Sexis Social: A publication by EdenFantasys community

How I Find G-spot Vibrators For Squirting Orgasms

Follow me now into the world of pleasure and explore the often elusive yet oh-so-amazing G-spot. If you're on a quest for that mind-blowing experience and are ready to embrace your sexual empowerment, you're in the right place! Finding the perfect G-spot vibrator that can take you to new heights of pleasure, and yes, you will squirt. Because I did it, and so can you.

G-spot Vibrators for Solo vs. Partner Play: What's Your Preference?

Hey there, lovelies! Today, let's talk about something near and dear to our hearts – our pleasure. We're diving into the world of G-spot vibrators and exploring the delightful dilemma of solo versus partner play. After all, taking charge of our sexual well-being is an essential part of self-love, and there's no shame in seeking the ultimate satisfaction, whether alone or with a partner.

Why Vibrating Dildos Deserve More Recognition in LBGTQA+ Community

I don’t know about your world, but in my world, sex is important. I believe it is essential to acknowledge and celebrate the diverse range of sexual experiences - within the queer community especially. I am a femme presenting she/her, a lesbian in a long-term relationship with a very male-presenting partner. And I am the one who firmly believes in the importance of embracing pleasure and fully exploring our desires. Also, I love vibrating dildos and frequently get *looked down on* because of it.

Why Vibrating Dildos Are The Most Inclusive Sex Toy Out There: A POV By A Disabled Person

As a wellness activist and a staunch advocate for inclusivity, I firmly believe that disabled folks should be a part of conversations about intimacy and sex. It's time to break down the barriers and stigmas that have excluded disabled people from the world of sexual wellness. Sex toys as a whole are a very important tool for people with disabilities all over the spectrum, but I feel like vibrating dildos are up there as a crowning jewel. Let me explain!

3 Crucial SSC Things You Need To Know Before Trying CBT & Penis Play

Embarking on a journey of sexual exploration can be thrilling and transformative. It was for me, at least. If you're considering delving into the realm of Cock and Ball Torture (CBT) or Penis Play, it's essential to prioritize safety, consent, and communication.

How CBT Made Me Feel More Masculine Than Ever

Sexual exploration was a deeply personal journey for me, one that has challenged preconceived notions and expanded my understanding of pleasure. In my quest for self-discovery, I stumbled upon a practice that many misconstrue as solely belonging to the realm of BDSM, being about humiliation and torture. Yup, it's CBT (call and ball torture), but I prefer to call it penis play.

Penis Play Orgasms Are Next-Level - And It’s Not About BDSM

In the realm of sexual exploration, there are countless avenues to embark upon. From vanilla experiences to those that push the boundaries of kink, the spectrum of pleasure is vast and diverse. Today, we delve into a practice that is often misunderstood and misrepresented: Cock and Ball Torture (CBT). Let me begin with a disclaimer - it's not for BDSM folks only.

5 Sensational Sex Skills Every Couple Should Practice

Good sex is always about free emotions. You enjoy the most when you feel physically and emotionally connected with your partner, isn’t it?

How to Create a Great Sex Life from Morning Routine

A high-powered CEO may have a daily ritual that includes meditation, journaling, or simply sitting quietly with a steaming cappuccino, but setting yourself up for success isn't only for work.
You'll help extend the duration and enjoyment of your relationship by establishing a morning routine for sex and emotional connection—and that's well worth a few more minutes in the morning.

Why is Sex an Integral Part of Married Life?

Sex is an act of making love to your partner, it an expression of affection, and a medium to build deep physical intimacy with your partner, and it is also a way to reproduce.

When you have ED, you are vulnerable to a variety of threats

From all of our previous discussions, it is clear that erectile dysfunction is one of the worst types of disorders that can cause a slew of problems in the body, both indirectly and directly.

Tips for Sexually Frustrated Couples

When the world is moving fast and technology is taking over, you may see tons of reasons behind couples experiencing sexual frustration. Why does this happen? Are we letting stress, anxiety, and frustration ruin our intimate lives?

Truth is, you won't be everyones "cup of tea". Don't allow that to stop you from being comfortable.

Just because society has burnt this image of what the ideal summer body should look like, doesn't mean you should allow it to control what you wear or how you want to express yourself. Wear and be who you want to be and forget about what others may think.

Things that I have learned to help keep all types of sex fun, freaky, and interesting.

I have many suggestions, helpful ideas, and all sorts of neat things to do to make sex (oral and otherwise) fun and even tasty.

5 Reasons Why Every Woman Should Try a Vibrator

Using a vibrator for sexual pleasure alone might, on itself, already be reason enough to try one. But the fact is that vibrators treat you to so much more than purely pleasure. Few of us may know it, but using a vibrator actually brings along a number of health benefits both physically as well as psychologically - giving every woman a good reason to try one. Below, we have listed down the 5 main reasons why we believe every woman should try a vibrator at least once.

Sex with transmen.

Sex with a transman, what’s that like? They have a vagina, right? So it’s like a butch girl?

No.

There’s plenty of assumptions cisgender people tend to have about sex with transgender people, and of course there is no right answer. However, there are a lot of wrong answers.

The most important thing to note is that sex with a transman is not the same as sex with a ciswoman.

Pegging Your Boyfriend Is Good and Healthy

Pegging has been a taboo for quite a long time, mainly practiced in secret, and to the eyes of the public, by sexual freaks only. As you can see on the graph below, it got more popular in the last 15 years. Probably thanks to internet, mostly Pornhub, this amazing way of having sex has been democratised. Is pegging really only for freaks? Can a non-submissive man enjoy pegging? Can a non-dominant woman enjoy pegging? Find out our experience with pegging by reading more below.

Pelvic floor health for stronger orgasms

Orgasms are linked with muscular response in the pelvic area. The stronger the muscles, the stronger the orgasms! Here are some personal tips on how to prepare yourself and how to use jade eggs to exercise and strengthen your pelvic floor muscles. Note that I will be using the word "Yoni" when referring to the vagina, a tantric/sanskrit term that means womb, place of birth, source, origin.

Summer Love (For Yourself)

Thinking about buying that magazine that will tell you how to get the perfect bikini body or land a summer romance as you wait in line at the cash register with your lemonade and sunscreen? Don't! Try reading something that will help you grow into the person you love, whoever that person is.

Watchdog Timers: The importance of having a dead man’s switch when partying with strangers.

I was always paranoid that if something happened to me while I was out having a sexy good time no one would ever know what happened, how I got where I got to and why.

Guide to Storing Sex Toys

Our sex toys are very important to us. The last thing we want is for our precious toys to be ruined by bad storage techniques. We have all probably heard, "Don't store your toys touching each other!" But why is this? Is this really true? How much do I actually need to worry about this?

Do Women Hit Their Sexual Peak In Their Thirties

The media are always printing about how women reach their sexual peak in their mid thirties, but is that really true.

Toxic Lube

A personal lubricant is just that... personal. But with all the options out there, it's important to make an informed decision and know what is safe for you and your partner.

How to Write Smut

Whether it's an erotic story or a single sext, coming up with words that get you and your reader hot can be a challenge. Here's how to start.

How To Tell If A Potential Partner Will Be Abusive

I was in a severe abusive relationship for six months and I want to help women on here know how to spot a potentially abusive partner so you can avoid them.

Floggers

So you want to buy a flogger....It can be pretty intimidating with all the different types out there! Hopefully this guide will clear up any concerns

It's My Body... and I Finally Love Everything About It!

Media images are constantly thrown at us about how to look, how to dress, and what we should look like to be lusted after… I defy all of those media stereotypes day after day. Every day, you see newsstand articles that read “Lose 20 lbs in 20 weeks!” and articles on how to do the latest superstar workout or Hollywood diet trend. Who needs it? I sure don’t!

Pole Dancing: Not just for the club anymore!

"Pole-dancing" is a phrase that used to incite images of scantily-clad strippers swinging around a pole with wads of cash sticking out of their underwear. Maybe for some people it still does, but pole-dancing has been growing in popularity among women seeking to get in shape, be sexy, and pick up a cool new skill all at once.

Bikinis after Babies

Summer is fast approaching. Time for beaches, the sun, and swimsuits. But if you're like me, then you don't feel comfortable in a swim suit.

My Experience With the IUD and How it Improved My Life

If you've ever experienced heavy flows, severe menstrual cramps or forgotten to take your pill, the IUD might just be the answer to your contraception needs!

Teens and Sex

We all know how hard it is raising teens. This stage is where communication is so very difficult, yet so essential. Sex is certainly going to be a struggle during their teenage years, but this is the time when you are needed the most.

Seeking Help as a Survivor of Sexual Violence

Rape, abuse, and sexual assault are crimes that overwhelmingly target women, so I will be speaking primarily about women who have survived these things, and from my own experiences as a woman who has been assaulted. Through this series of articles, I hope to provide survivors and their supporters with resources, wisdom, and understanding, using myself as an example.

Separate "feeling good" from "looking good!"

I used to dread summer, and being told to uncover myself when all I wanted to do was cover up. After struggling with body image issues for years, I realized that perhaps the key to keeping your body confidence high is to realize that your body isn't the only part of you that matters. Don't let the judgment of others keep you out of the sunshine.

Anal Sex: How To Get Started

Okay, so let’s say you and your husband are into anal play, and you want to take it a step further. You are both comfortable with the idea of anal sex, but you feel like you need some pointers to help you get started.

Turn Your Thinking Off: Running a Thought-mile During Sexual Activities

What am I going to cook for dinner? Did I leave the stove on? Why did Harold say that thing about my wife? Will they ever cum?

We all know that during sexual play time, there are those days (far many than few) where we cannot turn our minds to completing the fun at hand, to enjoy our sexual experiences fully. Is it possible to turn your thinking off? Can you quiet your mind? Is it even a realistic thought?

Stimulating the Prostate to Orgasm (III): Dildos and Thrusting

This series of articles discusses how to stimulate the prostate so as to achieve prostate orgasms. In this, the final article in the series, I talk about the use of dildos and other "thrusting" toys.

Are Depression and Bipolar Disorder Ruining your Sex Life?

Depression and Bipolar disorder are not the same, but both can do serious damage to your love life. As a sufferer from depression, I intend to help explain the differences between these two common disorders, explain what they are and how they work, how they can be messing up your bedroom routine, and how to get back on top.

"Sex Addiction" is a Real Thing

You may jokingly say “Yea, I’m addicted to her, the sex is just so great!” but for some people it is a real problem. It’s called “Hypersexual Disorder” and it is tearing apart people’s lives as you read this.

Bartholin Gland cyst or abscess, i.e. The Newlyweds or Honeymoon Disease

We’ve all read many articles on our more erotic pleasurable spots, those many spots down there in our nether region that pleasure us so well, but what about the one that can get infected and cause pain? I’m talking about the Bartholin Gland, which is located on the outside folds of the labia. These glands lay mostly in discreet places and out of harm's way during our lifetimes but occasionally they can become irritated, even inflamed, and if not treated, infected.

Whips Vs. Floggers

Have you ever wondered exactly what the difference is between whips and floggers? Well here is your answer, along with examples of each.

Vibrator Envy

Today’s article focuses on a problem that many men face with the introduction of a toy, and that is envy and feelings of inadequacy in the face of a vibrator. We will discuss how to overcome this and why you will never be replaced by a vibrator.

Myth Busters: "Females will always know when they are having an orgasm"

In movies and magazines and on tv and websites, I've heard this idea of orgasms being the most obvious thing in the world. Sometimes they are so mind blowing that they are impossible to miss: my body seizes, pleasure surges through me blinding and deafening. Afterwards, I am so high off of oxytocin and endorphins that I am giddy and giggle, slightly drowsy. Then it is the most obvious thing in the world, but not all orgasms are alike, not for me and certainly not from one person to another.

Stimulating the Prostate to Orgasm (II): Probes, Prostate Massagers, and Vibrators

This series of articles will discuss how to stimulate the prostate so as to achieve prostate orgasms. In this article, I talk about the use of probes, massagers, and vibrators.

How to Shave Everywhere

For some, there is nothing sexier than rubbing against a lover’s smooth skin. Yet for some of us shaving can be a pain. Without the promise of some sexual favor to come, it can be hassle not worth undergoing. So how do we give our lover the smoothest skin possible and still make it worth our time and effort? That’s simple, combine the two. Here’s how...

How Yoga and Exercise Affect Your Health

It’s hard not to miss the benefits of yoga and exercise posted everywhere we look. We see ads for exercise machines that help burn fat and tone muscle. We see yoga mats and bricks used to stretch our sides, arch our backs, and reduce stress overall. But there are added benefits to both that don’t normally get enough recognition. That is what this article is about.

My Body, My Image Part 2: Changing Negative Body Image as an Adult

Once we reach adulthood, we like to think that we are happy with our bodies. The truth is that most people aren't, and they continue to struggle with body image. The good news is, they don't have to.

My Body, My Image Part 1: Fostering a Healthy Body Image in Children

Children suffer from body image problems just as much as adults. Body changes, puberty and an ongoing culture of thinness adds to a time of anxiety that can last into adulthood. How can we help children to accept and love their bodies?

Pregnancy is the wildest roller coaster you'll ever experience.

So you're pregnant, and you're over run with new feelings and physical changes, but whats happened to your self confidence and sex drive? Are they hiding behind that new roll, or maybe it's on those feet you can't see.

Sex Signals

Stop relying on horoscopes, bio-rhythms, or Facebook to figure out if someone likes you. Instead, turn to science!

How Orgasm Focus Almost Ruined A Relationship

Today’s article focuses on how sex focused around an orgasm can put a lot of stress on both parties, and even lead to break ups in some cases. We will discuss what the goal of sex really should be.

Gendered Technology: Sex Toys and the Perpetuation of Feminine/Masculine Ideals

On EdenFantasys.com, a search of the word “pink” yields 48 pages of content while a similar search of the word “blue” only produces 26. Traditional gendered ideals are upheld not in the functionality of sex objects, women’s toys are insertable while men’s come in the shape of disembodied torsos and vaginas, but even in their color and design.

Your "Flaws" are not Flaws

You know we've reached a very low-point once companies begin making products that make our armpits fit to wear sleeveless shirts. Our armpits? Seriously? We live in such a bizarre era. We've grown up to be ashamed of the hair on our legs, the wrinkles under our eyes, and the cellulite on our legs. We've been taught to be ashamed of our natural body. But really, is there anything actually wrong?

I Found My Sexy

I have never been overly comfortable about my body, but this summer I found something that makes me feel sexy and more confident. Even if the media tells you that you are not perfect, you can find your own perfect.

Stimulating the Prostate to Orgasm (I): General Advice and Manual Stimultion

This series of articles will discuss how to stimulate the prostate so as to achieve prostate orgasms. In this article, I offer some general advice and talk about manual stimulation.

Poisoning to Be Pretty

While the act of putting on your makeup in the morning may not seem to be of significance, studies have shown that it can have a grave impact on your health.

Sexis Subjective: Feeling Good Starts With You

When the warm weather hits, it's easy to start feeling self-conscious. The key to feeling good about yourself is to take active steps to feel good.

From Prude To Lewd

Our adventure from sexual repression to complete openness.

Busty Bitty : Finding the Breast Fit

There's something that I really need to get off of my chest: too many people are wearing the wrong bra size. Whether you have large breasts or not, you can still definitely benefit from wearing a bra that fits. Cramming your sweater puppies into any old piece of lingerie isn't any way for a civilized person to live, especially since there are so many resources available to help you find something flattering that fits.

Bipolar and Sex

I am diagnosed Bipolar II and my medication, like most antipsychotics, has caused me to lose my sex drive. This article is about my experience and how I handle the lack of desire with my live in boyfriend.

Courage in Kansas

Wichita has been without abortion services since the horrible murder of Dr. Tiller. But now, nearly four years later, Julie Burkhart and others step forward to fight the protesters to reopen the doors of the clinic and once again provide the constitutionally protected service.

BDSM 101: Erotic Asphyxiation

Today’s guide is going to discuss erotic asphyxiation, what it is, and the major safety concerns it has.

How Dangerous Is It To Be Messy?

I’ve seen some concern about the safety of various related activities: anal to oral, anal to vaginal, drinking urine, and urinating in the vagina. These sorts of activities are exciting and pleasurable for a minority of people. But I think most people’s natural repulsion lead them to over-state the dangers.

Sexual Myths: Debunking Them Part 4

Today’s article focuses on some common sexual myths you might have heard and helps to explain why they are wrong.

Sexual Myths: Debunking Them Part 3

Today’s article focuses on some common sexual myths you might have heard and helps to explain why they are wrong

Accepting The Skin I'm In

Summer is the season of baring skin, and for a girl who never tans but always burns, it's a time in which you can feel extremely self-conscious about being that "pasty girl."

Sexual Misconceptions: “The Loose Slut”

Today we are going to look at the sexual misconception of multiple partners leading to a loose vagina and long labia.

Summer helped me find myself!

Those of us who are above size average know all to well what kinda of emotions this time of year can bring to us. All of a sudden the few extra pounds we've gained over the winter, how un-tan we are and the memories of our last pedicure all come back to haunt us.

Loving My Body

If you’re unhappy with your body, there are two solutions. You can either change your body or you can change your attitude. They both have their challenges. And I’ve had some small success with both.

Sexual Myths: Debunking Them Part 2

Today’s article focuses on some common sexual myths you might have heard and helps to explain why they are wrong.

Sexual Myths: Debunking Them

Today’s article focuses on some common sexual myths you might have heard and helps to explain why they are wrong.

Sexy Starts With YOU

Summer is a time where we are bombarded with images of men with shirts and women in bikinis, and deciding to lounge around the beach or around the pool can be difficult. Here is my personal response to that pressure.

Urinary Tract Infections

Today I want to talk about urinary tract infections, because they can arise after you have had sex. I want to discuss treating them and preventing them.

Something I Wish I’d Known: A Woman’s First Penetrative Sex Shouldn’t Be Painful

I’m annoyed that I didn’t know about this before I had sex for the first time. I had no reason to be afraid.

Hello Beach, Goodbye Insecurities?

After hibernating through the long winter months, Spring has finally arrived! Some of the first signs of Spring are the days growing longer, flowers and trees budding and blooming, and the gyms flooding with its members getting their 'beach bodies' ready.

Letting Your Guy Go Down On You

Oftentimes I have heard women talk about how they are very self-conscious when it comes to oral sex. Today I want to reassure a lot of people that men like giving cunnilingus and help you let your man go down on you.

OM On My Way!

A total transformation is needed, a thorough cleansing of the body and soul. Unfortunately there is no "For Dummies" way to do this, so I am setting out to find my way to health and happiness.

Life as a cam girl

If any one ever had asked me if I thought I would ever be doing anything in life having to do with the sex industry I would have thought they were absurd. I was actually once a fairly shy person, however the lure of easy money can certainly help someone to overcome that. When I started talking and caming with people for money it was just a hobby. When I received my first bank deposit and realized how much I had received in spoils from my 'hobby,' that is when the game changed.

First Time Tips

Sex can be a wonderful experience that allows us to bond, explore, ignite and surrender to a person in ways nothing else can. It can also be the cause of heartache, regret, disappointment and life altering choices that leave us questioning why we did it in the first place.

Sending Dirty Photos

Today we discuss sending dirty photos, some tricks to it, and how to feel comfortable doing it.

My Changing Image

I have been looking into trying to change my inner views about what a body should look like. I want to be more positive and inclusive rather than sticking to the narrow guidelines that the media touts.

Maintaining a Healthy Body Weight

Today I want to look at how you maintain a healthy body weight. We will look at the psychology behind it and discuss fad diets.

Summer Bodies of All Sizes

The media bombards us with images of "the perfect body" every day; it even seems to become more rampant once the summer weather comes in. We are constantly told that "thin is beautiful," but I am here to tell you something. That something? YOU are beautiful just the way you are.

Spicing up your sex life!

If you want to learn new ways to make your sex life better, then read my article. I have more than one suggestion that may help you.

Abercrombie & Fitch's Body-Neagative Attitude Lands Them in Hot Water with Consumers

Abercrombie's CEO Mike Jeffries made it very clear that only cool, beautiful, popular, skinny people should be shopping in his stores. Not part of the cool crowd? He'd prefer you stay out.

Being Large and in Charge!

This article is for all the "big girls." Whether you're shy and withdrawn or really loud and proud of who you are, I think all girls should see themselves as beautiful. It took me a very long time to like myself, but I did learn that self-confidence can grow overnight!

Making Friends With the Ladies Downstairs

I've lived my life perpetually jealous of women who have an easy going relationship with their clit or g-spot. I always felt like I was in some kind of cold war with my body. I have decided to try to accept what my body likes instead of trying to trick it into liking what others do.

Summer Time = Sexy Time?

Summer seems to be an invitation to be sexier: we've all got an excuse to wear less clothing and suddenly it's okay (and maybe even expected) to be flashing more skin than we'd find acceptable any other time of the year. String bikinis, crop tops, short shorts, and see-through layers all become popular during the summer. The only problem is, we're not all comfortable baring that much skin, or, when we are, we realize we don't quite live up to the tanned, sexy goddesses of the media.

6 Ways To Stay a Healthy, Sexy Mom

Feeling sexy isn't always high on a mom's to-do list, but there are simple steps she can take to keep feeling sexy through motherhood.

3 Steps to Beautiful

Keeping a positive self image is difficult in this age of beach blonde Barbies and thin as rail models, but my 3 steps to beautiful help me see that my beauty is unique to me. In living by these steps, I've learned to see myself as beautiful without comparing myself to others.

Balanitis

A common condition and a painful one too. But one that you rarely hear discussed. Genital hygiene does more than keep things clean.

Loving Your Body Year Round

Everyone worries about at least one aspect of their body. While we can pile clothes on in the winter, summer clothing is more revealing. Here are some tips to help you love your body year round!

10 ways to celebrate your sexiness

We all deserve to feel sexy. But sometimes that can be tough in today's world. Here are 10 ways for you to keep yourself feeling sexy!

Whose responsibility is sexual education?

The state and church have (sometimes competing) interests in educating children about sex. Ultimately, however, the responsibility of sexual education falls on the parents.

Define This: Rubenesque

When someone looks at a larger or curvier woman, they will sometimes call her “Rubenesque,” but what exactly does that mean?

Returning To Intimacy When Cancer Has Changed Your Body Image

What happens after the diagnosis and the treatments? You have to find a new normal. That includes accepting your body changes. Whether you are single or in a committed relationship, things will be different. HOW different depends on YOU.

I'm Never Going to be White Girl Skinny, and I'm okay with That

There are some battles you're going to win, and some you're going to lose. Learning to pick your battles and accept what you can change about yourself really is a key to happiness.

Splash! It's Not Pee! (Or Why Squirting Is Vastly Different From Urinating)

Many people believe that the stuff that comes out when a woman "squirts" is urine, but most women who have experienced it will tell you otherwise, myself included. I took it upon myself to bust the myth, so without further ado, I present to you, my lovely reader, the difference between squirting and urinating, and how to tell which you're doing.

Making A Meal Of It

How safe, or otherwise, is the average man's ejaculate?

Define This - That Marvelous Moment Right before He Cums

It doesn't have a name and it doesn't last long. But there's that sudden moment where you know it's going to happen - and paying attention can make you feel great!

Studies Show Circumcision Reduces the Risk of HIV...So Now What?

Studies in Kenya and Uganda show that circumcision reduces the risk of contracting HIV, but does that mean circumcision should be the standard?

Sexual Education: Who is the teacher?

Saying who is responsible for educating the youth about sex is not as simple as it seems. There isn't one right or wrong answer, but I feel the best course of action is a united front between the home and school.

Sex Education: Science, not BS, please.

No matter what individual beliefs may be regarding sexual education, it is a public matter. Access should be easily available and the literature should be accurate.

Define This: The Frenulum Delta

Finding the sweet spot that is a penis' neatest secret.

A Sexless Relationship

Is it possible for a sexless relationship to last?

The Joy of Journaling

Have you ever thought of sitting down and recording your most intimate moments on paper? You should - you might be surprised at how much you discover.

Don't Just Lie Back And Hope You'll Enjoy It

You want your man to learn how to eat pussy? First, you should learn how to be eaten.

It's Only Premature If He Cums Before You Get There

Taking the sting out of premature ejaculation

Penis Appreciation Day

Our taxes are filed and spring is in the air. Let's make today a special day - for everyone.

Define This: In Praise of Pre-Cum

Yeah, that clear, sticky stuff that slimes up the sheets when you're messing around. But there's a lot more to it than that.

Taking Responsibility

When it comes to Sex Education, kids get information from all over; from church, school, and even parents. Who is the best one to be sharing the information? When thinking back to my own education, it's not hard to have an opinion.

Boy, Girl, or Both?...Part 2

In my last article, the topic of intersexuality was broached with a brief description of the term and its various conditions. In this article, I will explore the issues intersexuals are facing today, along with the strides they have made in the past century. I will be exploring one man’s experiences growing up as intersexual, along with our medical, cultural, and religious views on the topic. Read on for more.

Healing Depression Through Sex

Depression is a widespread mental illness that is often treated with chemical supplements such as antidepressants. What if medications don't work? What are you supposed to do when the depression just won't go away? Let me tell you how I found healing through love and sex.

Define This: Oral Compulsion

Oral Compulsion is defined as the habitual insertion of foreign objects into the mouth for reasons other than feeding. Thumbs, toys, fingernails...and yes, other things as well. But let's look at the wider picture first, and if you ever bit the head off your Ken doll, then you'll probably know what I mean.

Domestic Violence: The story of my mom and I

My mother had me at a young age, and my father was a deadbeat who thought he was going to be a rockstar. When my mom finally worked up the courage to walk away, she met "Jeff" and entered into a whole new nightmare.

Is Sex Addiction Real?

Most definitely yes! I was reminded of this subject over the weekend, while hearing a judgmental indictment of Tiger Woods' infidelity and divorce.

Who's responsible for sex education for kids?

Where should the burden fall? The schools? The parents? The Church? The internet?

So You Want to Make a Baby? A Guide to Conceiving

How hard can it be? Have lots of unprotected sex and it's bound to happen, right? Not always!

Early Labels Have Lasting Effects

A comment to a young girl, whether a well-placed compliment or a spiteful insult, can have lasting effects on future personality and sexuality.

Boy, Girl, or Both?

You're sitting in your ob-gyn's office holding your partner's hand. Your womb is full with your unborn child, and you're happy to finally get to see your baby on a monitor. It's your ultrasound, your doctor smiles and begins rubbing that cold sticky gel onto your stomach. Then they of course ask, "Are you hoping for a boy or a girl?" Like any good parent you reply, "So long as it's healthy." But is this really the truth? 1 in 1,500 people is born intersexual.

Define This: Popped Cherry

Often used as a term to indicate that one's virginity has been lost or taken, this term has brought about many misconceptions about the hymen. This irrefutably sexist term has grossly led to shame and anxiety about first-time sex. But wait, there’s more to it than that...

Sex Education is MY Responsibility

Educating my children on sexual health and practices is MY responsibility. My girls are still very young, but their education has already begun.

I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar

Just a few short decades ago, women had no choice but to depend on others, but as the years go by, more and more women are breaking the mold of the past and standing on their own two feet. Independence is important for us all, especially since there won't always be someone there to provide for us.

Share and Share Alike

Or: if you're so convinced that I should swallow your cum, let's see you have a taste of it too.

Beautify Your Body: Nipple Piercings Q&A

Ever wanted to be that bad and sexy girl or boy? Do you want to vamp up your style and become a more confidant you? Maybe you just want to add some extra excitement in bed or surprise your partner with something new? No matter your motivation, nipple piercing is for you. Here I answer some of the most common questions about these piercings to help you gain the confidence to take the jump.

Who's Responsible?

The decision to have a child is momentous. It's not something that just changes part of your life, it changes your entire life. In choosing to bring up a child, you, as the parent, are responsible for providing for that child, and for teaching them everything they need to know; from learning to walk, to talking, potty training, reading, and beyond.

When a Mommy and a Daddy Love Each Other Very Much...

The talk. Birds and the bees. We've all heard of it one way or another. It once was the sole responsibility of a child's parents to educate their son or daughter on sex, and eventually schools picked it up into the curriculum. There have, however, been some recent protests by parents and schools alike on sex ed. So, here's the question: Who should be educating our kids on sex?

The Birds and the Bees

Whose job is it? The parents are the ones who created the child, but of course, teachers are paid to teach! So, who exactly should be teaching children sexual education, and to what extent?

Contraception Part 3 --Barriers, Permanent, and Fertility Awareness

Today's article focuses on three other types of contraceptive methods. We will discuss their efficacy, any special features, and their side effects.

Boys Like Boobies

A lot of guys dream of a girl with big tits. However, even with a flat chest, you can make those dreams come true.

Contraception Part 2 -- Hormonal Birth Control

Today's article focuses on contraception using hormonal means. We will talk about the types, how you use them, and the side effects they have.

To Whom Does The Responsibility Of Sexual Education Fall To?

In this day and age, who should be responsible for sex ed? What should a sexual education program teach?

Erectile Dysfunction and the Infidelity Cure

The pills don't work, nor does the therapy, or the lifestyle changes. He even gave up smoking. But, a quick kiss and cuddle with a comparative stranger.... What would you do next?

Contraception Part 1 -- An introduction

Contraception (preventing pregnancy) can be very confusing as many forms exist out there. This three part series will focus on how they work, their effectiveness, and the side effects they come with.

SexIs Subjective: Pushing Away Education

Few people would disagree that parents are responsible for providing their children with the means to be happy, healthy, productive members of society. However, with many of the aspects going into this being taken over by the education system already, where does the burden of sexual education fall?

Erectile Dysfunction... Sweet!

ED has a lot of possible causes, and you can spend a fortune on drugs and doctors trying to figure out what they are. Or, you could just stop using artificial sugar substitutes. There’s a libido-killer in your larder, and you need to get it out.

BDSM 101 – Learning to Hit Your Partner

The act of learning to hit your partner, when they ask for it, can be difficult for some people. This article helps explain why someone might enjoy it, and how you can learn to be okay with fulfilling your partner's sexual desires.

Buying a Prostate Massager

So you have decided you want to try some prostate play, but are unsure of which one to get. There are a lot of them, so it can be confusing. This article will talk about all of the different features and styles prostate massagers have, so you can decide what would work best for you

Prostate Play

Today’s article is on the prostate. We uncover this mysterious organ and learn what it does, where it resides, and why there is so much talk about it.

Battle of the 'Bators: Fleshlight vs. Tenga!

When discussing male masturbators, two names consistently rise to the top: Tenga and Fleshlight. As both products can be expensive, one really needs to understand the pros and cons of each to make an educated purchase. This battle royale will hopefully help you in deciding which of these two fine products will make it to the top of your "Desert Island Masturbator" list!

BDSM 101 -- Impact Play

The art of hitting a person with an instrument can create a large array of pleasant, erotic, and unique sensations. Today we will talk about the different types of toys, and how they vary in each category, and what effect that has on the experience they create.

BDSM DIY -- Wooden Paddle

Today we explore how to make a wooden paddle. This articles talks briefly about how and why people spank, before discussing in detail how you can create your very own paddle and fulfill all of your spanking dreams!

Influential Women - Jenny Lawson / The Bloggess

In honor of International Women's Day I'd like to share two women who have had a profound influence on me. I first wrote about Amanda Palmer. The second, yet equal in influence, is Jenny Lawson/The Bloggess. Her battle with depression and anxiety while being courageously true to herself has greatly influenced me.

Influential Women - Amanda Palmer

In honor of International Women's Day I'd like to share two women who have had a profound influence on me. The first is Amanda Palmer whose blogs, tweets, music and overall philosophy have changed the way I look at myself in a profound way.

Tracking Your Ovulation for Fertility

The act of trying to get pregnant can become stressful if it is not happening within the time frame that you want it to happen. This article is going to focus on how you can track when you ovulate and use that to help you become pregnant.

BDSM 101--Rope Bondage

There are many implements you can use to tie someone up. One of the most versatile of these is rope. Today's article will focus on the different types of rope and positions associated with rope bondage.

Miscarriage and Marriage

Like millions of women in Australia and around the world, I have suffered the pain and heartache of a miscarriage. I understood the pain, the grief and the loss of what had happened, but what I wasn’t expecting was the way in which my husband began to react to me sexually after and me with him as well.

BDSM 101 -- Chastity

Chastity play is a type of BDSM that denies a person the ability to have sex and masturbate. Today, we will talk about it, what toys are used to enforce it, and why someone would enjoy the experience.

6 Realistic Ways to Increase Confidence

I think most of us have, at some point in time, lacked confidence. We've read plenty of tips to increase our confidence, but the lack didn't subside. The typical confidence tips are: get a haircut, do something wild, have your makeup done professionally, and look in the mirror and repeat "I am beautiful." Those "tips" never quite cut it for me, so I thought I'd share some things that have.

BDSM 101 -- Gags

BDSM play often involves a lot of toys, and deciding on the one that suits you best can be difficult. This article focuses on why people use gags, what the different types are, and how to safely use them.

BDSM DIY -- Rope Flogger

When it comes to BDSM equipment, it can get very costly very fast, and you may not even be sure if your fantasies will line up with what you truly like. So here is a guide to make a very cheap yet fun rope flogger. So you can both have a flogger with which to have fun and do a test run to see if you want to invest in the future.

Solo Sexuality

When most people think of the term "Solo Sexuality", it probably has a negative connotation to them. I, on the other hand, have always found it fun, interesting, and often an exciting alternative to engaging in sex with someone else. Masturbation has always been one of my favorite pastimes.

BDSM 101 - Step 1 Communication!

So you have decided you want to try out the big world of BDSM, but where in the world do you start? You start with talking to your partner. It is the fundamental aspect of BDSM and I will tell you why.

Piercing the Hood

As you may have guessed from the article title, this is about my experience with a genital piercing, a vertical clitoral hood piercing to be exact. This is from the perspective of a cisgendered woman, and will be largely focusing on my relationship with my vulva.

Shame Free Sex and Spicing Things Up

Introduce a little whimsy into your sexual encounters,and find out where your true passions lie. Come in, leave your worries and your cares. Exploring your sexuality is natural and healthy, so let's find out what suits you, from toys to partners. Be yourself; I won't judge...

A Tale of Many Mikva’ot

For thousands of years this ritual act of Judaism has been passed down from mother to daughter. However, if you dare to ask a Jewish wife about her mikvah experience, she will often walk away. These moments are very private and never shared openly. Therefore, for the purpose of this article, names and some places have been changed to protect those I spoke to about their experience.

Prostate Massage (II): Prostate Orgasms

A lot of men have what they call "prostate orgasms". But what are they?

Forget Taste and Texture... Forget the Guy as well. Swallowing Cum is FUN FUN FUN

Sex is not a duty, it should not be task. And a blowjob should not be hard work. Some thoughts on getting the most out of giving head, and getting even more from his orgasm.

12 Things That Increase Fertility

Since writing about my miscarriage, some of you have asked if I knew how to increase the chances of fertility. Soon after that, I began writing a few of the things that I had stored in my mind. Now, I've finally found the time to sit down and share those thoughts.

One Generation to Another: Interviewing Mom

My mother is a 58 year old woman, who grew up in a very different time. Views on women, on life, and love have changed a lot since she was my age. So how does a woman who’s been married twice, had three children, and lived such a full life view womanhood? I interviewed her recently to find out just what she thinks about women, motherhood, love, marriage, and even sex.

Oral Sex and Swallowing: How good is it?

Many girls love to blow their boyfriends or partners before intercourse, or just for the sake of the activity. But sometimes guys cum during oral, and the question is: should the girl swallow or not?

Define This: Penile Fracture

Ouch! It may be a very unpleasant thing to even think about, but penis health is important. While penile fracture may not happen to you, knowing what it is and what to do may save a penis near you.

Fat Girls in Real Life

As a young BBW (Big Beautiful Woman) sexuality, self esteem, and romance aren't quite the same as they are for the average Jane.

Girls and Porn

Every guy has at least seen one porn movie in his life, but many argue that women don't watch or enjoy porn. That's total BS! Here's why:

Rough sex and domination

Many people like sex to be rough and vigorous, to be dominated and taken over by someone else. But to what extent?

Define This: Bugchasing and the Quest to Acquire HIV

Bugchasing: the quest to acquire HIV (human immunodeficiency virus). That's right, it's a thing! Are you asking, "But why would someone ever want to get HIV?" Read on and find out...

Becoming Well-Known on Eden

Your friend just told you about this cool new site where you can get free sex toys in exchange for genuine reviews.

Sex While Fat: How I Learned to Accept my Body and You Can Too

Being a fat chick can mean having a hard time feeling sexy and confident in the bedroom at times, or all the time, for some. Instead of trying to hide from your weight in hopes your man will ignore the elephant in the room (pun intended) here’s how I learned to get over my body issues and you can too.

Medi-Kink: Wanna Play Doctor?

As children we've all played doctor at some point, and there are so many 'naughty nurse' costumes available on the market it's no wonder some people have a medical fetish. That urge to be examined and taken care of is almost a basic need. For others the role is reversed and they can't help but relish in the power that goes with playing doctor, nurse, or dentist. But what is medical fetish, who does it, and what do they do?

Female Ejaculation: The Real Deal on Squirting

There’s no other mysterious phenomenon like squirting that attracts such interest and attention. Yet there’s little real knowledge about squirting beyond urban legend. What is squirting, really?

Don't Rape Not "Don't Get Raped"!!

Women are told to avoid walking back home alone after dark, to avoid dressing provocatively, and to avoid getting too drunk in order to avoid getting raped. But is this the solution?

Prostate Massage (I): How I Discovered Prostate Orgasms

The first in a series of articles on prostate orgasms, this one describes my long struggle to learn how to have them.

Talking to Teens About Sex.

When is it time? What should you cover? What shouldn't you cover? Should the school be helping?

War on Abortion Opens New Front Line in North Dakota

In North Dakota, Senate bill 2303 recognizes fertilized eggs as having full legal rights.

Benefits to being sexy: Pole dancing is good for your health.

Pole dancing goes beyond sexy. It is good for your mind and body. On top of that it make you feel sexier than ever!

Menstruation: “Red Days” - A Jewish Perspective

Although, it is a natural process of the body, the topic of a woman’s period is often off limits. In this day and age, with sex education in school, sexuality in virtually all television programs, all the progress in women’s rights, why are women still plagued by the old age stigma of being “unclean” or “dirty” during their ?time of the month'?

Green Is the New Red

If you want to do something unique this Valentines Day, reconsider your carbon footprint and go green. Not with envy but with love. Romance that is healthy, eco-conscious AND sexy is the way of the future, in case you hadn’t heard.

What His Condom Choice Says About Him

More accurate than a horoscope, more judgmental than US Magazine, and more wrapped in rubber than a set of rubber band balls, this is an easy to access guide to what you can learn about a partner when they pull a condom out.

I <3 Me! How to Spend Valentine's Day Alone and Love It!

Being alone on any holiday can put us in a terrible mood, but being single on Valentine's Day is sometimes the worst. Happy couples can make you want to retch when you’re single. So how do you enjoy a day notoriously for couples when you're not in a relationship?

Nobody wants to be alone on V-Day but sometimes it can't be helped. That's no reason not to enjoy the day and show your love for the most important person in your life: You!

SexFeed: Uncle Poodle of "Here Comes Honey Boo Boo" Tells the World He is HIV Positive

Lee Thompson, famous from the hit show “Here Comes Honey Boo Boo,” came out last month about his HIV status. Here is his tale.

Is Porn Ruining Men’s Sex Lives?

Some people are starting to wonder if the instant gratification of high-speed, online pornography is warping men’s sexuality.

Preschool Closes Amidst Sex Scandal Between Students

A California Lutheran preschool is in hot water due to allegations of sex between its young students. Unanswered questions still exist about where students learned of these sexual acts in the first place and what the long-term consequences will be.

Could you have HIV/AIDS?

Symptoms of HIV can take up to 12 years to appear, allowing some people to have it without being aware. Understanding the virus, modes of transmission, and precautions can help us prevent the spread of HIV/AIDS as well as know what to do in case of exposure.

How to prepare yourself before anal sex or anal play

Many girls want to try anal sex but are afraid that "something" might happen that will embarrass them. Here are some things, that you can do before anal sex, to help you feel more prepared.

Mutual Masturbation is a wicked alternative to going "all the way"

Looking for something new to do in bed? With a new partner and not ready to do the penetration route just yet? Having trouble figuring out exactly how your lover likes it? A bit of an exhibitionist or voyeur? Mutual masturbation may be new to some people, but it can be one of the hottest, simplest acts for both foreplay or the main attraction.

Does Size Really Matter?

Many people are hyped up over the idea that the size of your penis affects your sexual performance. Is that really true and if not why do people think this way?

Minding the Mind: A Friendly PSA

A healthy mind is just as, if not more, important than a healthy body. You go to the doctors when you're sick, but what about when you're unwell?

Kegel Workouts and Importance (for males!)

Kegels aren't just for ladies! Did you know that working out your kegel muscles can lead to improved urinary continence, better prostate health and even multiple orgasms? It's time to learn your facts and start your workout!

Visually Enhanced Psychosexual Therapy (VEST)

Everyone knows about sexual dysfunction, and those who have experienced it may have tried a score of medical “solutions” with less than fruitful results. For those who have found other “non-medicinal” interventions that have worked, perhaps this article may not be news for you so much as proof that getting reacquainted with your own body, and that of your loved one, can do more for you than any medicine can.

Becoming More Proactive In Healthcare

Birth control is a personal choice, but how can we, as women, make the right choices for ourselves when vital information is kept far out of our reach and, when most of the time, we don't even know to go looking for it until something goes wrong? Thanks to the internet and some digging, we can learn to be more proactive in our own healthcare choices.

Getting the Snip, Part Three: Another Option

After deciding as a couple to get a vasectomy (part 1) and discovering that complications would prevent this from happening quickly (part 2), we had to look again at our birth control options.

Starting Sex Ed Classes: Maturity Before Age

Children are hitting puberty younger than ever and are attending sex education classes at an earlier age, but not all children are ready to deal with the information that is being presented.

Daddy Issues: What Do You Do When Daddy Leaves You?

I know plenty of people that have had issues with their father growing up. And, when they grew up to be an adult, a lot of their issues-including their love life were said to be the result of having an absent father. While I do believe a "dead beat" parent can certainly have an effect on your psyche, I do not believe that you cannot shape yourself to be a better you from it.

Men: Don't Feel Worried About Your Woman's New Sex Toy

Many men feel anxious and uncomfortable when their woman gets a toy. I am here to tell them why they shouldn't feel that way.

The Forbidden Fruit

Anal sex is one of those things that are considered a "taboo", but that is what makes it so interesting.

Control Yourself During Sex

Many guys suffer from premature ejaculation. Here are a few tips and tricks I've picked up from my personal experiences with my boyfriend.

My Story: Recognizing and Preventing Rape

This a bit heavy for a first article, but as someone who has been a victim, rape is a serious issue that men and women need to stay informed about. I admire the magazine Cosmopolitan for making a monthly article about the issue of campus rape and actually doing something to raise awareness of the problem. In this article you will learn about my experience and ways to be aware and safe.

S-T-I Can't Believe This Is Happening To Me!

How can a piece of latex change your life? In more ways than I had considered. It took catching something to make me realize that the few seconds it takes to wrap it can make all the difference in the world.

Spanking Myself

Self-spanking is like masturbation: You can do it because you don't have someone who will do it with you, or you can just do it because you enjoy it in its own right. But it turns out spanking yourself is not as easy as you might think. Aren't you glad I'm here with some advice?

Healing through Masturbation

Life is full of ironies. This is how to have better sex with others by having sex with yourself.

Why Are Some Forms of Attraction Deemed "Sexualities," while Others Are Philias?

Pedophilia, necrophilia, zoophilia. What do all of these words have in common, and why do they often evoke a reaction of "ugh?" As someone whose biggest fetish is pregnancy and who fits much of the criteria of maiesiophilia, the terms "philia" and "paraphilia" interest me. Why are some forms of attraction deemed "sexualities" (such as homosexuality, demisexuality, pomosexuality), while others are philias?

In Praise of the PAP Smear

There are few other things most women hate having to do. Despite its necessity, the PAP smear is a procedure only half of women in the United States schedule annually during the peak ages of HPV exposure. Yet, it’s the only definitive test for cervical cancers.

Whose rights are it anyway?

Is there a simple answer to the question of who has the right to make a decision on abortion? Of course not! In such a horrible situation, who gets the final say?

The Clitoris: The Tip of an Iceberg

Did you know that the size of the clitoris is comparable to that of an average penis? The large majority of the clitoral network is internal, we only get to see the very tip on the outside. There's so much more than the little man in the boat!

College Vending Machine Supplies Plan B

A small school in Pennsylvania has stirred up a big controversy by allowing students access to the controversial Plan B contraceptive through a vending machine on campus.

Illinois Court Hands Down Ruling On Plan B

After a 2005 mandate requiring all pharmacies supply the controversial contraceptive and a 2011 challenge to the law, an Illinois appellate court has made a ruling about the drug's distribution.

Little-Known Side Effects of Birth Control

Hormonal birth control like the Pill, the patch, a shot like Depo-Provera and Nuva-Ring all provide your body with the kinds of and similar levels of hormones produced in the early stages of pregnancy in order to control fertility. Yet, certain side effects are not revealed because they were determined to be "irrelevant" to your experience of the drug.

Israeli Ban of Ultra Skinny/Unrealistic Models

Learn more about the Israeli ban on models and image editing encouraging unhealthy ideals.

Master Debater: Why People Shouldn't Masturbate

Aristotle said "It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it." Intrigued by that challenge, I’ve decided to write an article to defend some ideas that I normally disagree with. What better place to start than with an idea so antithetical to my nature that voicing support for it would cause me to be engulfed in flames of hypocrisy. That’s right, we’re going to discuss why people shouldn’t masturbate.

A Beginner's Guide To Safewords: What Is A Safeword And Why Do I Need One?

What do you do when "YES, YES, YES" turns into "NO, NO, NO?" Safewords are an invaluable tool to have when you are involved in rough play. In this guide, I will explain what a safeword is and why they are good to have, because in the BDSM world "No" doesn't always mean "No."

It Takes Two

Abortion is such a hot topic, but it's often considered as a "woman's choice" problem. Who gets say over what happens to her body? But ultimately, it isn't just her body in question.

What About Him?

It takes two to make a baby, but it only takes one person to decide if that embryo is born or not. Should the man have any say in what happens?

MrWilly's Guide To Anal Adventures

Not sure how to proceed with anal? Read on, and get my tips for a more awe inspiring anal adventure!

Define This: Pheromones

You're scanning through various massage oils and lotions here on Edenfantasys, and you see that word again. Pheromones. But what are they? What are they doing in your massage lotion? And most importantly, do they work?

New Year, Same Me

Almost every year, I decide not to make a New Year's resolution. This is mostly because of cynicism, and watching other peoples' resolutions- mainly my mother's goal every year to lose weight- fail over and over again. This year is slightly different though, because I actually want a change, and am going to bring it about.

Is abortion the decision of the mother alone?

Should the father of a child have a say in whether or not a child is aborted?

Sexual Anatomy 201: The 18 Parts of the Clitoris

Did you know the most of the clitoris is hidden from view? Can you name the many parts of the clitoris? The key to understanding something is to truly study it!

What Rights?

Many people bring up the idea of requesting a father's signature before a woman can get an abortion. These people do not think of the consequences of such actions. These measures are not only undue burdens, illegal under Roe v. Wade, but also horribly oppressive measures that would force women to give birth against their will.

Define This: Looning

It comes in many colors. It's smooth and fun to play with. If you put your mouth on it and blow, it'll get big. What is it?

Masturbation: It is Perfectly Fine!

Flicking your bean, flogging the dolphin, jerking the gherkin...Whatever you call it, it is perfectly safe. It's also healthy!

Pregnancy and Trans People

When you say, "Should the father have a say in the pregnancy?" what do you mean by "father" and do you mean it cis-sexistly? What about trans* people?

Define This: Fat Admirer

Finding fat people sexually attractive is more complicated than it seems and far more than it should be. Sometimes it has to be hidden; it's not always believed and makes dating difficult. Still, it's just a preference and shouldn't risk widespread ridicule or ostracism.

Racing Against the Clock

In today's feminist-oriented girl power culture, women are encouraged to pursue a career and find themselves before settling down. But too often now, women are finding that they've waited to long and their fertile years are long behind them.

The Tale of the Survivor

Survivors of sexual assault are people made sensitive by not only the attack but also by the treatment they receive from society.

New Years Resolutions ~ Sexually Speaking

My sexual resolutions for the New Year are...

A Father's Rights Don't Trump A Mother's

While I do acknowledge that a father has rights, I simply can't view a scenario in which they trump a woman's rights.

Being Spanked

I like to be spanked. Why? Several reasons, all of which I talk about here.

It’s here – the era of incurable Gonorrhea

Antibiotics are no longer effective against a super-strain of the sexually transmitted disease.

Should His Opinion Count?

The choice to have an abortion is one of the many things that empowers us as women. The right to make a choice for our own bodies. However, a child is not created by just a woman. Should the father have a say in the case of an abortion?

Pro-Choice, but Whose Choice?

When it takes two people to make something, who gets more of a say when choosing to unmake it? Normally, the clear answer is both parties, but what if that something affects one party way more than another? Such is the dilemma of abortion. Doesn't he have a say in whether the child should live?

Losing innocence while gaining perspective.

I was young, impressionable and I just really didn't wanna be the last virgin in a group of supposed Sex Goddesses (my friends).

Define This: Formicophilia

One of the strangest "philias" out there, which just proves that humans can find pretty much anything erotic.

Losing Your Libido At 35

I hear people complaining about becoming 40 all the time. Hell, they made a movie about it for God's sake. I'm not 40 yet, but I still feel the strain of my libido slipping away. I feel the urge for sex slowly fading. My energy is not there. I'm here to tell you turning 35 kind of sucks! However, it doesn't have to.

"Thinking-Off" (The Thought Induced Orgasm)

Since the 1970s, the connection between thought and orgasms has been a hot topic (Masters & Johnson)...Mental orgasms, Energy Orgasms, Thinking Off, Thought-gasms, Thought-induced orgasms. I am sure many of you have seen the show “Strange Sex” on TLC, specifically the episode about Thinking Off, but has anyone really thought about it? In this article I highlight my own experiences with thought-gasms, that they are in fact real, and what exactly you might want to know about them.

From the Mouths of Babes

I had my children as a teenager. I struggled with their irresponsible father and my teenage children know the paths that I've taken and they respect them. I've always told them that I'd respect theirs as well. However, you'll never know what they are until you talk to them.

Bustin’ My Balls: Or How A Vasectomy Hits A Man Where it Hurts

When I had my vasectomy, it wasn’t merely physical discomfort I had to deal with.

Define This: Feederism

Everyone would love to be able to eat anything they wanted without gaining any extra weight. Well, almost everyone.

Anaphrodisiacs

While you can read a lot about libido-enhancing aphrodisiacs and what to give your significant other to eat if you want an exciting night, there is little talk about natural anaphrodisiacs, foods and herbs that blunt the libido. So, here is everything to know about them.

Sex Myths in Our Schools

Educating our children about sex is one of the most important lessons we can teach them in life. High school is a breeding ground for misinformation and peer pressure. Get to your kids first before their peers do.

The power in your feet - A guide to giving a fantastic foot job

Did you know that the most common fetish in the western world is the foot fetish? Odds are good that your significant other likes your feet too. Or maybe you already know he does and you want to knock his socks off with a hot surprise. Or he asked if you would do it. If so, here are some tips for you to make your man moan and groan!

Define This: the Oedipus and Electra complexes

It was Freud who penned the expression for the first time, but Jung defined the meaning differently, and contemporary psychologists are on different opinions. Here is a little summary on them.

Define This: Vore

Have you had the desire to eat someone today? Whole? There's a rare fantasy fetish floating around the web called Vore. Frequently compared to cannibalism, vore has many different categories that appeal to vorarephiliacs.

Breastfeed Your Man

Would you breastfeed your man? Breast milk is extremely nutritious. There are many couples who enjoy an adult breastfeeding relationship everyday. Between adults, it can be a very rewarding, pleasurable, and intimate act.

SexIs Subjective: Equal Rights?

Normally when you see the words "equal rights" you think of race and sexual equality; but there is another topic on my mind at the moment, one that's hard to address without offending at least a few people - Do men have the right to decide whether or not the person they impregnated gets an abortion?

Cock-Stuffing

In this article, you will learn about cock-stuffing, or urethral play, and the risks associated with it. While urethral play can be a gratifying sexual experience, it can also harvest unseen dangers.

Contraceptive Series Part 7: Ortho Evra, the Birth Control Patch

This is the seventh installment of my contraceptive series, in which I will provide accessible information about Ortho Evra, the only available transdermal contraceptive in America at this time. This article will provide information about the basics of Ortho Evra— everything you need to know when making a decision about what contraceptive is best for you.

Letters to myself

When I was still a teen, I think around 14 or 15, I red a book series where the main character girl would write letters to her older self, to be opened and red ten years later. I liked the idea and decided to follow her suit and started writing for myself. Here I would like to share same excerpts with you that have any relevance to sexuality.

Porn Desensitization

While porn is a fun and exciting experience in aiding sexual intercourse or masturbation, there are some harmful elements to watching an excess of it. In essence, our brain's reward center is the culprit. Unfortunately, many people suffer from porn addiction. Recognizing what causes porn addiction is the second step in recovery. The first is realizing there is a problem.

When Our Breasts Sag

Some of us have a bit of give in the boob area. Considerations on achieving a pair of firm breasts should not jump first to surgery. There are some things we can do to prevent a sagging pair and maintain our chest puppies. As always, hard work is involved.

Contraceptive Series Part 6: NuvaRing, the Vaginal Ring

This is the sixth installment of my Contraceptive Series, in which I will provide accessible information about NuvaRing, the only vaginal ring available in America at this time. This article will provide information about the basics of NuvaRing— everything you need to know when making a decision about what contraceptive is best for you.

Clearing the hurdles: Our struggle to conceive a child (Part Six)

Before we get into this, does anyone else see sex toys wherever you go? I think once you're around them long enough, you just naturally start to see dildos and vibrators in every day objects. Going to see a doctor will bring this out ten fold. Everything just eventually looks like a vibrator. Then suddenly the whole thing becomes something pulled from the pages of an erotic novel. Maybe it's just me. Probably. Have I mentioned that I am a little twisted? Anyway...let's move on.

Everyone Is, In Fact, Sexy

Social media tries to tell us how to define what is sexy, but of course, most of us do not conform. Each and every one of us has our own preferences on who we think is sexy. Each and every one of us has our own kink. Kinking it up is just one of our ways we rebel against sexual conformity. Everyone is sexy.

The Singletonian’s guide to a happy “Nude Year”

When the new year hits, some of us will be watching the ball drop in Singleton. For us permanent residents, that's just the right place to be. Here are one Singletonian's resolutions for a happy, healthy, and sexy new year.

Can't Stand to Attention?

Having trouble getting your friend up? No worries! Many men may experience this problem once in a while and I'll give you some tips on how to get your friend standing up at attention!

No, You Can't Treat Breast Cancer by Squeezing Your Breasts

The headlines were unbelievable. Simply squeezing the breasts could treat cancer, or prevent it, depending on where you got your source. Hey, it's science! Men (and some women) had fantasies of going to work in the new field of therapeutic breast massage. But while the story is based in truth, you have to go to the source to find it.

Anal Play

Are you wanting to try anal but have doubts about you or your partner? If you are read my article and I hope it helps.

The Prostate and You

The prostate is a big deal. Learn more about it!

Kink vs. Fetish

You say “toe-may-toe,” maybe I say “toe-mah-toe.”

Clearing the hurdles: Our struggle to conceive a child (Part Three)

Our battle to become pregnant had a lot of downs and one very special up.

Clearing the Hurdles: Our Struggle To Conceive a Child (Part One)

My wife and I have been together for a little over eleven years now. In that time, we have had our ups and downs. A lot more downs then ups, to be honest. One of our constant struggles is the inability to get pregnant. Over the course of eleven years, we have had our fair share of heartache, near death experiences, and an unbelievable miracle that has has now become my lil' six year old whirlwind of energy. Even so, we still wish it was easier on us to conceive a child.

BDSM 101: Personal Responsibility

Just because you're a submissive doesn't mean you aren't responsible for your actions.

An illustrated guide to creating a safe and secure self-bondage system

In life, you do not always have a partner to play with – sad but true. Maybe because you’re single, maybe because they aren’t into your kink, or maybe you just want some quality time for yourself.

Define This: Father complex - what it is, and what it isn't

Freud and Jung were the first ones to describe the phenomenon, but the views have since changed. Contemporary psychologists do not quite agree on what is and what is not a father complex – some even argue there is no such thing. In this article, I have tried to collect the most important highlights and features of the phenomenon.

Erotic Capital: Owning Our Sexuality

The signs are unmistakable. Women are owning sexuality in powerful and disquieting ways. Is the world ready for the future of femininity and feminism?

Push Her Magic Button Just Right

So you decided you wanted to know more about pleasuring yourself or your girlfriend? Or maybe she simply pulled your hand on her clitoral area? You looked up tutorials and guides, and there came a line: “stimulate her clit”. But it arrived without instructions.

Define This: Watersports

What's this piss about pissing? Learn about watersports, including the clinical term and definition!

It’s official: Homosexuality Isn’t Genetic, But It’s not a “Choice” Either

“Gay gene” or external cues during gestation? Either way, it’s looking like Lady Gaga’s right, after all.

Sex after a C-section: Feeling Sexy with Scars

As a mother with two C-sections under her belt, I know that it can be hard to find that area of my body sexy. It is important to recognize the amazing feat that you accomplished, while obtaining those scars!

Contraceptive Series Part 5: Depo-Provera, The Birth Control Shot

This is the fifth installment of my Contraceptive Series, in which I will provide accessible information about Depo-Provera, the only injectable option available in America at this time. This article will provide information about the basics of Depo-Provera— everything you need to know when making a decision about what contraceptive is best for you.

Bipolar: Living upside down

The world is hard enough to figure out without the instability of bipolar. Up and down, insanity and complete clarity. My mind is constantly betraying me. My emotions- are they real or are they exaggerated? Normal situations become a puzzle, always wondering what's reality and what is strictly emotional. This is my story of finding BALANCE in an otherwise upside down world.

SexIs Subjective: My Sister-In-Law wants to give my Mother a vibrator.

My sister-in-law wants to give my mother a vibrator. I don't think this is a good idea. I swear her doctor's got her on goofballs.

Learning The Ropes: A Guide To Different Bondage Rope

It is easy to get lost in the knotted jungle of ropes. Here is some help for finding your way out of the forest!

The Virgins of the Modern World: Different Classes of Virginity in Today's Society

Today, a virgin is not simply a virgin. It is no longer as simple as deciding what sexual acts you want, or don't to want to engage in. In our society, virginity means one thing for one virgin and a completely different thing for another, it's a debatable topic. So the question is - what makes someone a virgin and who can claim to be a "True Virgin," in this twisted world filled with varying descriptions and deceptions?

Is your Christmas gift Inappropriate?

Why are sex toys viewed as taboo? Why would it be embarrassing to unwrap a sex toy in front of the family? After all gifts should be something that is useful. What could be more useful than a gift that is good for your health, gives you contentment, and faithfulness to oneself?

Giving and receiving oral!

Are you a little iffy about trying oral or even giving it? Well read my article and I will try to help you the best I can.

Adding toys to your sex life.

Are you curious about bringing a little bit of spice to the bedroom?

Kinky University - College Campus BDSM Clubs

With "50 Shades of Grey," the once hidden world of kink, fetish, and BDSM has stepped out of the dark shadows of society and is now front and center in the limelight. Not only in book stores, but also on many university campuses across America, the world of BDSM is coming out of the closet and its practitioners are finding acceptance.

How crabs saved my life. Well...sort of.

The best thing about being young and sexually active is that sooner or later you might just stumble across an STD or two. If you're lucky, you may escape some of the very major ones we all know are out there, so please play it safe. With that said, even if you do get an STD, sometimes, and very rarely now...they can help fix the path you're on.

Contraceptive Series Part 4: Implanon, the Hormonal Implant

This is the third installment of my Contraceptive Series, in which I will provide accessible information about Implanon, the only hormonal implant option available in America at this time. This article will provide information about the basics of Implanon— everything you need to know when making a decision about what contraceptive is best for you.

Top 25 Most Popular Articles in October 2012

What else would be on our minds besides Halloween and Breast Cancer Awareness in October? Sex work, body positivity, and – of course – the election.

Understanding The Female Orgasm.

If you've been having trouble reaching the big "O," it may not be your partner's inability to please you. It may be a misunderstanding as to what part of your lady bits needs to be manipulated for an earth-shattering climax.

Statistics or Homophobia: Debating the Ban on Gay Blood Donations

One could argue the ban on gay and bisexual men donating blood isn’t a matter of homophobia – it’s statistics. But why, then, are other equally at-risk groups not excluded from donating?

Seventeen Magazine and Body Image

Recently, Seventeen magazine posted a BMI calculator on its website. The BMI levels, when compared with the Center For Disease Control's levels, are extremely low. BMI is a very controversial subject, with disagreement about whether it's valid or not. But Seventeen has been blasted for basically telling underweight girls that they are normal, and normal girls that they are fat. And I think we can all agree that's not a healthy message.

My Journey of Self Discovery

I've always been awkward, a prisoner only to my own anxieties and fears. I don't have legitimate fear of harm, but I fear what people might think of me.

Sex Feed: Debunking Myths

New research puts to bed myths about female porn stars

To Circumcise or Not to Circumcise?

My wife and I have just had our first child. With his arrival, the biggest question besides "is he ok?" was, "are you getting him circumcised?" Yes, but was it medical relevance or just our preference behind the choice?

How to influence the taste of your semen

Ever wondered what it would be like if your partner swallowed your cum? Maybe even tried it? And did you ever wonder what it would be like for your partner to swallow it?

The power in his hands - a guide to fingering a girl

So you decided you wanted to treat your girlfriend better and enhance the experience for her – good decision! Women like to be pampered and appreciated, and they are able to reach several orgasms during one act – so yes, why not?

Define This: Blue Balls

It is real, it's scientifically proven, and it blows! Learn all about blue balls!

Letter from the Editor - World AIDS Day 2012

I never know what to say when it comes to World AIDS Day. You'd think a topic so broad as HIV/AIDS awareness would give a writer idea-overload, but it always leaves me speechless. So I default to "Use protection. Get yourself tested. Tell someone."

Define This: Cocktail

Regarding AIDS and HIV: World aids day is December 1st

How My Husband Made Me Sexy!

He's my husband and from the moment I met him he claimed he saw something special in me; something I couldn't see. He has spent many years patiently teaching me to see myself as he sees me, and this is how it all began.

Two Lovers and A Vibrator.

Have you been wanting to introduce a toy into the bedroom but aren't entirely sure how to do it? If you want to know the benefits of using toys in the bedroom or exactly how to introduce the toy itself...keep reading!

Internet Safety Should Be For Everyone

There is no doubt that technology definitely has come a very, very long way since the internet's humble beginnings and the silly, almost cartoon-like sounds of dial-up connections. The internet is something that can be used for seemingly millions of things and should be enjoyed safely, no matter your age, gender, or sexuality.

Understanding Premature Ejaculation

Learn a little about premature ejaculation as well as some possible ways to remedy the situation!

Contraceptive Series Part 3: Mirena, The Hormonal IUD

This is the third installment of my Contraceptive Series, in which I will provide accessible information about Mirena, the hormonal IUD option. This article will provide information about the basics of Mirena— everything you need to know when making a decision about what contraceptive is best for you.

Define This: Dyspareunia (Painful Sex)

Do you ever experience pain during sexual penetration? Have you ever thought about why you feel that pain? Well there is a name for painful intercourse. It's called Dyspareunia.

Sex workers speak out ~ The Words of a Stolen Life

There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

Male Anal Stimulation Is Not Gay: An Inspection of the Stereotype

Learn why all male anal stimulation isn't gay and why it can be amazing!

Natural Pregnancy Prevention Methods

Most of us are familiar with the standard, everyday birth control methods such as the pill, Depo Provera injection, condoms, IUDs and more. However, did you ever find yourself wondering what people used before these methods were widely available, or what the people who have religious or other reasons not to use the doctor-administrated methods use? If so, you may find these natural birth control methods pretty interesting.

If At First You Don't Succeed...

Becoming intimate with anyone is a process. You're two different people with one common goal: sharing closeness.

Eat. Make Love. Repeat.

We all know that eating certain foods can put you in the mood for a bit of love-making. But after having done some research, you may be surprised the effect that some of these edibles will have on your sex life.

Top 25 Most Popular Articles in September 2012

Sex education, orgasms and BDSM were on the minds of our readers and contributors in September, this year. And who could blame them, what with the release of 50 Shades of Grey, and the alleged "war on women" waging in the United States presidential and state campaigns?

Is anal really worth it?

The answer is Yes.

Five Reasons I Do My Kegels, and Why You Should, Too!

You've been hearing about Kegel exercises for years, but if you've never actually done them, now's the time.

Mental Abuse is Abuse, too! - My Story

When people think of "Abuse," they usually think of physical abuse, such as beating. Physical abuse is common and dangerous. Many men, women and children are beaten and injured, and a large amount are losing their lives. These are the cases we hear about. We wonder, "Why won't they leave?" and tell ourselves that we'll never be in that situation. People think that's the only type of abuse. If they aren't hitting me then they aren't abusing me, right? Wrong. Mental abuse is abuse, too.

Thanksgiving: Why I Thought Of Eden Fantasys Today

When sitting around the table with your family, sharing all the wonderful things you're thankful for, it's not often that someone would actually pipe up with 'I'm thankful for the best online sex shop!'. But it popped into my mind several times today; though not openly shared with my guests. Here are a few reasons why it came to my mind on this great holiday.

Breast Cancer: It's not *just* about the breasts!

Breast cancer awareness is all well and good, but in order to do the most for awareness, the focus needs to be more on the women affected by it, and not just the isolated body parts associated with it.

Yes, 'Good Girls' DO Have Sex (and we like it, too)!

When the time came for 'The Talk,' my mother decided to inform me about the differences between 'good girls' and 'those girls.' Let's just say, the thought of being one of 'those girls,' not to mention the effort to avoid becoming one, was... inhibiting.

Contraception Series Part 2: Paragard, the Non-Hormonal IUD

For those of you who read the first installment of my contraceptive series, this is the second installment, in which I will provide accessible written information about Paragard. Paragard is my favorite contraceptive to talk about because, well, I use it! This article will provide information about the basics of Paragard— everything you need to know when making your decision about what contraceptive is best for you.

Feeling Sexy After Having A Baby!

Are you wanting to feel sexy again but don't know how? Well that's what I'm talking about today. So read and enjoy.

Sex workers speak out ~ Interview with a Pimp.

There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

Is Purity Hurting Girls?

What happens to a girl when she isn't "pure" anymore? She's a whore, she's a slut, and guys toss her around like a dirty rag doll.

The Male Birth Control Pill: Fantasy Becoming Reality

Research of a cancer drug has led to the discovery of a male birth control pill, which is gearing up to be tested in humans.

Communicating about sex

Do you think it's good to talk during sex or even about sex? Most people are too embarrassed to talk during sex. It helps you get to know what each other likes better, and can even help you in the long run.

Why AIDS is Still a Big Deal

I've heard a lot of people say, "AIDS just isn't a big deal anymore." Thinking on this, and the approximate 34 million people who are living with it worldwide (and that's just the people who KNOW they have it), I want to know why anyone would say it's not a big deal anymore. It is to the people who have it, and it will be a big deal for those who don't know when they find out. And it would be a big deal for those who don't have the money or insurance to cover the expensive costs of AZT.

Why So Squeamish About Sex Ed?

We have the freedom in America to choose how we educate our children, but many schools and parents avoid educating children about sex. Of course, we have to teach kids about sex in an age appropriate fashion, but why are we so squeamish about sex? Why ignore the fact that schools are saying "abstinence only" and getting away with it? We're choosing to stay in the dark in a nation where we have the freedom to learn, and quite frankly, it's unacceptable.

Unusual Fetishes

If you have a fetish that seems weird or unusual, I feel your pain. Read on to see how I integrate cannibalism, alien abductions, and incest into my everyday life.

Achieving Great Sex: All of Your Relationships in Life Need To Be Re-evaluated.

We all know that great sex is more than just physical- it is mental and emotional as well. Most of us cannot enjoy sex as much when we are not mentally and emotionally satisfied. Sexual satisfaction can be tied to a lot of aspects within our lives. Read my story and apply it to your own life. Take the steps that I took to achieve the freedom and satisfaction you deserve.

Inspiration on a Personal Note: Why to Love Your Vagina

As women, our vagina's can sometimes be a source of confusion, anger, or shame. The way we feel about our vagina's strongly suggests how we feel about ourselves as a whole. I would like to share some of the things that have helped me through my journey. These are things that have helped me love my vagina and therefore, love myself.

Thanksgiving Aphrodisiacs

I am a foodie, a self-declared lover of languid meals cooked with intention and loads of flavor. An intuitive eater, I have for the most part chosen real, sometimes raw, mostly colorful cuisine, a testament to my European upbringing and preference for Mediterranean delicacies regardless of food fashion.

Sex workers speak out ~ The Beginning of Becki LeBeau

There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

Getting the Snip, Part Two: Complications

Sometimes you do everything right and things still go wrong. In Getting the Snip, Part One, I told the story of how my boyfriend and I made the decision that vasectomy was right for us. This is what happened when he went for his vasectomy appointment.

Stopping Smoking Can Increase Your Sex Drive

I am trying to quite smoking. There are a a number of reasons; the awful smell and taste, health reasons, the promise I made to myself and my kids, but the biggest reason is that I want to have better sex.

You're as Unique as Your Vagina

I bet you don't know that your vagina is one of a kind. You are made up of an intricate network of nerves that is unique to you and your reproductive system. No two females are the same.

Contraceptive Series Part 1: Hormones and Your Body

There are a lot of misconceptions about how birth control works and what the options are. As a feminist birth control researcher, I am working to dispel these myths through this series about each form of contraception available on the market in the United States. In this introduction to the series, I am giving an overview of the two feminine hormones and how they work in contraceptives.

Questions and Curiosity: Things NOT to ask transwomen and transmen!

Many people have a lot of questions for transpeople. It's an interesting subject that doesn't come up too often in most people's lives. What questions are ok and what questions are offensive? It's fine to be curious, just don't be rude!

Sex Feed: The Allure of Restrictive Corset Wearing

A quick look at the lives of two restrictive corset wearers.

Love Your Body! Out Of The Image Box!

I never had anyone tell me I was pretty growing up. I never had any support from my family. My body self image was horrible. I hated myself so badly that I have no pictures. I didn't look in a mirror. I believed that no one could love me or even look at me.

Body Image Revenge

For years I was surrounded with voices that made me feel like my body was ugly and unlovable. The best revenge was when I stopped listening.

I Am A Feminist, and I Shave My Legs

As a feminist who shaves my legs, I have frequently had to defend shaving my legs, much more than I expected to do within a group of people that supposedly advocates free choice.

Body Mods Down Below: Male Edition

What’s the deal with dick piercings? Do people really split their penises? Here's a brief look at all the crazy, cool and scary things that males can do to their genitals, and why you might want to look into getting pierced, even if you're not the "crazy" type! Not for the faint of heart!

Passing under the Trans*-Dar: a definition of "Passing" and how it relates to those in the trans* community

Passing is great for those trans* people who do, but for those who can't manage to look how society expects, people using the term "passing" can leave them feeling like Pinocchio-- wooden and fake and without a fairy to make them *real*.

To Shave or Not to Shave? That is the question.

Bare? Bushy? Trimmed? Brazilian? Heart shaped? What is one to do with their pubic hair and what is all the fuss about?

Knock Knock. Who’s There? Herpes.

At 21, I was diagnosed with an STD. Though I have happily found someone who accepts me and doesn't judge me for my past, society still says it's OK to make jokes about diseases that are killing people. You wouldn't make a joke about cancer, so why is it OK to joke about syphilis?

SexIs Subjective: Open About Sex

Nowadays people are allowed to be somewhat open about their sexual preference but not completely open. I think that should change and people should have more freedom about their sexual preferences.

Sex workers speak out ~ Fun with Steff (js250)

There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

Your Shape Shifting Vagina!

Everyone knows that penises change shape when they're aroused, but did you know that your vagina changes shape too? Penises aren't the only body parts that grow!

When the Vibe Went Missing

A tale of woe from the Emergency Department Nurse's perspective.

Sex Feed: $1,000 Shot Promises Better Sex for Months

The hottest new trend on the coast is the G-Shot, a $1,000 shot that promises longer and more intense orgasms for up to 4 months. With plenty of rave reviews, the real question is--Is this $1,000 "G-spot Shot" worth it?

Perfection is Overrated

Real women come in all sorts: fat and thin, healthy and unhealthy, old and young, cis and trans, and all of us with different outlooks on life. But the one thing we all have in common is that none of us can possibly live up to the idea of "perfection" that is shoved down our throats!

Our Young Teen Girls. How Young Is Too Young?

Girls today are going through puberty so early. When do you start talking to them about grooming? What grooming is okay at that age?

Romney vs. Obama vs. Your Uterus

You've considered your political candidates' views on taxes, deficit, and their four year plans. Have you considered their views on your reproductive rights? Here is the skinny!

Sex workers speak out ~ The Ivy Jones Saga

There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

Attention Skinny Women Bashers: You're Not Helping Self-Esteem Either

There is a lot of pressure in America to be skinny when you're a woman, but lately there have been campaigns that bash skinny women in a way that are just as unhelpful to women's self-esteem as calling larger women unattractive. This is a healthy skinny woman's response to internet campaigns to end the bashing of curvy women that in turn call skinny women unattractive and perpetuate the very beauty standards they seek to abolish.

BDSM and Sex Positivity: Unsafe vs. Unhealthy

In the frame of sex positivity, can BDSM be described as healthy, while still recognizing that it can be unsafe?

One Lump Or Two??? Oh, How About 28!!

It was just one small lump, the size of a pea. Who knew what that innocuous little bit of tissue in my breast would lead to...and the surprising results of all the testing.

Getting the Snip, Part One

This series of articles will detail the experience of getting a vasectomy. In this part, I discuss how my boyfriend and I decided that vasectomy was the right form of contraception for us. The next part will cover his experience of the procedure itself, and then I will write about how the procedure is affecting our relationship and our sex life.

A BDSM Contract

You want to get into a 24/7 BDSM relationship, but don't know where to start? A contract is a great place to state what you expect to give and receive, and a great way to keep the lines of communication open.

Fang-tasy: Vampire, Werewolf, and Supernatural Play!

Are you Team Fangs or Team Claws? Either way, spook-tacular fantasy play has been everywhere from Renaissance Faires, Cons, and now most recently, the bedroom! Here will be some tips to let your claws out during intimate moments.

Female Genital Mutilation

Imagine being held down by women you know. They remove your clothing, pry your legs apart, and without sterilization or anesthesia begin to cut into your genitals. All the while your mother sits beside you, telling you what an honor this is, and how it makes you clean and marriageable. Impossible, right? Not hardly. 140 million girls and women worldwide have endured this and thousands more are subjected every single day.

Sex Feed: Is ninety two percent enough?

OraQuick is a new at home testing kit that helps people determine their HIV status. But with a high error rate, is it actually helping?

The “O” Isn’t Always All

I’m a huge fan of orgasms. Huge. Hell, I’m a damn groupie. I’ll pursue orgasms like deadheads used to follow the Grateful Dead—and then Phish after Jerry Garcia died. You’d be hard-pressed to find someone who likes the “big O” more than me (though admittedly, you’ll find plenty of people who like them just as much as me).

The weighing game

Struggling with body issues is no laughing matter and can be a serious problem for many, but I may be able to help someone with overcoming the obstacle that is weight in the bedroom.

Miscarriage -- My Experience and Journey to Healing

I don't remember ever hearing anybody actually share what it's like after a miscarriage. When I miscarried, and the months that followed, I didn't know if I'd ever come out of it. But I did, eventually. I realized what was hindering me from carrying to full term, I went through depression, and I slowly emerged out of it, and I want to share with you guys just what it was like for me.

Winter Cold Causes Pain. How to Continue Having Sex.

Winter is cold and uninviting. Most of us have joint pain and back pain. This can be an every day thing. When winter moves in it can be even worse. We want to have sex but pain can keep you from your needs.

Women United

I can't believe she wore that! Look at her, she is too fat! She is too thin! Blah! Blah! Blah!

Sex workers speak out ~ Shayanne's Story

There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

My hero

My best friend knew he was gay at the age of 12. What he went through was horrible but today he is one of the most amazing people that I have ever met.

Size does matter!

How big is yours? 6 inches? Maybe 10? What about how deep is mine? Have you ever thought of how much dick a girl can really take? No, of course not, so let's discuss.

Porn stars protest condom-only porn measure

They appreciate safe sex, just not in their industry.

Sex Feed: New sex research

According to a new survey, size sometimes does matter--for some kinds of orgasms.

Being Who You Are (The Lesbian In You)

Being a "First timer" is harder that you would think. These are my thoughts and experiences in being who I am.

Body Mods Down Below: Female Edition

What’s the deal with clit piercings? Do people really get their nipples removed? Here's a brief look at all the crazy, cool and scary things that females can do to their genitals, and why you might want to look into getting pierced, even if you're not the "crazy" type! Not for the faint of heart!

Love without boundaries

A guide to dating a trans man

Define This: Retroverted Uterus

What is a retroverted uterus? Did you know that there are different types of tipped uteruses?

My Boobs: Equal Parts Utilitarian and Sensual

I love my boobs. I didn’t always feel that way.

SexIs Subjective: Let Your Fantasies Run Wild

Maid? Nurse? Cop? Anything is possible on Halloween.

SexIs Subjective: Trick or Treat and Time Travel

Reflecting on what has happened to my Halloween experience over these last few years.

No Love Without the Glove: Forget That!

I've always been the type of girl to strictly believe that condoms were the best way to go. Birth control has too many side effects and I never wanted to take the risk. But oh was I pleasantly mistaken!

This Box Is Toooo Small

Starting over at thirty something and forty something with two teen kids, dogs and a lizard.

Fibrocystic Breast Disease

Fibrocystic breast disease. It really isn’t a disease at all. It is not related to breast cancer in any way. Feeling a lump can be very scary and concerning. You need to seek the advice of a physician. It may not be breast cancer; it could be a Fibrocystic Breast Condition.

Cum, Jizz, Semen, Whatever

A plea on behalf of those of us who ejaculate semen to all those who don't: Please don't make us feel as if there's something wrong about the way our bodies orgasm.

The Condom Broke, Now What?….Plan B

Plan B is the emergency contraceptive pill that can be taken up to 72 hours after unprotected sex or in the case of failed birth control such as the condom breaking. There is important information you need to know.

The Girl Behind The Glory Hole

It’s been said that sex workers are among the most misunderstood professionals in the world. But they are also among the most dedicated.

In the first of several interviews with different "specialists," conducted over a period of six months, a woman filling what some people might describe as the most demeaning of all her trade’s many roles talks about the demands of her job, her motivations and the rewards.

SexIs Subjective: I Never was a Halloween Hottie.

Sexy Halloween costumes: Are they a trick or a treat?

Sex and Depression

Over my time, I've heard a lot of people talking about how sex and help when you are depressed. Being one who like sex and hates feeling depressed, this very much intrigued me and I wanted to find out more. How does depression affect one's sex life? How could sex possibly help one's depression? Is it all really that simple? So, I decided to start some research and find my answers.

Response to “Enjoying Porn: It's for Ladies Too”

Ladies how do you like your porn?

SexIs Subjective: Celebrating our Individuality

Halloween is a great time for us to celebrate out individuality and dress how we would really like to.

Making A Promise To My Children About Growing Up

As much as I do not want to, eventually I am going to have to give both of my children the talk on sex, and what happens when you grow older. When you are a parent, that is a scary thing to have to do. This is my vow to be upfront, truthful, and knowledgeable when this time comes.

Sex On The Brain

Being a teen-aged male, sex is constantly on my mind. Being a teenage male virgin, however, does not go well with this, and has turned me into a masturbation expert.

Judge Not: Church Slut-Shames Inspirational Fitness Model

A fitness model who is inspirational to many is shamed and disgraced by a Church who “disapproved” of her early modeling career.

So, You just use your tongue, right?

The yearly trip to the OBGYN's office is nothing but hell for us lesbians, at least us lesbians in a small town. Eventually, half way into the visit, you end up explaining what sex is to your Doctor. HELLLLLOOOO, didn't you go to Medical School, don't you know how people have sex?

Sex Feed: Vancouver Sex Trade Workers Can Challenge Prostitution Laws

It took five long years, but The Supreme Court of Canada finally decided that prostitutes can argue their case in court.

SexIs Subjective: Sexy Halloween

What's with the current trend of barely there costumes and is it affecting our kids?

Sex Feed: An advocate for cervical cancer screening

She waited 7 years, and it almost cost her life.

Men Get Breast Cancer Too

Even though male breast cancer rates are low, they are continually rising. Public awareness needs to be increased.

Depression and its affect on the partner

Depression does not just decrease sexuality, sometimes it can increase it. I will tell you about my personal experience with hypersexuality and how my partner was affected.

Sex Feed: Canadian HIV carriers absolved from having to legally inform their sexual partners about their condition.

To disclose or not to disclose HIV, it just got a little more complicated.

SexIs Subjective: Halloween Costumes Are Over Sexualized

Halloween costumes aren't offered in a wide variety. It seems your body size and gender pre-determine what kind of costume you'll be getting. Shouldn't you be allowed to pick whatever kind of costume you want, regardless of who you are?

I Just Received My Penis Pump...Now What?

Penis Pump--a simple looking device used for various purposes. Whether you use this for medical, masturbation, erectile dysfunction or for "growth," you will need to know the basics of using a pump. Misuse, either intentionally or through lack of knowledge, can damage your penis either temporarily or permanently. Before you put your penis on the line, read this article-learn how to use your pump properly-find out what it will and will not do--and have fun with the recreational section!!

Swallow

A word to make guys go weak at the knees... and some girls to go weak in the stomach. A look at the cultural and societal background to the power of seven little letters.

My Boobies: Oh The Adventures They Have Had!

My boobies and the adventures they have had over the years: from children to life saving.

Make Me Want It

I am never impressed by sheer brutality in BDSM. I AM impressed when someone can evoke a DESIRE for sheer brutality in BDSM.

Women = Vaginas. Men = Pigs.

What limited sexual education communicates to our children.

Furry: The Fuzzier Side of Kink

Maybe you've seen that creepy CSI episode about fursuiting...Maybe you've had a friend that seemed to like to make animal noises just a little too much--or maybe you've just seen it around the internet. The furry fandom is growing by the day, but no one ever seems able to clearly define it or give a straight answer to any question about it. It really makes you wonder...What exactly IS a furry?

The Great Foreskin Debate

These are just my opinions, most of which are backed up by science. If anyone disagrees with me, please don't hesitate to comment. I would just like to share my ideas and help inspire others to do some research for themselves.

Continuing education – The benefits of classes and conferences.

Expanding your knowledge about relationships and sexuality.

CatalystCon: More than just a sex education conference

An overview of CatalystCon, a sex education and sexuality conference.

The Cock Ring

Put a ring on it and make it go longer! Benefits and some of the types of rings.

Sex and Fitness

There are many benefits to fitness: a healthier body, longer life, lower stress, and a more toned looking body. But what about your sex life? Does fitness provide any benefits to that?

Out Of The Ashes May Rise A Phoenix

There is nothing more beautiful or more awe inspiring than the power and conviction of a naked woman.

Breaking Out Of The Box IS Hard!

After over seven years of dealing with blood sucking lawyers, it's over now and I am left with nothing. Who is to pay for what has happened? Getting out of this box is getting harder and harder. I just want to go back.

How AIDS Affected My Life

As a child to a parent with AIDS, I had a lot of challenges not normally faced in childhood. I learned to make the most of each day.

Being thick ain't always easy, but it sure is beautiful.

Ever wondered why some thicker girls don’t like going shopping like the thinner females? Or why we don’t go out as much? It’s because some females aren’t comfortable with their bodies. For some women, like me, even thinking about writing an article like this one can make them want to cry.

How to get your sexy back 101

Feel less than desirable? Does your self esteem need a boost? Then read on for suggestions to feel sexier.

BDSM Or Just Curious?

So you read 50 Shades of Grey and now you're looking for a dom? Think again!

Bacterial Vaginosis: "Eww What's That Smell?"

Bacterial vaginosis is common in women of child bearing age and it is not a sexually transmitted disease.

Evolution of the Menses: A Bloody History

What are you wearing right now? Do you have a tiny tampon in, a huge monster pad, or are you lucky enough to not be surfing the crimson wave? Whether you are currently shark bait or not, you may find it interesting to revisit some rags of the past.

The Spirituality of Sex

Do you like sex? Do you like ambiance? If there's one thing we learned from ice-cream sandwiches, it's that good things are always better combined. (Or, well, usually, at any rate. We received quite a different message from jalapeno jelly beans.)

Sex and Pregnancy.

For many people, sex during pregnancy can be intimidating, scary, or an experience they have been waiting to try. Either way, it should not be something scary, or painful. Questions about it aren't bad or wrong, and are usually welcomed by your doctor.

Do Men Fake It Too?

When I think of faking orgasms I think of Meg Ryan in "When Harry Met Sally," not a man faking it.

You Know Your Girl Is A Virgin If...

Ever think you can tell if a woman is a virgin just by looking at her? Some people think you can.

Sexy Me, Sexy You

We all want to feel sexy, but sometimes in our daily life we lose touch with that sexy side of ourselves. There are some easy ways to help you get your sexy back though, read on for more.

Shrinking The Gender Gap One Taboo At A Time

You’ve probably all seen it by now, the remarkable study that reveals how the more sexually aroused a woman becomes, the more willing she is to swallow her scruples. Well, in case no one had noticed, men are no different.

Candy Cum!

Ever wonder why your partner never wants to give you oral? It might be your diet! Here's a bit of information on how to make your cum taste delicious and which foods to avoid.

All The Crap That Can Go Wrong With Our Cooches

STD testing: a necessary evil that all sexually active people must partake in at least once in their lives. Fortunately I am disease free today at 36 years of age. But that's because of my horseshoes up my arse, so to speak. For females there are a number of things that can go awry in your reproductive system. Some are STDs while others just mimic the symptoms. Here's my personal account of a bunch of issues I and my body have had to face.

STI 101: HPV

One of the most common STIs is HPV. It has been estimated that roughly half of sexually active people will have HPV at some point in their life. Despite how common it may be, many people may not know the facts about HPV.

The Steel Clit: A How-To On Dealing With A Stubborn Clitoris

Not everyone has those wonderfully sensitive, easy clits that can get off from a few light rubs of a finger. Some of us have clits of steel that are so stubborn that sometimes the hours spent attempting just aren't worth the orgasm! What do you do with a clit that just won't give in? You've got options and you're not alone!

Things To Do To Help With Chronic Pain.

Dealing with chronic pain can put anyone off to sex. What do you do if you still have the desire? Here are things to help out with the daily discomfort.

Shhh... I've Got My Period!

Menstruation: it’s natural so why do we find it taboo?

STD Myths: You Can't Really Believe That!

It's amazing the crazy things people believe when it comes to STDs and protection. Here are some of the craziest I've heard, and the real truths that people need to know.

Dealing with your childhood

We do stuff as adults and say "Oh my god, I am just like my mom or dad." This can be good or bad. Dealing with these feeling can be overwhelming. How do we deal with the bad feelings?

I'm horny and drunk. Wanna F@ck?

How much alcohol is too much?

Chlorhexidine. It’s in your Eden Wipes and many of the toy sprays. What is it?

Chlorhexidine is a hospital grade antimicrobial. It is used for treatment and prevention of infections. It's very impressive that it is used in our toy cleaners.

Butt Toy Breakdown

Because there are so many different butt toys on the market, some that often beget a ‘wtf is that for?’, I figured I’d explain what the most common products are and what they’re used for.

Study Suggests “Horny” Trumps “Ick” in Most Women

What can your arousal make you forget today?

The Dichotomy of Me

My daily and bedroom personalities don't match. What does that say about me? Does it say anything at all?

Learning To Love Me

Never thought I was good enough. Never thought anyone would care about me, let alone love me.

You know your boyfriend's been watching porn when...

Kicking the cliche out of blowjobs

Stepping Out Of Our Boxes To Live a Life Without Regret

After a very rocky childhood with a mother that told me I was not pretty and that I wrecked her life, one controlling marriage, two marriages total, two kids, jobs, and oh wait, did I mention I almost died? A diagnosis that stopped it all, a life changing job, and one murder.

Single and Loving It

When you're in a relationship, there's someone to dress up for, someone to seek admiration from. When you're single, though, what happens when you start to feel less attractive? The solution is a little self love, and it may not be the way you're thinking about.

How To Make Your Own Amateur Porn Not Suck

If your going to make porn at home, you may as well know how!

Past, Present and Future: The Shifting Legality of Abortion

What do we learn from our past and how do we implement those lessons in the future? America needs to take a look at statistics from our shared past before voting.

She Plays, He Plays: Jopen Gets Intense

We’re going to get to one of the craziest sex toys we’ve ever experienced, but first, a quick bit of seemingly disparate, though actually quite relevant Rydell history.

My Inner Bitch’s Bout with Sex Negative Education

An eye-opening event this summer has me thinking: It’s time for grownups to grow up about sex education. It starts too late and ends too early. I came to this realization this summer when I got a dreaded call from my son’s camp director one Friday afternoon.

Syphilis: The Silent One

Syphilis starts with one sore. You may or may not know you have it as it could be internal. Then you develop a rash a month later; it doesn't hurt, it doesn't itch, and it goes away. Years later you may find that you are positive and didn't even know it. Syphilis is not routinely checked for and the treatment in the early stages in one simple shot. If it goes untreated, you may have irreversible damage to your body.

Feelin' Sexy, Inside and Out

You don't have to be a perfect Hollywood bombshell to feel like you're sexy, both in and out of the bedroom.

Cuffs, Paddles and Safewords, Oh My! Or Beginner BDSM!

BDSM seems to be on everyone's lips these days since a certain book became so popular. It seems that even some of the most quiet of people I have spoken with seem infatuated with giving it a try. So I thought why not impart some of the basics that everyone should know.

Variety is the Spice of Life

Sex is a huge part of any relationship, whether you're sexually active all the time or tend to be the kind of couple that only gets it on every so often, sex is important. While the cuddly, cute, "let's make love" kind of sex is enjoyable, spicing things up can be just as much fun if not more. I've recently decided to take my sexual relationship and turn up the volume a few notches, and DAMN is it making a lot of noise.

Anal play!

This is just a quick guide for anyone who's interested in anal play or penetration, with some tips I've picked up on through personal experience.

Touch your dang wiener, or how am I writing this if I'm blind?

I certainly hope that any male browsing through SexIs knows the joys of masturbation, if not you should be masturbating. Male masturbation has many physical, emotional, and even sexual benefits. You can trust me on this, I've been doing it since I was twelve. I've practically got a PhD in waxing the dolphin. (Warning this article will contain several euphemisms for spanking the monkey.)

Mysteries of the Male Ejaculate: A Matter of Taste

There is so much that goes unasked and unspoken between a man and woman. Since orgasms really begin and end in the mind and so much of sex is psychological, understanding each other's sexual needs, wants, fantasies and expectations can be a wonderful turn-on, and create a deeply passionate connection.

@%#*ing Zombies, or Stress Relief in the Zombie Apocalypse.

It seems like these days more people have more Zombie Survival plans than they have pairs of socks. I fully support this activity but everyone always seems to forget something really important, sex during the end times.

How Young Is Too Young?

Following up on my last article I wanted to make a point that I do not believe that every raging hormone, sex crazed, young teenager should be having sex. The people I preached for were that of ages 20 or higher. But here is now an interesting point: how young is too young for teens to be sexually active?

Don’t Be Afraid to Let Someone In

Pulling away from his kiss, I sat there on my bed — awkward, nervous — just waiting to be rejected. I flinched when he lifted up my shirt, bracing myself for a stifled laugh or a look of disgust. I got neither. His eyes blazed as he placed his hands around my waist and he whispered, "You’re beautiful."

Talking about it.

I am an American. I am a woman. These two things mean that I was socialized to be ashamed of being a sexual being. That shame didn’t last long, but it was an intense few years learning to shrug it off.

Should “Creep Shaming” be a thing?

The Men’s Rights Activists of Reddit believe that “creep shaming” is insidious and anti-equality. But does creep shaming really exist? And if so, why shouldn’t it?

My "No Sex" Education

Is abstinence really the best way? Find out how the Abstinence Only approach to sex education has impacted my life and what I'm doing about it. Get my tips on your recovery and how to teach your teens about sex.

20 Fun Sex Facts

We all enjoy sex but it's always nice to hear the fun facts about it.

Fun with Blow Jobs

Check out this article for some fun tips to stimulate your partner during oral sex.

AAP ignores appeals from “Intactavists.” Declare with circumcision “benefits outweigh risks.”

For months, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) has been planning their latest official statement regarding the controversial practice of infant circumcision – and has been the subject of intense lobbying by groups that both support and oppose the procedure.

Advocating Circumcision

In recent years, the American tide has turned against circumcision. "Inactivists" speak out against what they call an unpunished form of genital mutilation and more and more states health coverage is refusing to cover the procedure. Yet, inn all the discussions of the negative side effects, these inactivists often gloss over the pro's of circumcision.

Bondage Around the House

So you want to try bondage? You don't want to go out and buy fancy handcuffs or rope from a hardware store? That's ok, there are everyday household items you can use for your little fantasy!

A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: When worlds collide

The lighting is set, the camera is ready to go live. You are dressed and everything is ready to go...And then your child wakes from a nightmare and is crying for you.

Where in the world are the dental dams!?

Condoms have become standard practice in sexual education, but dental dams remain something rarely discussed. Why is it that sex education is so often told through old fashioned terms?

Sex Is Like a Drug

Sex is fantastic, we all know that. But sex has helped me deal with mental issues that have haunted me since I was a teenager. For me, sex is really like a drug, but a nice prescription one, not one you buy on the corner from some shady guy.

What's wrong with me?

After years of feeling down and depressed, wondering what was wrong with me, I've finally come to terms with the fact that my body doesn't work quite the way I would like it to.

Summer's here! What to do?

I always get insecure when summer hits. The fat that I’ve been building up over the winter has to go.

Sexy to the Undead

As odd as this concept might be. I have actually seen some sexy looking zombies. One was in Return Of The Living Dead. This one girl with a punk hair coloring job got turned into a zombie and in one scene is walking fast through some fog and then attacks a homeless guy.

Did I mention she is pretty much naked?

Understanding Desire and Love in the Brain

In Egyptian mythology, ib or heart portion of the soul was placed on a scale balanced against the Feather of Ma'at. The feather a symbolizing truth, in the judgment of the dead. All of our deeds, sins and contributes laid in the weight of the heart and if heavier then the feather the heart was gobbled by Ammit.

GOP abandoning Todd Akin – but is it too little, too late?

Apparently, even the right wing has limits when it comes to women’s reproductive rights.

Bisexuality in My Own Words

Why should it be that someone like me can have no fear when calling myself a lesbian, but upon discovering I like both women and men, be so hesitant to call myself bisexual? I hesitate because of all the popular misconceptions and negative connotations that are associated with the word.

The Foreskin: 3 Common Questions about Uncircumcised Penises

Is one of the reasons circumcision remains popular in America because nobody’s teaching Foreskin 101?

The Birds and the Bees: Why the Sex Talk Isn't Always Necessary

There is always a lot of pressure on parents to have "the talk" with their children, but it might not be as big of a deal as you've been told.

To wait, or not to wait, that is the question.

The coverage of Olympic athletes and virginity makes me wonder about an important aspect of sex education. How do I advise my daughter when making the choice to lose her virginity?

SexIs Subjective: Whether thin or fat, the key to our happiness is how we see ourselves and how we feel.

After a lifetime attempting to love myself despite my rail thin frame, psych meds made me gain 70 lbs and my self esteem sunk. It was now time to love my rolls instead of my bones, which was very confusing to my already damaged psyche, but a little self care goes a long way and now dancing to get fit fills my heart with joy and my muscles with strength.

The Poly Male, or Rational Polyamory

How do two men share a woman without killing each other? It's much more about respect, and love, and less about animalistic furry and marking of territory. I want to explain how my friend and I share a woman without murdering each other.

A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: The Unveiling

So you want to know what a successful cam girl looks like? You wanna see just what I am made of? This is the line of questioning I have been getting lately, So, Why not. Ok then, Lets get down to the glitter and glam of... ME.

In Praise of Uncut Cocks

One girl, one fetish, and her quest for enlightenment. Am I alone in my love of uncircumcised penises?

SexIs Subjective: How Thin is Too Thin?

Are words of affirmation always positive? What happens when they're used to perpetuate unhealthy lifestyles?

SexIs Subjective: How to make sense of fitness and self acceptance as a curvy girl.

As a size 18-20, how do you both strive for fitness but love the body you are in?

A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: Sex Sells

If you have read my other articles, you got the details in a perky, upbeat, sometimes sarcastic way. Tonight, it is coming from the other side of me, the depressed single mother that feels like things will never change. This will prove that being a cam girl, or a mom, is not all glam and glitter.

Why fetishes are a good thing

In today's society, fetishes have a very negative connotation. On a very special episode of "rants by Mine Fujiko," we discuss why fetishes can actually benefit people.

Intro to Rough Sex

Ever wonder why the phrase "fuck me like you hate me" is so popular? Recently, rough sex and bondage have been explored by many couples and for good reasons.

Let Me Go Get My Rubbers

I hate that people think that condoms are an option for birth control. The only time you should be using condoms as your birth control method is if you wouldn't mind a birth or two in your future.

10 Steps to Making Your Own Summer Romance

When people think of a ‘summer romance,’ a very distinct image comes to mind. You know the one. Two people on a sexual adventure free of hassles, commitment, or drama. Everyone dreams of this at one point or another, but before you start fantasizing about what could be, humor me for a minute.

So, you want to be a Cam Girl?

Lots of requests have been coming in about what it takes to be a cam girl. Well, Let me tell you...

How to pick and clean your toys!

Whether you're an expert or a novice, you always want to make an informed decision before buying a product. Keeping your toys clean is always recommended, but there's a lot more to it.

What exactly is Hentai?

If you've spent a decent amount of time on the internet, you've probably heard this word thrown around a bit, along with "AIYEE" and "Onii-chan." What does it all mean though? The answer lies within the heart of the cards.

What has EdenFantasys done for me?

Okay so a little history.... I was the type of kid that knew she liked males AND females from a very young age.  At 5, I ran around my neighbourhood with a condom, explaining to everyone, child or adult, what a condom was for and how to use it.   I was obsessed with sex years before I ever experienced it.   Burying my nose in penthouse forum and literally drooling over the stories as  I read them.

Real Women Don't Always Have Curves. And that's OK.

Between the phrases "thinspiration", "fat is the new skinny", and "real women have curves", there exists the body of every women. Very rarely are we content with our bodies. Most of us see only our flaws and live in an eternal 'the grass is always greener on the other side". These phrases don't help women or promote healthy body image, but simply perpetuate the myth that there is a normal body time that women should aspire to.

Feeling Beautiful After Hate

Have you ever had something happen to make you feel lesser? Many things can lead to this: rape, an abusive relationship, or even just a friend who likes to put you down. Feeling beautiful after that can be a long hard road; it was for me.

In Praise of Lingerie

It seems for most men that what they want most is to see a woman fully nude and ready to do all sorts of unspeakable to them. I'm a bit different. I want a woman to do those unspeakable things to me and with me, but I want her wearing something more than her birthday suit.

There’s Nothing Plain About Vanilla

The first time I heard sex described as vanilla, condemnation dripping from the tongue, I might have felt my private life was wanting were it not for my sense of play. My inner child has always loved vanilla, especially the rich, creamy French version. Mystifyingly delicious in every food or beverage and heady as a scent, there was nothing plain about it.

Seeing Red in the Bedroom

The idea of having sex during my period always freaked me out. After some research, I decided to give it a shot.

Anal For Beginners

Feel like experimenting with anal, but not exactly sure where to start? It's not as complicated as it may seem, check it out!

It's Not Just About Sex

For the Guys: How touching your favorite spots on her can be her new favorite thing.

An Understanding and Introduction to Porn

Porn is very hit-or-miss for a lot of people. If you'd like to find out some ways you could engage in it more (and like reading rants), read on!

Orgasms: You're not a freak.

No one ever told me what a normal orgasm was like, and so I spent years feeling like a freak for the way(s) that I orgasm.

No Porn for Minors

A point of view of one who remembers "breaking the rules" to look up pornography, and the negative side this presents.

Sex and College Stress

How to use orgasms as a weapon against those stressful college days and days to come.

Own Your Body—All of It

These days, a great number of people will probably say it takes a huge fool of a man to tell women what to do with their bodies. Ladies, I'm going to be just that kind of fool right now.

50 Shades of a Cam Whore in love with a Vampire?!?!?

Warning : This is more of a rant opposed to a stimulating article!

Define This: Burlesque

It is a common misconception that Burlesque performance is the same as stripping or exotic dancing. While they have many similar elements, they are not the same thing.

Hyper Aware of Hair Down There?

What do you do about the hair below your belt?

SexIs Subjective: Weight Acceptance

Weight. Seems like it doesn't matter. You're either too fat or too thin. Is there a happy medium?

From Another Perspective (cont.)

This is a small glimpse into the troubled mind of someone who's never been enough and the struggles faced from having to grow up with a father who had serious sexual dysfunction and never accepted me because of my gender.

Is High School Sex Ed Going Too Far Or Not Far Enough?

With the rate of teen pregnancy escalating, I have to wonder... are high schools doing their part to prevent it?

So, what's so bad about phthalates, anyway?

Before coming to EdenFantasys, I was left in the dark about all things related to sex toys. I didn't know anything about what materials the toys were made of, what phthalates were, or why some materials are better and safer for the body than other materials are.

Ashamed No More

No two clits are the same just as no two people are the same. Learning about your clit is a very empowering event. Our clit is the root to our female sexuality and just like sexuality the clit is nothing to be ashamed of.

SexIs Subjective: Fit is the New You

Sometimes I feel terrible and feel like I'll always look and feel as I do right now. Other times, in fleeting moments, I can unleash the sexy beast within and look in a mirror to say, “Day-uum!” (Cause ladies, I depend on no one else to get those two syllable damns.) I guess you might call it a semi “Fat Acceptance.”

It's Getting Harder to Tell the Girls from the Women...

The shorts are getting shorter, the tops getting lower. Boobs and butts are rounder and bigger. Heels and mascara and lip gloss abound. Nope, not talking about your girlfriend's girlfriend. I'm talking about the pre-teen next door!

How Not to Win Friends and Influence People. Or Get a Date Via the Internet.

Everyone's had them: rude, ignorant, or downright offensive emails. Usually, I just ignore them. This time, I got mad.

SexIs Subjective: Your Body Is Beautiful So You Need to Love Yourself

If you look around you, everyone comes in different colors, shapes, and sizes. And there is nothing wrong with that at all. But some people aren't comfortable with themselves and that needs to change.

And They Called Me Whore

Waking up the next morning, grabbing my panties off of the floor and pulling my clothes together, I realized what had happened. I bow my head, make my way to my friends car, and silently wait for what I know is coming. Laughing, they tell me how wild I got last night, and then I disappeared.

Tokophobia: Fear of Childbirth

Tokophobia: (As defined by Wikipedia) described the fear of childbirth or pregnancy as a psychological disorder, when it had previously received little to no attention as such, in addition to introducing the term tokophobia (from the Greek tokos, meaning childbirth and phobos, meaning fear). Tokophobia is also widely ascribed to the fear of pregnancy, and may also be called "maieusiophobia."

Exploring our Sexual Vocabulary: Today’s Word Starts with ‘C’

The words we use to describe the things we do in bed can say a lot about us, and the society we live in. When we talk sex we usually are talking about something “dirty” or “nasty” or if it drips with raw animal desire, it might even be “filthy.” Why is that?

Pregnant Submissives Need Fun, Too.

As a submissive who has been pregnant three times and a childbirth doula, I can tell you without a doubt you can still enjoy a power exchange relationship even during the highest risk pregnancies! Keeping the spice in your sex life during pregnancy can even lead some of lucky few to have the elusive orgasmic birth!

11 Different orgasms? Who knew?

We orgasm to release tension, we orgasm to feel euphoric, and we orgasm because it's the most incredible feeling in the world. We live to orgasm, at least some of us do. What could be more fun than learning more ways to orgasm?

Why does Gender matter?

A three part examination of Gender Identity in the 21st Century. Or as I like to think of it, I'm going to take your concept of normal and toss it out the window.

Move Over, G-Spot: The Anterior Fornix is Here

For decades, the G-spot has reigned supreme as the marvelous, magical, mystical erogenous zone inside the vagina. But did you know there's an often-overlooked hot spot just a couple of inches north of the G-spot? It's called the anterior fornix, and it just might change your life.

Why I Hate the Term BBW

For me, the term BBW is offensive and I'd rather it not be used. There are better ways to talk about ourselves!

Lingerie: A must have for confidence

I believe that everyone deserves to feel sexy, because everyone has something that's sexy about them. The trouble is, a lot of people don't have that confidence. I found my confidence to be sexy through the world of lingerie, and I believe that you can, too! Go on, dive in! You might just find something that'll change your world.

A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl : It's all in the Attitude.

Whether we are talking about Mothers, Cam Whores, or sexual fetishes; it all comes down to attitude. And as much as people believe, attitude is everything. I am here to tell you, you are full of shit. Attitude means nothing if you can't back it up with the rest of you.

Sexy dysfunctions that can destroy your life: Part One -- Sexsomnia

Sexual conditions that sound sexy but could destroy your life.

Equality in Competition: Should We End “Male” and “Female” Categories in Sports?

Last week, one female Olympic athlete outperformed the men – so perhaps it’s time to ask the ultimate sex-positive sporting question: If we seek a world in which men and women are treated equally, why do we still segregate their sporting competitions?

Sexis Subjective: My Body, Not Myself.

In a effort to not offend, are we making it acceptable to live with an unhealthy lifestyle?

BDSM Training Schools Online

School is in session for Dominants and Submissives alike with several online institutions to choose from offering everything from the basics of BDSM to the intricacies of specific fetishes, relationships and even legal matters.

Playing with (Human) Dolls - Dollification

"Will you let me dress you up and play with you?" she asked. It was a question that no one had ever asked me before, but which started my exploration into the world of human dolls, a fetish known as "dollification." Playing with dolls isn't just Ken and Barbie anymore.

SexIs Subjective: Fit is the New...

How someone looks is a big deal in society. Different phrases and trends in body perception can play a large role in someone's life. Why one phrase is finally getting it right.

How to deal with different libidos in long-term relationships

Discrepancy in sex drives is one of the most common issues that sexual couples face. Included in this article are not only reasons for why someone may be struggling with low sexual desire, but ways of improving the situation for everyone involved as well.

A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: Mood Based Pricing

How can I tell you who I am in the cam world, if you don't know who I am for real. I want to show you everything involved in being a Cam Girl. And by everything, I mean who I am, what I do, and who (and what) I deal with. So from now on, I am going to be doing 3 part articles. I hope you enjoy!

Beyond the Bedroom: The Submissive Lifestyle

Many have toyed with the idea of becoming a submissive, but have put it off because the general stereotype of a submissive is taking as much pain as your master can deal. Dominant and submissive relationships can, and do, go beyond the bedroom.

Fractured Lives: Healing sexually and mentally with the help of Eden

All it takes to change your life forever is 30 seconds. The first thing I clearly remember was being inside a white tube, completely immobile. The only thing I could see was clear, smoky glass with lights or cameras behind it--my mind was screaming! Those UFO shows on TV were true--and the aliens had me!! I could not escape, would not fully wake from the nightmare I was in!! Little did I know, my nightmare was only beginning....

You wanna do what?!?

Years ago, before I was serious about anything in my life, I was involved in a relationship that was purely focused on carnal needs. We certainly didn't imply catching a movie when we said, “Hey, you wanna hang out tonight?” The agenda was sex. What's funny to me isthat it isn't the sex that I remember. It's something so insanely simple he said so long ago that dug in and made a home in my mind.

Confessions of a Stripper

When you see her on the stage, she appears to be a sexual animal. She is the nameless face that you desire to make all your dreams come true. She knows how it is done and you are ready for her to teach you. Or can she? Do the girls who make their living by teasing men, making them believe they have all the sexual answers, really know what they like in the bed?

EdenFantasys, how I love thee. Let me count the ways.

Everything that has been positive in my sex life within the last ten months has been because I found a wonderful place called EdenFantasys. EdenFantasys has been the center of my growing sexual confidence, and I am so thankful for stumbling upon them.

Guys, Gays, and Dildos (Not as gay as it sounds)

For about as long as sex toys have existed, there's always been the assumption (by the ignorant majority) that straight guys can't own a toy, specifically a dildo. If you're in the mood to read a rant, read on!

Passionate Sex Educator

When I first signed up for my EdenFantasys account in January 2012, I did not expect very much out of the experience. I had just ended a long term relationship and wanted to try several new things to help me deal with the funk that comes at the end of a relationship. I was interested in finding creative and unique ways to improve on my writing and try to do some self discovery. The fact that I could write reviews in exchange for free or discounted products was a good incentive as well.

A follow up on Summer Skin

Skin protection is important throughout the year but especially in the summer. Are you doing it right? Have you taken all the precautions? How do you know if you're doing it right?

SexIs Subjective: When Words Are Not Enough

When I first read the suggested topic for this month, I thought that I wouldn't have anything to say about the subject. The slogans and phrases mentioned do not really apply to me. However, the more I thought about it, the more I realized that although the phrases did not exactly apply to me, they did make me feel something.

They made me feel angry.

Feeling Off Balance

As we women grow older we face certain milestones: Childhood, Menarche, Motherhood, Menopause, Cronehood. Sometimes we have the luxury of just waiting and watching it all happen and sometimes we have to take matters into our own hands. There is often a feeling of excitement about the change in our lives and sometimes there is a touch of sadness about moving on.

A little BDSM finally helps me to orgasm - followed by lots of "self love!"

As an older teenager/young adult, I was sexually dysfunctional due to past issues. In addition to thinking masturbation was "disgusting," I also never understood why men found me attractive. It wasn't until a partner tied me down and "made" me orgasm, that I truly realized what I had been missing.

Virginity: Hold On To It or Give It Away?

Losing our virginity is a big deal to most of us. While some of us want to lose it as quickly as possible, others are willing to hold onto it until they find the perfect partner.

The Rules of Safety: D/s Relationships

Recently BDSM has been ushered into the mainstream. Let's take a look at the basic rules you should know about before engaging in play.

Why You Should Buy Your Mom a Sex Toy

Our mothers do so much for us, often going underappreciated for all their tireless work and love. The best way to appreciate someone is to do it in a way that feels good to them, and to you - and what could feel better than facilitating a self-love revolution? Yes, it might seem weird, but your mom deserves just as many awesome sex toys as you do, and here's why...

The Plastic Vagina

Vaginal cosmetic surgery is on the rise in both the US and the UK. Why? What is so wrong with a woman's vagina that she needs to go under the knife to change it? What is normal?

SexIs Subjective: It'd Be Easier To Love Our Bodies If It Weren't For Other People.

Everyone wants to love their body, it's just that everyone has a different method. Some accept their body as is, rejecting society's perception of beauty. Others work tirelessly to conform, and still more find a different path. What nearly everyone is saying, through all their work, is that people should stop judging based solely on appearance.

How to properly care for a Fleshlight!

As a Frequent FLyer, I currently own 22 different fleshlights, and after a little trial and error, I've found a simple and safe way to care for your fleshlight(s)! With a few simple materials you can keep your fleshlights as good as new for a very long time.

I'm Not Fat! I'm P.H.A.T! (Pancreas Hurts All the Time!)

People come up with all sorts of slogans to make themselves feel accepted within our chaotic society. Does any of this have any negative effects on a bed-ridden 24-year old woman? Hell no it doesn't!

Good Pain versus Bad Pain: BDSM and Chronic Pain

So, should I start with BDSM or my chronic pain? They are both so intertwined into my being that I don't know how to unknot them from each other.

Mouth-Breathers Need Kink Too!

I love gags! Especially ball gags! The only problem is I can't breathe through my nose, and I know I'm not the only person with that problem. So what do you do when you want to be gagged, but you also want to breathe? I'll tell you!

“Nanny Bloomberg”, Mayor of New York City, Launches Controversial Breastfeeding Initiative

Mayor Bloomberg, who recently earned the nickname “Nanny Bloomberg” after banning large sodas and trans fats from New York City, has now turned his overprotective eye towards the unlikeliest of targets – brand new mothers.

Keeping it Fresh in a Long-Distance Relationship

As the summer nights grow hotter, many people bristle at the added body heat of their partner, but for many college students, among other people, it’s the absence of their heat that stings far worse. This is the season for long distance relationships, as couples leave college and return to their respective homes for the summer. Months apart can be daunting. To survive this time apart there are many “Dos and Don’ts” each person should consider.

The Giving Pirates

A few months back, while on a road trip with a very dear friend, we started to talk about starting up a pirate performance troupe. It was an excuse to dress up, do some fun shows and...well, be entertaining pirates.

SexIs Subjective: It's YOUR Body.

Controversial movements like ‘fat acceptance’ or ‘pro-ana’ leave me feeling confused. How can they ask for acceptance of their bodies while at the same time bringing others down because of theirs?

SexIs Subjective: Body Image vs. Conformity

Joining a group is all about finding individuals with similar thoughts to your own. When the group’s main subject is weight and body image, should the thoughts of others really be used to create your own?

Beginner BDSM On A Budget II

Have you ever wanted to try out BDSM without spending tons of money on supplies that you aren't sure that you need? Whether you're crafty or not, I have been compiling a simple list of DIY tools that everyone should try at least once!

Is Porn Cheating? And Who Gets to Decide?

There’s this idea going around sex-positive circles that watching porn isn’t cheating. Someone, usually a woman, will say she’s uncomfortable with her boyfriend’s porn consumption, and feels that he is cheating on her. And she gets smacked down, told in every reply that she needs to get over her insecurities and let her man be a man.

Dare to Be Seduced by Your Senses

That we are universally skin-hungry and primal in our basic urges bears out in our private conversations, our media obsessions with other people’s sex lives, our ferocious reading of erotic, how-to sex books, even the collective gasp at Fifty Shades of Grey. Harlequin-esque BDSM may be the gateway drug to fetishized sex in vanilla bedrooms. It could be the wake up call that women’s erotica is a literary genre worth taking a private peek at, or it could be a sign of the times.

How to Help Cure DGS (Death-Grip Syndrome)

Do you sometimes not finish in bed? Do you find yourself grabbing yourself quite roughly? Chances are you have DGS, more commonly known as Death-Grip Syndrome. Don't worry, it's curable! If you want to figure out how to help cure this, read this article!

Am I a Freak? (A Formal Introduction)

Nobody can tell you better if your turn-ons make you a freak, than the expert on taboo... Tessa Taboo.

Sex Not Going as Planned? Here are Three Steps to get Back to Pleasure.

It happens to the best of us. You're in the moment, fully enjoying every kiss, stroke, and lick...until you're not. You start thinking about the laundry that needs to get done or that fight we had with whoever or the bills that need to get paid and before you know it, you are just over it. Sex? Not anymore. These three steps are my sure-fire way to move through those moments and back to your pleasure...fast.

So, You Read ‘Fifty Shades’, and Now You Want to be a Sub…

Yes, I get it. You read all three of the ‘Fifty Shades’ books in one weekend, you’ve looked up some stuff on the Internet about BDSM, and now, you’re DYING to be a sub, right? You even typed up a contract just like the one in the book, went and bought a pair of handcuffs, and put a wanted ad in the craigslist personals looking for a Dom. Right?

A day in the life of a Cam Girl: Welcome to my world!

Hello, My name is Lillie. How can I serve your credit card today?

Respect for the Small Soldier

I am asking you today to give a respectful salute to a soldier who has gone on many a mission, sometimes grueling and even dangerous ones, to bring pleasure to couples, threesomes and moresomes in whatever rooms we may choose to rut and copulate. He’s lean and helmeted, often with a functional but flimsy hood over his helmet, but he has a tough job sometimes. Also, he makes mistakes. But let us treat him with dignity, and allow me to help you understand him a bit better.

From Raped And Repressed, To Rabbit Aficionado: A Tale Of Redemption Through EdenFantasys.

It took me twelve years to mentally and emotionally recover my sexual health after being raped the first time I had sex. It took another six years for me to find a trustworthy man with whom I could explore my newfound sexuality. And the healing all started with an ad in the back of Cosmopolitan magazine and a vibrator from EdenFantasys.

When A Website Changes It All

We didn't expect our life to be thrown for a loop after having a baby. What we expected even less was for a website to turn it all around for us.

My Transformation Into A Super Soaker

EdenFantasys has done many things for all of us. Most of us can agree that Eden has improved our sexual well being. This is my story!

It's Okay to Shout, But if You Want to Whisper That's Okay Too

Coming out doesn't have to be huge. It's different for each person.

Broken Education

Did you know that the government has spent 1.5 billion per year, estimated, on abstinence only programs in public schools, only to leave us with the highest teen birthrate in the entire industrialized world? Now consider that teen pregnancy costs taxpayers about 9 billion dollars a year. Are we trying to throw money away? Why do we have such a hard time talking about sex and sexuality with our kids?

Pinks and Blues. Colors are Colors.

Makeup, Videogames, Nail Polish, Cookbook, Cologne. I bet you know which sex each of these items belong with.

Menstrual Sex: It's Not Just For Vampires

Many people are terrified of having sex when they or their partner are menstruating, but it's really not that big a deal! There are plenty of ways to have mess-free sex while one partner is bleeding, even if you get squicky around blood. As long as you have the right equipment and attitude, it shouldn't be a problem.

How EdenFantasys Saved My Sex Life

Eden Fantasys is more than just an online sex store. It is a sex positive online community that has changed my life.

Beginner BDSM on a Budget

Have you ever wanted to try out BDSM without spending tons of money on supplies you don't know you want? Whether you're crafty or not I have compiled a simple list of DIY tools that everyone should try at least once!

Exploring Vibrator Use

According to studies, just over half of women and about 1/3 of men have at least some experience using vibrators during sexual play. Up to 35% of women usually don’t reach orgasm during masturbation, and up to 70% of women cannot orgasm from penetrative intercourse alone. However, we know that clitoral stimulation is the key for most women being able to achieve orgasm.

EdenCommunity: Home Away From Home

When first looking into sex toys and sexual health, there's a big, vast world out there. Tons of websites host these products, but none held the sense of security and safety that I found within EdenFantasys. Not only did they welcome me in and make sex toys and sexual health seem harmless and inviting, but they also opened up the door for discussion with other users on the site making me feel more comfortable with my purchases.

“Supportive” Only Begins to Describe It

This month, our parent company EdenFantasys is celebrating 10 sexy years of business! To honor the anniversary, we asked the EdenFantasys Community to tell us what being a member of our community has done for them. This is what LadyDarknezz had to say.

Letter from the Editor: Introducing SexIs Social!

We've been talking about major changes since March. You've waited so patiently. We're ready now. Are you?

What Makes A Girl Feel Sexy? (“?” Being the Operative Punctuation)

The sofa was pleather. And so were the girls.

#SexFeed: Centers for Disease Control Roll Out Drugstore HIV Test

Will rapid, affordable and anonymous HIV testing help quash the HIV crisis?

Summer Pleasure: Is “Fat Acceptance” Just As Dangerous as “Thinspiration”?

“Thinspiration” – images meant to inspire anorexics in their pursuit of skinniness – are no doubt dangerous. But is the pursuit of “acceptance” for being dangerously overweight any better?

#SexFeed - Have scientists proven that homosexuality is genetic?

Scientists say they have identified the “gay gene” – but is that a good thing or not?

Sex and Happiness: Where do you fit in?

Much is made about happiness in pop culture and media. We’ve become a society affixed on the idea that it is our prerogative, a formidable right, and anything less than outstanding and endless satisfaction of whatever expectations we’ve collected along the way is a real and serious crisis.

ISTA Conference of Sexuality & Consciousness: Exploring the Wild & Sacred

Seminars on sex as healing, as transcendent joy, as an act of magic, as a way of communing intimately with the Earth, in film, therapy and pleasured practice highlighted the recent 11th annual Conference of Sexuality and Consciousness, presented by the International School of Temple Arts and held in the New Age colony of Sedona and in Camp Verde, AZ.

How They Touch Me

I remember holding my boyfriend’s hand in high school. There were ways our fingers fit, over and under, woven together, that felt right, and other ways that just felt…weird.

She Plays, He Plays: Operation Pussy Power

Since the 50 Shades craze, there has been a lot of talk about kegel exercisers. Sales for these little lady helpers have skyrocketed across the board. But which set is best for your body? Rydell Johnson gives you the scoop on four sets carried on EdenFantasys.com.

Setting the Mood for a Happy Sexual Existence

Things I WISH I’d been told about sex, but wasn’t.

Sex and Pregnancy: Trimester Two

My second trimester started out with a bang. Two, to be exact.

Body Image and Sex: Are they related?

Body confidence is a huge issue when it comes to being sexual. Study after study, in all areas of the globe, continue to show that more than half of women are concerned about their body image. Many men are affected by this as well, with gay men showing even higher rates of body dissatisfaction than women.

Breasts: Bigger, Sooner and Laced with Jet Fuel?

Women think of breast cancer as the sole boogey man lurking under our breastbones, but jet fuel in boobie juice and toddlers developing buds make it pretty obvious: the environmental impact on mammillary health is double-D huge.

This Week In Sex: Should we sue HIV+ patients for not taking their meds?

Two bits of news hit the headlines this week, and together, they raise alarming questions about how best to tackle the HIV/AIDS crisis.

Society and Female Sexual Pain

When a female has penetrative sex for the first time, it hurts a lot. Right?

No Shame: Coming Out Positive

Why don’t clinics routinely test for this when we come in? Why are we so disproportionately represented? How many women give birth and transmit the virus unknowingly to their babies?

Generation Fear: How I Survived HIV Education in the 1990s

#ExpressLove - Ecosex: Healthiest Habit(tat) and Highest Expression of Love

What does Ecosex have to do with sexual health and expressing love?

9 Strangest Birth Control Secrets from the Ancient World

Did you know April is STD Awareness Month? In honor of this, we asked our writers to talk about sexually transmitted disease and infections, contraception and sexual health. Tucker Cummings found some pretty odd birth control methods. Here are nine of them!

Scent-uality, Aural Sex and Beastly Boys

Studies about how the nose weighs in on mating also have the potential to uncover the workings of some of our most primitive mating behaviors. Which can go a long way in explaining how we sometimes we find ourselves in the strange predicament of being aroused by a “Beast”.

Can a white, middle-aged, heterosexual mom of two be “Two-Spirited”?

As her understanding of gender and sexuality have transformed, the author realizes that it’s going to take more than an understanding of biology to answer an age old question: Is it a boy or a girl?

Sexy Me on My Terms

None of that is what makes me feel sexy. Yes, I love sexy lingerie, and relaxing, but that’s not what makes me feel at my sexiest. The number one thing that makes me feel the sexiest is when I am with my friends having a good time.

Size Matters

I’ve been hearing a lot about the fat acceptance movement. Many people are touting it, and it seems that if you suggest that many people in the United States (and elsewhere, especially in the Western world) are overweight and that it’s a bad thing overall, it makes you a discriminatory, judgmental jerk.

Sliding Backwards

How have we slipped so far so fast, with perhaps more backsliding to come? On the face of it, that doesn't make sense, even with so many cranky and fascist old white guys in leadership positions in the local, state and federal government despite men being only half the population.

Treacherous Times For Hymens, Uteri and Vaginas

The author contemplates if we are “one step closer to saying good-bye to an era when simply being a woman is treated as a preexisting condition” as Senator Barbara Mikulski stated, or heading into the equivalent of the sexual dark ages in our own civilized backyards?

Why Guys Shouldn’t Be Afraid of Sex Toys

AHubbyof2SexualMidns finds his wife’s confidence in her sexuality sexy!

Being Ken is as Hard as Being Barbie: Why Body Image is a Male Problem, Too

Some so-called feminists would have us believe that “body image” is an almost exclusively female problem. It isn’t. Men face an equal, and perhaps greater, challenge measuring up to today’s physical standards.

Sexual Health Benefits of Love and Romance

While some of us are hating on Valentine’s Day for various reasons of our own, this author points out a number of awesome health benefits. Health benefits from a “Hallmark holiday?” Read on.

Pfizer Recalls Defective Birth Control Pills

Ladies, if you were prescribed these pills, return them and get tested.

New Potential Male Birth Control is Promising

How about an ultrasound to make your sex safer?

Alibi Now More than Something You Give Your Wife

Now we just have to figure out what to do about the glitter.

Mom’s Sexcapades Prompt Teen to Dial 911

Maybe some soundproofing is in order?

“Donorsexual” Ordered to Stop Giving Away His Sperm

It would have been okay if he were having sex.

Tuesdays With Nina: Coping With Painful Sex

Nothing can be so frustrating as a condition that keeps you from enjoying your favorite sexual position!

Sex Toy Finds New Use for Toothbrush Motor

Now your toothbrush can be used for what it was meant for: Your teeth.

Can we blame Columbus for Syphilis or not?!

He is to blame. He is not. He is to blame... Oh, who knows, really?

O Canada: FDA Approves Human Trial for HIV Vaccine

In as few as five years, HIV may go the way of Polio.

Legalize Same-Sex Marriage to Improve LGBT Health!

It's the right thing to do.

CDC May Prefer Monogamous Organ Donors

More than two partners in the last year? Your organs might be "risky" under proposed guidelines.

Hands-on Sex College Opens in Vienna, Austria

Great idea, and also probably a porn movie just waiting to happen. What would Freud do?

SexCult: Sex on Six Legs - Lessons on Life, Love, and Language from the Insect World

You think you’ve got romantic problems.

For Homework, He Wants You to Masturbate Twice as Much

Student, age 60, files complaint about class in human sexuality. What was she expecting?

Still Life with Jim O.

Contemplating a controversial artist’s new “toy” – and the all-important question of whether it should be placed in your bum.

10 Reasons The Hitachi Magic Wand is My Favorite Vibrator

The classic Hitachi Magic Wand is the old reliable, go-to vibrator for many women, for so many reasons.

Apparently Abstinence Education Doesn't Work for Wildlife, Either

... but contraception for all the deer in New Jersey is a little pricey.

Bad Science Doesn’t Justify Male Circumcision

Doctors still attempt to promote the unnecessary and unethical practice of male infant circumcision – and have begun using increasingly questionable science to support their argument.

Nikol Hasler: Five Things I Wish Somebody Else Would Tell My Son

Teaching kids about sex can be the toughest job for a parent. You want to make sure they have all the information they need, but sometimes it would just be awesome if someone else could deliver the message.

She Plays, He Plays: The Zini Deux Really Is Meant For Two

A passing glance at the Zini Deux vibrator does not give it away as a serious sex toy. When magnetized together (more on that later), the two pieces form an innocent-enough looking egg-shaped massager that appears ideal for loosening a stubborn calf muscle or working out a knot in your back.

Cyndi Lauper Helps Build Harlem Home for Homeless LGBT

“True Colors Residence” first facility of its kind in New York. Cyndi rocks.

Rationalizing the Right to Life: Pro Choice and Pro Life — Equally Mired In Hypocrisy, Part 1

There are two activist groups that imagine themselves to be almost diametrically opposed — yet I consider them deserving of equal contempt. They’re the pushy pro-life extremists who seek to drive abortion into illegality, and the extreme wing of the pro-choice movement — who seek to make access to terminating pregnancies perhaps more easy and impersonal than it should be.

Texas: Poster Child for Failure of Abstinence-Only Sex Education

We'd suggest a chat with Gov. Perry. But he's already not listening.

Germany's Green Party Wants Regulation of Phthalates in Sex Toys

Government anticipates that EU will institute "approval procedure."

Humanity’s Oldest Known Sex Surgery

To snip or not to snip is at the center of a resurgent debate, but are we seeing the whole picture? Medical pros and cons are only part of the complexities surrounding this simple procedure.

Gink Manifesto: Green Inclined, No Kids

There’s a persistent conviction in our culture that if your biosuit includes a uterus, you should use it. Procreate or be somehow less womanly, less human, and more selfish, hedonistic or conflicted than your mothering counterparts. It’s a message that resonates pervasively, and sometimes pits parents against the childless.

Brazilian President Rejects Sex Education Videos

Rousseff say material is 'too adult'; LGBT groups feel betrayed.

Duke Study Says Obesity Has Adverse Effect on Sexual Satisfaction

Researchers look at “sexual quality of life.”

Devil's Advocate: Birth Certificates and Transgender

Should Transgender People be Able to Change the Sex on Their Birth Certificates?

Recently, SexIs featured a story about three transgender people in New York City suing to have the sex on their birth certificates changed — normally forbidden unless they’ve had reconstructive surgery.

Sexual-Stereotype-Busting Poster Campaign Launched by UK Teen

Ad campaign is sort of a gaydar test. “Can you tell?”

Queer Union and NYBC Protest Blood Donor Ban

New York group says it's safe for gays to give blood.

Boston Teens Form Task Force for Sex Education

Kids pushing forward while adults hold back.

HPV Immunization: Costs v. Effectiveness

UK health professionals would opt to pay out-of-pocket for more comprehensive protection.

She Plays, He Plays: Fun Factory YOOO

Is it a souvenir from Walt Disney World? A paperweight? Perhaps a deformed Pokemon? If you answered yes to any of the above, I'm afraid you're wrong—but it's easy to be confused if you've never heard about the YOOO, Fun Factory's latest creation. Sexy may not be the first thing that comes to mind when you see it, but once you feel how powerful this guy is, you'll quickly change your mind.

Sex Discriminates Against Kink and Queers

We know that sex is beneficial for human health and well being, but it seems that not all sex acts are created equal. Do breeders really beat out non-trad combos for sex bennies? Science signs point to “Yes.” Read on.

Eco-Sexuality: Greening Your Sex Life

AIDS Drug Funding Threatened, Japan Pledges $10 Million for Vaccine

The recent economic crisis has hit many people very hard, and now added to the list are those who depend on the AIDS Drug Assistance Program, which supplies medications needed to combat AIDS and HIV to the underprivileged.

Chemo Sexual

At 31, she was diagnosed with Primary Mediastinal Large B Cell (Non Hodgkin’s) Lymphoma. Described at times as “diffuse” and “aggressive,” this cancer targets white chicks in their early thirties. Now, 16 months into remission, the author looks back on her road to wellness, including some sexual detours along the way.

RX Side Effects: When Meds Aren’t Sexy

Who knew that one little pill daily—a mere 20 milligrams of the selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI) Paxil—would cause my entire world to come crashing down?

Dr. Dick on Demand: The Lube Rubric: A Little Dab’ll Do Ya!

When it comes to producing natural lubrication, no two women are exactly alike. And since lubrication is essential during sex—no matter how aroused you are—it’s more than a good idea to have a bottle nearby.

The Vasectomy Trajectory

Snip-snip, the Big V, or voluntary sterilization. No matter how you slice it (good one, right?), a vasectomy is a major decision. Fortunately, it’s a minor procedure—and a great excuse to spend the weekend on the couch.

Stirring Things Up: Safer Sex for Women Who Love Women

Compared to heterosexual sex or sex between men, sex between women is generally a lower-risk activity. It isn’t however, a no-risk activity.

The Lap Dance

As a happily married woman who had spent a considerable amount of time learning how to do a striptease, I figured it was high time to go see the real thing. Yes, Virginia—it’s time to find out what really goes on at the strip club!

Diary of a Sex Surrogate: Who’s Your Sex Surrogate?

One woman’s up close and personal mission to help others work the kinks OUT.

The Bloggess: AIDS isn’t really that funny