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Smokedawg’s Adventures in Wanking Part 3: Time to Play With the Toys

Men and toys. Sometimes, they fear them.

Smokedawg’s Adventures in Wanking Part 2: Viscosity’s Better Than Friction

I’m sure someone will cringe at my headline and think, “This man has no idea what the hell viscosity is; it describes the level of friction in a fluid, so it can’t be better than friction. It’s a kind of friction!”

Keeping It Hot Without Melting

I live in Arkansas. Not only does it get hot in the summer, but it's suffocating with the humidity. You can’t walk outside for more than a few minutes at a time before you’re ready to go inside. The heat just gets to you. And don’t even think about going outside at noon. Fortunately, my husband and I grew up here and have learned ways to keep cool in the summer while still enjoying each other.

Touch Me There

Having a partner that will experiment with you is one of the greatest things in a relationship. Having someone that you trust implicitly is essential for any truly great relationship. And letting that person do things with you that you wouldn’t let anyone else do can be incredibly sexy.

Unselfish Hands

I looked into coming back to write some new articles for EdenFantasys and saw that Touch is the theme for this month. More specifically, how hands relate to touch. I couldn’t wait to write this article.

Hot Sex: How to Avoid Heat Stroke in the Bedroom

“Don’t touch me.” I can be heard using this phrase on a fairly regular basis in the summertime.

Setting the Mood for a Happy Sexual Existence

Things I WISH I’d been told about sex, but wasn’t.

Deep Time: Sensual, Sexy and Slow

If a June night could murmur, would it insist to a blistery winter day or the fresh blooms of spring that summer was the time for love? Warm nights that smell of ocean air and coconut oil; barefoot strolls through cool grass and sandy shores; skin aglow and hungry for kisses. Invitingly so, June has a point.

Porn Typos

It’s important to use proper grammar and punctuation even in pornography. I’ve created some examples to show you why:

Suck on this.

I really like oral sex. And by “really like” I mean “am the hugest fan OMFG eat me all night long, baby!” When I was a teen and first began me explorations with my first boyfriend, I was rather spoiled. It took me about a decade to realize HOW spoiled.

“Dominant savant”…?

The rituals and emotional trips and triggers of BDSM have deep resonance for some, and not for others. And it is all good, so long as, when you come together to play, you are all reading the same fucking playbook.

Sex After Baby

Couples, who have had a child, or more than one, have had to confront the issue of their sex lives after the little bundle of joy comes into the picture.

Take a Cue from Your Childhood

Is play really just for children? Does that even make sense? Adults like to have fun, too!

Have a Little Kink with Your Consent

Finding a way to get consent in the middle of a really hot make-out session can sometimes kill the mood. Why not make it part of the foreplay?

Red Alert! Valentine’s Day is tomorrow!

Did this come as a surprise to you? Don’t worry! Midori’s got you covered.

How To Turn Me On

The best way to turn me on is to be yourself, whoever that is. Way too many people posture and try to seem like someone they’re not, and I find that confusing.

Mr. Sexsmith Says: Get Off While Strapped On

Impossible Insertions for One Hundred, Alex

Guys, just quit it. Seriously.

Tuesdays With Nina: Coping With Painful Sex

Nothing can be so frustrating as a condition that keeps you from enjoying your favorite sexual position!

Tenugui of Love

Let’s start the New Year, the year of the Water Dragon, with an erotic Japanese cultural lesson! Tenugui is a beloved traditional item in Japan with a thousand practical uses. Sex uses abound for these and inventive lovers in Japan use them well. But most Westerners, unless they’re hooked up with Tenugui-savvy Japanese sweethearts, are likely to never appreciate its pleasures.

Mr. Sexsmith Says: Bring Your Average-Size Cock, Just In Case

When you use a strap-on, do you bring it with you when you go out? If you use several sizes, how do you know what size to bring? Mr. Sexsmith offers some practical advice for how, when and what size strap-on should tag along when you go out for a good time.

What Not to Say

If we had to distill our entire body of sex advice into one word, it would probably be this: communicate. Before sex, during sex, after sex — speak up, people!

Tuesdays With Nina: Year End Round-Up — Donuts, Condoms, Cock Rings and Pseudonyms

Nina is wrapping up the year with a collection of questions on several topics.

Five Techy Toys That Can Change Your Sex Life

Phone sex, raunchy emails, and sexting are classics now. What can you do that hot-and-heavy partners couldn’t do ten years ago? Plenty, as it turns out. Have a quick peek at five stars of the new generation of sex tech ready and waiting for your sweaty mitts.

Tuesdays With Nina: I Hate Sex

What do you do if you hate sex, but still want a relationship? is it normal to want nothing to do with sex? Is it possible to find a companion who can accept this or perhaps even shares your lack of desire?

Tuesdays With Nina: How Can I Make My Penis Bigger?

Is worrying that your penis isn't big enough a universal concern? We suspect more men are worrying than should be. How else do you explain all the Penis Enhancement spam in our inbox?

What Every Submissive Needs To Know Before They Play

When you find it, the desire to jump into the deep end of the BDSM pool can be irresistible. The excitement of new found friends, playmates and activities can drive a submissive off track and into dangerous situations for mind, body and soul. In this letter to my submissive friends, I offer some advice to avoid the pitfalls during your adventures.

Tuesdays With Nina: Gay Is Who You Love, Not What You Do

You and your wife have started playing around, experimenting with anal play, and guess what? You love it! But, now you're worried about your sexuality, doesn't enjoying anal play make you gay?

Nikol Hasler: Game Over

Hey guys, you think you've got the online dating thing figured out, you think you have game, but really, you don't. Nikol says you're "gaming yourselves out of the game" and there are three things you need to stop doing.

Mr. Sexsmith Says: What To Do To Get Your Stone Touched

Melting the Stone wants to know if she can ever move past childhood abuse and allow herself to be touched by others, or if she's doomed to a life lacking physical intimacy.

Tuesdays With Nina: Feeling Frigid

Is a woman frigid if her partner can't get her off? This common problem can be a source of great stress in a relationship. He feels like a failure for not being able to get her off. She feels frigid and ashamed. How can an otherwise happy couple solve the problem of no big O?

Googling The One Who Got Away

Before Facebook, MySpace, Google, et al, the “one who got away” (OWGA) was rarely more than a passing daydream — or a handy bit of masturbation material.

Mr. Sexsmith Says: From One Butch Top To Another, Here’s How To Get Off More Easily

The Naughty Side of Sydney

Sydney Australia – A world class city, with gorgeous beaches, beautiful people, and brilliant food. But there’s more to this city than what the guidebooks share. If you want to take the time to go find the naughty side of Sydney, it’s there for the taking. Nude beaches? SM parties? Cruise bars? Swingers clubs? Wacky drag queens and drag kings? Legal brothels? They’ve got it!

Exercise. Eat Right. You'll Have Healthier Sperm!

And guys want healthy, happy little swimmers, right?

Tuesdays With Nina: My Pregnant Wife is on Bed Rest. I'm Horny. Help!

Nothing can temper the joy of a baby on the way like being told you can't have sex until they arrive.

Mr. Sexsmith Says: If You’re a Bottom, Own It

Mary's struggling with the gender roles and sexual top and bottom roles within her relationship and getting her partner to fill the role of top is proving to be a challenge.

Tuesdays With Nina: How To Roleplay With A Straight Face

The Naughty Nurse, the Sassy Schoolgirl, The Prison Guard, The Perverted Professor...most of us have a role that really gets us hot, but how do you get into character and get comfortable with the scene that your partner is into, but you find makes you feel ridiculous?

The Spiritual Sexual Predator — A Cautionary Tale

This author thought she had the street smarts to avoid sexual scam artists. The only problem was, this one came wearing a faux halo and rugged six-pack.

Mr. Sexsmith Says: Don't Assume All Butch Lesbians Are Stone

You've got questions on gender, relationships, strap-on sex and everything in between. Mr. Sexsmith returns with advice, opinions and insights for all in his new column Mr. Sexsmith Says...

Sex Hacker: Six Tricks to Tweak Your Sex Life

If you’ve ever had one of those “I never knew my smartphone could do that!” moments, you know how much fun it is to discover those little tricks that can change an activity forever. Even when your between-the-sheets life is off-the-charts awesome, the novelty of a new “tweak” can be a pleasure in and of itself. Check out these six sex hacks and add some of your own!

First-Date Sex? Here Are the Likely Candidates

Cyclists may pedal furiously but they're spinning their wheels ...

Fail! Midori’s Sex Disasters

It seemed like a good idea at the time...

Nikol Hasler: Five Things I Wish Somebody Else Would Tell My Son

Teaching kids about sex can be the toughest job for a parent. You want to make sure they have all the information they need, but sometimes it would just be awesome if someone else could deliver the message.

Oral Sex Tips to Use on Her

Last month we reviewed the blow job basics. This month, it's time for your cunnilingus refresher course. Like getting in shape or getting rich, there's no one-size-fits-all answer when it comes to going downtown on her.

Tuesdays With Nina: Negotiating a Threesome (or Foursome) with a Reluctant Partner

Setting up a scene that involves multiple partners and making the space that allows for everyone’s feelings and expectations can be tricky, but it's important to make sure all involved are comfortable and understand the rules if you want to pull it off without acrimony or fostering resentment.

So you want to get laid at Burning Man...

Once a year, tens of thousands of people come together in Nevada's Black Rock Desert to create Black Rock City, dedicated to community, art, self-expression, and, of course, having a good time. But there are some guidelines to be followed when setting off for a sex adventure in the desert.

Tuesdays With Nina: We're All Responsible For Our Own Orgasms

Your boyfriend has only made you come once in a year? Is that his fault or is it yours?

Stress: How Not to Let It Kill Your Sex Life

... Because we're all a little stressed, sometimes.

Tuesdays WIth Nina: When You Give Head, Shouldn't You Get It In Return?

It's only fair, isn't it? You go down on your partner and then it's your turn right? Tit for tat. Quid pro quo. So what's the deal, why aren't you getting yours?

Oral Sex Tips to Use on Him

Sometimes it's good to review the basics -- you know, take a refresher course on a sexual staple like fellatio, especially if it's been a while or you've gotten into a rut or you're simply not as confident as you'd like to be in the oral skills department.

Tuesdays With Nina: Having Anal Sex When You're "Too Big"

You know the saying "it's not the length, it's not the size..." but when it comes to anal sex, size becomes important in a whole new way.

Tuesdays With Nina: Getting Aroused and Staying Aroused — The Mental Game

Do you find yourself losing your mood just when foreplay gets going? Do the advice experts fail to provide useful information to help keep your head in the sexual game?

How to Keep Sex Fresh and New... No, Seriously

If you want to feel like it's the very first time, then it's important to keep sex surprising and try new things regularly. You can’t get lazy. So give the following steps a try every now and then. You might feel silly being "experimental," but the occasional awkward moment is a small price to pay for unexpected pleasure.

Tuesdays With Nina: Help! It Takes Me Forever to Come!

Nothing is quite as frustrating as not being able to cross the finish line in a reasonable amount of time. For some women, this can be a common problem, but even men find that orgasm is sometimes too far down the road.

Fenugreek Spices Love Life Along with Curries

Common Asian herb boosts male libido, according to new scientific research.

How To Survive Your First Kink Party

You've made the decision to take the plunge: you're going to your first kinky party. Half of what you hear is talk about how important etiquette is, and the other half is about how you should just relax and be yourself. How do you manage to relax enough to "be yourself" when there are so many rules? Read on for your survival guide.

The 10 Rules of Wrist Restraint

Today we are going to talk about “sensual bondage.”

Tuesdays With Nina: Help! I Can't Relax And Enjoy Sex.

We've all been in this position at least once in our lives. Life is stressful and sometimes you just can't slow down and focus on the task at hand — reaching orgasm. But what if you've never been able to relax enough with your partner to come?

Trouser Snake on a Plane?

In general, masturbating in public is not a good idea. In case you didn't know.

Does Carpal Tunnel Syndrome Complicate Your Sex Life?

It’s more and more common these days. If you don’t suffer from carpal tunnel syndrome or its familiars, one of your partners probably does. And CTS is a bitch to deal with in the sack. But never fear: as with all other limitations, there are ways to work around the pain.

Easy-on Condoms on Their Way to Europe

We love innovations in safe sex. Doesn't everyone?

Tuesdays With Nina: How Can I Convince My Wife to Swallow?

We've got shocking news. Not everybody who enjoys giving blow jobs enjoys swallowing. It's just not something they are willing or happy to do. For those on the receiving end of oral sex, this can result in an anti-climactic conclusion. So what's a guy to do? Does Nina have the secret to convincing your partner to swallow?

Tuesdays With Nina: How Do You Avoid Getting STIs?

How does Nina Hartley or any other porn star avoid getting STIs ? The short answer is, sometimes you don't. The only sure way to avoid getting STIs is to not have sex. But who really wants to go through life without sex?

Do Dominants Really Need Aftercare?

Aftercare is a much debated topic among those who are into the rough and tumble play of BDSM. Whose responsible, what is needed and how long it should last are often discussed, but with the submissive in mind. Dominant aftercare is a phrase you almost never hear.

Six Sexual Habits Everyone Should Keep

We constantly hear how we should avoid getting into a sexual rut and keep trying new things. But just as important is to develop some good sexual habits — things that you should be engaging in on a regular basis with your partner (whatever regular means to you) — now and always.

Tuesdays With Nina: Scared to Seek Satisfaction

Do you find it difficult to let your partner know that they've stopped short of pleasing you in the bedroom? Communicating the specifics of what you want and need in the bedroom can be, for many, a seemingly insurmountable hurdle. What do you do if you're too terrified to utter those all-important words "Don't stop!"?

Tuesdays With Nina: Help! I've Never Had An Orgasm and I Don't Know How!

For some, orgasm is elusive. No matter how hard you try, how many toys you buy, you just can't seem to reach the pinnacle of orgasm. Is it mental? Is it physical? Is it a matter of technique? Just what is it that is keeping you from finding the big O?

Vaginal Fisting Is Good For You.

Plenty of folks are eager to warn you of the dangers of vaginal fisting: you'll either tear something, be loose forever, or end up desperate to find bigger and stranger insertables until the point of absurdity, right? Wrong! In fact, you might actually find some health benefits to the gentle act of handballing. Let’s check it out.

A Guide to Geysers, Facials & Pearl Necklaces

There comes a time in every guy's life when he wants to pull out and impersonate Old Faithful, just for the visual. Or perhaps there come -many- times. Women, too, may appreciate the visual — just like the hickey, it’s a spectacle (though hopefully not one that your co-workers will spot the next morning).

Tuesdays With Nina: Is it possible to overstimulate your clitoris?

Orgasms are tricky business. Because every woman is different, no two women reach orgasm the same way and for that matter often the same woman takes a different path to orgasm from one session to the next. But, what happens when you find that the more often you use your vibrator, the more power you need to reach orgasm?

If You Like “Savage Love,” You’ll Love “Savage U”

Alternative sex columnist Dan Savage suddenly finds himself in the mainstream.

Advanced Roleplay: A Manual for Making the Fantasy Happen

You've heard the roles before: naughty nurse, horny pizza guy, frisky babysitter, suave pool boy...but what if the roleplay you're into doesn't fit into porn's top ten? Whatever your ideal fantasy scenario is, you can accomplish it with a little work.

Low Libido? Stop Eating White Bread

British group lists dietary passion-killers.

Saffron, Ginseng Top List of Natural Aphrodisiacs

Chocolate? Not really, researchers say. Hmph.

How to Take the Perfect Kinky Profile Pic

How do you get the best photos for your profile on erotic social networks or kinky dating sites?

Sex Education App Takes Place of “Big Red Item”

Video of condom use preferred to personal demonstration. (We think.)

Glee, Paltrow Spread Sex Education ... Do You Wanna?

The abstinence-only crowd is predictably appalled.

Combating Cat Interference In Your Sex Life

You have a cat, you know the deal: ownership goes both ways. Your furry companion has some ideas about when and how you should offer up affection, entertainment, and snacks. Often, those of us with cats fancy ourselves as the center of their universe, while they seem to think of us as personal assistants barely earning our keep—and that can make bedroom shenanigans complicated, to say the least.

Em & Lo’s Sex Ed for Grown Ups: How to Improve a Partner's Sexual Style

It's happened to all of us: You meet someone charming, intelligent, miraculously modest, well-off, and, most importantly, smokin' hot. The evening finally comes when you will seal your budding relationship with a full-body kiss. You're eager with anticipation and expect nothing less than sheer bliss. But then your new partner's tongue attacks you like a leaping lizard's would a fly.

The Appetites Project: Tea

It might not seem obvious, but tea can be intensely sexy. If you're looking for a warm, sumptuous drink to share with your partner(s), there are teas that will knock your socks off. Some teas are great options for caffeine-sensitive sweeties or sober partners. Whether you're looking for a pick-me-up or a calm-you-down, there is a tea that can improve your evening (or morning) of carnal delights.

The Word of the Day is “Flexisexual”

We're thinking it's a keeper, but maybe we're just vocabulary anarchists.

Tuesdays With Nina: Is Seeking Sex Outside A Sexless Marriage Ok?

Staying married for 28 years requires love, commitment and let's face it— hard work! For most, sex is a vital part & one of the rewards of being married. Imagine that 28-year marriage without the sex. Could you stay faithful? You love your spouse, you don't want to leave them, but would you seek sexual satisfaction outside your marriage? Could anybody blame you? Or are you just a cheating louse?

Forget the Hearts & Flowers: A Kinkier Guide to Valentine's Day

Not everyone is a “roses-n-chocolates” kind of lover. Some of us are even irked by the idea of a greeting-card-industry “holiday.” But that doesn't have to stop them from making the most of the sexy mood permeating everything from grocery stores to restaurants come February 14. Here are some suggestions for enjoying V-Day for those of us with darker tastes & kinkier vibes (including singles)!

New Spokesperson for Lubricants: Dr. Jennifer Berman

Some people just have the greatest jobs, don't they?

15 Steps to Stop Faking

As many as 10 percent of women have NEVER had an orgasm, and many more than that have never had an orgasm with a partner. And the more women fake, the worse these statistics will get. It’s time to take our orgasms into our own hands—quite literally, if need be. Stop the madness, ladies, and start the ecstasy!

Tuesdays With Nina: Choosing Between Good Sex and Getting Monogamous

We all have different reasons for seeking companionship. Sometimes two people end up together and find out their goals for the relationship are not the same. Can two people who want different completely different things find compromise or should they find new companions?

The Appetites Project: Bananas

The humble banana has been the butt of many sexual jokes, but who says sex—or the meal in advance of it—has to be serious? Or that bananas can’t be classy? Bananas really can shine in the starring role of your date-night nibbles, no matter what mood you prefer. (It’ll even work if your date is with your hand or your Hitachi.)

Vietnamese Pickers Dole Out Ear-Gasms

Your ear has a G-spot and they can find it ...

Hickey Causes Paralysis, Minor Stroke

Love bites can be a lot worse than just embarrassing.

Worst Sex Advice Ever

Blowjob Virgin: An Oral Initiation, for Her.

While the glut of media mumbo jumbo makes it hard to believe that in this day and age there might exist a sexually active grown female—at least one who is heterosexually oriented—who has never taken the road south to explore the ins and outs of orally gratifying a man, blowjob virgins do exist… and it’s nothing to be ashamed of.

Blow-up Dolls Unsuitable for Rafting

Aussie couple rescued from raging river.

Sex Fitness Games: Postcards from a Sex Nerd

You don’t need a gym membership to stay sexually fit. A few simple exercises, performed regularly, can boost your performance, pleasure and orgasm quality! And these routines can be done at work, on your commute, while doing chores, taking care of the kids or even while watching TV.

Mr. Sexsmith's Other Girlfriend: Beds Aren’t Just For Sleeping

Tuesdays With Nina: Banishing Your Inner Sexual Censor

Anyone who has seen porn is familiar with the kind of orgasm that is heralded by lusty cries of: "Yes. Yes. Yes. Oh, God, Oh, God. There. Right THERE! Yes! Yes! Yes! Oh, fuck, YES! OH, FUCK ... YESSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!" But what happens when the big bang isn't... well... big?

Music Turns Us On: Science Says So

Tunes, like chocolate and sex, release dopamine.

The 15 Do’s and Don’ts of Really Good Sex

When you write about sex for a living, it’s easy to get caught up in the idea that we should always be inventing a new position or discovering a new erogenous zone. But sometimes it’s good just to remind ourselves of some basics. These 15 tips never go out of style—and they’re way easier to pull off than the Wheelbarrow, too.

Website Tells You How to Succeed as a Sports Groupie

Sure-fire ways of bedding a pro athlete?

Welcoming 2011, NYC Style

The best ways to ring in the new year in the Big Apple.

Cock Teases

Novelty condoms put the funny back in fucking. Just be mentally prepared for that initial burst of laughter when you climb into bed with your blueberry-scented schlong.

Sex and Pomegranates 101

Pomegranates: They’re sexy, they’re mysterious, and they’re completely impenetrable to pomegranate virgins. How the hell do you eat them, and are they worth the work? If you’re a sensual foodie, absolutely!

Girl-On-Girl 101: Advice for the Bi-Curious Beginner

Maybe, just maybe, you're a girl who's kissed a girl ... or wanted to. Maybe, just maybe, you wanted more than just a kiss. You're curious. Maybe you're more than curious. So what the hell do you do now?

How to Make Love to a Black Woman

Twanna A. Hines: Sleeping Around—The FUNKY BROWN CHICK Perspective on Sexy Stuff

ChaCha: Sexual Advice from an Unlikely Source

Over one billion questions answered … including “Can I sodomize you?”

Sex and Anger, Part 2

Last month, we looked at how both acting out or suppressing anger can lead to angry sex or no sex at all. Today we delve into anger management. By learning to channel "darker" emotions in a positive way, you can actually boost intimacy and sexual response.

Controlled, Conflicted & Stressed Out Over Sex

Modern relationships can be complicated. Sometimes when things don’t work out, it’s not always a simple matter of just being able to walk away. What happens when love dies and your sex life seems over, but you’re stuck in a situation you can’t leave?

Japanese Dirty Words and Sex Slang: Postcards from a Sex Nerd

Study hard, unless you want us to tataku you with a shokushu.

The Republican Dr. Ruth?

If you haven't gotten sex advice from Chip Womack, you can't really say that you've heard it all.

Is The Handjob Passé?

Making the Most of a May/December Romance

We've all heard the math jokes: 20 goes into 60 a lot more times than 60 goes into 20, but for couples who are dealing with a sizable age disparity, the day to day realities—from functionality to family or peer pressures—can be daunting.

The Best of Tuesdays With Nina

Nina Hartley is a lot of things to a lot of people: A pioneering porn star who made the crossover to mainstream films; a wife, a nurse, a sex positive feminist and a champion of free speech. For the last year, SexIs has been bolstered by her regular contributions each week with the thoughtful advice she provides in Tuesdays With Nina.

Em & Lo's Sex Ed for Grown Ups: How Great Sex Starts Without Your Partner

If you want to start eating healthy, you know that changing your relationship to food is more effective than a crash diet. The same is true with your sex life.

SexIs Celebrates Our One-Year Anniversary With Nina Hartley!

Nina Hartley is a lot of things to a lot of people: A pioneering porn star who made the crossover to mainstream films; a wife, a nurse, a sex positive feminist and a champion of free speech. For the last year, SexIs has been bolstered by her regular contributions each week with the thoughtful advice she provides in Tuesdays With Nina.

Tuesdays With Nina: The Great Condom Conundrum

Skin on skin... What could be better, right? Arguably, nothing, but sometimes the jimmy needs to wear a hat. Condoms may decrease sensitivity, however in the course of lovemaking they are often necessary. So what do you do if your man does not want to wear one?

Tuesdays With Nina: The New Normal: “Over Cumming” the Side Effects of Meds

Sex should be one of the most natural things in the world, but when medication becomes part of the equation, sometimes, it doesn't come so easily—particularly the “cumming” part...and especially for women.

The 50-Year-Old (Sort of) Virgin

If a tree falls in the forest, and no one hears it, does it make a sound? If a man has only had sex that he's paid for, does it still count? The answer to the first question is yes.

Tuesdays With Nina: Size Matters: Length, Girth and Working the Angles

(Editor's Note: Yes, we are aware that it's Wednesday. What can we say? Gremlins... and the irony that the column is about penis size, and we “couldn't get it up” did not escape us.)

Em & Lo's Sex Advice for Grown Ups—A Guide to Orgasm Etiquette

We hope we don’t need to point out that just one orgasm, for one partner, is not the finishing tape of a sex run. Instead, think of sex as a three-legged race—your partner can neither compete nor cross the finish line without your help, and vice versa. Each partner should make a concerted effort to satisfy the other partner before throwing in the towel.

Steak: A Guide for the Carnal Carnivore

Steak is a no-brainer. We all know of it as a decadent food, but how do you make a truly sexy steak? And if your honey is vegetarian, what then? Let’s talk about meat, baby. What’s on your plate (veggie or otherwise) can make a difference to what happens in your bed!

Tuesdays With Nina: Young, Sexy...and Celibate?

"The course of true love never did run smooth," Shakespeare once sagely said, but for the young man who is seeking advice today, the booty train has spotty service at best, and might be headed for derailment. Can Nina help him get his love life back on track?

Tuesdays With Nina: An Owner’s Manual for the Ultimate Pleasure Machine: Your Body!

It seems simple: Tips for exploring the wonderful land of sex. But sex is a country that has many destinations worth exploring as well as rules of road, local customs and attractions. Do you feel like a stranger in a strange land? Not sure what to bring along; what to leave behind? Or how to get to the top of the local monuments? Let Nina be your guide.

Tuesdays With Nina: Sex For Newbies, Part 2: The Joys of Toys

Last week, we met a young woman who was new to marriage and new to sex. Due to a conservative background, she has yet to spend a lot of time exploring her sexuality and the things that please her. She wants to grow the intimate relationship she has with her husband, and has come to Nina for advice.

Em & Lo's Sex Advice for Grown-Ups: How to Write a Sex Manual

Tuesdays With Nina: Sex For Newbies, Part 1: Kissing, Porn & Making Love

Adam and Eve were tossed out of the Garden of Eden for taking a bite out of the apple that fell from the Tree of Knowledge. Trouble was, and still is, that a little knowledge is a dangerous thing, especially when it comes to sex. So what do you do when you've been raised in a conservative environment and have not been exposed to deeper learning about the carnal world? Ask Nina, of course!

Your Travel Guide to the Island of Machismo

Today we welcome Veronica Monet to the SexIs crew. If you just don’t get the opposite sex, don't worry. You CAN learn to understand your partner. Whether you’re straight or gay, vanilla or kinky, monogamous or poly, Monet says we all have something to learn about “cross-cultural fertilization.” Life’s a journey. Let our expert tour guide help you make the most of your travels in Libido Territory.

Tuesdays With Nina: Bipolar Lovin'

Being treated for bipolar disorder or other medical conditions can complicate your sex life. Drugs can have an impact on your libido in ways that make it less responsive, or knock it out altogether. So, do you give up sex entirely, or are there solutions for improving the quality of your sex life?

The Appetites Project: What to Serve For Dinner When Sex is on the Menu

What’s fueling your next naughty romp? If you’ve ever tried to get down with an empty stomach or felt frisky after a heavy meal, you know that the state of your stomach has a lot to do with the success of your sex. How do you make sure that you have enough fuel for a night of mattress marathons without getting sidelined by the need to digest?

Tuesdays With Nina: Finding Your Orgasm During Sex With A Partner

You can climax with a vibrator—alone in your bedroom, just you and your fantastical thoughts—no problem. But slide into bed with another human being and all bets are off?

Tuesdays With Nina: Rimming Safety 101

Anal-oral sex, analingus or rimming. No matter what you call it, some find putting tongue to anus a very pleasurable experience.

Em & Lo’s Relationship Compatibility Test: Five Factors You Should Know About

Tuesdays With Nina: Coping with Marriage After Gender Transition

Imagine that the love of your life, your spouse, your husband... tells you he wants to be a woman. What does a couple do when one of them needs to transition from male to female and the other is not attracted to women?

The Sexpert Series: Dr. Patti Britton

When it comes to sex therapy, pretty much anyone with an opinion can hang out a shingle and call themselves an “expert,” but how do you separate the spin doctors from the real deal? In the days ahead, SexIs will be speaking to some of the most respected “sexperts” in the field to separate pros from the poseurs—and get the skinny on how to have great sex.

Tuesdays With Nina: Erectile Dysfunction and Cock Rings

When a man has trouble getting it up and keeping it up, there can be any number of reasons. Nina takes a look at some of the causes—physical and mental—for men who can't achieve or maintain an erection.

Tuesdays With Nina: Sex and the Disabled Spouse

The intimate lives of those with a disability or debilitating disease is not something people typically talk about openly, but of course, the challenges these men and women—and their partners—face when seeking sexual satisfaction can be more daunting than most. Today, Nina talks about the realities of making love with a disabled partner.

P.S.—Touch Me There

Tuesdays With Nina: Is it Okay to Masturbate Once You're Married?

A Indian man, deeply dedicated to his wife, has written to Nina to ask if it's normal for him to be masturbating when his wife is gone for a few days. Nina addresses his concerns, and also offers food for thought on how masturbation can be use to improve sex between husband and wife.

The Naked Reader: Erotica 101: A Beginner’s Guide to Sex Writing

Plugged In: Sex Scandals Made Easy

Oh, technology. You bring us fabulous new discoveries, connect us with humans across the globe, and make sex scandals much, much juicier. What once were salacious accusations without evidence are now proven indiscretions displayed in excruciating detail, thanks to the way technology has insinuated itself into our most intimate moments. How do you keep your naughty bits out of technology's bytes?

Tuesdays With Nina: When Sex Leaves a Mark

You know your friends are kinky, but when they show up with bruises, do you fear they are being abused? Does it seem strange, worrisome or flat out wrong to you that some people enjoy pain during sex?

Tuesdays With Nina: The Truth About 69

This week, Nina tackles the myth, the legend, the ultimate in oral sex positions: 69. You might be surprised to learn that not everybody finds it to be a magic number. Nina offers her ideas on how to improve your dual-oral adventures, and shares some insights from a viewer who was inspired to write in about his own experiences as a 58-year-old man dating a 72-year-old woman.

Em & Lo's Sex Advice for Grown-Ups: Top 10 Items to Pack for Your Summer Vacation (And We’re Not Talking About Sunscreen)

Tuesdays With Nina: Dying the Carpet to Match the Curtains

You know the old saying: “Do the curtains match the carpet?” What if your drapes and rug aren't alike, but you'd like them to be? Or what if you kinda hate that “matchy-matchy” look, and would rather get a little crazy with the color down below? This Tuesday, we’re dedicated to the DIY of dying your pubes, and Nina’s got the must-know tips and safety information you’ll need before getting started.

Tuesdays With Nina: Breaking Out of the Shyness Shell

You ache for your partner to be more adventurous in the bedroom, but they just don't seem willing to stretch the boundaries. Or maybe YOU want to explore your inner exhibitionist, but you can't quite take that first step. Whether it's apprehension, agitation or anxiety holding you back, Nina's got some advice that just might bring out that sense of adventure—in either, or both of you!

No Pants for Lady Gaga, iPhone App, Magic Power Coffee

Yankee General Manager Brian Cashman has gone on record absolving Lady Gaga for any wrongdoing after she entered the Yankee clubhouse this weekend... wearing no pants.

The Top 10 Signs You’re Reading Bad Erotica

Tuesdays With Nina: Talking Dirty

Sometimes, "aural sex" can be really hot, but how do you know what to say, and when to say it? How do you keep from cracking up? Learning the language of love can be difficult, but it's also dirty and fun. Just ask Nina.

Tuesdays With Nina: Bringing Up Mutual Masturbation

This week, Nina's taking on mutual masturbation. The timing is perfect, since May is Masturbation Month! How do you step out of your comfort zone and invite your partner to share in pleasures you previously kept to yourself?

Tuesdays With Nina: Kissing 101

When it's good, it can be really good. But when it's bad, it can be a deal breaker.

How NOT to Spice Up Your Relationship

Tuesdays With Nina: Nina gives advice to a woman whose husband doesn’t want sex, Part 2

Tuesdays With Nina: Nina gives advice to a woman whose husband doesn't want sex, Part 1

Tuesdays With Nina: Nina Answers The Bloggess' Crazy Questions

Becoming Orgasmic

One definition of insanity is trying the same thing and expecting different results. The years that I’ve been sexually active have been great, but leave something to be desired. I’ve been getting it in, but I haven’t been getting off. Simply put: I have never experienced climax as a result of intercourse.

Tuesdays With Nina: Roughin' It: Genital Piercings & Rough Sex

Tuesdays with Nina: Communication & Generosity

Who is responsible for you having a happy sex life? Hint: It's not your partner. Nina explains that without a healthy emotional state, good communication, and mutual respect for one another, no amount of bedroom acrobatics will save a bad sex life.

Tuesdays With Nina: Permission—Giving and Receiving

When you're in bed, how often do you find yourself saying "no" to something that might actually be pleasing? A little too often? Find out why Nina says learning to give, accept and offer permission is the path to embracing your true potential, and unlocking the pathway to untold sexual pleasures.

Tuesdays with Nina: Sex Advice Books and Partners with MS

This week, Nina discusses some of the better sex advice books available, from Tristan Taormino to Carol Queen, and even Nina herself! She also gives a few tips on how to enjoy a rewarding sex life with a partner with MS.

Tuesdays with Nina: The Intricacies of Anal

How do adult performers make anal sex look so flawlessly clean? Nina dishes on a few tricks of the trade.

Tuesdays with Nina

The old saying goes, “Them that can, do; them that can’t, teach,” but sometimes there’s that one in a million who can do both—and SexIs has her. Each week, adult actress, activist, auteur and legend Nina Hartley answers your questions on all things sexual. Vlogging will never be the same.

Lust and Luggage: Sex Toy Etiquette on the Road

Or, for you Italo Calvino fans, if on a winter’s night a traveler...with a carry-on full of sex toys...

Observations of a Sex Positive Gypsy: There’s no such thing as a stupid question

I get a lot of questions. Some are good, some are bad—some just get asked over and over and over. Let's run down the top five...

So Ya Wanna Be A World-Class Cocksucker

What’s up with the current lamentable state of cocksucking these days? Why, I can remember a time when the humble hummer was king. Now, sadly the basic blowjob is a lost art.

The Green Project: Being a Slick Consumer

Understanding what makes a good sexual lubricant can be a slippery business. After all, unless you’re buying one of the few all natural, organic products that are available, the list of ingredients reads more like the supply catalog for a chemistry class than a recipe for a hot night.

Marital Arts: Negotiating Sex with Your Long-Term Partner

Keeping your sex life fresh and exciting is dependent on one crucial thing: communication. From negotiation to fantasy lists, 'as you wish' to anti-fantasy lists, let's take a look at a few of the options out there for better improving your sexual communication skills.

What is Safer Sex?

It’s a buzz-term, it’s an ever-present harbinger of doom, it’s somebody else’s problem: what is safer sex, and why is it all about YOU?