Our reader's experience points to the fact that all the books that say what should happen and what most people like, obviously do not apply to everybody. Instead of thinking there might be something wrong with you, because what excites you is different from what we're told "should" work for us, it's important to understand our sexual turn-ons are just as unique as our DNA. Of course, Nina has plenty of advice on how to leave behind the idea of what is supposed to turn you on and explore what fantasies and sexual activities truly help you stay in the game.

Got something you want to ask Nina? (Of course you do.) Drop her a line at tuesdayswithnina@gmail.com. Now, while we can’t promise that every question received will get a personal response, however, those that do will be answered frankly, entertainingly, enlighteningly and, if we know Nina, in the spirit of happy, healthy sex and a satisfied libido.