to find ways that work for me.

O Canada: FDA Approves Human Trial for HIV Vaccine

In as few as five years, HIV may go the way of Polio.

Dating: Dealing with Crazy

Passing around those sad or disturbing emails people receive after disastrous dating situations seems like it's all in good fun — but isn't it important to remember there's someone out there who perhaps needs some advice on how to accept rejection with grace, dignity and a little less sociopath-like decorum?

Coercive Group Sex on the Rise Among Teens

Mamas, don't let your babies grow up to be rapists.

Diamond Symbol Banned from Mother-Toddler Group

It just looks too much like a vagina.

Legalize Same-Sex Marriage to Improve LGBT Health!

It's the right thing to do.

Pilates Breathing Maneuver Dislodges Breast Implant

Cause who doesn't want to play Hide and Seek in their rib cage?

Survey: 20 Percent of Women Have Been Sex Assault Victims

Oklahoma is rated worst for domestic violence, CDC says.

Shame, Sex-Positivity and The Sensationalizing of Sex Addiction

The new film Shame, starring an often-nude Michael Fassbinder as Brandon, with Carey Mulligan as his sister, Cissy, directed by Steve McQueen, is drawing lots of buzz and discussion about whether sex addiction actually exists.

Can We Stop It with the Strip-Searching Grandmas, Already?

Politicians propose on-site "passenger advocate" for JFK airport.

Tuesdays With Nina: I Hate Sex

What do you do if you hate sex, but still want a relationship? is it normal to want nothing to do with sex? Is it possible to find a companion who can accept this or perhaps even shares your lack of desire?

Study Shows Abortion Doesn't Raise Mental Health Risk

Women with unwanted pregnancies have higher incidence of mental health problems.

Snooping on Your Partner Can Make You Fat

However, we suspect that behaving in a snoop-worthy fashion isn't good for you, either.

CDC May Prefer Monogamous Organ Donors

More than two partners in the last year? Your organs might be "risky" under proposed guidelines.

Study Suggests Nuns Could Benefit from Birth Control

Sisters on The Pill? It might help lower their risk of cancer, later in life.

Arizona State and the Case of the Disappearing Condoms

Dispensers removed from dormitories; university's role in sex safety and education debated.

Seven (random) Suggestions for Dominant Types

There is no one rulebook for how to do this thing we call BDSM, Power-Exchange, Master/Slave relationships, etc., etc. One of the things I most enjoy about perverts is our limitless capacity to forge our own damn path, thank you very much! I’ve done a lot of weed-whacking through the jungles of kink in order to find ways that work for me.

Will Work for Love: Lawyer Fights for Right to Date Clients

Conflict of interest? What conflict of interest?

Smoking Might Make Your Nipples Fall Off

Okay, so it's not worse than getting cancer. But it's scary in its own special way.

TSA Now Allegedly Strip-Searching Grandmas

... because we're in horrible danger from back braces and colostomy bags.

The Hardest Words To Say

Why are the smallest words in our language the hardest to say? When looked at impassionately, these opposing tiny words are easy to write and say. They practically draw no attention; that is until we add emotion. Then they can become almost impossible to use. What are we talking about? The words that compose the shortest sentences in our language: “Yes”, and “No.”

Former 'Sheriff of the Year' Charged with Trading Drugs for Sex

... and he's held in a jail that was named after him.

Man Calls Out for a Prostitute and His Daughter Shows Up

Fortunately, we can tell you that the story does *not* get worse than that.

Chronic Pain: Stop it from Sucking the Fun Out of Your Sex Life

Though chronic pain has become a more medically-recognized condition, whether as a complication of another diagnosis or an unexplained phenomenon existing by itself, one frontier remains: How do people with chronic pain and their partners maintain a healthy, exciting sex life?

Demi Moore, Ashton Kutcher, Open Relationships and Our Public & Private Sex Lives

When the doors to your bedroom, and what you do inside, are thrown open for the world to see; when your sex life becomes fair game for speculation, it can change everything.

Aussie Group Raises HIV Alarm in the Land Down Under

Youth organization says sex education curriculum is inadequate.

AIDS Still Often Untreated and Undiagnosed, Even in U.S.

Expansion of testing and care are priorities for stopping spread of HIV.

When Pain in the Punani Gets in the Way of Pleasure

Vaginal pain is the number one reason why marriages are unconsummated, but treating and healing this condition is possible. Tinamarie discusses this all-to-common problem and reveals publically for the first time her experiences with a sexually debilitating condition.

“No” Means “No.” So Why Do Some Women Teach Men It Means “Maybe?”

The more the sex positive community talks about the importance of respecting boundaries, the more alarming it becomes when, in mainstream dating, some women have been encouraging men to do the opposite for decades.

Eavesdropping Husband Tries to Strangle Wife

If your spouse works for the phone company ... Um. He trusts you, right?

'Gangsta of Love' Convicted of Not Disclosing HIV Test Result to Sex Partners

Former pro wrestler faces some serious prison time in Ohio.

The Prime Directive — It's Not Just For Starfleet

When you look at “Power Exchange” relationships – that is, relationships that are based on someone giving over control of some facet (or all aspects!) of their lives to another person – it seems obvious whose needs, wants and desires come first. The master over the slave, the dominant over the submissive, top over the bottom.

Or is it?

Getting It On in This Church Can Win $50 for Date Night

Pastor starts public kissing competition for married couples, and we watch approvingly.

Worldwide, Number of AIDS Cases Has Hit Plateau

New HIV infections steady since 2007; Deaths from AIDS declined slightly in 2010.

Swiss to Vote on Publicly Funded Red Light District

This sounds like an upgrade, but taxpayers aren't necessarily buying it.

What Every Submissive Needs To Know Before They Play

When you find it, the desire to jump into the deep end of the BDSM pool can be irresistible. The excitement of new found friends, playmates and activities can drive a submissive off track and into dangerous situations for mind, body and soul. In this letter to my submissive friends, I offer some advice to avoid the pitfalls during your adventures.

Just in Case You Need Another Reason Not to Have Interspecies Sex

Guys, it increases the risk of penile cancer. Seriously. Scientists say so!

A Conversation On Faith, Love & Open Relationships with Rusty Lazer and Corinne Loperfido

Recently, Loperfido and Lazer took the time to speak to TinaV about their new blog and the specifics of their open relationship.

Is Divorce Really A Bad Thing? A History of Marriage (and Divorce) — Part 2

Last week when news of Kim Kardashian's divorce shook up the Internet, I asked: What's with the so-called “sanctity”of this marriage? Does the institution actually have any sanctity?

The short answer? No.

Stalking Young Teens Makes for Disturbing Art Exhibit

Let's face it: Some kids make it a little too easy.

Demi Pulls the Plug on Marriage to Kutcher

And we're glad she didn't do it via Twitter, you know?

Good Things Come in Little Packages, Part 2

Sexuality educator Marylou Naccarato waxes on the importance of sensuality to happiness and creative uses for low, Japanese tables that don’t involve sushi.

Good Things Come in Little Packages, Part 1

Sexuality educator and vibrator aggregator Marylou Naccarato discusses the importance of sensuality to happiness and why being “differently-abled” simply means finding alternative paths to fulfillment.

Dear Redheads: I’ll Take Your Sperm!

Shopping for a potential mate and a potential sperm donor involves evaluation of very different sets of information. When choosing the DNA material to pair with yours to create a child, what's really important and how does it different from choosing a potential life partner?

Why You Should Not Post That Porno of Your Ex-Girlfriend

Revenge backfires, big-time, for Pennsylvania man.

FDA Orders Recall of Contaminated Kotex Tampons

Customers in nine states affected. Check the box to be on the safe side.

Scientists Link Birth Control Pill Use to Prostate Cancer

Yes, we're a little skeptical, too. But hear them out ...

Beware of (Male) Spiders Bearing Gifts. They Just Want Sex ...

Lady spiders, take note. There are cheapskates out there.

144 Tweets to Document Sexual Abuse ... Before She Died

Texas teen said her story wasn't believed, and she committed suicide.

Mississippi Voters Reject 'Personhood' for Zygotes

Yes, it is crazy that they would have to vote on it.

British Columbia Wants to Test All Adults for HIV

$48M program hopes to identify up to 3,500 untreated cases.

87-Year-Old Woman Shoots Husband, 88, Over Alleged Affair

Fortunately, it was bird shot. And she's not mad any more.

Circumcised with Bamboo Sticks: All in a Day's Work

Some journalists really will do anything for a scoop.

Fearing Infidelity, U.K. Man Fattens Wife on Steroid Diet

Yes, this is abuse. And we're thinking he got off easy.

Waking Up Your Inner Word Slut: How To Open Up And Say "Take Me!"

Let’s spend a moment on Oral Sex. We don’t mean the licking, slurping, sucking kind; although we love that kind too! We mean opening up your soft, warm lips and sending luscious vibrations through those little white chords that say, “I want you to fuck me. Slow. Fast. Long. Hard.” And, “Please, make it hurt… just a little.” Want to talk about that? We do.

Kim Kardashian and the Sanctity of Marriage: A History of Marriage — Part One

Kim Kardashian threw a lavish multi million dollar wedding, only to divorce two months later. The gossip has prompted a wave of tweets along the lines of... “tell me again why the sanctity of marriage is threatened by gays?” But I ask, has marriage ever had sanctity?

Sex at 36, or Boys, Men and Me

Age has been on my mind since I'm about to turn 36 on November 10th. I'm often told I don't look my age, and I certainly don't feel my age, but I can't deny that what I want out of sex and relationships has changed since I was 26, and even from when I was 30. Sometimes I think the older I get, the less I know about how sex works — not so much the physical side, but the rest of it.

Here's an Ultrasound that Screams 'My Balls Hurt!'

Even the doctors were a little freaked out by ... well, yeah. Looks like a face to us, too.

Googling The One Who Got Away

Before Facebook, MySpace, Google, et al, the “one who got away” (OWGA) was rarely more than a passing daydream — or a handy bit of masturbation material.

Drunk, in G-String and Fishnets, Driving 128 mph ...

Yes, she was arrested. It could have ended a lot worse, right?

As Sex Ed Discussions Heat Up in U.S. ... Consider Finland

They're much more comprehensive. And their teen birth rate is half that of the U.S.

Mississippi Voters May Choose 'Personhood' for Fertilized Eggs

Unconstitutional? Sure. Will it stop them? Maybe not ...

Safety of Vaginal Mesh Devices Challenged

More than 100 women are suing companies and the FDA is under fire, too.

Baseball Bats and Shotguns Have No Place in a Love Triangle

We know, that sounds kind of obvious. But ... read on ...

CDC Recommends that Boys Get HPV Vaccination

It's fair, cost effective and prevents disease. So listen to the doctors, not the political crazies.

Breast Cancer and Polyamory: A Story of Non-monogamy, Love and Commitment While Going Through Chemo

Allena Gabosch is the founder of Seattle’s Center for Sex Positivity, a polyamorous, sex-scene goddess and a reminder that even goddesses are not immune to the specter of breast cancer.

'Go Ask Alice' Under Fire as Sex Ed Resource for Kids

New York curriculum for mandatory classes draws scrutiny.

Hypersexuality Can be Fun. Or It Can be Rabies ...

Another reason why “When the dog bites” is never a favorite thing.

Mom Donates a Womb for Daughter's Child

Transplant surgery a first in Australia.

Lone Monkey with Herpes Last Survivor of Massacre

Sad saga of Ohio exotic animal farm winds down; nearly 50 were killed.

The Best Medicine

Fighting cancer – and saving beautiful ta-tas – one t-shirt at a time.

Exercise. Eat Right. You'll Have Healthier Sperm!

And guys want healthy, happy little swimmers, right?

Michigan May Totally Ban Teacher-Student Sex

Proposed law would make it a crime even when both are adults.

Special Pedicure Fish Aren't an AIDS Risk

Now that's a big relief, huh? Good thing the government checked!

E! Star Giuliana Rancic Has Breast Cancer

“Call your doctor tomorrow, make an appointment. That’s what you could do for me.”

Breast Cancer Awareness: A Tale of Two Sisters

Breast Cancer has touched many of our lives in ways with both positive and negative outcomes. Sharing these experiences reveals just how far we've come in the battle against cancer; it also exposes the grim reality for many who must fight this battle with inadequate or no insurance benefits.

'Pink' Perfume Alleged to Contain Carcinogens

Breast cancer group wants the product taken off shelves.

Nikol Hasler: Sex, Drugs, & Rock N Roll: Boyfriend Material?

I date a lot of musicians. And by date, it usually goes like, "Hey, I like your style. Wanna go out?" We then got to a handful of shows and parties at which I'm one of the oldest women there, we get crazy drunk, we have sex, then we become friends. That's because I have trouble finding a way to be the kind of girlfriend a musician needs.

More Teens Using Birth Control for First-Time Sex

Condom use among teen-age boys on the rise.

Sex and Pregnancy: The First Trimester

It's possible there are as many myths and misconceptions about sex and pregnancy as there are babies being born. So what's fact and what's fiction? In this three-part series, Lady J, as a part of her own pregnancy journey, takes us through sex and pregnancy, one trimester at a time.

Mr. Sexsmith Says: If You’re a Bottom, Own It

Mary's struggling with the gender roles and sexual top and bottom roles within her relationship and getting her partner to fill the role of top is proving to be a challenge.

Feds Say to Cancel that Prostate Cancer Test

More risk in over-diagnosis and over-treatment, if you don't have symptoms.

Syphilis in Europe: Don't Blame Columbus

You can blame him for a lot of things, sure, but not that.

Could You Love the Man Who Shot Your Face Off?

For ourselves, we think we'd be a little gun-shy ...

Dear Boobies,

It probably doesn’t seem like it, but I really do love the two of you. I’m so grateful that you’ve not withered away from the abject neglect and borderline abuse I’ve put you through. If you were my children, social services would be knocking on my door to take you away from me.

British Doctors Work on Cure for 'Super' Gonorrhea

Ever more powerful antibiotics needed, as STD's resistance grows.

Denial of Sterilization as a Form of Birth Control: Discrimination or Due Diligence?

Nothing polarizes debate like birth control. Though many high-profile arguments rage on about abortion, the “morning-after” pill, and insurance payments for birth control pills, sterilization is an often overlooked but equally charged form of contraception.

HPV Further Implicated in Rise in Oral Cancers

Men more affected than women, but scientists don't know why.

Women Eat Less When Dining with Men

Study suggests that the sex of the people around us may lead us to consume more or less food.

Celebrating 8 Women Who Battled Breast Cancer In The Public Eye

There’s an old saying: When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. But when life gives you breast cancer, is it possible to find anything positive about the experience? These eight women bravely fought their disease in the public eye, so others like them would know they are not alone.

I Hate Dating, I Like Relationships

“Dating” sounds like a dirty word to me, and not in a good way. I love traditionally dirty words in the right context, but dating? Not so much.

Couple Renews Wedding Vows 99 Times in 27 Years

If it was a few times, we'd call it romantic. But this is borderline OCD.

Injectable Contraceptive May Increase HIV Risk

Study of African couples under review by World Health Organization.

Breast Implants Save Russian Woman's Life in Knife Attack

See? They really are very safe ...

Porn Star With Cancer Diverts Donations to Children's Hospital

F*ck Cancer t-shirt proceeds intended for Raven Alexis will benefit St. Jude.

What if Your Boyfriend Was a Lesbian Sex Offender?

We think we'd be able to tell, but apparently not everyone can.

Let's Get Married! Uh, for Two Years, And See How It Goes ...

Mexico City mulls offering temporary licenses. Can we call them learners' permits?

CDC Mulls Recommending HPV Vaccine for Boys

There are plenty of good reasons why, and some not-so-good reasons why not.

Mr. Sexsmith Says: Don't Assume All Butch Lesbians Are Stone

You've got questions on gender, relationships, strap-on sex and everything in between. Mr. Sexsmith returns with advice, opinions and insights for all in his new column Mr. Sexsmith Says...

Uniboob Look is Definitely Not the New Sexy

Want cosmetic surgery? Choose your doctor carefully.

Survey Links Decline in Sex Education with Rise in Unsafe Sex

No one should be surprised. Everyone should be concerned.

Is Your Son Gay? There's an App for That ...

Probably you ought to ask him, instead of your smartphone.

New Treatment Offers Hope in Fight Against Breast Cancer

Patients live longer with less side effects using alternative to chemotherapy.

Hitman Fakes Killing After Falling in Love with Target

No one gets away with anything, but at least they're all alive.

Former Man on the Moon Aldrin in Love at 81

... but his wife calls younger woman “a predator” as divorce looms.

CycleBeads, the Latest in Birth Control

And it's 95 percent effective ... as long as you don't forget.

Prostitution Past Erased for Sex-Trafficking Victim

New law allows former “pimp controlled” sex workers a fresh start.

For This 14-Year-Old ... It Didn't Get Better

Buffalo, N.Y., youth commits suicide over bullying.

Rate Me — Not: Why I Don’t Want to Know How Many Stars Your Ex Gave You

These days, you don't really have to go on a first date with a total stranger. You can Google, you can hunt them down on dating review sites, you can get a glimpse into who they are before you ever get a glimpse of them at all. But is this really the best way to get to know someone, or the most accurate for that matter?

New Yorkers Band Together to Stem Assaults on Women

Police hunt man who has attacked nine victims in Brooklyn since March.

D.C. Brings Standardized Testing to Sex and Health Education

It's about time, we think, and we hope the idea spreads.

Gamers Enlisted in Science's Fight Against AIDS

Crowdsourcing helps figure out structure of key enzyme. FTW!

Birth Control Pills Out of Order and Recalled

Company says: “No immediate health issues.” How is pregnancy not a health issue?

American Apparel Runs Into Plus-Sized Backlash

“The Next BIG Thing” turns into a dissing contest.

Bachman Ridiculed for Repeating HPV Vaccine Story

Linking to retardation has “zero credible scientific evidence.”

Getting an Eel Up Your Penis is Even Less Fun Than You'd Think

Men: Be careful of exotic spa treatments, okay?

Taking Care of Your Heart is Good for Your Penis

Some guys need a little extra incentive to look after their health, you know?

British Youth Warned about Bad Sex Education on the 'Net

Kids are urged to learn to identify trustworthy sites. We have a list, of course.

UK Regulations Eased on Gays Donating Blood

New rules will allow men who have not had sex for 12 months to contribute.

Sexual Bonding Demystified…Sort of

This is, at a basic level, the narrative of cats. Were it not for experiments on felines that led to the discovery of oxytocin, we might disregard sacrifices from the animal world that have taught us about human sexual relationships.

Nudity Rules in San Francisco?

“Naked Guys” would have to cover seats, don pants in restaurants.

Shush! Don't Tell Anyone About the Sexual Health Clinic!

Sign in Scotland “too bold” for some politicians. We disagree.

Perpetual Hard-on Leads to Life of Crime

Hardened criminal? Priapism no joke for this New Yorker.

Tuesdays With Nina: Negotiating a Threesome (or Foursome) with a Reluctant Partner

Setting up a scene that involves multiple partners and making the space that allows for everyone’s feelings and expectations can be tricky, but it's important to make sure all involved are comfortable and understand the rules if you want to pull it off without acrimony or fostering resentment.

Woman Awarded $14,000 from Ex for Lack of Sex

In France, they apparently take lack of sex very, very seriously.

Is Masturbating to Porn Cheating?

Readers are always asking us this question, and the masturbator in question is pretty much always a man. Sometimes his female partner writes to us, asking if she's right to feel cheated on. Other times the man himself writes to us, asking why his partner can't understand how benign his porn masturbation habit really is.

Anorexia Doctor in Denmark Faces Sexual Assault Charges

He claims photographing genitalia of patients was part of treatment and not creepy at all.

Worst Date Ever, Perhaps ...

We think being forced to drive a getaway car deserves at least a nomination.

FDA Wants National Database of Breast Implants

Silicone still considered as safe, but government wants better studies.

Creating and Nurturing Open Relationships

You've considered it. Maybe you've even talked about it, but how do you actually go about opening your relationship to include other people? The direction and design depend on you, but there are important principles to keep in mind to ensure success.

Guatemalans in 1940s Were Deliberately Infected with STDs

Experiments were supposed to test effectiveness of penicillin.

'Big Sexy' Lets the World Know that BBW is 'In'

They're big, beautiful, raunchy and a little pissed off. What's not to like?

Gay Tripping, Part 2

We’re Here, We’re Queer, We’d Like A King Beachview, Please

Insurer Fined for Denying Coverage of IUD Removals

Nearly 1,000 women denied over the years ... and one finally fought back.

Surgeon Not Liable in Kentucky Penis Amputation Trial

Circumcision turned into cancer surgery ... and the patient sued.

SexCult: Bert and Ernie Should Not Get Hitched

Some people think the petition for “allowing” Bert and Ernie to marry is stupid and goes too far. I say it’s stupid and doesn’t go far enough.

Tuesdays With Nina: We're All Responsible For Our Own Orgasms

Your boyfriend has only made you come once in a year? Is that his fault or is it yours?

Alcohol & Consent: Why the Double Standard?

Whacked out, drunken-ass consent is still consent; otherwise we have to reexamine a woman’s right to drink.

Guard the 'Womenfolk' Against Driller STDs!

Pennsylvania politician quaintly worried about influx of transient energy workers.

Revenge Attempt on 'Other Woman' Goes Terribly Awry

These things always seem to backfire, don't they ...

Non-Orgasmic Sex: An Introduction to Lazy Lovemaking

Perry Flip-Flops on Women's Health, Gay and Abortion Rights

Latest GOP presidential candidate realigns views to satisfy conservatives.

Does No Really Have To Mean No?

Do you feel positive emotions when you hear the word “No?” If kink is your preference, you may have eroticized this word but taken out of the context of role-play, the word probably still causes you to wince. “No” signals that you may not get something you want and that is rarely cause for celebration.

Modified HIV Virus Spectacular at Killing Cancer Cells

University of Pennsylvania trial shows promising results.

Ask Before You Use the Handcuffs, Okay?

She'll thank you for your consideration, instead of calling the police.

Nikol Hasler: Dumping Ground

So, I guess you could say that I haven't been myself lately. This month has been consumed with trying to hold myself together through a really ridiculous break up. It's been confusing and messy and I've been a nutcase.

New, Simple Blood Test Can Determine Baby's Gender

DNA can reveal sex as early as seven weeks into pregnancy.

New York City Mandates Sex Ed in Schools

Even in the Big Apple, some parental backlash is expected.

Royal Couple Presented with Weird Aphrodisiac

No word on whether William and Kate knew what to do with a Coco de Mer. Do you?

In Norway, Teen Pregnancy Shown to be Contagious

Yes, you do still have to have sex to have a baby. But ...

SexCult: Self-Medication

Because love and sex don’t come from a bartender, dealer or pharmacy (unless you’re banging the bartender, dealer or pharmacist) we often don’t give their chemical powers the fearsome credit we give to drugs we can see. But they do trigger chemicals and those chemicals wield a crazy amount of power.

Tuesdays WIth Nina: When You Give Head, Shouldn't You Get It In Return?

It's only fair, isn't it? You go down on your partner and then it's your turn right? Tit for tat. Quid pro quo. So what's the deal, why aren't you getting yours?

Greatest Threat to Your Online Privacy? Your Partner

Who's checking your email and text messages besides you? Shhh.

Man Denied Medicaid for Breast Cancer Treatment

Apparently everyone knows this is not fair, but he was denied anyway.

Barak and Sheba's Travel Guide for Kinky Social Networking

Seeking new connections through kinky social networking sites can be fraught with drama, dissatisfaction and potentially danger. Keeping a few important tips in mind can help improve your experience and find what you're really looking for.

Why Methamphetamine Addicts Should Not Have Pets

We’ve heard many good reasons, but this is the most extreme.

Hugh Hefner, Planked, at the Mansion ...

... and a bevy of bunnies get laid out, as well.

Sane People Tout Benefits of More Accessible Contraception

Removing cost barrier will help tear down the ignorance barrier.

Conservatives Decry, Demonize and Trivialize Birth Control

Right-wing wackos, predictably, hate the new mandate on preventative health care for women.

FDA Warns on Counterfeit Morning-After Pill

Evital not approved, shouldn't be used, might have side effects.

Feds Rule Insurers Must Cover Preventative Care, Birth Control

New guidelines go into effect next year. Hooray!

Men with Unwanted Breasts: There's Hope

Increasingly, gynecomastia can be treated.

Pole-Dancing for Kids Bothers U.K. Mom's Group

Instructor claims it's all about fitness. Is it?

In Wisconsin, a $350,000 Lawsuit Over Herpes

Rekindled romance from the '90s has unhappy ending.

'The SCAR Project' Promotes Breast Cancer Awareness

Pink ribbons are great, but these photos say it all.

Never Have I Ever

When you discover the need to focus on yourself and make changes, sometimes you need to step back from that which you use as a distraction, a diversion from paying attention to your problems. Sometimes you need to give up sex.

SexCult: Will Common Sense Contraception Without Co-Pay Be Derailed by Crazy?

Most of Americans are in favor of including contraception and contraceptive counseling in the Affordable Care Act — so why be worried it might be left out? Recent attacks on reproductive freedom from funding for Planned Parenthood to legislative initiatives to restrict access to abortion give good cause for concern.

Rationalizing the Right to Life: Pro Choice and Pro Life — Equally Mired In Hypocrisy, Part 1

There are two activist groups that imagine themselves to be almost diametrically opposed — yet I consider them deserving of equal contempt. They’re the pushy pro-life extremists who seek to drive abortion into illegality, and the extreme wing of the pro-choice movement — who seek to make access to terminating pregnancies perhaps more easy and impersonal than it should be.

Improved Male Birth Control on the Horizon

(And it's about time, wouldn't you say?)

Milk Producers Find Out No One Thinks PMS is Very Funny

Ads are pulled from airwaves. Want to alleviate symptoms? Try sex.

Texas: Poster Child for Failure of Abstinence-Only Sex Education

We'd suggest a chat with Gov. Perry. But he's already not listening.

The Secret Life of the Polyamorous

What they don't tell you when you sign up to join a poly household...

‘Panties Across the Bridge’ Raises Awareness of Cervical Cancer

In Cincinnati, they also do “Bras Across the Bridge.” And why not?

Asking for What You Want

Asking those we love for ANYTHING can be problematic. Our culture encourages us to be independent, self-made islands unto ourselves. We are each doing it our way and win or lose, we wear our failures and successes as testament to our personal worth or lack thereof.

And Now, For Something Completely Different ...

A woman with a nipple on the bottom of her foot. Really.

Important Advice about Boobs, from the Year 1694

Trust us, people took breasts seriously way back when, as well.

HIV Drugs Can Also Protect Partners of the HIV-Positive

Antiretrovirals are shown to substantially reduce risk of infection.

Tuesdays With Nina: Lesbian Bed Death, Part 3

Are you a jeans and t-shirt kinda woman who has been told she'd be more attractive if she tried dress like a girl? You may resist donning a skirt at all costs, but Nina has some thoughts on why it wouldn't be the worst thing in the world to wear the "feminine costume" when the occasion calls for it.

New Strain of Gonorrhea Isolated in Japan

"Superbug" resists antibiotics; vaccine development underway.

Nikol Hasler: Dating a Single Mom

I don't come home after a date and dish all the dirty details of my evening.

Germany's Green Party Wants Regulation of Phthalates in Sex Toys

Government anticipates that EU will institute "approval procedure."

Canada Put Naturists on Trial for Public Nudity

Naturists, in turn, put Canada on trial for public prudery.

Humanity’s Oldest Known Sex Surgery

To snip or not to snip is at the center of a resurgent debate, but are we seeing the whole picture? Medical pros and cons are only part of the complexities surrounding this simple procedure.

'Sexomnia' Apparently a Legal Defense Against Rape Charge, In Wales

We weren't there, but we're not sure about the “Not Guilty.” You?

FitBit Leaks Sex Stats to Google

Oops. We actually do not think everyone needs to know how many calories we've burned by having sex.

Tuesdays With Nina: Lesbian Bed Death, Part 2

Many women suffer from the secret insecurity of wondering if their partner is repulsed by what they find between their legs. Does it smell bad? Does it look bad? Most likely, things are just fine down below, but what can a woman do to help herself be more confident when exposing her most feminine side?

Two Charged in Murder Cases Wed in California

Maybe if we were actually there, it would seem more romantic ...

Weiner's Wife Reportedly Taking Time Off from Work

It sounds as though Huma Abedin will take a little time off from her husband as well.

Parody Dating Site Just for Those with Syphilis

This is how the government raises STD awareness in Alberta, Canada ...

The Scarlet Letters: “SE” for Sex Ed

In a perfect world, every child-guardian relationship would be punctuated with down-to-earth, all-your-questions-answered talk about the young person’s emerging sexuality.

Chinese Doctors Claim Link Between Gum Disease, Erectile Dysfunction

Others aren't so sure, but guys -- brush after every meal, anyway.

How Do I Tell Someone I'm Kinky?

You meet someone new and you wonder...is he kinky? Will he run screaming into the night when I let slip my taste for being tied up? Now is not the time to panic, now is the time to sit back and carefully consider how to introduce your kink to someone you think is vanilla.

Amy Poehler Adds Voice to Planned Parenthood Support

... And every voice counts when it comes to a guardian of women's health.

Florida Woman Arrested for Posing as Husband's Ex on Craigslist

... And the kink and dom responses come rolling in. Predictably, trouble ensues.

Sex After 50: The Naked Truth

Joan Price is 67 and wants you to know that sex doesn’t stop at 50—or 60, 70 or 80 and 90!

Hugh Hefner Has New Girlfriend(s)

Well, of course he does.

Serbia is the Place to Be for 'Cooking with Balls'

It's time for The World Testicle and Aphrodisiac Cooking Championships! Hooray!

SexCult: Confederacy of Sexual Dunces

Political sex scandals seem to be a matter of course these days — is anybody surprised anymore when the news announces yet another politician has cheated on his spouse? This begs the question: Why did they even get married in the first place?

Tuesdays With Nina: Lesbian Bed Death, Part 1

What do you do when your partner stops having sex with you? Is it your fault? Is it theirs? Should you try to change or call it quits?

Brady Bunch Mom Got Crabs from New York Mayor

John Lindsay apologized, sent flowers.

Before the Sexual Revolution ... They Didn't Talk About It

New book tells the stories that used to go untold.

National HIV Testing Day

Somewhere near you, it's probably free. What are you waiting for?

How to be Safe in Those Beloved and Dangerous Shoes

... Because "To Die For" should not mean you have to, you know. Die.

Same-Sex Couples, Increasingly, Stand Up to be Counted

Census data shows that "the closet is getting smaller."

Presenting the Latest in Body Modifications ...

It is probably not too late to be the first “bagelhead” on your block.

He's 51, She's 16. Is This Legal?

“Lost” actor and teen singer, married last month, stand up to critics.

What's Love Gotta Do With It? Part Three: Specific Techniques to Invite Sacred Sexual Experiences

I like to say ALL sex is sacred. Of course anytime you make sweeping generalizations like that, there is a lot of room to disagree. Given the right mood, I'd be the first to disagree with myself. Still, I want to explain the kernel of truth in the statement “all sex is sacred.”

The Vancouver Riot Kiss: Just Enjoy It

Thanks, kids, for a real, honest and innocent moment.

Hugh Hefner Slaps 'Runaway Bride' Sticker on July Playboy Issue

We think this will be the last time Crystal Harris makes the cover.

Court Says L.A. County Can't be Forced to Regulate Porn Industry

Lawsuit sought to mandate condoms, preventative measures against STIs.

Some Parents Angry Over Sex Questions on Survey of 7th Graders

Is there a right age and a right way for talking about sex in schools on which everyone can agree? Probably not.

Game of Thrones: Marriage Holds the Realm Together

In today's world, marriage for political reasons is pretty uncommon. But just a few centuries into the past, arranged marriages were a vital part of government and politics. In the medieval fantasy-world of Game of Thones, marriage within the ruling families is almost entirely political and critical to the stability of the Seven Kingdoms of Westeros.

Hefner and Harris Cancel the Playboy Wedding

Now we don't feel so bad about not being invited ...

Anti-gay-marriage forces argue against gay judge's decision

California Proposition 8 defenders really are pretty shameless, desperate or both.

Nikol Hasler: Oversharing

When I was a little kid I was a total weirdo. I would talk to anyone, anywhere. Homeless guy on a bench? Tell me everything. Mother at the park swinging her child? Let's chat about swinging and did you know my grandpa died when my mom was a teenager and her mom is crazy and did you know my neighbor Mrs. Pinkski has a little dog and she thinks I stole her tulips but I was on roller-skates?

‘Real Life Barbie’ Gives Daughter, 7, $10k Boob Job Voucher for Her Birthday

So the kid has something to look forward to when she's 16, apparently ...

Porn Stars Clash with California Worker Safety Board

Proposed regulations on condoms, barriers criticized by adult industry and performers.

Lack of Sleep Can Wreck a Guy's Sex Life

Testosterone levels plummet on five hours a night, in just a week.

When It Comes to Sex Education, There Are No Stupid Questions

“What do the balls actually do?” I asked my friend, Ellen Friedrichs (who teaches sex ed to middle and high school students). We were talking about sex and I realized I genuinely didn’t know the answer.

More Waitresses Sue Casino for Age, Gender Discrimination

Resorts Casino Hotel in Atlantic City allegedly wanted 'younger, slimmer, sexier.'

Physiotherapy Recommended for 'Provoked Vestibulodynia'

Sufferers from excruciating genital pain can find relief.

Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez Necking on Maui

It's all innocent, even a little saccharin. Okay, a LOT saccharin ...

Married Couples No Longer a Majority of Households

Unwedded coupling on the rise, according to 2010 census data.

Solicitation: The Secret Life of Johns, Part Five — What About The Wife?

Prostitution hurts marriage, doesn’t it? This has often been used as an argument against sex work — it’s not only demeaning but endangering to unknowing wives. But, this isn’t an argument about the morality of sex work — it’s about the morality of cheating. Still, when talking to Johns, I had to ask: How are the wives actually affected?

SexCult: Get Confident, Stupid!

Many people think it’s reason that separates us from the animals but I think the opposite is true: it’s belief.

Introducing the $5 Condom

Maybe you don't want to use one of these every time, if you're on a budget.

Walgreens Lauded for Stocking Female Condoms

Women's health groups support retailer's decision.

Adult Baby May Lose SSI Benefits After Being Featured on 'Taboo'

Senator opines that fetishist is capable of holding a job.

Kiss Kiss, Bang Bang —Why we shouldn’t knock the quickie.

‘Botox Mommy’ Retracts Story; ABC News Unconvinced

If a story seems too good (or bad) to be true, it probably is ...

Does Carpal Tunnel Syndrome Complicate Your Sex Life?

It’s more and more common these days. If you don’t suffer from carpal tunnel syndrome or its familiars, one of your partners probably does. And CTS is a bitch to deal with in the sack. But never fear: as with all other limitations, there are ways to work around the pain.

Secrets of a Sex Writer: I Have Trouble Having Orgasms — and I’m Okay With That

True confession time: I have trouble with orgasms. By which I mean, I am not the queen of the multiple orgasm, or even the single orgasm. I like them, sure, but they don’t always like me back.

Easy-on Condoms on Their Way to Europe

We love innovations in safe sex. Doesn't everyone?

Getting Divorced in Massachusetts? No Sex for You

Proposed bill raises concerns about individual rights.

What's Love Got To Do With It? Part Two: How Sex Can Transform You and Fuel Your Creativity!

Last month I noted that the “love hormone,” Oxytocin, introduces an element of love to all sexual encounters. If sex exists on a continuum, then some sex might be almost bereft of love while other sex would be completely defined by love. In between those two extremes exists a lot of varied combinations of eroticism and emotion.

Famous People MisBehaving: Arnold's Turn, Again

Plus: IMF chief's downfall and celebrity herpes still in the news!

Pageant Mom Gives Daughter Botox, Goes on TV, is Under Investigation

She says it's safe; doctors and the rest of the world disagree.

British Scribe Lisa Appignanesi: Is It Time To Rethink What We Call Love?

Like most men, I’m baffled by the nature of love. Lust, I can understand. But I’ve not done well in my efforts in my love life. An ambitious stripper, a snarky teacher with a jealous ex, a professional dancer with a nose candy problem, and a loopy reporter one step from the bughouse. All strike-outs.

Skechers Markets Butt-Toning Shoe to Little Girls

We trust moms to run away from this ad campaign.

North Carolina Judge Denies Cancer Patient Custody of Her Children

Judge says kids should have a more “normal” childhood.

New HIV Study Suggests Early Treatment Can Prevent Further Transmission

Study shows benefit of starting antiretroviral therapy right after diagnosis.

Herpes Infection May Cost Some Celebrity $20M

TMZ reporting on anonymous lawsuit and bidding war for sex tapes.

Want Bigger Breasts? Try iAugment

Of course, it's just an app.

More from the Dept. of ‘Your Vagina is not a Purse’ …

Apparently, this is a bigger problem than one would think.

Tuesdays With Nina: How Do You Avoid Getting STIs?

How does Nina Hartley or any other porn star avoid getting STIs ? The short answer is, sometimes you don't. The only sure way to avoid getting STIs is to not have sex. But who really wants to go through life without sex?

Do Dominants Really Need Aftercare?

Aftercare is a much debated topic among those who are into the rough and tumble play of BDSM. Whose responsible, what is needed and how long it should last are often discussed, but with the submissive in mind. Dominant aftercare is a phrase you almost never hear.

Sex Worker's Plea Keeps Her Out of Prison

Woman caught in prostitution bust gets supervised release.

Taking Dirty Pictures

In preparation for a new collection of short stories to be published, Johnny Murdoc embarks on a new experience, shooting a nude pictorial, which will be included in the upcoming book.

Ohio “Gangsta of Love” with HIV Charged with Assault on Sex Partners

Former wrestler faces up to 120 years in prison.

FDA, FTC act to remove fraudulent STD products from the market

Consumers warned against a range of bogus treatments and claims.

Duke Study Says Obesity Has Adverse Effect on Sexual Satisfaction

Researchers look at “sexual quality of life.”

If Dad Isn't Having Sex with Mom: Beat Him Up?

And go for a walk on the Interstate, first. That'll teach him.

Polyamory for Monogamists

Whether you're the one excited about trying poly or the partner who's been approached to open up the relationship, you don't have to just guess and hope about the outcome of this venture. There are things to think about, scenarios to talk about, and tools to use to figure out whether your monogamous relationship has a good chance of withstanding the switch to polyamory.

Mom Furious about School's Sex Ed Book

Maybe a little more communication with parents is in order, here ...

Spanish Gym Offers Nude Workout Sessions

We can think of better things to do while naked, but who are we to judge?

Just say "No" to Meth ... and to Scrunchies Around Your Balls?

Drugs, once again, lead to very bad decision-making.

Solicitation: The Secret Life Of Johns, Part Three — Trafficking

When celebrities take on humans rights issues, eyes will roll. Take, Demi and Ashton's DNA project and it's “comedy” videos featuring celebs like Justin Timberlake with the message “Real Men Don't Buy Girls” which has been criticized for being insensitive. And I agree, it's hard to take anything Justin Timberlake does as important.

Tuesdays With Nina: No One Has the Right to Hurt You

Do you find yourself in a relationship where you have to go along to get along? Are you using sex as a tool to protect yourself against mental or physical abuse? Nina speaks today about the fact that there are other options available and there is help for people in abusive relationships.

Washington State Teen Fakes Pregnancy to Make a Point

Her findings? Stereotyping, rumors and innuendo, everywhere.

Viagra™ Beer. Seriously?

Brits, tell us: You're okay with prescription virility drugs in your alcoholic beverages?

Match.com Will Screen for Sex Offenders

Woman who says she was date-raped goes on "Good Morning America"

What’s Love Got To Do With It? Part One: The Chemistry of Passion and Arousal

There's a unique connection between love and sex—though they don't always go together.

Restraining Order Against Groom Lifted in Time for Wedding

Talk about getting off on the wrong foot? But we love happy endings ...

Man Catches Fire in Private Porn Booth

Okay, not funny. But we're thinking that the porn wasn't *that* hot.

Philadelphia Offers Mail-Order Condoms to Teens

New site stirs up media by extending program to 11 and 12-year-olds.

Parents Furious Over Marketing Grown-Up Stuff to Young Girls

And we're thinking maybe they shouldn't give cell phones to 8-year-olds?

Tuesdays With Nina: Overcoming Insecurity About Genital Appearance.

Being teased when you're young is never easy. But being teased about the appearance of your body, in particular, your genitals, is a particularly difficult thing to endure, the scars can last a lifetime. Is there a way to move past a lifetime of of insecurity and feeling inadequate? Is it possible to heal?

UK Lifts Ban on Gay Men Donating Blood

New rule: no gay sex for 10 years. So we're not sure this is a change.

Secrets of a Sex Writer: Unpacking My Relationship Baggage

If you ever see me on the street, chances are, I'll be carrying at least three bags. More than likely four, possibly five. Usually I have my purse, a bag with my laptop, various magazines, books & papers, then a few others with shoes, gym clothes, more books, maybe a bottle of seltzer. The bags are, as I told someone recently, a part of me, but they are also, literally & figuratively, my baggage.

Sexual Assault Awareness Month: Tell Someone. Help Someone.

National Sexual Violence Resource Center premieres PSA in Times Square.

If You Like “Savage Love,” You’ll Love “Savage U”

Alternative sex columnist Dan Savage suddenly finds himself in the mainstream.

Advanced Roleplay: A Manual for Making the Fantasy Happen

You've heard the roles before: naughty nurse, horny pizza guy, frisky babysitter, suave pool boy...but what if the roleplay you're into doesn't fit into porn's top ten? Whatever your ideal fantasy scenario is, you can accomplish it with a little work.

Devil's Advocate: Birth Certificates and Transgender

Should Transgender People be Able to Change the Sex on Their Birth Certificates?

Recently, SexIs featured a story about three transgender people in New York City suing to have the sex on their birth certificates changed — normally forbidden unless they’ve had reconstructive surgery.

UK: Free STI Testing Coming to a Mall Near You

Sounds smart to us. When will the United States catch on?

Rooftop Sex Dude Goes into Hiding

Media pursues woman's identity ... We're fascinated but mostly appalled.

Totally Tame Oral Sex Photo Illustration Freaks People Out

Student newspaper in Florida is fined and censored.

Polyamour: A Soulful Slant on Multiple Sexual Lovestyles

How many of us think of ourselves as polyamorous? Some do, of course, but probably most of us think of ourselves as monogamous. Yet, how many of us can claim we've loved just one person in our lives? Likely, not many. So, are we truly monogamous or are most of us serially polyamorous?

Polyamorists Speak Out in British Columbia Polygamy Case

Government says all forms of unions with more than two people are harmful.

Ludacris Cares About Music. And Safe Sex.

Rapper teams up with condom-maker on Live Large Project.

So-Called “Penis Pills” Recalled from Market

Rock Hard Extreme? The Best Enhancer? Send 'em back.

Low Libido? Stop Eating White Bread

British group lists dietary passion-killers.

Abstinence-only Sex Education Results? 150 Pregnancies Since August

Midland, Texas schools will try teaching about condoms next year.

Saffron, Ginseng Top List of Natural Aphrodisiacs

Chocolate? Not really, researchers say. Hmph.

Tuesdays With Nina: How To Tell Someone About Your Fetish

Nina offers advice and thoughts on how to go about sharing or discussing your sexual fetishes with family members, friends or new sexual partners.

Colorado Launches Interactive Sex Education Website

Department of Health focuses on quality of life, STI prevention.

Obligatory Sex

Are there occasions when you owe your partner the obligation to have sex with them?

An Open Letter to the Creepy Guy on the Internet

Florida Therapist, Clinic Sued for Sexual Misconduct

Woman says she feared losing custody of her son if she didn't comply.

Not Enough Sex? Too Much Sex? You're Normal

“How often” is often the subject of dispute in long-term relationships.

Do Straight Women Need an After Sex Doll to Cuddle With?

Sexual Activity Raises Risk of Heart Attack

Thanks, science. But you know, we'll keep taking that risk, 'k?

Drugs for Your Heart Health Linked to Breast Cancer

Denmark study called “worth noting, but not really worrisome.”

Scottish Teens Happier, Healthier, Using Condoms

It's nice to see a survey that doesn't go all crazy about young people having sex, don't you think?

Suspect Hides 54 Bags of Heroin in Her Vagina

Plus some empty baggies, cash and change ... (WTF?)

Tuesdays With Nina: Emotional Infidelity, Take 2—Having Feelings and Deciding What Do With Them

If you are in a relationship with someone and fall in love with someone else, is that a betrayal? If you don't share these feelings with your significant other, is that a transgression?

The Appetites Project: Planning A Diabetic Menu For Romance

When our society thinks of sexy treats, we usually think of truffles, whipped cream, chocolate fondue, dessert wines...all things that can be extremely unfriendly to diabetic partners. As with any other dietary restriction, perfectly wonderful romantic nibbles can be procured with a little thoughtfulness, common sense, and communication.

Kidney Recipient Contracts HIV from Transplant

Donor originally tested negative but contracted virus before surgery.

Howard Stern Says He Doesn't Need That Much Sex

But shock jock still “sort of” admires Charlie Sheen.

How To Say No To Sex

I realize that this article is supposed to be about having sex but chances are that if you’re sexually active you also need to know how to say “no” to sex.

Sex Education App Takes Place of “Big Red Item”

Video of condom use preferred to personal demonstration. (We think.)

Planned Parenthood Called “Planned Genocide”

If you think the enemies of PP aren't serious, please think again ...

Harvard Doctors Say Obesity is “Unmanly”

The facts are on their side, but we're wondering about their tact.

Post-Cancer Male Fertility Procedure Gets Results

Sperm extraction and IVF succeed for some dads.

Tuesdays With Nina: Stop Being Just Friends and Generate Some Romance Instead

How do you stop being the guy every girl wants as a friend and start being the guy with whom every girl wants to flirt?

Are Kids' Dolls Becoming Sex Toys?

The "Today" show seems to think so. We're not so sure.

Sex Does a Body Good

We like science that tells us to like what we already like.

Nikol Hasler: Emotional Safety

Most people watching this already know what BDSM is

Planned Parenthood Funding Cuts Rejected

Senate Democrats united in blocking GOP effort, but this isn't over.

Sperm Wars and Scrambled Eggs

The latest assaults on the family jewels, and why you should give a damn.

Secrets of a Sex Writer: Why I’m Taking The Year Off From Sex and Dating

The last time I had sex was January 12th. Well, that is if we’re defining “sex” as physical, genital contact with another person. In January, I also had phone sex and cybersex, but since February 1st, have stayed away from all of that. The most action I’ve gotten, by choice, is a kiss goodnight on a street corner.

Tuesdays With Nina: Married Without Sex?

We've all heard the cliche about there being no sex after marriage. But what if you're not willing to live with that? You want to save your marriage, you want a satisfying sex life, but your spouse is resisting you every step of the way because he suffers from the emotionally painful idea that he's too small? What's a woman to do to save her marriage and her sex life?

Florida Woman Gives Police a Peep Show

From the department of “More Things Not to Do When You’re Nude”

Bra Thief Heads to Jail Just as Girlfriend is Getting Out

Maybe he should have stuck with “It’s the thought that counts.”

Seattle Man Naked and Growling and and Tased and Arrested

You know how sometimes nudity isn't sexy? This is one of those times.

Charlie Sheen: Life is a Win-Win-Win ...

... Except for the “losing custody of your kids” part.

Prostatectomy Goes Horribly Wrong

If you are a guy, you probably should not read this.

First-Time Sex Not as Stressful as Having a Baby

We know, you're shocked again. Well, maybe you are if you haven't had a baby.

Gaga's “Born This Way” is Everywhere ...

... And in other Lady Gaga news, she likes monogamy.

Em & Lo’s Sex Ed for Grown Ups: How to Improve a Partner's Sexual Style

It's happened to all of us: You meet someone charming, intelligent, miraculously modest, well-off, and, most importantly, smokin' hot. The evening finally comes when you will seal your budding relationship with a full-body kiss. You're eager with anticipation and expect nothing less than sheer bliss. But then your new partner's tongue attacks you like a leaping lizard's would a fly.

Botox Trial Showing Promising Results on Some Vagina Ailments

No, this isn't about beauty or wrinkles. It's about pain relief.

What Do You Tell a Woman Who is Considering Abortion?

UK doctors emphasize safety, divided on psychological advice.

Tuesdays With Nina: How do you figure out who should be in the driver's seat?

Lisa, who considers herself a bisexual, sex and relationship virgin, is wondering if, in a lesbian relationship, you are in the driver's seat in the bedroom does that mean you are in the driver's seat, or the more dominant, butch partner outside the bedroom as well?

Queer Union and NYBC Protest Blood Donor Ban

New York group says it's safe for gays to give blood.

The Wild Rose – Nourishing the Feminine Dominant

Dominant, kinky women are frustrated, and not in the good way. They’re getting prickly and thorny.

Secrets of a Sex Writer: Yes, Even Sex Writers and Call Girls Get Jealous

Recently, I decided to take a break from sex and dating until November, when I turn 36 (but not writing about sex and dating!), and part of my impetus for doing so is to give myself time and space both to work on myself, and to sort out a lot of unresolved feelings and right at the top is jealousy.

Man Arrested for Stealing Sausage and Napkins ... in the Nude

This is not the video we'd want to be remembered by, if it were us.

Breast Augmentation Record-Holder in Coma

Model OD's; was despondent over implant removal.

U.S. Senator Describes His Childhood Sex Abuse

Scott Brown, R-MA, offers startlingly candid autobiography.

South Dakota Bill Could Justify Killing Abortion Providers

Proposal would expand definition of “justifiable homicide.”

Online Hook-ups: Part 1—Casual Encounters

Sexual Assault Clinic Launched in North Wales

Health, law enforcement join forces in new facility.

Women Cancer Patients Don't Seek Help with Sexual Issues

Survey says many want support after treatment but few ask.

Tuesdays With Nina: Honestly Communicating About Sex With Your Partner

Sometimes the hardest person to be honest with about who you are, is the person you love the most: your spouse, your partner, your significant other. Fear of exposure and judgment is one of the hardest barriers to breach when sharing sexual fantasies with our partners when we think they may not understand what we want.

Boston Teens Form Task Force for Sex Education

Kids pushing forward while adults hold back.

HPV Immunization: Costs v. Effectiveness

UK health professionals would opt to pay out-of-pocket for more comprehensive protection.

Contraception Without Copay

If your car only started half the time or your computer only worked on alternate days, what would you do? If you found you were only getting half the channels on your cable you’d call up the company and raise holy hell, right?

Condom Use Mandated for LA Porn Industry

City Council unanimous on safe sex on movie sets.

Secrets of a Sex Writer: Skype Sex for Dummies

Last week, I lost my Skype virginity. To summarize my extremely non-scientific findings: Skypeing can be very sexy, just make sure you’re ready to handle it.

Mr. Sexsmith's Other Girlfriend: Can Your Relationship Handle Valentine’s Day Gifts?

Mr. Sexsmith ponders the implications of giving more than a relationship is ready for as we approach Valentine's Day. Is there such a thing as giving too much too soon?

Playboy TV Brings Back Swinging

New reality show will feature “the lifestyle,” 2011 style.

Bahrain Police Arrest 127 for Homosexuality

Gulf nation known as more open than others cracks down.

Mentally Challenged Man in UK Forbidden to Have Sex

Case raises civil liberty issues, judge acknowledges.

Study of Singles Suggests Changing Expectations

Survey says more guys want love, more women value independence.

"Orgasm Inc." and the Search for a Female Viagra

Documentary looks at pharmaceutical industry and medicalization of sex.

Mr. Sexsmith's Other Girlfriend: The Value of Retreat

French Man Sues GlaxoSmithKline for Making Him a “Gay Sex Addict”

Parkinson's drug blamed for uncontrollable sex and gambling behavior.

Tuesdays With Nina: Choosing Between Good Sex and Getting Monogamous

We all have different reasons for seeking companionship. Sometimes two people end up together and find out their goals for the relationship are not the same. Can two people who want different completely different things find compromise or should they find new companions?

HPV Linked to Tonsil and Tongue Diseases

Virus may be trigger for various (rare) cancers.

Facts of Life “Cousin Geri” Comes Out

Actress with cerebral palsy publishes inspirational memoir.

Rev. Bev Wants Christians to Celebrate Sex and Love

Philadelphia minister preaches a gospel of sensuality.

Breast Implants May be Linked to Rare Cancer

Don't panic. VERY rare and still under investigation.

Turkish Man Seeks Protection from Sex-Crazed Wife

After 18 years of marriage, he's had enough ...

Mr. Sexsmith’s Other Girlfriend: The Light in the Darkness

Kinky Roommate Etiquette

In the best of all possible worlds, we could do whatever we want, with whomever we want, whenever we want... but for those of us who live in the real world, having sex can be a process of negotiation—especially when the real world includes sharing your living quarters with others.

New Antidepressant Doesn't Kill Your Sex Drive

FDA approves Viibyrd, a likely best-seller.

Emotional Infidelity... Is it Cheating?

If you've negotiated a monogamous relationship with your partner, you've probably set up some ground rules. For most, that means no sex with someone who isn't your significant other. Sounds simple, right? Well, "it ain't necessarily so."

Weight Gain Due to Birth Control Debunked

Scientists say the Pill is not to blame.

A Partner's Past: How Much Do You Want to Know?

I know how many sexual partners are lurking in my husband’s past. I know one had MY first name. Another is heir to a well-known salad dressing fortune. I know he never contracted a sexually transmitted disease. This is all I know. This is all I WANT to know.

Same-Sex Parenting More Prevalent in the South

Stereotypes of gay parents belied by latest census data.

HIV Cure: Premature, Overstated Optimism or Medical Miracle?

“He loves me. He loves me naught. He loves me. He loves me naught. He loves me…”

Some Guys Allergic to Their Own Semen

Men suffer from “post orgasmic illness syndrome” (We're not making this up.)

o.b. to be Back on Shelves “Soon”

Popular tampon returning to stores after mysterious absence.

Psychotherapist May Be Fired for Gay Conversion Therapy

Undercover journalist records efforts at “cure.”

Sea Captains Need Love, Too

“My mistress may be the sea, but the thing is ... that's just an expression.”

Sex Fitness Games: Postcards from a Sex Nerd

You don’t need a gym membership to stay sexually fit. A few simple exercises, performed regularly, can boost your performance, pleasure and orgasm quality! And these routines can be done at work, on your commute, while doing chores, taking care of the kids or even while watching TV.

$800 Silkworms Said to Cure ED

Even sellers say that high-priced condiment is over-hyped.

Nikol Hasler: "Nipple Hair Is Okay!"

... among other things. Accepting that some things about your body are beyond your control.

Yale Docks LGBT Married Pay

Oops. Federal tax withholding wrong for all of 2010.

Post Mature Ejaculation

Synopsis: Middle-aged man experiences the joys and terrors of rediscovering multiple orgasms. His own.

Secrets of a Sex Writer: An Ode to Pussy Waxing

Romantic Love Really Can Last, According to MRIs

New love, mature love look the same in our brains.

AIDS Services Banned from New Hampshire High School

Media tempest swirls over safe sex kits for students.

Sex Toy Queen Survives Lame Poisoning Attempt

Nanny charged with tampering with soup.

Straight Love, Gay Love Look Just the Same

MRI results show what we might have guessed.

Supermodels and Sex: Misconceptions and Reality

Wrapped up the psyche of satisfaction is the psychology of sex. Superior sex is only in small part physical; the rest is in the minds of you and your partner and how you perceive each other.

The Bloggess' Avalanche of Giving

One small request generates an outpouring of support for those in need.

Erotica for the Blind

Braille artist's work appeals to sense of touch.

Modern Marriage Works Best when it’s About “Me.”

Self-expression and individual growth are key for happiest couples.

Sex “Don’ts” for the New Year

Welcome to 2011! Do you have a long New Year’s resolution list? Lose weight, get in shape, save money, have more sex, switch political parties, move to Canada or perhaps give Kim Jong-il a sexy tickle until his wiki leaks?

Happy Nude Year in Vancouver

Icy swim by naturists benefits amputee children.

Kutcher, Moore, Beckham, Middleton, et. al.: Pay No Attention

Science group fights bad sex and health advice from celebrities.

Fantasy Gun Play Turns to Tragedy

OK City man accidentally shoots wife during sex.

Sexy Calendar Benefits Domestic Violence Victims

“Strength is Sexy” in Lehigh Valley, Pa.

My Year in Sex

Taking a breath, after riding the roller coaster that was 2010 ...

Wear Sexy Panties, Be Happy

Survey says bad underwear can ruin your whole day.

Study: Equality Extends to Parenting for Same-Sex Couples

Heterosexual couples tend toward gender-based divisions of responsibilities.

Survey: Women More Concerned with Food than Sex

Most would rather not eat in front of their partner.

Fighting Spam, One Bigger Dick Ad at a Time

Lawyer aims to empty our inboxes of dreck.

Sex Clinic Shutters in Shanghai

Students would rather get information on the Internet.

Hefner Tweets His Christmas Engagement

Playboy octogenarian to marry Miss December 2009.

Dirty Holiday Cards, Thanks to Google Instant

Web site lets you make a greeting full of (censored)

Rex Ryan's Sex Life: Best Foot Forward

Kinky coach? So what, and who deserves this?

BYU Study Says Premarital Sex Hurts Long-Term Happiness

We're looking for some second opinions, here ...

ChaCha: Sexual Advice from an Unlikely Source

Over one billion questions answered … including “Can I sodomize you?”

Hair Loss Drug Blamed for Impotence

Bald may be the better choice, as Propecia side effects disputed.

Sex and Anger, Part 2

Last month, we looked at how both acting out or suppressing anger can lead to angry sex or no sex at all. Today we delve into anger management. By learning to channel "darker" emotions in a positive way, you can actually boost intimacy and sexual response.

Craigslist Yields to Pressure in Canada

Company pulls erotic service section from web sites.

Controlled, Conflicted & Stressed Out Over Sex

Modern relationships can be complicated. Sometimes when things don’t work out, it’s not always a simple matter of just being able to walk away. What happens when love dies and your sex life seems over, but you’re stuck in a situation you can’t leave?

Wikileaks, Now in Leak-Free Sanitary Napkin Ads

Clever idea, and we're so glad it wasn't one of ours.

Science Says: Beauty Sleep Really Works

Well-rested people rated more attractive than the sleep-deprived.

No Sex Please, We're Egyptian

Documentary filmmaker explores complex marital relations in the Land of the Pharaohs.

Berlin Patient Cured of HIV

Breakthrough stem cell treatment gives hope to millions.

Mr. Sexsmith’s Other Girlfriend: How to Survive the Winter Holidays as a ... Whatever

So, you’re queer.

Dubious Male Penis Pills are Unhealthy, Says FDA

Over-the-counter/online libido enhancer reportedly isn't all herbal.

Adult Film Breaks New Ground in South Africa

Locally produced porn features condom usage.

PFLAG Founder and Gay Rights Champion Adele Starr Passes

Was outspoken mom, and activist for more than 35 years.

Can Estrogen Treatments Prevent Breast Cancer?

Researchers faced with conflicting studies.

Neurotic and Married? Scientists Say: Have More Sex

(This probably works for well-adjusted singles, too.)

HIV-Positive ‘Patient Zeta’ Speaks Out

Porn performer favors mandatory condom use.

Ford Foundation Gives $4.1M to Study Youth Sexuality

Grants will support “innovative research.”

Em & Lo's Sex Ed for Grown Ups: How Great Sex Starts Without Your Partner

If you want to start eating healthy, you know that changing your relationship to food is more effective than a crash diet. The same is true with your sex life.

Older Men—Way Older—Still Have Satisfying Sex Lives

More than half of those surveyed enjoy sex in their 70s and beyond.

Déjà Vu Dating

Einstein’s definition of insanity was doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. Applying the same principle to your love life is a proven method to madness.

Kilted Marchers Divided Over Underwear

The Cat Houses and Paid Companions of Tokyo: Postcards from a Sex Nerd

In Japan, petting pussy has its price ... and can be both decadent and tame.

Boys' Toys; Dating’s Deadliest Dealbreakers; Scotland Yard vs. Sex Ads

Marketers want to erase the stigma of sexual aids for men.

Devil's Advocate: Whose “Sex Positive” Is It, Anyway?

Sex and Anger, Part 1

Tuesdays With Nina: The New Normal: “Over Cumming” the Side Effects of Meds

Sex should be one of the most natural things in the world, but when medication becomes part of the equation, sometimes, it doesn't come so easily—particularly the “cumming” part...and especially for women.

Dr. Tuppy Owens: The Sensual Patron Saint of the Disabled

Ten Ways to Tell He’s Not Into You

Secrets of a Sex Writer: Sleeping With Married People

Facebook Glitch Flags Female Users for Fraud; Erotic Coffins in Germany; Situation and B-Pal Make PSA

Social networking giant disables untold numbers of accounts—women only.

Mr. Sexsmith’s Other Girlfriend: Celebrating the Body Erotic

Princess Hijab’s Graffiti Veils; Farve’s Off-Field Foul; The Deed vs. Daydreaming; Cop Avoids Cold-Cocking by Sex Toy

Princess Hijab is the newest rogue graffiti artist making social commentary with the swipe of a marker and a swish of spray paint. Recently, the pseudonymed rebel’s made headlines by covering sexy models in Paris billboards with “veils.”

So, What Did We Learn: Lunchables & Carlin: What's in the Numbers?

At 31, I'm not exactly a cougar yet.

Hugh Hefner’s Golden Ticket; Gay Veteran Lobbies for DADT Repeal; Why Yes, I Have a Potato Butt, No Thanks for Asking ...

Ten lucky winners will get to attend posh Playboy party at the mansion.

Mr. Sexsmith’s Other Girlfriend: Just Do It: Sex in Relationships

Erotica Used to Test ESP; Straight Couple Refused Civil Union; Gosling Slams MPAA; Save the Testicles!

Students more likely to know or guess that a hidden image is there—if it's porn.

Tuesdays With Nina: A Woman's Sex Drive is Like a Mountain Range...There's More Than Just One Peak.

Women have been told that they reach the top rung of the sexual ladder later than men do, but what does that really mean? Is it possible to quantify the female libido chronologically?

Conception Sex

When you're trying to have a baby, you can take all your “preconceived” notions about the birds and the bees... and toss them out the window.

Sex Discriminates Against Kink and Queers

We know that sex is beneficial for human health and well being, but it seems that not all sex acts are created equal. Do breeders really beat out non-trad combos for sex bennies? Science signs point to “Yes.” Read on.

Secrets of a Sex Writer: Ex Sex (Toys)

Em & Lo's Sex Advice for Grown Ups—A Guide to Orgasm Etiquette

We hope we don’t need to point out that just one orgasm, for one partner, is not the finishing tape of a sex run. Instead, think of sex as a three-legged race—your partner can neither compete nor cross the finish line without your help, and vice versa. Each partner should make a concerted effort to satisfy the other partner before throwing in the towel.

New Pill Could Be a Gel; Obama Scores Most LGBT Officials; First Annual Pole Fitness Championship

Rub a little on your belly, thighs, arms or shoulders ... it may be the next thing in birth control.

Setting Sail for the Isle of Muliebrity (Womanhood!)

Low Libido “Explained;” Turkish Erotica Publisher Gets Award; Glee’s Dr. Francine-N-Furter?

University study says lack of sex drive “is a genuine physiological disorder.”

Tuesdays With Nina: Young, Sexy...and Celibate?

"The course of true love never did run smooth," Shakespeare once sagely said, but for the young man who is seeking advice today, the booty train has spotty service at best, and might be headed for derailment. Can Nina help him get his love life back on track?

Secrets of a Sex Writer: Attention Deficit?

My name is Rachel, and I’m an attention whore. There, I said it. Maybe that’s obvious, because I think to some degree, all writers are attention whores, but I don’t mean professionally, I mean personally. Only in the last few months have I realized that when it comes to dating, attention is the number one thing I’m looking for from a partner.

Mr. Sexsmith's Other Girlfriend: Falling Into Winter with Your Sweetheart

Tuesdays With Nina: An Owner’s Manual for the Ultimate Pleasure Machine: Your Body!

It seems simple: Tips for exploring the wonderful land of sex. But sex is a country that has many destinations worth exploring as well as rules of road, local customs and attractions. Do you feel like a stranger in a strange land? Not sure what to bring along; what to leave behind? Or how to get to the top of the local monuments? Let Nina be your guide.

Pentagon to stop DADT; Gender Cuddling Gap Uncovered; Palin Tops Sexiest Politicians

It's okay to ask or tell, at least temporarily. But it's probably not a good idea while legal confusion reigns.

The Time-Traveling Wingman

If you could give your younger self some relationship and sex advice ... what might have changed?

Break-Up Tips (Alternate Title: "Fun with Arson")

Tuesdays With Nina: Sex For Newbies, Part 2: The Joys of Toys

Last week, we met a young woman who was new to marriage and new to sex. Due to a conservative background, she has yet to spend a lot of time exploring her sexuality and the things that please her. She wants to grow the intimate relationship she has with her husband, and has come to Nina for advice.

Secrets of a Sex Writer: The Nonconsensual Play Party Voyeur

Tuesdays With Nina: Sex For Newbies, Part 1: Kissing, Porn & Making Love

Adam and Eve were tossed out of the Garden of Eden for taking a bite out of the apple that fell from the Tree of Knowledge. Trouble was, and still is, that a little knowledge is a dangerous thing, especially when it comes to sex. So what do you do when you've been raised in a conservative environment and have not been exposed to deeper learning about the carnal world? Ask Nina, of course!

Mr. Sexsmith’s Other Girlfriend: Mapping Emotional Armor

Your Travel Guide to the Island of Machismo

Today we welcome Veronica Monet to the SexIs crew. If you just don’t get the opposite sex, don't worry. You CAN learn to understand your partner. Whether you’re straight or gay, vanilla or kinky, monogamous or poly, Monet says we all have something to learn about “cross-cultural fertilization.” Life’s a journey. Let our expert tour guide help you make the most of your travels in Libido Territory.

Tuesdays With Nina: Bipolar Lovin'

Being treated for bipolar disorder or other medical conditions can complicate your sex life. Drugs can have an impact on your libido in ways that make it less responsive, or knock it out altogether. So, do you give up sex entirely, or are there solutions for improving the quality of your sex life?

Anti-Abortion Enforcement in Mexico Puts Women at Risk; Judge’s Sex Charges Dropped; Film Fest Flaunts Erotic Poster

Since Mexico City legalized abortion, authorities in other parts of the country have cracked down, endangering the health of women and putting them at risk of criminal charges.

Vagina of Steel

Squeeze 1 … 2 … 3, and release

Gluttony Meets Lust, Part Two: An Interview with Molly Ren

In the first installment of this interview, we met up with Molly Ren, who has a very special relationship with food as it relates to sex. While many foods are known to function as aphrodisiacs, for Ren and others who share this fetish, it is the act of eating and feeding, rather than the food itself, that leads to the ultimate gratification.

Secrets of a Sex Writer: Internet Dating Pros and Cons

Mr. Sexsmith's Other Girlfriend: Speaking Different (Love) Languages

Em & Lo’s Relationship Compatibility Test: Five Factors You Should Know About

Gluttony Meets Lust, Part One: An Interview with Molly Ren

Last week, we launched The Appetites Project with Liz Langley's feature, “I Eat, Therefore, I Am.” In this installment of the SexIs feederism series, The Beautiful Kind talks one-on-one with a practitioner of the fetish, Molly Ren.

Mr. Sexsmith's Other Girlfriend: Sex While Not Drinking

Tuesdays With Nina: Sex and the Disabled Spouse

The intimate lives of those with a disability or debilitating disease is not something people typically talk about openly, but of course, the challenges these men and women—and their partners—face when seeking sexual satisfaction can be more daunting than most. Today, Nina talks about the realities of making love with a disabled partner.

I Eat, Therefore, I Am…

Most of us have some kind of issues involving food and many are forever trying to lose weight thinking it will help achieve sexiness, so there’s probably nothing more socially subversive you could do in America in 2010 than to gain weight on purpose.

Rebel Love: Bi-Sexual in the Big Easy

Editor's Note: This is the debut of Rebel Love, a new column focusing on unconventional relationships that work in spite of social ignorance and public judgment. Each month, a nontraditional couple—or not couple—will share insights into how they’ve managed to stay happily together while not fitting the mold.

If you and your partner(s) would like to be considered for an interview, please email us with “Rebel Love” in the subject line.)

Men and Women Both From Earth, Cool Mill Offered for Naked Obama Prank

Old “neurosexist” ideas about the differences between genders are being challenged by scientists—specifically the notion that men are biologically from Mars and women are hard-wired for Venus. Turns out, it may be more nurture than nature than previously thought.

Good Luck All Around for Nude Terri Hatcher, Nakationers, and Na’vi Sex Fans

It’s Friday the 13th, but so far there are no broken mirrors for sexy small-screen diva Teri Hatcher, who posted pictures of herself on her Facebook page, naked and beautiful—and all natural.

Secrets of a Sex Writer: 10 Things I Want From My Next Relationship

No Church for Faithful Anne Rice, Naked Roller Coaster Ride Saves Breasts, Gaga Diva Goes Godiva at Lollapalooza

It’s really powerful to see someone secure enough in their faith to fight for the rights of others. The doyenne of undead fiction, Anne Rice, has taken up the cause.

Booty Calls, Bodacious Bods, Don’t Let that Natural Label Fool You

Bend over, and let me take a picture. This is exactly what Old Navy’s Booty Reader is asking customers to do so that the company can fit them with the proper style pair of jeans.

Female Condoms, What Price Contraception? How Young is Too Young for Long-Term Birth Control

“But it just doesn’t feel the same…” We wonder if women will start using this line when referring to the female condoms that are now gaining wide recognition in major U.S. metropolitan cities.

Secrets of a Sex Writer: Letting Someone Into My Bed

Historic Gay Booty Found, Kardashian Says No to Fan’s Surgery

Sexual outlaw and underground literary figure Samuel Steward passed away in 1993, leaving behind a recently discovered Aladdin’s cave of gay paraphernalia.

Eat Your Heart Out: The Sexualization of Food and Food Culture

They say you never forget your first: That initial surge of blood as your heart begins to hammer, those small moans of pleasure, your mouth actually watering as your lips embrace the object of your desire.

Secrets of a Sex Writer: A Little Bit Poly

Mr. Sexsmith’s Other Girlfriend: The Life Lessons in Swing Dancing

Look at your partner when you’re communicating with them.

When you decide to do something, pay attention, commit to it, and follow through.

Tuesdays With Nina: Hypothyroidism and Inability To Orgasm

This week, Nina tackles the concerns of a woman diagnosed with hypothyroidism and her resulting inability to achieve orgasm. People with this condition often have a reduced libido and diminished ability to climax—which can be distressing to both you and your partner. Nina has consulted sex expert, Dr. Robert Lawrence, for tips on how to cope with a thyroid that's putting a damper on your sex life.

Seniors Flout Safe Sex; Lost Romance Akin to Addiction

Recent studies have discovered that those taking medications to combat erectile dysfunction have higher risk-taking behavior during sex, and are therefore twice as likely to contract a sexually transmitted disease.

Beautiful & Kind: Interview with a Sex Goddess

“The Beautiful Kind” (a.k.a. “TBK”) is both the name and motto of the 30-something bisexual vegetarian sex goddess located in St. Louis, Missouri. A prolific sex writer, TBK writes for a variety of magazines, including SexIs, and also pens a popular Internet advice column “Ask The Slut.”

AIDS Drug Funding Threatened, Japan Pledges $10 Million for Vaccine

The recent economic crisis has hit many people very hard, and now added to the list are those who depend on the AIDS Drug Assistance Program, which supplies medications needed to combat AIDS and HIV to the underprivileged.

Loving My Body—Kinda, Sorta, Sometimes

The Man Project: David Steinberg

Tuesdays With Nina: May-December Relationships

She's 21, he's 55. She's new to the game and he’s been around the block a time—or 10.

Helen Mirren Poses Nude, Kissed Nurse Passes

Dame Helen Mirren, known for her stoic portrayals of royalty and hard-boiled police detectives also has a sinfully steamy side she’s never been shy about exposing.

Secrets of a Sex Writer: My Domme Side

Tuesdays With Nina: Do I Need A New Dance Partner?

How do you even begin to figure out if you should stay in a relationship with problems, or leave in search of a better match? Do you get counseling? Do you go with your partner or alone? If your partner won't dance with you, do you need a new one?

April Fresh, Part 2

Last week, we met Alt Porn star April Flores. Teased in her youth for being overweight, this modern-day XXX Mae West learned to embrace her curves, find happiness and the courage to show her big, beautiful wares to the world at large.

SexFeed:Comprehensive Sex Ed Ignored and Exalted

April Fresh, Part One

Voluptuous April Flores is making serious waves in the world of alt-porn with dangerous curves cultivated by confidence, courage and—lo and behold—carbs.

Tuesdays With Nina: Talking Dirty

Sometimes, "aural sex" can be really hot, but how do you know what to say, and when to say it? How do you keep from cracking up? Learning the language of love can be difficult, but it's also dirty and fun. Just ask Nina.

Motorcycles and Sex: The Rapture of the Road

There may be nothing you can legally do with your body more exciting and sensual than grabbing your partner and jumping on a motorcycle, at least in public. No other human experience heightens the senses and ignites instincts like climbing atop a great chuffing beast and heading out on the highway.

Feminist Feat: Leora Tanenbaum Talks about Bad Shoes

Belly Dancing Your Way to Better Sex

Like certain other physical activities—surfing, yoga, running—belly dance more than just exercise; it becomes a way of life for some people—a way of carrying yourself, enjoying your body and moving proudly and sensually through the world.

SexFeed: Swinging Academics Create Artificial Life and Green Light Sex After Heart Attack

Secrets of a Sex Writer: My “Trendy” Post-Breakup Celibacy

Eating Disorders – Thin, Sexy, Perfect and… Frigid?

I studied eating disorders like a Ph.D. candidate, crossing back and forth from memoir to scholarly article, to magazine column and back again to autobiography. I put in hours of effort, memorizing passages and quotes, regurgitating information and ultimately learning everything there was to be learned about Anorexia Nervosa and Bulimia Nervosa.

Tuesdays With Nina: Making Love to Older Women

When explaining to a young friend the merits of taking older women as lovers, Ben Franklin once remarked, "In the dark, all cats are grey."

SexFeed: Explicit Porn an Option for Increasingly Infertile Men

The End of “What If?”

A recent story in the UK’s Telegraph reports that Facebook is cited in roughly one in five of the country’s online divorce petitions, but millions of avid users swear the reconnections are mostly harmless fun. Have these quantum leaps forward in technology created a society addicted to its past?

The Whole Camel Foot

Naked Reader Book Club—This is Your Brain on Smut: How the Erotic Impulse Connects the Mind to the Genitals

It might be a graceful phrase from Anais Nin or Pat Califia, sought out or stumbled on, but as with any sexual attraction, once it chooses you, your heartbeat quickens, you’re aware of your breathing, and you become a bit stupid with horniness. That’s what reading erotica does to you—at least good erotica.

Tuesdays With Nina: Nina gives advice to a woman whose husband doesn't want sex, Part 1

The Naked Reader Book Club: Rewiring the Sexual Disconnect—How Surrogates Put People Back in Touch

When the rules of society overrun the path to sexual satisfaction, sometimes, the only way to get back on track is with a little—or a lot—of hands-on help.

Tuesdays With Nina: Asking for Something New in the Bedroom

The Ethics of Bareback

Condom-less porn (or bareback) is on the rise in gay outlets, and as popularity creates a demand for more and more, studios and performers are leaving the protection in the nightstand.

The Saggy Boobs Light Brigade

Behold the human body! Sure, it's a beautiful thing. But perfect? Not hardly!

Chemo Sexual

At 31, she was diagnosed with Primary Mediastinal Large B Cell (Non Hodgkin’s) Lymphoma. Described at times as “diffuse” and “aggressive,” this cancer targets white chicks in their early thirties. Now, 16 months into remission, the author looks back on her road to wellness, including some sexual detours along the way.

Dr. Dick on Demand—Remedial Jerkology: A Better Way To Handle Yourself

In the last installment of my series on male masturbation, we discussed problematic masturbation styles—how they can get in the way of satisfying partnered sex, and offered a surefire way to resolve these problems. This time around, I’d like to offer suggestions on how men can use different styles of masturbation to overcome certain dysfunctions, such as premature ejaculation.

Burning for You

UTIs (Urinary Tract Infections) are not “teh sexay”—to some, they are the TMI of sex; but nonetheless they are a fact of life. But when they start showing up more frequently than syndicated episodes of Seinfeld, there has to be a solution.

Dr. Dick on Demand: Masturbation and Men—The Double-Edged Sword

For some men, this freelance sexual investigation can, and often does, produce some very interesting, unique and even downright strange styles of self-pleasuring, that sadly, often do not lend themselves to partnered sex. But according to Dr. Dick, with proper motivation and some focused redirection, men can learn to climax with a lover as well as on their own. And you won't even need a male masturbator for that.

Tuesdays with Nina: Communication & Generosity

Who is responsible for you having a happy sex life? Hint: It's not your partner. Nina explains that without a healthy emotional state, good communication, and mutual respect for one another, no amount of bedroom acrobatics will save a bad sex life.

RX Side Effects: When Meds Aren’t Sexy

Who knew that one little pill daily—a mere 20 milligrams of the selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI) Paxil—would cause my entire world to come crashing down?

Diary of a Sex Surrogate: The Devirginizer

Not every woman in their late 30s can say they devirginized four men in one year. I can. Over the course of several months, I spent intimate time with four adult male virgins, from 24 to 38 years of age. Two had overwhelmingly positive outcomes, and two did not.

Sharing Your Man With Pornography

Women love men. Men love porn. While some wives hate their hubby’s smut habit, others have learned to embrace it… with some very satisfying results.

Senior Sex: They Can. They Should. And They Do. Get Over It.

And why shouldn’t they? Haven’t they earned it, for Pete’s sake? And if nothing else, the prospect of aging does seems far more tolerable if oral’s still on the table.

Tuesdays With Nina: Permission—Giving and Receiving

When you're in bed, how often do you find yourself saying "no" to something that might actually be pleasing? A little too often? Find out why Nina says learning to give, accept and offer permission is the path to embracing your true potential, and unlocking the pathway to untold sexual pleasures.

Dr. Dick on Demand: The Lube Rubric: A Little Dab’ll Do Ya!

When it comes to producing natural lubrication, no two women are exactly alike. And since lubrication is essential during sex—no matter how aroused you are—it’s more than a good idea to have a bottle nearby.

Five Ways to Improve Your Sex Life

I won’t lie: Sex has saved me. From myself especially. From going so deep into the spirals of my own brain which could drive me crazy. But when everything is perfect, there is no mind in sex. There is just feeling; just the body, moving, stretching, pulling, reaching, opening, pulsing, listening, taking, giving; just sensation.

Clit Sensitivity & Piercing, and Knowing When it's "Time" To Orgasm

This week, Nina takes on two very different questions. First, she tackles the issue of clit sensitivity. Does it diminish as we age? Can a clit piercing enhance pleasure? Next, a considerate young man wants to please his lover, but is worried that he's climaxing too fast. Find out why Nina says: "There's no such thing as coming to soon."

What Does Healthcare Reform Mean, Sexually Speaking?

Q: What’s almost 2,000 pages long, has the head of a donkey, the tail of an elephant, the petrified genitals of a Tyrannosaurus Rex and the scent of something rotten in the state of U.S. Politics?

A: The Affordable Healthcare for America Act

Tuesdays with Nina: Sex Advice Books and Partners with MS

This week, Nina discusses some of the better sex advice books available, from Tristan Taormino to Carol Queen, and even Nina herself! She also gives a few tips on how to enjoy a rewarding sex life with a partner with MS.

The Madonna/Whore Paradox: De-sexualizing and Re-sexualizing the American Mom

Making babies is sexy. Having them? Sometimes not so much. For many couples, the transition from carefree lovers to full-time parents comes with unexpected consequences in the bedroom. Maternal instinct can put the kibosh on the libido—of men and women alike. So, can a woman be a model mom and a red-hot momma?

Dr. Dick on Demand: The Well-Pierced Penis

Nowadays, body piercings are all the rage. And, as we all know, some fellas can’t stop with just a few—which can lead to some humorous predicaments when being wanded by airport security. While I firmly believe in the right of every man to augment, embellish, or in any other way customize his equipment, it’s a personal decision. If it makes you happy, go for it. If it ain’t for you, just say NO.

The Vasectomy Trajectory

Snip-snip, the Big V, or voluntary sterilization. No matter how you slice it (good one, right?), a vasectomy is a major decision. Fortunately, it’s a minor procedure—and a great excuse to spend the weekend on the couch.

Stirring Things Up: Safer Sex for Women Who Love Women

Compared to heterosexual sex or sex between men, sex between women is generally a lower-risk activity. It isn’t however, a no-risk activity.

The Lap Dance

As a happily married woman who had spent a considerable amount of time learning how to do a striptease, I figured it was high time to go see the real thing. Yes, Virginia—it’s time to find out what really goes on at the strip club!

The Bloggess: Magic Words That Make Him Tell You the Truth About Where Your Socks Are

This month I’m doing a series of articles to prove to my grandmother that my sex column is just as good as anything from Cosmo by writing my own stories inspired by actual Cosmo titles. This morning I was supposed to tackle…

Tuesdays with Nina: Sexual Attitudes

Today, Nina dishes on the biggest sexual organ of all...the brain!

How I Learned to Stop Worrying (About Masturbation) and Love the Porn

When I moved in with my partner, I did something unthinkable: I stopped masturbating. Though we’d been sexually active before we moved in together, but I still masturbated occasionally, and, at 21, I needed to orgasm more than once a week. Still, I felt bad when I did it—almost like it was a betrayal of our relationship, and I promised myself that I’d stop when we moved in together.

Unrestrained Hypersexuality: You Can’t Bring a Doctor’s Note to Divorce Court

I can’t count the amount of times a hypersexual mood has convinced me within a breadth that sleeping with someone would make me feel better. Scratch that, rewind—feel something. And then, afterwards—feeling unclean, guilty and manipulative, as the choices I’ve made have not been my best.

Period Sex: Blood In, Blood Out

On a 1 to 10 scale of Internet freakydeaky, I’d personally place period fetishes at a rather tame three or four. And if any of you wonderful readers have a lust for the moon blood, alas, this is not your story, but a quest to discover how many people are unwilling to go to town when Aunt Flo’s in.

Me and Tina Fey: A Ballad of Strippers, Sweat and Glitter

I love strippers. I love their well-fitted bikinis. I love the way the move in high heels. I love the their upper body strength and flexibility. (Oh, the flexibility.) I love the bravery and unfettered sensuality. Showmanship turns me on. Tina Fey would never approve of me.

Equal Risk for Equal Play

In some ways, American culture is still stuck in the 1950s. Although in theory the sexual revolution has happened and we know that women can be just as interested in sex as men, in reality the sexual double standard is alive and well and living in Paris…Texas.

Tuesdays with Nina: A Bit of Everything

Nina answers a few viewers’ questions on yeast infections, excessive masturbation, and...Nina dishes on her favorite sex toy!

Girl, You’ll Be a Woman Soon...

While many women complain about the misfortunes and misadventures that go along with being well endowed, believe me when I tell you that we flat gals have our fair share of daily embarrassments and occasional calamities.

Dr. Dick on Demand: Making Marriage Work

Getting ready to marry and finding yourself with a case of the cold feet? Never fear; Dr. Dick is here, with a primer for all you betrothed to-be to find your own sexual success.

Being Manic Got Me Screwed...A Lot

My sex life was completely, 100 percent, definitely no question about it attributed to my high and low moods. So, I stepped away from the computer and told a doctor in real life. I was easily diagnosed as bipolar, in part because of the record setting, in addition to the fact that I was unbalanced and moody. Since, bipolar has been written on my metaphorical psychiatric permanent record.

Grading on the Curves: A Report Card on Women’s Healthcare

It’s fair to say that healthcare and women have a complicated history. Let’s take a look at why.

Tuesdays with Nina: An Intro to Threesomes

How does a couple prepare for a threesome? How do you know if it’s right for you and your partner? Why is the fantasy often better than the reality? Nina explains it all!

Pan’s Promise: Does Horny Goat Weed Really Work?

Known for his legendary libido, Greek god Pan left a trail of ravished woodland nymphs in his wake. In modern times, does the aphrodisiac that bears his image live up to the horny hype, or is it another myth waiting to get busted?

Size Matters…In Your Head

This week, Sexis' own friendly e-neighborhood sex surrogate takes on a BIG problem—penis size...or, rather, the size of men's anxieties over penis size.

Overcoming a Fear of Sex: A Step-By-Step Process

All phobias can be overcome with some effort. The same is true for conquering a fear of sex. Here, I walk a young gay man through his trepidation. We take simple, easy to accomplish steps to build confidence and dispel his apprehensions.

No More Periods: Is This a Good Idea?

Many of today’s newer birth control pills are specifically marketed for a new reason, other than birth control itself: menstrual suppression

Project: Good in Bed—Just Me and My G-String

Last year, on Christmas Eve, I dressed in red lingerie, fishnets and heels, sauntered up to my husband, and said, “I am here to satisfy you in every way.” He rather enjoyed that gift, so I decided to make it a yearly tradition. This year, however, I wanted to take things up a notch. Rather than just dress up, I was going to perform. I would give him a strip tease to be remembered.

Dr. Dick on Demand: Healing Sexual Trauma through Sensate Focus

One of the most difficult things for me to deal with as a therapist is the aftermath of sexual trauma. And I know that the trouble I have with this is only a tiny fraction of the difficulty my client has as he or she faces his/her past.

Tuesdays with Nina: Kegels

This week, Nina delves into the topics of Kegels—what are they, how to do them, and who should be doing them (hint: they're not just for women)—and, most important of all, what they can do for you!

The Hard and Soft of It: One Sex Surrogate’s Experience with Erectile Dysfunction

Hey, fellas—when’s the last time you sported a boner? Have you ever noticed how annoying spontaneous erections are for teenage boys, and how annoying lack of erections are for older men?

The Sexis Interview: Tristan Taormino, Part 4

In this final installment of our interview with the one and only Tristan Taormino, she speaks at length about open relationships, nonmonogamy, and trying to shatter the preconceived notions of what relationships are.

The Sexis Interview: Tristan Taormino, Part 3

Adult entertainment succeeds when the audience truly connects to the material. Tristan dishes on what performers need to bring to the table to ensure her fans are truly satisfied.

Dr. Dick on Demand: The Open Relationship Model

Deviating from conventional model. Is it worth it?

The Joy of Fantasizing … About Your Wife

What’s better than a daydream about a porn star, a pop star, or simply Star (she’s the new redhead in accounting)? Try some erotic make-believe starring your significant other.

The Road Taken: How I Used to Be a Prude

I used to be a prude, but I didn’t know it. I had what I thought was good sex. My husband then (now ex) and I played around a little bit, did things like “69” and the occasional blindfolding. Seemed shocking and kinky at the time.

The Bloggess: Things you should never say on a first date.

Or ever, really.

Project: Good in Bed—Yes, I So Rocked His World!

Last I wrote, I was feeling like an old, haggard, dull excuse for a wife—the very type of wife who might have a husband who wasn’t particularly interested in bedding down with her. I can tell you, worrying that you may no longer be attracted to your husband is one problem. Worrying that he may no longer be attracted to you? That’s a problem of an entirely different magnitude.

Diary of a Sex Surrogate: Who’s Your Sex Surrogate?

One woman’s up close and personal mission to help others work the kinks OUT.

The World AIDS Day Project: One by One

In candid interviews, Guy and Debra from the AIDS Service Center NYC make true ASC’s promise of ‘helping many one by one’.

The World AIDS Day Project: An Inside Look at the AIDS Service Center NYC

Director of Business Development and Communications Anne West Church provides an up-close and personal glimpse into the heart of ASC-NYC’s Union Square facility.

The World AIDS Day Project: Anatomy of an AIDS Activist

AIDS activists are a diverse group. The faces, the voices, the hearts, the minds, the goals vary from each to each, but they all have one thing in common: the courage to act on their convictions. What does one look like? Anyone. Everyone. Take a look in the mirror. It might even be you.

The World AIDS Day Project: On the Frontlines of the Forgotten War

For Executive Director, Sharen I. Duke and the dedicated staff at the AIDS Service Center NYC, the battle rages on. In this video interview, she provides an overview of ASC's ongoing mission.

Dr. Dick on Demand: Human Rights, Sexual Rights and World AIDS Day

World AIDS Day brings into focus the micro-strategies needed to combat a macro problem.

A Poly Lexicon

Or, how not to get chewed up in the parlance of polyamory.

Failure to Communicate

When it comes to verbal communication, my husband generally have no problem finding things to discuss. Actually, one of the things I love most about him is that he truly listens to me and respects my opinions. But there’s one topic we both stumble over—sex. Actually, it isn’t the topic of sex per se, but being able to effectively communicate our wants and needs.

Little Plastic Rings: The Ethos and Eros of Foreskin Restoration

On the L in Chicago, an average thirty-something man sits quietly in his seat. Suddenly a little plastic ring falls out from his pant leg and rolls along the floor. There are thousands of men all over the country walking around secretly rigged up with devices in their pants—made of plastic, metal, tape and other items that yank the skin of the penis. And no, this isn’t some sexual fetish or kink.

Confessions of a Closet Kink

Hello. My name is Newme…and I’m a closet kink. If you saw me walking down the street, you would probably think, preppy mom. I’m top to bottom J. Crew—cardigan, tee and jeans. Mother of four who home-schooled her kids, drove them to all their activities in a Honda Accord, worked hard for a living, helped my husband start his own business. Nothing special, just your typical person on the streets.

Project: Good in Bed—Am I Boring in Bed?

Was he no longer attracted to me? I’d gained some weight. I knew that. My clothes were tight on me. Only one pair of pants fit comfortably. Was it the fleece? Or was it the sex?

(Willful) Ignorance Is Bliss

When it comes to STDs, for many people, it’s much easier simply not to know.

Turning Off the Turn Offs: How to Find Detours around Sexual Roadblocks

The things that turn us on are determined not only by our individual preferences, but by the culture in which we live. The same holds true for those things that effectively turn us off.

The Talk

Why is talking to our progeny about sex so awkward? Does it have to be?

The Secret Pursuit of a Secret

To paraphrase Andrew Vachss: A man who has a fetish will seek out women who he wouldn't normally find attractive if those women agree to and provide that particular fetish. In fact, that man might even prefer these women to those more attractive to him-more his “type”—if the ‘less’-attractive women provide him with his fetish more than women he's normally attracted to.

Sex and the Empty Nest

Or, to put it another way, someday they will leave...

Project: Good in Bed—I Want to Have Sex. I Want to Have Sex…

That’s what I’ve been telling myself...let's see if I can make it happen.

Dr. Dick on Demand: Virginity

Virginity is a very touchy issue in just about every culture on the globe. Curiously enough, it’s almost always exclusively about female virginity. This sad double standard gives rise to emotional conflicts for both genders. But again, it is young women and girls who bear the brunt of it.

Cyrano in 140 Characters or Less: The Art of the Love Letter—and Email

These days, not even poets are squeezing their hearts into love letters. We live in a fast-food world. And while love still isn’t something you can order from the drive-through, modern courtship is a reflection of the way we live: fast, easy, and a little out of control—like a quick email, an instant message—or a throng of twenty-first century Cyranos Twittering their love...in 140 characters.

Synching Up Your Sexual Clocks

At 6:00 each morning, you are likely to find me out cold. My husband on the other hand, is most likely laying next to me, wide-awake, trying to cajole me into a daybreak quickie. At this time of day I am barely capable of keeping my eyes open, much less my legs, and he knows this. However, this doesn’t stop him from trying—and hasn’t stopped him from trying for the last six years.

Dr. Dick on Demand: Sex and the Aging Male

I’m receiving a startling number of correspondences lately from older men and their partners, highlighting the sexual difficulties of the aging process. It’s not surprising that these people are noticing the changes in their sexual response cycle as they age, but it is astonishing that they haven’t attributed the changes to andropause.

Is This Love?

Crush, obsession, or the real deal? One woman’s journey to decipher the difference.

Faking the Big “O”

News flash, folks: You may think you’re a powerhouse in bed who can get any partner off, but according to a University of Kansas study, of students they interviewed who were sexually active, 67 percent of women—and 30 percent of men—faked orgasms.

Surviving Infidelity: His, Mine and Ours

Infidelity in marriage is like a Ming vase that’s been shattered by the person you loved and trusted most. That’s what my life felt like the night I found out my husband was cheating on me. I shared that with someone who’d been through it as well, and she said she wanted to turn her broken pieces into a beautiful mosaic. I think—and hope—that is what my husband and I have finally done.

Menopause and Andropause: Living with it

Entering your 50s doesn’t mean the end of your sex life. It does however present two new wrinkles with which to deal: the double-miasma of menopause for women, and andropause for men. Newme21 shares her story.

Dr. Dick on Demand: Fighting Fair—a Tutorial

I have just the thing for all you folks out there who are in a relationship. If you’re like every other couple I know, you have your share of tension. And let’s face it—tension leads to fighting. And fighting, if not done fairly, can lead to hurting your partner—even if that’s not your intention.

Fat Lips & Other Smack Talk: The Language of Fat

No matter how you say it, it seems everyone is talking about body size—either their own or someone else's. Fatspeak is a national obsession. So much talk is meant to belittle that it’s easy to give offense where none was intended. Here's a quick lexicon on Fat Language. Consider this a travel phrase book to the land of Fat where the roads are often dangerous, unmapped and slippery when wet.

The Practicality of Polyamory

Explaining your relationship status isn't easy when you've got a wife, a girlfriend, and a boyfriend (or what I like to call a Full Set). "It's complicated" doesn't begin to capture it. But while we may be unique, there are lots of people who practice polyamory. It can be pretty confusing for the participants themselves, so it's not always easy to explain to everyone else.

Sexercise Your Way to Ecstasy

Elizabeth Black takes a look at different exercise techniques designed to improve your sex drive—and sexual gratification.

Dr. Dick on Demand: The Heartbreak of Male Performance Anxiety

One of the real bugaboos for anyone, regardless of gender, is living up to our own expectations of sexual performance. So many things can get in the way, literally and figuratively, of fully enjoying ourselves and/or pleasuring our partners.

Dr. Dick on Demand: Sex Addiction, or Too Much of a Good Thing?

This week, the one and only Dr. Dick takes on the issue of sex addiction—and his take may surprise you.

Sex and Disability 101

You sprain your wrist playing basketball, or get carpal tunnel twinges from too much typing. Your partner is battling depression or post-traumatic stress. Sooner or later, the question is likely to come up: how do you make sex work when someone involved is temporarily or permanently disabled? Our goal here is to provide you with tools for finding solutions that work for you and your partners.

Sex and the Suburbs: I Promise to Love, Cherish and Not Get Caught?

Cheating on one’s spouse has become big business—just ask Ashley Madison.

The Great Douche Debate

It turns out that Gladys’ husband wasn’t impotent, after all. And June’s wasn’t in the closet. Nope. The problem, duh, was FEMININE ODOR. Think about it: What red-blooded American male could manage to think about pussy after a hard day’s work when it smelled like, um, PUSSY?

Observations of a Sex Positive Gypsy: There’s no such thing as a stupid question

I get a lot of questions. Some are good, some are bad—some just get asked over and over and over. Let's run down the top five...

Oh, the Agony! The Perils of Advice Column Addiction

I have a dirty little secret: I used to work as an advice columnist. Here’s another dirty little secret: Most of the advice columnists aren’t any more qualified to tell you what to do with your life than I was. Some of them are even less.

Dr. Dick on Demand: The Amputee Devotee

This week, Dr. Dick investigates acrotomophilia; or, in other words, the amputee fetish.

Hotel Sex: A Short Guide To Getting It On Away from Home

Here's a hint: handcuffs + sprinkler system = disaster.

Sex and the Suburbs: Bi-Bi Mommy

The last relationship I had before I met my husband was with a woman. Yes, I am a bi-sexual woman, although I am not a great fan of labels and can’t truly, with all honesty, say that I know that I fit the definition of that title to a tee. Nor do I really care.

High Infidelity: What Cheating Is (and Maybe Isn't)

Lots of us do it. Some studies claim most of us do it. And if you believe what you see on cable news, it’s a prerequisite for a political career. Are we just a species that can’t say no?

Living with Infertility

With a media that pushes pregnancies of 8 or families of 18, it can be difficult to accept the reality that simply having a first or second child may be extremely difficult or ultimately, never happen at all.

Dr. Dick on Demand: The Self-Sexological Exam

What if—you, a healthy, otherwise happy woman—had gone through your entire life...without having experienced the joys of an orgasm?

Why Porn is Good for the Married Man’s Soul…Seriously!

You might hear people make outrageous claims such as “Porn destroys more marriages than crack cocaine!” “Porn drives married couples apart!” I hate to break it to you, but that’s hogwash. Porn is the glue that holds families together. Porn is good. Porn is the bread and butter of any married person’s sexual existence. Porn is an integral part of 21st century living.

Sex and the Suburbs: To Watch or Not to Watch, That is The Question

Many men already know the joys of pornography, whether it be a raunchy movie or some strategically shot photos on the internet—and aren’t afraid to sing their praises. However, most women I have spoken to regarding porn either love it or hate it, and there isn’t much middle ground.

The Sexis Interview: Sabrina Wolf on Her First Porn Shoot and Trust

It’s one thing to talk about porn from a professional’s point of view—but what about someone’s first time? Meet Sabrina Wolf, who recently made her porn debut, for Kink.com’s Hogtied.

Come Out, Come Out… …or not. Whatevs. It’s cool.

We find ourselves and we find our loves in our own unique ways – that’s just how it happens to be. For a whole bunch of us, this means we get caught in a closet (or ten) somewhere along the line. Fortunately, we get to decide for ourselves whether or not (and how) we want to come out of those closets. There’s a lot to consider.

Lower Education: Why STDs are Making a Comeback on College Campuses

Ah, college. It’s where teenagers go to learn—about themselves, about the world, how to do body shots, and pick up strangers in bars. For many young people, it’s the first time they’ve been away from parental authority. They are treated and are expected to act like adults, but for many the taste of freedom is embraced as license to explore the siren songs of sex, drugs, and rock ’n’ roll.

Sex and the Suburbs: Why Celebumoms Make Us Feel Bad—And Why We Allow It

Why has the once-cherished mom-bod become something to be looked upon with disgust and disdain, rather than revered as the happy result of something natural and beautiful?

Dr. Dick on Demand! The Anal Sex Guide: Giving and Receiving

As promised, here’s Dr. Dick’s highly anticipated seminar on being a great ass-fuckin’ top. This is a companion piece to an earlier tutorial for you novice bottoms out there — Liberating the BOB Within. This tutorial is for anyone who is considering being a top, regardless of whether the meat injection is 100% prime, or a beef substitute (a strap-on dildo), these words of wisdom are for you.

Sex and the Suburbs: The Dry Spell

It’s inevitable that all couples will go through it. And when you add needy children that expect to be fed, bathed and nurtured every day to the relationship cocktail, the chances that sex is going to take a backseat for certain periods of time is almost completely unavoidable. The question is, how long is too long?

Dr. Dick on Demand! Liberating that Big Ol' Bottom Within

So—you’ve finally decided to become a B.O.B. (Big Ol’ Bottom)? Tired of missing out on all that ass-play everyone’s talking about? Been secretly tripping on the exploits of your favorite porn stars? (“Jeez, would ya get a load of that—his hole looks like the Victory Arch in Paris, for God’s sake.”) And now you want a piece of the action for yourself?

A Day Trip to the STD Testing Clinic

Free testing clinics are fantastic—but they’re not infallible, and they’re not always the most informative places in the world to get your safer sex information. The old saying, “you get what you pay for”, is, sadly enough, usually true.

What Hollywood Teaches Us about Being a Daddy

Or, how to successfully combine parenting, fatherhood, and sex...

Bridging the Gap: My Life with an Older Lover

How do you make a relationship work when the two principals have a significant age gap between them?

Sex and the Suburbs: Chips, Dips, Chains, Whips—Exploring BDSM and Kink

Momma’s got a brand new bag. And it’s full of paddles, floggers, and restraints. It’s time to get your kink on!

Guess What, Honey? I’m A Kinky Old Perv!

So you’ve met the person of your dreams—only you haven’t got around to telling your new honey your dirty little secret...

As Different as the Next Girl

Being a trans woman myself, and having dated a number of other trans women, I occasionally have people ask me for tips or advice on being sexual as or with a trans woman.

Sex and the Suburbs: The Great Anal Debate

Okay, moms—take your fingers out of your ears: it’s time to talk about buttsex!

Observations of a Sex-Positive Gypsy

Being a sex-educator isn’t all glamour all the time. And for Sarah Sloane, it’s more about being a sex-positive gypsy, traveling the highways and byways to deliver the good word—sort of like an evangelist, with a strap-on. In her first column, our heroine reflects on life, long-distance sex, and the evils of cheap hotel beds.

From Jilling to Jacking

It was going to be a simple story about lap-based Web browsing. That is, er…you know, relishing the hot dog. Jerkin’ the gherkin. Patting the Robertson. The next thing I knew, I was out back, behind the garage, you know...

Sex and the Suburbs: A Little Experimentation Goes a Long Way

Necessity is the mother of invention. Why else would there be so many wonderful instruments of pleasure available today if someone somewhere didn’t find them to be just what suits their personal kink?

Sex Therapy—What Is It and Who Needs It?

I’m often asked about my work as a sex therapist. I’m surprised at how few people have any sense of what we actually do. While I can’t speak for all my fellow therapists, I can tell you a bit about my own practice.

Jilling Off

Girls do it, too. Oh, do they ever.

Sex and the Suburbs: The Demystification of the Suburban Mother-Goddess Archetype

Domestic goddess? Soccer mom? Suburban earth mother? Minivan mommy? This week, we demystify the mother archetype, and get right down to business—having more (and better) sex, that is.

SexVoxing: Now That You Can Laugh About It...

This week on SexVoxing, something a bit more personal...What is the most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you during sex?

Sex and the Suburbs: We Really Need to Talk...

This week: an open letter to dads, husbands and/or partners, from the mothers who love them but want—or, rather, need—more foreplay).

HIV and the Porn Industry: Testing, Condoms and Trust

On June 4, Patient Zero was tested for HIV. She worked on June 5, and her results came in positive for HIV presence in the bloodstream on June 6. At that point, all hell began to break loose.

Sex and the Suburbs: The S-E-X Talk (You Knew It Was Coming)

When it comes to talking to your wee little ones about the birds and the bees (and specifically, why Mommy and Daddy are doing it), the truth often WILL set you free—and it just might get you laid more often.

Grand Opening: A Beginners’ Guide to Open Relationships

Just what is an open relationship, anyway? Let's find out!

SexVoxing: Sex for Bookworms

Today on SexVoxing: What book on sexuality do you think should be required reading?

Sex and the Suburbs: Getting It On without Traumatizing Your Children

One of life’s inevitabilities as a parent (besides tax credits) is the knowledge that at some point, your kids are going to catch you in delicto flagrante. So—do you cease all sexual activity until they’re 18, or do you invest heavily in Disney? Or...is there another option?

You Are What You Eat – Foods That Improve Your Sex Life

Did you know that the food you eat affects not only your sexual desire and stamina; it also affects the taste of your semen and pussy? Regardless of your sexual orientation and gender, you will only benefit from eating and drinking the kinds of foods that will give you the sexual pep you desire. Here is a pyramid scheme you can get into—the Hot And Sexy Food Pyramid. Check it out below.

SexVoxing: Techniques to Grow On

Today on SexVoxing, we’re going to take a walk on the wild side of ‘what if’: What tip or technique do you wish your ex had known?

Cerebral Wanderlust: What Men and Women are Really Thinking About

Does a straying mind make you a stray dog? What are you freaks really thinking about in flagrante delicto? If your mind works anywhere close to normal, it’s going to wander—at least occasionally

Sex and the Suburbs: A Day in the Sex Life of a Suburban Mom

It’s time to enjoy a glimpse into the world of your typical suburban mom (played by me), and how sex fits (or more appropriately doesn’t fit) into it. It’s not pretty, it’s not glamorous and it certainly isn’t all that sexy. But here it is, stripped down to the bone. It might just look a little familiar…

Blind Faith: When Polyamory Doesn't Work Out

We were drunk the first time it happened. And maybe that’s always how it always goes. A handful of shots, a slow dance, red lipstick.

Sex and the Suburbs: The Post-Baby Body Image Dilemma

Body-image issues play a considerable role in our sex lives—but how do you confront them?

One Pill Makes You Smaller: How Common Medications May Affect Your Sex Life

Americans take a lot of prescription medications. But how can they affect your sex life?

Confessions of an Ex-Virgin: What I Learned about Sex by Not Having It

One cold November night the year I turned fifteen, I kissed him for the very first time. Seven years and thirteen days later, we finally made love. What happened in between?

Exes & Sexes: The Twits of Splitsville

From Facebook to Twitter to Myspace to AIM, YIM, and Skype, our love lives have transitioned seamlessly into the constantly evolving fabric of Web 2.0. But what do you, a savvy social networker, do when your love live goes awry? Kal Cobalt sorts through the tweets, status updates, and Skype logs to find out.

Sex And the Suburbs: Motherhood and Intercourse—A Mythical Concept No More

Why? Because moms have sex...

When Erectile Dysfunction Hits Home

Or, how NOT to turn your man into a meat dildo...

The Slavette Diaries: You Might Be a Slave If…

A humorous glimpse inside the lives and minds of slaves

The Slavette Diaries: The Myths and Realities of Masters and Slaves

A Peek at Life Behind the Black Leather Curtain

The Slavette Diaries: I Am a Collared Slave: Now What?

Today, Slavette wades through the murky waters of relationship-negotiation within the confines of the master/slave dynamic, without litigation, butcher knives, or invoking a demon.

Other Lovers

Last night I slept with Christian, my ex-husband, for the first time since he became my ex-husband. In so doing, I knowingly exacerbated his feelings for me, opened my own heart back up to him…and betrayed both of our significant others.

Would You Like to Swing on a Star? The Hows and Whys of the Swinger Lifestyle

Are you a swinger, baby? Do you want to be? Swinging has come a long way since the 60s...explore the new swinger lifestyle and decide if it's the place for you.

Veruca Salt Gets Laid

On Craigslist, the user can find anything their heart (or other organ) desires. Is this a healthy thing - and who's doing it? Cherry Trifle finds out.

Catching Cancer Off a Toilet Seat: The Truth about HPV

There's a lot of talk going on these days about HPV, from hysteria to disinformation, to the occasionally sharp pang of truth. Sarah Sloane pulls back the blinds and takes a closer look.

Capital Bliss: The Other Mind Rights the Story (Luxuria Part Two)

What DO women want, anyway? It's all chemical, baby - and complicated. K. Page Nolker pokes about in the right side of the gray matter and tries to put all the pieces together.

Trans Substantiation: You Never Know What’s in Our Pants

What are some of the ways by which transgendered persons can best obtain the physical characteristics they're looking for?

Love, Wanting and Arousal: The Left Brain Lusts for Knowledge (Luxuria Part One)

What DO women want, anyway? It's all chemical, baby - and complicated. K. Page Nolker pokes about in the left side of the gray matter and sees what's what.

Stop in the Name of Love: Safewords

Safewords are words or signals called out, usually during BDSM-related play, to either slow down or completely stop a scene. Citi Kittie gives us some deeper insight into the ins and outs of safewording – but take note: chances are that your boss will not respect your safeword when you use it to try and get out of that overdue spreadsheet.

5 Ways to Ruin Your Sex Life through Communication

Want to know some great ways to mess up your relationship...or would you rather get some hints on how to prevent it?

Marital Arts: Negotiating Sex with Your Long-Term Partner

Keeping your sex life fresh and exciting is dependent on one crucial thing: communication. From negotiation to fantasy lists, 'as you wish' to anti-fantasy lists, let's take a look at a few of the options out there for better improving your sexual communication skills.

Zen and the Art of Sex Toy Maintenance

Sex toy maintenance, from self-enlightenment to wish-fulfillment - and then some!

An Inside Track to Outercourse

OUTERCOURSE (n): 1. Sexual activity that does not involve vaginal or anal penetration
2. a really good time

Sense and Sexuality: Harnessing the Magnificent Five to Unleash Ecstasies Untold

Touch. Sight. Taste. Smell. Sound. Each one plays an important role in sexual arousal, whether you realize it or not...

Auto-Erotic Autonomy: Women & Self-Image

Societal standards be damned - self-esteem is more involved in great sex than you might think.

Keeping A-Breast of Things

Whether you know them as bazongas, bazookas, cha-chas or torpedoes, chances are likely that breasts have influenced some aspect of your life. They are not only at the core of female sexiness, but they define fantasies, appear as desires and are a cash cow for movies, magazines and music world-wide. Regardless of whether you love them or hate them, it is nearly impossible to avoid the dynamic duo.

What is Safer Sex?

It’s a buzz-term, it’s an ever-present harbinger of doom, it’s somebody else’s problem: what is safer sex, and why is it all about YOU?

Sex and Pregnancy: A Short Guide to Getting Off When You’re Knocked Up

So, you’re pregnant! Don’t let your mother-in-law tell you that you can’t have sex during the next nine months—chances are that not only can you have sex, it might just be the best sex of your life.

O: Your Own Carnal Knowledge

So you think you know what an orgasm is (and isn't)? Think again!

She Goes Both Ways: Women and Bisexuality

You're a woman. You have a boyfriend, but you just can't stop fantasizing about your best female friend’s mouth and how good it'd feel on your skin. Are you bisexual or what?

The Second Cumming: Or Why Your Grandma’s Probably Having Better Sex Than You Are

Some would have you believe that sex is the exclusive domain of twentysomethings – or, if you’re being strictly procreative about it, thirtysomethings as well. The swollen, glistening truth of the matter is that you can keep on having great sex for as long as you want to.

Trans 101: Boys Will Be Boys

When we were all given the big talk about the birds and bees, we were told that boys and wee-wees and girls don’t. Well, it turns out that the old spiel isn’t quite true. What if you don’t have a wee-wee, but you’re pretty sure you should?

Talk Dirty to Me: The Dos and Don’ts of Talking Dirty in (and Out of) Bed

Listen up – sometimes the best way to your lover’s loins is through their ears.

Play Fair and Share Your Toys: Your Guide to Toying With a Partner

You like sex toys. Your partner likes sex toys. So how can you enjoy them together?

Clitology

The fervent focal point of a woman’s sexuality – but what do you really know about it?

Living in a Material World: Why What Goes Into Your Sex Toys Matters

So you think you're eco-friendly? Well, how big of a carbon footprint does your vibrator have, huh?

Foreplay: There’s No Rush Hour in the Bedroom

Whether you’re a ‘two-minute brother’ or an anorgasmic amorist, there’s one thing everybody should be able to agree on: foreplay, if played properly to your partner’s tune, can be just as good as the inevitable main event. In fact, it can be so good that it might end up being the main event all by itself.

Freehanding: Advanced Jerkology for the Young and Old

It’s commonly assumed that male masturbation consists of three simple steps: whip it out, get a death-grip on it, and start a-yanking. Well, there’s actually a bit more to it than that. In fact, there’s a LOT more to the art of Jerkology.

Boating for Beginners, Part One: A Handy-Dandy Guide to Cunnilingus for the Guys

Cunnilingus isn’t nearly as hard as it’s made out to be. However, it helps to know what you’re doing down there – and, more importantly, why.

The Art of Fellatio: A Blow-by-Blow Guide to Pleasuring Your Partner

Old, young, gay, straight, bi, or political pundit; if there’s one thing you can count on, it’s that guys love blowjobs.

The Body Impolitic: Men & Self-Image

This just in: women aren't the only ones with body-image issues.