Partier, Know Thyself
The #1 thing you need to know going into a kinky party is yourself. What are you hoping to get out of the experience? Get as specific as you can. Do you want to get laid? Are you hoping to find someone who can give you a taste of pain? Do you want to look and not touch while meeting people?
It's common, as a newbie, to say to yourself (and others), "Oh, I'm not here for anything specific; I just want to see what's there." While the open-mindedness is great, the lack of specificity spooks old hands off and makes it less likely that you'll get what you're, after your first time. You don't have to lock yourself into something obsessively specific, but you need a place to start.
Filling out one of the many online BDSM checklists is a great way to learn more about your interests. Most of them differentiate between things you'd like to try and things you would try but aren't necessarily drawn to, which is a nice way of getting a bead on your current interests and the breadth of what you might end up exploring.
It's common, as a newbie, to say to yourself (and others), "Oh, I'm not here for anything specific; I just want to see what's there." While the open-mindedness is great, the lack of specificity spooks old hands off and makes it less likely that you'll get what you're, after your first time. You don't have to lock yourself into something obsessively specific, but you need a place to start.
Filling out one of the many online BDSM checklists is a great way to learn more about your interests. Most of them differentiate between things you'd like to try and things you would try but aren't necessarily drawn to, which is a nice way of getting a bead on your current interests and the breadth of what you might end up exploring.
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