The answer to the second question is also yes.

Once the deed is done with a participating partner, you are no longer a virgin. Paid sex is still sex, and if that bell has rung, you cannot un-ring it.

That doesn't mean that one or two sexual encounters qualifies you as an experienced lover. For some, sex is like swimming: Toss them in the deep end, and they take to it like a fish. For others, it can be a scary proposition.

Today, Nina addresses the concerns of a fellow who has barely dipped his toe in the big ocean of love, and is worried about never learning how to get into the swim. Okay, so we exaggerated. He's not 50, but 40-year-old virgin was already taken...

Got something you want to ask Nina? (Of course you do.) Drop her a line at tuesdayswithnina@gmail.com. Now, while can’t promise that every question received will get a personal response, however, those that do will be answered frankly, entertainingly, enlighteningly and, if we know Nina, in the spirit of happy, healthy sex and a satisfied libido.