It’s Freaky-Deaky Time!
Experimentation. It’s a multifaceted bit of phraseology. Scientists conduct experiments in labs to unlock the mysteries of the universe. Social networkers conduct experiments on Twitter to unlock the mysteries of memetic theory. Philosophers conduct experiments of moral turpitude to unlock the mysteries of elitist ennui.
And couples—they experiment in bedrooms (well, not always in bedrooms) to unlock the mysteries of better sex. So let’s take our experimentation to the next level; after all we’ve covered—it’s time to bring out the big guns. That’s right—momma’s got a brand new bag. And it’s full of paddles, floggers, and restraints. It’s time to get your kink on!
Now I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking of a cache of clichés which roughly translates to a leather-and-whips version of Dungeons & Dragons. Maybe you’re thinking of terms like ‘perverted’, or ‘abusive’. Well, it’s time to get over that—BDSM, or, if you prefer the more subtle blanket term of kink, is enjoyed by all walks of life (and not just the secret underground societies who wear flowing black cloaks and carry big fraternity paddles). Which, in short, means that you needn’t zipper up your mouth in order to get your freaky-deaky on. Unless you want to. Which is totally okay.
But first, for the uninitiated, let’s de-acronym BDSM—sound it out with us:
Bee: bondage; i.e., restraining someone in a safe and consensual manner.
Dee: discipline; i.e., you have been a naughty monkey; therefore I shall give you the discipline you so deserve and crave (in a safe and consensual manner). It also stands for dominance, i.e.: I am in control of what happens to do, so I do what I want to, and you do what I say!
Ess: sadism; i.e., the fetish (yes, we said fetish; get over it) of deriving pleasure from causing pain to another (in a safe and consensual manner!). It also means submission, i.e.: You are in control of me, and I will do what you say and let you do things to me.
Emm: masochism; i.e., the bookend to sadism—the fetish (that word again) of deriving pleasure from being caused pain (in a safe and consensual manner).
You’ll notice a recurring phrase: in a safe and consensual manner. Remember that—we’ll return to it in a bit.
Still not convinced? Well, consider this: over one-fourth of the moms I’ve talked to have at least tried some form of BDSM. And most of ‘em liked it enough to do it again.
And again.
And again.
And couples—they experiment in bedrooms (well, not always in bedrooms) to unlock the mysteries of better sex. So let’s take our experimentation to the next level; after all we’ve covered—it’s time to bring out the big guns. That’s right—momma’s got a brand new bag. And it’s full of paddles, floggers, and restraints. It’s time to get your kink on!
Now I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking of a cache of clichés which roughly translates to a leather-and-whips version of Dungeons & Dragons. Maybe you’re thinking of terms like ‘perverted’, or ‘abusive’. Well, it’s time to get over that—BDSM, or, if you prefer the more subtle blanket term of kink, is enjoyed by all walks of life (and not just the secret underground societies who wear flowing black cloaks and carry big fraternity paddles). Which, in short, means that you needn’t zipper up your mouth in order to get your freaky-deaky on. Unless you want to. Which is totally okay.
But first, for the uninitiated, let’s de-acronym BDSM—sound it out with us:
Bee: bondage; i.e., restraining someone in a safe and consensual manner.
Dee: discipline; i.e., you have been a naughty monkey; therefore I shall give you the discipline you so deserve and crave (in a safe and consensual manner). It also stands for dominance, i.e.: I am in control of what happens to do, so I do what I want to, and you do what I say!
Ess: sadism; i.e., the fetish (yes, we said fetish; get over it) of deriving pleasure from causing pain to another (in a safe and consensual manner!). It also means submission, i.e.: You are in control of me, and I will do what you say and let you do things to me.
Emm: masochism; i.e., the bookend to sadism—the fetish (that word again) of deriving pleasure from being caused pain (in a safe and consensual manner).
You’ll notice a recurring phrase: in a safe and consensual manner. Remember that—we’ll return to it in a bit.
Still not convinced? Well, consider this: over one-fourth of the moms I’ve talked to have at least tried some form of BDSM. And most of ‘em liked it enough to do it again.
And again.
And again.
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