The Problem.
Let's face it ladies, we're not at our best during our periods. We're in pain, we're hormonal, and we're usually not looking all that great. Not to mention our sex lives come to sudden and complete stop for about a week. That is enough to put both you and your partner in a bad mood. But it doesn't have to be that way. Some women have found that it's not only possible to have sex during their periods, but it can be quite enjoyable.
If you're like me, the thought of having sex during your flow just made you cringe. Trust me; I was the same way right up until this weekend. My boyfriend and I had talked about it before, but I was always so embarrassed and grossed out by it to even give it a shot. Then I did a little research. I was surprised to find out that a lot of women actually enjoy sex during their periods. It's actually beneficial to your health and here's how.
It can alleviate cramps. We all know that cramps are the worst! When I get cramps, I don't even want to get out of bed during my period! Unfortunately, we cannot just stay in bed for a week until the pain goes away. So, what do we do? We choke down the period medications and suffer through our day. However, having sex during your period can actually help get rid of your cramps. Having an orgasm counteracts these chemicals and provides short term relief from menstrual pain.
It can speed up your period. During our period, our uterus is contracting to help push the blood and tissue out of our bodies. Having an orgasm causes even stronger (and much more pleasurable) contractions that accomplish the same thing. The downside is that you might experience a small rush of blood when you orgasm. That mostly depends on how heavy your period is and at what point during your period you have sex. Still, isn't it worth it to have your period shortened by a day or two?
It releases endorphins. When you orgasm, your brain releases endorphins. These can help improve your mood, which is something that both men and women can be thankful for during the menstrual cycle. They can also help you sleep easier and relieve pain in the body, including cramps, backaches, and headaches.
After looking into the sexual benefits, and some serious consideration, we decided to give it a try. I was surprised to find that I didn't hate it. It was a bit painful at first, but I got over that quickly enough. It wasn't as messy as I thought it would, then again was lighter than usual. My cramps and my backache pretty much went away for the next couple of hours, too. It was great! I do have to admit that it was a little embarrassing at first. I mean, I'm trying to be as sexy and possible while I'm bleeding from the vagina? That's not exactly my definition of sexy. My boyfriend, however, didn't mind. Here's what he had to say about the experience.
“Wrapping my head around going inside her while she was bleeding was, to say the least, the most unusual sexual thing I’ve done. I’m a Lifeguard, so when I see blood, I have this need to FIX it. And I can’t do that in this case. Everything felt looser, definitely could tell that her body was helping her lube up. I had to take everything much more gently than, horny as hell, me wanted to, but it worked out. Other than that, everything felt normal.”
Overall, I'd call this experiment a success. I enjoyed the sex itself, as did my boyfriend, and I really enjoyed reaping the benefits. This isn't something I'd want to do all the time because it is messy, but I wouldn't say no to doing it again.
If you're going to engage in sex during your period, here's what I recommend:
1) Lay down a soft, dark colored towel, that you don't mind getting blood on. You probably don't want to get blood on your sheets, so a towel comes in handy! Plus, it helps with post-sex clean up.
2) Use a condom! Contrary to popular belief, you can get pregnant during your period. You still need to use protection. The reason I recommend a condom is because it helps keep the blood off of him, which can be a huge turn off. We used dark colored condom to help mask the color of the blood.
3) Get ready to hop in the shower. Light or heavy flow, it's going to be messy. The best way to clean yourself off is to go straight into the shower. Besides, who doesn't love showering together?
In the end, I'd say give it a shot. Who knows? You might actually enjoy it!
good article!! my husband & i never had sex on my period until here recently! idk why i had been avoiding it for so long..it really isnt that bad
I had been wary in the past to have sex on my period but after talking to my husband, I realized that he didn't care at all if I was bleeding! I always get really horny during my period anyway (I think my body telling me that an orgasm would help my cramps) so it works out well for both of us.
Yup- menstrual cups are great for masturbation or sex at that time of the month.