Like many other people, I had preconceived notions about sex toys. It wasn’t until my boyfriend and I went to an adult store for some lingerie that I started questioning what I had been assuming. It was our first time going to an adult store and we were nervous. We wanted to get a cute outfit for me to wear that was different from the more traditional items at Victoria’s Secret. I couldn’t help but notice the abundance of toys but for some reason they had some stored in a glass case like you see at a jewelry store. “What’s so different about those?” is exactly what I thought until I got closer. They were gorgeous and much different than what I had always seen in porn. That was the day my obsession with toys started, and I went home that night to dream about the possibilities.

Now I’m completely infatuated, but not everyone in my life sees it the way I do. My best friend says “Oh God” and I can hear her eyes rolling through the phone when I excitedly tell her I placed another order. Here are a few of the most common myths to clear things up for anyone who may still feel a little guilty or have reservations. For those of you who used to think the same, enjoy a laugh as you reminisce about how crazy you used to be!

If you use a sex toy it means your partner isn’t good enough
This one makes me laugh at myself for ever believing. Not only do females who haven’t experimented with toys think this way, but their boyfriends do too. Using them is not only a great way to explore your body, it’s also a sure way to spice up your sex life with someone else. Females have been known to take longer to reach orgasm than males, so adding something like a vibrator on the clit while your partner fingers you will speed things up, which ultimately helps them out. Not even the most powerful vibrations or smoothest silicone will ever be able to replace the real thing or provide the intimacy that only another human can make you feel.

Vibrators desensitize you making it harder to reach orgasm with your partner
I can say from experience that this isn’t true! In fact, they have made it easier for me to reach orgasm. I never used to be able to climax using my fingers before. I had to use a crappy bullet vibe I got from a drug store and the orgasms I got from it always left me feeling unsatisfied. No matter how hard I tried, my fingers just couldn’t do it. Since I started using real vibes I have been able to climax using nothing but my hands! They are much more intense, happen easily, and quickly. It isn’t uncommon for me to have seven in ONE session with and without my boyfriend. His fingers alone even feel better.

They are only for lonely and single people
Your relationship status is not what tells you that you can or can not use sex toys. Yes, they are helpful if you’re single and don’t have any other sex partners. They’re also good if you are abstaining from sex with another person. Those aren’t the only people allowed to use them. I can not tell you just how much your sex life with a partner can benefit from introducing some toys into your routine. It’s a new and different experience that’s exciting for everyone, especially those who are in need of re-igniting that old passion for each other.

Only women can use them
It’s your turn guys, you can use sex toys. There are many options for guys to use now, some are even good for men and women to share! Did you know that guys can have a prostate orgasm? The way to achieve a p-spot orgasm is with the same “come here” finger motion that is used to stimulate the g-spot, just through anal penetration instead of vaginal. A toy I know many people would recommend for both g-spot and p-spot stimulation would be the Njoy Pure Wand.

So there you have it, the top 3 sex toy myths I hear most often. Situations do vary and everybody is different but why not test the myths yourself?