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by
Smokedawg,
Jul. 13, 2012
If you stay together with someone long enough in a loving relationship with sex involved, I figure you will eventually run up against one of those “surprise moments.”
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Mollena,
Jul. 06, 2012
There is an amazing thrill to doing that “new thing.” I remember the first time I stepped on stage, the first time I kissed a boy, the first time I kissed a girl, the first time I kissed someone’s boots, the first time I was spanked to tears…
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Mollena,
Jun. 08, 2012
I remember holding my boyfriend’s hand in high school. There were ways our fingers fit, over and under, woven together, that felt right, and other ways that just felt…weird.
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Mollena,
May. 25, 2012
Few of us are able to live an openly kinky lifestyle around the clock and under all circumstances. The pressures of what many call “vanilla” life, but what I prefer to refer to as the “Default World”, are overwhelming at times.
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Serenesub,
May. 22, 2012
Getting over a master is never easy. One must first decide they’re ready to move on, and then set their mind and mood for catharsis and deprogramming. Yes, we said deprogramming. Read on to understand why.
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Mollena,
May. 11, 2012
Among the more persistent illusions non-kink identified people have about the pervert milieu is that we kinksters live in some sort of rarified place where protocols reign supreme, and those who would call themselves masters lounge about being waited on by doting droves of swooning slaves.
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PuddlePuppy,
May. 10, 2012
Age play is a sexual or non-sexual role-play activity in which those role-playing get into the mindset of a younger or older person. Role-playing as a younger person seems more common, however.
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Tori Rebel,
Apr. 05, 2012
My journey was not the most common, but I believe it made me the best I can be. It was an odd progression of finding my own way early on, dotted with self-education, and topped off with a healthy dose of rigid, formal education.
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Mollena,
Mar. 30, 2012
I hate negotiation for scenes. Seriously. Way to just suck all of the magic and romance and mystery and spontaneity out of what is supposed to be a sexual act. Yeah, yeah. I know it’s all supposed to be consensual and shit. But this is ridiculous. “May I?’ “Is this OK?” “Do you mind if we…” I mean, fuck.
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Mollena,
Mar. 16, 2012
What’s so sexy about submission anyway? Why do people do it? How can someone enjoy pleasing someone else all the time without getting their needs met in return? Mollena has the answer.
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by
Mollena,
Mar. 02, 2012
The rituals and emotional trips and triggers of BDSM have deep resonance for some, and not for others. And it is all good, so long as, when you come together to play, you are all reading the same fucking playbook.
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by
Mollena,
Feb. 03, 2012
The sting of the needle is exquisite agony. The sting of 104 wounds may be too much agony to bear.
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by
Midori,
Jan. 30, 2012
Kinksters talk quite a bit about the inherent risk of bondage and other kinky play. They learn the proper procedure, to mitigate that risk — but rarely do you hear about the stark reality that no matter what precautions you take or how safe you play, people can still get hurt.
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Mollena,
Jan. 20, 2012
People are often curious as to why a particular play-style, pervy activity or kind of kink appeals while others leave you cold. I can’t speak for anyone but myself, but I’ll tell you about why I so love bottoming to rope bondage.
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by
Sinclair Sexsmith,
Jan. 19, 2012
Stepping out into the world of dating at the age of 18 is scary enough without adding the worry that your kinks will make people think you're a freak. Mr. Sexsmith offers some sage advice on coming to terms with who you are and building up the courage to step off the dating curb.
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by
Mollena,
Jan. 06, 2012
Mollena shares a deeply personal conversation with her mother about just exactly why she lets people hurt her.
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by
Barak & Sheba,
Dec. 30, 2011
The temptation to make something up when confronted with questions about your kink can be strong, but most often, the truth in some form is better than trying to get away with the little white lie.
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by
Mollena,
Dec. 23, 2011
There is no one rulebook for how to do this thing we call BDSM, Power-Exchange, Master/Slave relationships, etc., etc. One of the things I most enjoy about perverts is our limitless capacity to forge our own damn path, thank you very much! I’ve done a lot of weed-whacking through the jungles of kink in order to find ways that work for me.
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by
Rachel Rabbit White,
Dec. 22, 2011
Winter Solstice, meet your kink. A dendrophiliac is a person who is attracted to trees, who has romantic, sensual, sexual encounters with the forest. So, in this (most wonderful) time of year, when the evergreen tree becomes a decorated centerpiece of the Holiday Season, why not draw our attention to those who have a very personal relationship to trees?
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by
Midori,
Dec. 19, 2011
What’s with all the alien or monster tentacles in Japanese porn and anime?
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by
Rayne Millaray,
Dec. 09, 2011
No, this was not BDSM college; Virginia man gets two years in jail.
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by
Mollena,
Dec. 07, 2011
There is no one rulebook for how to do this thing we call BDSM, Power-Exchange, Master/Slave relationships, etc., etc. One of the things I most enjoy about perverts is our limitless capacity to forge our own damn path, thank you very much! I’ve done a lot of weed-whacking through the jungles of kink in order to find ways that work for me.
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by
Liz Langley,
Dec. 02, 2011
We doubt if being all over the Internet was part of this particular fantasy.
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by
Mollena,
Nov. 23, 2011
When you look at “Power Exchange” relationships – that is, relationships that are based on someone giving over control of some facet (or all aspects!) of their lives to another person – it seems obvious whose needs, wants and desires come first. The master over the slave, the dominant over the submissive, top over the bottom.
Or is it?
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by
Midori,
Nov. 21, 2011
When you find it, the desire to jump into the deep end of the BDSM pool can be irresistible. The excitement of new found friends, playmates and activities can drive a submissive off track and into dangerous situations for mind, body and soul. In this letter to my submissive friends, I offer some advice to avoid the pitfalls during your adventures.
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by
Mollena,
Nov. 09, 2011
Get to know our newest columnist, Mollena Williams.
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by
Rayne Millaray,
Nov. 09, 2011
He dug them up, took them home and dressed them up. Not kidding.
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by
Midori,
Nov. 07, 2011
Just a stone’s throw and a short town car ride away from the Upper East Side, hides an elegant gem of a kinky pleasure retreat called The Iron Bell Academy. It’s a private membership based dungeon society catering to the aesthetically rigorous bondage and BDSM aficionado.
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by
Liz Langley,
Oct. 25, 2011
Halloween is without question the best of all possible holidays…there’s no family BS, no gift guilt, just tricks, treats and terror. But let’s face it…trying to squeeze something sexy out of it is like trying to take candy from Rosemary’s Baby.
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by
TinaV,
Oct. 21, 2011
Queer porn director, producer, and performer Courtney Trouble has spent the last ten years changing the face of the porn industry with her sites No Fauxxx and Queer Porn TV that feature performers of all ethnicities, body types, genders, and sexual orientations coming together in one hot, steamy sex pile. Trouble is breaking new ground by declaring today International Fisting Day.
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by
Barak & Sheba,
Sep. 30, 2011
From an innocent tickle and slap on the ass to whips and chains or masters and slaves, the world of kink and BDSM is hardly the same for everybody involved. But what all kinky folk do have in common is the desire for what's at the heart of all kinky activity: creative sexual expression.
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by
Rayne Millaray,
Sep. 30, 2011
Just good ol' boys sharing some porn, right? Wrong.
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by
Rayne Millaray,
Sep. 21, 2011
They've had this problem before, and it might be the same guy.
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by
Liz Langley,
Sep. 20, 2011
New York prosecutor under investigation after her double life is exposed.
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by
Rayne Millaray,
Sep. 02, 2011
Ohio man's “fascination with plastic” keeps getting him in trouble with the law.
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by
Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Aug. 24, 2011
Rachel White's Kinseyesque scale for measuring the degree of your submissiveness offers insights into more than just how submissive you might be in the bedroom.
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by
Liz Langley,
Aug. 17, 2011
No, we don't know if his credit card was billed for that service ...
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by
Midori,
Aug. 15, 2011
As kinky folks, most of us have heard of the risks associated with certain activities we like: rope cuts off circulation, bruises invite suspicion and speculation, infected wounds or bites just plain suck and breath play can flat out be deadly... but there's more.
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by
Rayne Millaray,
Aug. 10, 2011
Family claims it was murder; coroner says otherwise.
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by
Barak & Sheba,
Aug. 05, 2011
Seeking new connections through kinky social networking sites can be fraught with drama, dissatisfaction and potentially danger. Keeping a few important tips in mind can help improve your experience and find what you're really looking for.
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by
Rayne Millaray,
Aug. 02, 2011
It really has not been a good week at the University of Northern Virginia.
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by
Liz Langley,
Jul. 26, 2011
“S&M” allegedly based on work by David LaChapelle.
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by
Liz Langley,
Jul. 19, 2011
A woman with a nipple on the bottom of her foot. Really.
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by
Midori,
Jul. 18, 2011
Getting tied up isn’t for wimps. To bottom gloriously takes mad skills.
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by
Liz Langley,
Jul. 14, 2011
We're open-minded and all, but there are things the grandkids don't need to see.
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by
Rayne Millaray,
Jul. 14, 2011
This is after he recovered from being mauled by his pet bear ...
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by
Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Jul. 13, 2011
You know the phrase, “Taken out of context, I must seem so strange?” That goes double for pulling random bits of erotic conversation, texted or otherwise, and analyzing them as if they told a whole story. Without the motivation of the person sending and receiving them, you really don’t know anything.
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by
Rayne Millaray,
Jul. 12, 2011
Irish man charged with buggery and faces possible life sentence.
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by
Barak & Sheba,
Jun. 30, 2011
You meet someone new and you wonder...is he kinky? Will he run screaming into the night when I let slip my taste for being tied up? Now is not the time to panic, now is the time to sit back and carefully consider how to introduce your kink to someone you think is vanilla.
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by
Rayne Millaray,
Jun. 28, 2011
Accused rapist in S&M-related case remains jailed in lieu of $350,000 bond.
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by
Kal Cobalt,
Jun. 20, 2011
You've made the decision to take the plunge: you're going to your first kinky party. Half of what you hear is talk about how important etiquette is, and the other half is about how you should just relax and be yourself. How do you manage to relax enough to "be yourself" when there are so many rules? Read on for your survival guide.
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by
Midori,
Jun. 13, 2011
Imagine a weekend at the friendliest place on earth, with the nicest people, who are sharing and playing well with each other. Now remove the acoustic guitar and accompanying folk music from that image — and replace it with hemp products. In this case hemp is used for ropes and tying, not smoking, because we’re at ShibariCon .
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by
Em & Lo,
Jun. 07, 2011
Today we are going to talk about “sensual bondage.”
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by
Rayne Millaray,
May. 20, 2011
Senator opines that fetishist is capable of holding a job.
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by
Liz Langley,
May. 10, 2011
Just as most of the world will never forget where they were when they heard Osama bin Laden was dead, I will never forget where I was when I heard that people like to have sex dressed as Tigger.
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by
Midori,
May. 09, 2011
Aftercare is a much debated topic among those who are into the rough and tumble play of BDSM. Whose responsible, what is needed and how long it should last are often discussed, but with the submissive in mind. Dominant aftercare is a phrase you almost never hear.
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by
Rayne Millaray,
May. 04, 2011
Neighbor: “… it frequently doesn't sound as pleasurable as it is.”
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by
Rayne Millaray,
Apr. 13, 2011
The defense? “These men are crack addicts …” Yikes.
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by
Nina Hartley,
Mar. 29, 2011
Nina offers advice and thoughts on how to go about sharing or discussing your sexual fetishes with family members, friends or new sexual partners.
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by
Midori,
Mar. 28, 2011
How do you get the best photos for your profile on erotic social networks or kinky dating sites?
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by
Rayne Millaray,
Mar. 25, 2011
Fairview, Illinois tries to close barn door after harmless fetishists have already left town.
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by
Nikol Hasler,
Mar. 11, 2011
Most people watching this already know what BDSM is
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by
Rachel Rabbit White,
Mar. 10, 2011
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by
Cole Riley,
Mar. 08, 2011
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by
Roland Hulme,
Mar. 07, 2011
When the details of one's kinky life become public, it can be embarrassing, to say the least. But for some, it can lead to more dire consequences—loss of a job or place to live. Minority groups are protected from this kind of discrimination. But what about kinksters? Do they deserve the same protection from discrimination because they do things others consider objectionable?
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by
Rayne Millaray,
Mar. 01, 2011
“Baby Gaga” confection not to everyone's taste, perhaps.
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by
Rayne Millaray,
Feb. 28, 2011
A cautionary tale ... Be careful with the candles, boys and girls.
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by
Midori,
Feb. 28, 2011
Dominant, kinky women are frustrated, and not in the good way. They’re getting prickly and thorny.
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by
RalphieGuy,
Feb. 02, 2011
My Visit To A Play Space In The Wilds Of Suburbia
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by
Midori,
Jan. 31, 2011
Midori unleashes her alter ego, a psychotic clown nurse, clad in a white leather-hood with stitched up mouth, upon the party-goers at the Japan Fetish Ball, an annual extravaganza hosted by the Tokyo Kink Society.
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by
Rayne Millaray,
Jan. 27, 2011
Florida man confesses in apparent asphyxiation case.
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by
Mona Fox,
Jan. 25, 2011
In the best of all possible worlds, we could do whatever we want, with whomever we want, whenever we want... but for those of us who live in the real world, having sex can be a process of negotiation—especially when the real world includes sharing your living quarters with others.
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by
Lorna D.,
Jan. 19, 2011
We can't watch. Well, maybe we can. Do we have to?
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by
Rachel Rabbit White,
Jan. 03, 2011
Clowns are people in silly costumes with squeaky noses who entertain children. Klowns are people who “entertain” adults wearing the same silly outfits.
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by
Renee Veronica Lucas,
Dec. 31, 2010
The best ways to ring in the new year in the Big Apple.
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by
Rayne Millaray,
Dec. 30, 2010
OK City man accidentally shoots wife during sex.
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by
Lorna D.,
Dec. 27, 2010
Suddenly Fem says it's giving the customers what they want.
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by
Johnny Murdoc,
Dec. 27, 2010
BDSM is on the menu at this fund-raising event, where awareness is elevated, expectations evolve, inhibitions crumble, and sex positivity reaches a higher plateau.
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by
Jeff Schult,
Dec. 23, 2010
Kinky coach? So what, and who deserves this?
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by
Sexis Editors,
Dec. 20, 2010
Another week, another hot topic, another 140 characters of steamy micro-erotic excellence. Presenting our weekly winner, runner-up and the outstanding entries for last week’s topic: Readers' choice. Whatever tickles your fancy, floats your boat or otherwise gets you off...
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by
Rachel Rabbit White,
Dec. 20, 2010
What happens when society at large takes a fancy to your fetish, without any real idea what it's about?
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by
Mona Fox,
Dec. 08, 2010
I’ve already told you about the purple stripes that crisscrossed my backside after my first flogging. They were thick and wide as the suede strips of the flogger, and concentrated on the roundest part of my ass.
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by
Liz Langley,
Nov. 24, 2010
The human appetite is a curious thing. For those with a fetish for cannibalism, the term, "Eat me," carries heady connotations. Keeping in the holiday spirit, as part of the Appetites Project, we offer up a very different kind of Thanksgiving feast. Bon(e) Appetit!
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Rachel Rabbit White,
Nov. 15, 2010
I am surrounded by male energy. To be clear: I am surrounded by hot guys, lubed up in skimpy rubber outfits. It’s the 14th annual Mr. International Rubber (MIR), a skin-tight fetish event in Chicago, that draws rubber-boys from all over the world.
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by
Sexis Editors,
Nov. 08, 2010
Another week, another hot topic, another 140 characters of steamy micro-erotic excellence. Presenting our weekly winner, runner-up and the outstanding entries for last week’s topic: “The kink that (almost) got away.”
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by
Midori,
Nov. 08, 2010
Non-profit Danish kink association is public spirited, tolerant ... and all about the fun.
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by
Sinclair Sexsmith,
Nov. 03, 2010
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by
Mona Fox,
Oct. 27, 2010
When you take kink, not just to the next level, but to the next life—or even outer space—the paranormal erotica that emerges can have a startling effect on your sex life. In a good way!
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by
Midori,
Oct. 25, 2010
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Liz Langley,
Oct. 18, 2010
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by
Midori,
Oct. 11, 2010
You’ve heard about kinky weekend events, haven’t you? Maybe it was someone’s elated Facebook post, or that friend who breathlessly told tales of her wild, naughty adventures? Perhaps you’d read a local newspaper article decrying the shocking and amoral activities, full of scantily clad women with whips and chains, happening down at a local convention center. You want to go, don’t you?
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by
Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Oct. 06, 2010
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by
Midori,
Sep. 27, 2010
Welcome to Wicked Grounds—America’s singular adults-only kinky café. It also happens to be my one of my top two favorite cafés in San Francisco. You’ll often find me there, writing or hanging out with other sexy freaks. The coffee’s superb, Wi-Fi’s free, no children are allowed (except those adults enjoying age play), and I can say and do most anything. What’s not to love?
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by
The Beautiful Kind,
Sep. 13, 2010
In the first installment of this interview, we met up with Molly Ren, who has a very special relationship with food as it relates to sex. While many foods are known to function as aphrodisiacs, for Ren and others who share this fetish, it is the act of eating and feeding, rather than the food itself, that leads to the ultimate gratification.
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by
Midori,
Sep. 13, 2010
If you’re from south of the border—the Canadian border, that is—and have never visited Toronto, you’re missing out on a lot of fun...both vanilla and kinky.
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by
Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Sep. 08, 2010
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by
The Beautiful Kind,
Aug. 31, 2010
Last week, we launched The Appetites Project with Liz Langley's feature, “I Eat, Therefore, I Am.” In this installment of the SexIs feederism series, The Beautiful Kind talks one-on-one with a practitioner of the fetish, Molly Ren.
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by
ErinORiordan,
Aug. 27, 2010
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Kal Cobalt,
Aug. 26, 2010
If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. Then again, innovation is always propelling us forward into realities we couldn’t possibly have imagined. The concept of orgasm on demand has been around for a long time, but how close are we to that reality?
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Liz Langley,
Aug. 23, 2010
Most of us have some kind of issues involving food and many are forever trying to lose weight thinking it will help achieve sexiness, so there’s probably nothing more socially subversive you could do in America in 2010 than to gain weight on purpose.
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by
Mona Fox,
Aug. 18, 2010
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by
Lori Selke,
Aug. 17, 2010
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Kal Cobalt,
Aug. 12, 2010
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by
Nina Hartley,
Jul. 27, 2010
You know your friends are kinky, but when they show up with bruises, do you fear they are being abused? Does it seem strange, worrisome or flat out wrong to you that some people enjoy pain during sex?
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by
The Beautiful Kind,
Jul. 12, 2010
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by
Sexis Editors,
Jul. 05, 2010
It was only a matter of time before the sizzling sexploits of accused Russian agent Anna Chapman—a.k.a. Anya Kushcenko—became fodder for tabloid fare.
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by
Award Winning Author of Erotica Rachel Kramer Bussel,
Jun. 16, 2010
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by
Monica Shores,
May. 13, 2010
Things that look human but aren’t, are creepy. Or loveable, depending on your capacity for anthromorphism. Or beautiful, depending on your aesthetic. Or perhaps a bit of all three at once, which explains the American public’s conflicted fascination with life-sized sex dolls and even the first impressions of doll users themselves.
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by
The Bloggess,
Apr. 01, 2010
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by
Tucker Cummings,
Mar. 09, 2010
On the 115th anniversary of his death, we still have much to learn about sex, power and the true nature of love from the man for whom the term “masochism” was invented.
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by
The Bloggess,
Feb. 25, 2010
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by
Kal Cobalt,
Feb. 17, 2010
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by
Rachel Rabbit White,
Feb. 03, 2010
Leather has a well-established niche in gay history. A look at the macho pioneers—from military men to bikers and artists—who shaped leather culture as we know it today.
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by
Citi Kittie,
Jan. 27, 2010
All the pick-up guides I read (and I read a lot) focus on small talk. What to say, how to say it, how much to say, how little to reveal. But sometimes it’s easier to say nothing at all. Sometimes the best way to meet people is to leave language aside and just bark, mew, whimper, or pant. *Sniff, sniff*
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by
Sarah Sloane,
Jan. 20, 2010
Fight Club. Rugby. MMA. Let’s face it—we live in a society where it’s okay to be physically combative in a competition for superiority. But what happens when the fighting takes on an overtly kinky overtone? You’ve got what some refer to as Rough Body Play, or “Thug Play”—an old fashioned beatdown, not to the death, but until someone gets tired or cries “uncle.”
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by
Kal Cobalt,
Jan. 20, 2010
If you've ever filled out a BDSM checklist, chances are you've seen a question about whether you enjoy “serving as furniture.” Or you might have run across someone who gets hot when referred to as “it.” What's the allure of objectification? Let's take an objective (sorry) look at this very stationary fetish.
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Citi Kittie,
Jan. 13, 2010
I ended up the collared pet of a woman I never met, never talked to on the phone, saw on webcam only a handful of times, but communicated with almost daily. It's not easy turning your life over to another person, and maybe not all that healthy. But its allure was as strong as any drug and I just couldn't resist.
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Liz Langley,
Jan. 06, 2010
Some of us have a fetish—a very particular fetish, that is—a fetish for latex and PVC, which is often associated with the realms of BDSM or S&M. But this particular fetish isn’t about BDSM. It’s just for ‘the look.’ Or, as renowned designer The Baroness puts it, “the other S&M: Stand and Model.”
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by
Kal Cobalt,
Jan. 06, 2010
Is there happiness in slavery? When a collar isn't just jewelry but means something, what does it mean? Let's talk fact and fiction when it comes to living under contract.
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by
Elizabeth Black,
Jan. 02, 2010
When I heard about figging, I was fairly certain that I’d enjoy it. Figging is inserting a plug of fresh ginger root into your ass to enhance sexual pleasure. The ginger’s juices soak into your anal tissues, resulting in a burning sensation that is both arousing and excruciating. This practice took root in Victorian times—and you know those prim folks engaged in some very kinky pastimes.
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by
Kal Cobalt,
Dec. 23, 2009
White coats, stethoscopes, and nurses standing by? Ooh la la! A surprising number of folks get faint at the thought of a little medical porn, or medical equipment—and those are two very different kinks. The doctor will see you now, with five examinations of this very popular kink.
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by
Bella Bell,
Dec. 22, 2009
When faced with the task of investigating what goes on it the Japanese sex clubs, I never for a moment thought that it would be easy. But who’d have thought that it’d be so hard to catch a ride on ‘the touching trains’?
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Kal Cobalt,
Dec. 16, 2009
Of all the things crammed into pussies and asses through the ages, the fist maintains an underground popularity that's baffling from the outside. What is it about fisting that captures the minds (and hands) of its devotees? And why exactly is the whole country terrified of its own ass?
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by
Sarah Sloane,
Dec. 09, 2009
BDSM is rarely considered from anything other than its purest physical aspect; even rarer still is it presented as something other than a pagan or non-mainstream religious set of beliefs. But what happens when someone who has deep faith and belief in more traditional, conservative religion finds that their sexual interests don’t exactly fit in with that lifestyle?
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Kal Cobalt,
Dec. 09, 2009
Knives and sex with no felonies involved? It's possible. It can even be part of a fun Friday night. How do you mix sharp blades with tender bits? Here are five points (I'm sorry) for living on the edge (I'm so, so sorry) with erotic knife play.
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by
removedacnt,
Nov. 18, 2009
Hello. My name is Newme…and I’m a closet kink. If you saw me walking down the street, you would probably think, preppy mom. I’m top to bottom J. Crew—cardigan, tee and jeans. Mother of four who home-schooled her kids, drove them to all their activities in a Honda Accord, worked hard for a living, helped my husband start his own business. Nothing special, just your typical person on the streets.
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Kal Cobalt,
Nov. 18, 2009
Bondage is often devious, but no bondage is quite as sly as predicament bondage. Every minute is a mind game and every movement an act of will. Here are five whys and hows of this nasty little game.
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by
Rachel Rabbit White,
Nov. 11, 2009
Or, if you prefer, urolagnia. Okay, maybe you aren’t familiar with the word, but I’ll bet you’ve heard of the fetish more commonly known as “water sports” or “golden showers.” Since researching this practice, I’ve found urolagnia dripping into my own sexual fantasies.
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Kal Cobalt,
Nov. 11, 2009
“The sweetest romantic comedy about S&M since, well...ever,” says Blackbook of the then-quirky, now-seminal film Secretary. Was it a massive step toward the mainstreaming of kinky culture or a lopsided portrayal that did more harm than good? Seven years later, people’s opinions remain sharply divided.
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by
RalphieGuy,
Nov. 07, 2009
To paraphrase Andrew Vachss: A man who has a fetish will seek out women who he wouldn't normally find attractive if those women agree to and provide that particular fetish. In fact, that man might even prefer these women to those more attractive to him-more his “type”—if the ‘less’-attractive women provide him with his fetish more than women he's normally attracted to.
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by
Sarah Sloane,
Nov. 04, 2009
Jack and Bob meet at a kinky party; they go off into a corner where Jack gets whipped for an hour by Bob, wielding a big leather flogger. Yet, somehow, Jack is smiling at the end of it—and the noises he is making sound less like a man being tortured, and more like a man having sex. But why is he enjoying it? What is it about kinky pain that makes it different from regular pain?
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The Beautiful Kind,
Nov. 04, 2009
Vanilla. To the epicurious, it’s one of the world’s most prized spices. In the bedroom, however...well, nobody seems to know what it is. Except that they either are or aren’t vanilla. The Beautiful Kind takes a look at vanilla...and in the process, bakes a very special cake...
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Cherry Trifle,
Oct. 30, 2009
I’m not just a sex writer. I’m a horror movie enthusiast. Which I suppose makes me an exceptionally bad girl. So figure if this story were a slasher flick, I’d be dead about 750 words in.
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Kal Cobalt,
Oct. 28, 2009
Corsetry isn't just for Victoriana enthusiasts. The dramatic lines of a corseted figure is custom-made for the high-fashion fetishwear subset of BDSM culture, and the restrictive nature of the garment allows for all kinds of power-trippy fun. How did getting laced up into something restrictive and sexy get mixed up with kink? Read on for five lace-'em-ups about this deceptively beautiful fetish.
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Sarah Sloane,
Oct. 28, 2009
Nobody just wakes up one day and decides “Gee, I think I’ll be kinky!” So, why do people go there? How many do? And darn it, is it better than straight sex, or is it all just propaganda?
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Kal Cobalt,
Oct. 21, 2009
Have you ever found yourself confronted with a piece of latex fetishwear and wondered what that familiar tingle was all about? Chances are, your brain recognized the basic scent of condoms—ooh la la! So what is it that entices some to take latex out of the realm of Trojans and into the realm of full-on bodywear? Read on for five fabulous finds on why lovers love latex.
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Kal Cobalt,
Oct. 07, 2009
If you're looking for a way to try out kink that's free, easy, and likely to have good results, this one’s for you. Spanking as sexual titillation goes a lot further than the trope of the 1950s secretary getting a slap on the rump from a leering boss; in the world of kink today, spanking is safe, fun, and a lot less complicated than sex. Let's check out five rump-thumping tidbits about the spank.
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Kal Cobalt,
Sep. 30, 2009
It sounds pretty, but it feels mean. Bastinado is the practice of beating the soles of the feet. Why do it? You know the drill by now: if this is your sole exposure (sorry!) to bastinado, read on for five little piggies' worth of knowledge.
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Kal Cobalt,
Sep. 23, 2009
Why is that cutie on the bus wearing a dog collar? Why is that yuppie breathing heavy in the bridle aisle? Animal roleplay is a surprisingly popular form of kink, with puppies, kitties, and ponies the apparent favorites. What's the deal with human pets? Here, we'll take a look at five yips, whinnies, and meows about animal roleplay.
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Kal Cobalt,
Sep. 09, 2009
Masochism is just about liking pain, right? Wrong. There’s a lot more to it. Here are five things your momma never told you about pain sluts.
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Dr Dick,
Sep. 07, 2009
This week, Dr. Dick investigates acrotomophilia; or, in other words, the amputee fetish.
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Kal Cobalt,
Sep. 02, 2009
Is making someone hurt an act of cruelty or an act of love? If you said “either one, and sometimes both,” you get a gold star (and I’ll see you at the dungeon). If you didn’t, read on: Here come five points that might help explain why beating the shit out of someone can be the nicest thing anyone ever did.
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Kal Cobalt,
Aug. 19, 2009
Most people don't think of needles as sexual or erotic, but even the shallowest consideration yields some obvious reasons for that association: needles penetrate the body and afford access to bodily fluids in a way few activities outside of sexuality do. Welcome to five incisive (sorry) tidbits about the art of erotic needleplay.
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Judy Cole,
Aug. 18, 2009
This week, in the final installment, your editor gets a tour of the milieu of a professional domme: the playspace, the wardrobe, and the rigors of home economics.
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Kal Cobalt,
Aug. 12, 2009
For some of us, tickling is an activity we remember from summer camps and evenings with the family, either fondly or agonizingly (or both). For others, the enforced abandonment of control and reflexive, hysterical convulsing relates so closely to orgasmic feelings that tickling becomes sexualized.
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Judy Cole,
Aug. 11, 2009
Now, in my line of work, I’ve met a ProDomme or two before. In the Big Apple, S&M is NBD. Dommes came in all shapes and sizes, from a near-seven-foot Valkyrie—replete with a trademark tomato-red PVC catsuit straight out of a comic book—to a raven-haired, petite coquette who could, with her five-inch killer spike heels, make a grown man cry a lot more than just “Uncle.”
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Wise Young Mommy,
Aug. 05, 2009
Momma’s got a brand new bag. And it’s full of paddles, floggers, and restraints. It’s time to get your kink on!
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Judy Cole,
Aug. 04, 2009
When the average person thinks of Charlotte, North Carolina, what most often springs to mind is Bible Belt, Banking, NASCAR and the PTL debacle. Debauchery? Not so much—well, except for the PTL debacle, but BDSM? You might be surprised...
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Dr Dick,
Aug. 03, 2009
So you’ve met the person of your dreams—only you haven’t got around to telling your new honey your dirty little secret...
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Kal Cobalt,
Jul. 07, 2009
For as long as robots have been a concept in the human imagination, we have been plagued by questions: Is advanced artificial intelligence possible? Can machines devoid of emotion truly understand the human condition? And...how awesome would robots be in bed?
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Hungry4more,
Jun. 22, 2009
Take a fish out of water—or, in this case, a fish away from his Buffy DVDs—and plop him straight into the most fantastical encounter imaginable. Or...send him to the local professional dominatrix.
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slavette,
Jun. 15, 2009
A Proposal from the President of Intercontinental Slaves Union Local 814...
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Sarah Sloane,
Jun. 11, 2009
Some people are born kinky, some achieve kinkiness, and some have kinkiness thrust upon them. Then, there are those of us who really like to have our kinky tied up and acquiescent…if that’s you, then read on.
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slavette,
Jun. 08, 2009
A journey with Slavette through the language of kink—with all due apologies to the late Edward Gorey.
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slavette,
Jun. 01, 2009
A humorous glimpse inside the lives and minds of slaves
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slavette,
May. 26, 2009
A Peek at Life Behind the Black Leather Curtain
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slavette,
May. 18, 2009
Today, Slavette wades through the murky waters of relationship-negotiation within the confines of the master/slave dynamic, without litigation, butcher knives, or invoking a demon.
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slavette,
May. 11, 2009
An Introduction to the Author of The Slavette Diaries
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Citi Kittie,
Apr. 03, 2009
Safewords are words or signals called out, usually during BDSM-related play, to either slow down or completely stop a scene. Citi Kittie gives us some deeper insight into the ins and outs of safewording – but take note: chances are that your boss will not respect your safeword when you use it to try and get out of that overdue spreadsheet.
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