Throwing caution to the wind, and not heeding the fact I probably got lucky when I didn't piss anyone off with the SexIs article Oh, Beautiful You—It Doesn't Take Much Work in which I tossed around my women's beauty tip thoughts, I'm going to tell you what you should be doing with your body.
Own it, for God's sake.
Own all of it, and stop letting other people (or companies or political parties or churches) convince you of how it should look and how it should be used.
Now, I make no secret that while I hold reasonably moderate views politically and ideologically overall, I do lean noticeably leftward and I think that the Republican Party officially lost its mind when Barack Obama decided to run for U.S. president. So, you might think I'm only here to warn you about those right-wingers and “moral majority” types, along with the Pope and a few others, and leave it at that.
Oh, no, I'm also here to warn you that a lot of liberals want to tell you what to do with your body, too. A lot of people in general, regardless of ideology, and many of them fellow women, frankly.
Sure, we all know about how many conservative folks will say that women should be focused on having children, raising them and maintaining the household while the husband works—and shouldn’t be trying to build a career or a life outside of her husband's approved circle. But when my wife was in an emotional/hormonal post-childbirth haze and hanging around parenting boards online a lot, I would look over her shoulder many different times to see a woman post with regret about how her two or three children were too big to cradle anymore and she wanted a new baby but there wasn't enough money...and one of the elements of the radical mommy circles would pop in to say something like, “Your job is to be a mother and a goddess. Have another baby, and if your husband really loves and supports you he'll get a second or third job. If he can't handle it, go on public aid. Have as many babies as you want, don't do any work but nursing them, raising them, playing with them and homeschooling them—because that's your true calling and if necessary, society should pay you to do that.”
Aside from the notion that government should pay women to be moms, the only difference I see between a liberal mom of that niche and a right-wing family values type is that the former will say, “the husband needs to stop pestering you for sex when you're busy raising those children” and the latter would say, “submit to your husband when he wants sex, even when you’re making the children dinner.”
Shut them out. All, of them, whether on the left, on the right or in the middle ideologically. Find yourself and your needs and desires and then be yourself.
To illustrate my point, let me work my way around your body—well, not your body specifically, because I don't know you well enough for that and it would be rather disrespectful for me to be touching you without my wife having been consulted first—um, where was I?
Yes, let me address some areas of the female body and where I see women frequently giving into outside elements about what they should do with those parts. We’ll start with a tame one (well, unless you’re a foot fetishist, that is).
Own it, for God's sake.
Own all of it, and stop letting other people (or companies or political parties or churches) convince you of how it should look and how it should be used.
Now, I make no secret that while I hold reasonably moderate views politically and ideologically overall, I do lean noticeably leftward and I think that the Republican Party officially lost its mind when Barack Obama decided to run for U.S. president. So, you might think I'm only here to warn you about those right-wingers and “moral majority” types, along with the Pope and a few others, and leave it at that.
Oh, no, I'm also here to warn you that a lot of liberals want to tell you what to do with your body, too. A lot of people in general, regardless of ideology, and many of them fellow women, frankly.
Sure, we all know about how many conservative folks will say that women should be focused on having children, raising them and maintaining the household while the husband works—and shouldn’t be trying to build a career or a life outside of her husband's approved circle. But when my wife was in an emotional/hormonal post-childbirth haze and hanging around parenting boards online a lot, I would look over her shoulder many different times to see a woman post with regret about how her two or three children were too big to cradle anymore and she wanted a new baby but there wasn't enough money...and one of the elements of the radical mommy circles would pop in to say something like, “Your job is to be a mother and a goddess. Have another baby, and if your husband really loves and supports you he'll get a second or third job. If he can't handle it, go on public aid. Have as many babies as you want, don't do any work but nursing them, raising them, playing with them and homeschooling them—because that's your true calling and if necessary, society should pay you to do that.”
Aside from the notion that government should pay women to be moms, the only difference I see between a liberal mom of that niche and a right-wing family values type is that the former will say, “the husband needs to stop pestering you for sex when you're busy raising those children” and the latter would say, “submit to your husband when he wants sex, even when you’re making the children dinner.”
Shut them out. All, of them, whether on the left, on the right or in the middle ideologically. Find yourself and your needs and desires and then be yourself.
To illustrate my point, let me work my way around your body—well, not your body specifically, because I don't know you well enough for that and it would be rather disrespectful for me to be touching you without my wife having been consulted first—um, where was I?
Yes, let me address some areas of the female body and where I see women frequently giving into outside elements about what they should do with those parts. We’ll start with a tame one (well, unless you’re a foot fetishist, that is).
I liked your point, and I really hate to be this kind of internet dork (I also know it's a very common mistake) but I've never, ever pissed out of my vagina. Sorry but that whole mental image just made me shudder and totally broke my concentration on the rest of the article.
That would be like saying I vomit out of my eye socket. My vagina and my urethra are two completely different orifices, not connected to one another, that just happen to be close together. The vagina really doesn't multitask that way.
The penis on the other hand... much more utilitarian. Yet another reason why it's one of my favorite organs of the human body.
Point taken, anatomically speaking. That section of the article was focused on the vagina, since that's the part where penises go in, babies go out and crusty politicians like to control mostly. So, I used my terminology a bit too loosely and you're right...technically speaking, the urine passes through the lips of the vulva on its way out of the urethra. The world really should come up with a catch-all word for female genitalia (a really un-fun clinical term) other than pussy or cunt, since sometimes, you just want to reserve those terms for talk during sex and for erotica and porn
Aww, there wasn't any mention of loving thine ass regardless of what people say, but I get the point. I appreciate your opinion and agree with most of it. I don't know, maybe none of this stuff matters to me because I've been single for a long time, disabled, and have all sorts of reproductive issues. Just being alive seems to be good enough for me. I don't get out much, so a lot of the going-ons in this world sort of pass me by. I like reading articles like this to sort of see what's on people's minds--well, the people that are actually out and about in the society. Thank you for sharing!
You know, now that you mention it, I could have addressed the whole "junk in the trunk" issue, too, but that might be sufficient for a whole other article...on the other hand, the article WAS getting a bit long already...
Haha! I love your articles. They are always very interesting and insightful. I love reading, so I don't mind long articles, but I understand.
Oh Smokedawg, we already have a catch all word for female genitalia - you used it yourself. I love the word vulva. Such a nice, soft word that forms on the lips like a kiss.
Good point. It's about as close to a catch-all as we'll get. I always associated the vulva with *just* the external parts, but on further review, it seems that it includes the opening to the vagina as well, so it covers everything but the actual "love canal" itself
OMG! You know about TJ MAXX? Now, I find you a trustworthy human. LOL. Only kidding, but wow! What an intense article. Loved it. The best one I've yet to read. This actually is about the only time a male could get away with "telling women what to do with their bodies" without me going into a blind fury. LOL. Okay, I'm intense too. Anyways, this is one fabulous article. It's awesome to see a male supporting women like this. Huge kudos.
PS. That wife of yours, she must have some seriously kick-a** style! I like what I'm reading.
Keep up the awesome article-writing. I can't tell you how much I liked this article!