Note that I didn’t write: Men and their toys. That’s a traditional saying, and means something else. For I’m not speaking of things like motorcycles, boats, power tools, mountain bikes or gaming consoles—or any of the other common toys that men (and a fair number of the women, too; let’s be honest) like to break out on weekends or any other free time.
No, I’m talking about those other toys. Sex toys.
Men sometimes feel threatened by them and see them as the enemy, when for most women, using them solo is simply a supplement (much like we men like to jack off) or as a boost for sex with their partner. I’ve mentioned this dynamic before and will likely write about it again one day, but that’s not exactly what I’m here to talk about.
I want to talk about sex toys for men. Things like masturbation sleeves and yes, even…*gasp*…prostate massagers.
Most men who will be reading this article initially are probably EdenFantasys.com regulars and many probably own such toys themselves, so they aren’t necessarily my core target audience (but please read on, as I might need your comments and opinions later). No, I’m looking for the guys who are here to buy stuff for their ladies and accidentally tripped across me and the guys who will be dragged here by their ladies to read up, loosen up and widen their horizons.
In other words, men who have intentionally shunned or unintentionally avoided male sex toys and need to be shown the error of their ways. Guys who might, indeed, have serious hang-ups about masturbation-oriented toys.
Mind you, I’m not being judgmental when I use the term “hang-ups” because I once had plenty of them myself. I thought to myself, “Why the hell do I need a toy when I have two functional hands and plenty of options for lubrication and enhanced sensation?” (as I talked about in part 2 of this masturbation series)
It wasn’t that I thought guys who used things like masturbation sleeves were weird; I just didn’t understand why such toys would be necessary for the average dude. It seemed like an unnecessary expense to get something that probably wasn’t going to add anything to what I could already do to myself or what my wife could do to me with a good blowjob. I understood the value of vibrators for women—the sensations are unique and hard (usually impossible) to reproduce with fingers or tongue. Which is probably why my first toy experience and review for EdenFantasys was with an anal vibe called the Spectra Anal Bead Vibrator (more on such toys later) because I knew it would feel unique. But the idea of buying something to slip my cock into? Why would I?
No, I’m talking about those other toys. Sex toys.
Men sometimes feel threatened by them and see them as the enemy, when for most women, using them solo is simply a supplement (much like we men like to jack off) or as a boost for sex with their partner. I’ve mentioned this dynamic before and will likely write about it again one day, but that’s not exactly what I’m here to talk about.
I want to talk about sex toys for men. Things like masturbation sleeves and yes, even…*gasp*…prostate massagers.
Most men who will be reading this article initially are probably EdenFantasys.com regulars and many probably own such toys themselves, so they aren’t necessarily my core target audience (but please read on, as I might need your comments and opinions later). No, I’m looking for the guys who are here to buy stuff for their ladies and accidentally tripped across me and the guys who will be dragged here by their ladies to read up, loosen up and widen their horizons.
In other words, men who have intentionally shunned or unintentionally avoided male sex toys and need to be shown the error of their ways. Guys who might, indeed, have serious hang-ups about masturbation-oriented toys.
Mind you, I’m not being judgmental when I use the term “hang-ups” because I once had plenty of them myself. I thought to myself, “Why the hell do I need a toy when I have two functional hands and plenty of options for lubrication and enhanced sensation?” (as I talked about in part 2 of this masturbation series)
It wasn’t that I thought guys who used things like masturbation sleeves were weird; I just didn’t understand why such toys would be necessary for the average dude. It seemed like an unnecessary expense to get something that probably wasn’t going to add anything to what I could already do to myself or what my wife could do to me with a good blowjob. I understood the value of vibrators for women—the sensations are unique and hard (usually impossible) to reproduce with fingers or tongue. Which is probably why my first toy experience and review for EdenFantasys was with an anal vibe called the Spectra Anal Bead Vibrator (more on such toys later) because I knew it would feel unique. But the idea of buying something to slip my cock into? Why would I?
Great article. I always felt that anal play was for a person who was not sure about their sexuality. My first attempt at prostate stimulation was bad, a woman did it to me without lube and it scared me off for a while. After a while of reading and researching I attempted it again and bought a toy at a local shop and a tube of lube, and god the largest orgasm I have ever had. Now I have explored more toys, such as a glass butt plug. My toy chest has started and is only going to grow.
Men do not need to fear. Sexual identity is not what you do it is who it is with and there is nothing wrong with any sexual preference at all.
I think we all have hang-ups about sexual ID/preferences at some point; just a matter of how soon we get over some of them. You've got a great outlook on things. All the best to you, and thanks for the thumbs up on the article
I say do whatever the heck feels good!
I have found the Duke prostate massager to be *very* well liked by my clients who enjoy moderate to intense prostate stimulation. That said, some people do prefer more gentle prostate stimulation, which, if you're lying down can be great with Aneros prostate massagers, but, for sitting up, small "regular shaped" butt plugs or dildos that vibrate are often preferable to the more aggressive prostate massagers listed in this article.