The Monica Factor
It was 11 years ago in midtown Manhattan, I walked into a pizza place around 10 p.m. on a chilly night. My almost-raspberry beret covered my long dyed-black hair and a bulky black pea coat covered everything else. A couple of the guys in the kitchen looked at me and exchanged grins and whispers and uttered the name, “Lewinsky!” Their smiling eyes made me wonder if I was being mistaken for Bill Clinton’s intern/mistress/presidency-defining squeeze.
Thankfully the moment blew by. It was obvious that I was not she, but for a split-second, I got a taste of what it would feel like to be known for the blowjob heard round the world.
“I don’t know whether I’d want to be famous for that or not,” I told a friend.
“You would,” he said.
Actually, I still don’t know. On one hand, the ability to provide such great pleasure that most powerful man in the world thought it was worth the risk is kinda spiffy. On the other, if you Google the phrase “oral sex history” you get a list of alternative searches that includes “Bill Clinton oral sex,” “Monica Lewinsky oral sex,” and “syphilis oral sex.” The only time you want your name listed with the word “syphilis” is if you’re the person who invented the cure for it. (That was Paul Ehrlich, by the way.)
Now that the whole sorry mess is dust in the wind, it’s hard to even remember what a big deal it was. The mainstreaming of going down forced people to consider and possibly even talk about this particular sexual act with members of their family, which a lot of people found more perverse, weird and uncomfortable than anything Bill did to Monica with a cigar.
Ken Starr, independent counsel of the eponymous report has said that he was sorry about the whole event. “Who is not sorrowful for the entire chapter in American history? But the law is the law, and no one is above the law.”
(Yeah. I don’t know where he’s been lately either).
Thankfully the moment blew by. It was obvious that I was not she, but for a split-second, I got a taste of what it would feel like to be known for the blowjob heard round the world.
“I don’t know whether I’d want to be famous for that or not,” I told a friend.
“You would,” he said.
Actually, I still don’t know. On one hand, the ability to provide such great pleasure that most powerful man in the world thought it was worth the risk is kinda spiffy. On the other, if you Google the phrase “oral sex history” you get a list of alternative searches that includes “Bill Clinton oral sex,” “Monica Lewinsky oral sex,” and “syphilis oral sex.” The only time you want your name listed with the word “syphilis” is if you’re the person who invented the cure for it. (That was Paul Ehrlich, by the way.)
Now that the whole sorry mess is dust in the wind, it’s hard to even remember what a big deal it was. The mainstreaming of going down forced people to consider and possibly even talk about this particular sexual act with members of their family, which a lot of people found more perverse, weird and uncomfortable than anything Bill did to Monica with a cigar.
Ken Starr, independent counsel of the eponymous report has said that he was sorry about the whole event. “Who is not sorrowful for the entire chapter in American history? But the law is the law, and no one is above the law.”
(Yeah. I don’t know where he’s been lately either).
The New Lexicon of Sex
What Bill and Monica did do was prompt us to really consider, maybe for the first time as a culture, a new-classic question. “I think it brought up a lot of debate that continues to this day about ‘What is sex?’” Bussel says. “That issue is still alive and well and in many ways the issue of what ‘counts’ as sex is something we grapple with in various forms. Is oral sex sex? Is sexting sex? Is anal sex sex? etc. I think it made people consider what cheating is, and whether Clinton was lying, both to the public and to himself, about whether he did or did not have ‘sexual relations with that woman,’ Ms. Lewinsky.”
One definite change it has wrought is which Kernes notes the , including the attitude that oral sex isn’t necessarily sex. In the University of Kentucky, Lexington report “Sex Redefined: The Reclassification of Oral-Genital Contact,” 80 percent of students questioned didn’t see oral sex as sex (the average age of the students was 20.7). Interestingly, abstinence-only Sex Ed programs were also cited as dissociating oral sex from sex in student’s minds, since intercourse is the main focus. (Don’t they get it just by the fact that it’s called “oral sex?”)
Cathy Young of Reason magazine, however, questions how much of the teen oral sex craze that’s caused some adult hysteria lately is really true and how much has been blown out of proportion. “The teenage fellatio craze,” she writes, “exists mainly among adults.”
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One definite change it has wrought is which Kernes notes the , including the attitude that oral sex isn’t necessarily sex. In the University of Kentucky, Lexington report “Sex Redefined: The Reclassification of Oral-Genital Contact,” 80 percent of students questioned didn’t see oral sex as sex (the average age of the students was 20.7). Interestingly, abstinence-only Sex Ed programs were also cited as dissociating oral sex from sex in student’s minds, since intercourse is the main focus. (Don’t they get it just by the fact that it’s called “oral sex?”)
Cathy Young of Reason magazine, however, questions how much of the teen oral sex craze that’s caused some adult hysteria lately is really true and how much has been blown out of proportion. “The teenage fellatio craze,” she writes, “exists mainly among adults.”
To purchase the Naked Reader Book Club selections, visit the Naked Reader Book Club Store.
| The Naked Reader Book Club | Selections for June 2010 |
| The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio by Violet Blue | The Ultimate Guide to Cunniligus by Violet Blue |
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| Tasting Him–Oral Sex Stories Edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel | Tasting Her–Oral Sex Stories Edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel |
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