Making Love Out of Nothing at All
We get to watch over-the-top extremists on both sides of every issue who are so focused on their own agendas that they blindly support hateful hypocrisies, losing sight of the very humanity they claim to be trying to protect. Most importantly, we are experiencing overwhelming optimism that perhaps great change lies ahead, and that at last, humankind may actually live up to its name.
Still, it’s problematic to reside in a place where we assume that if any straight person so much as utters the word “gay,” his or her intentions are negative. Oversensitivity leads to the wrong battles being fought, which can lead to backlash and negative press. A trivial example would be when gay activists cried homophobia upon the 2001 release of Jay and Silent Bob Strike Back. When I viewed the film, I thought it was one of the most PRO-gay movies ever, filled with one joke after another that basically poked fun at how the comedic duo’s “bromance” is basically a gay relationship.
Or consider the gays who took it upon themselves to sue eHarmony because the dating service didn’t offer partner matching for gays. They must have believed they’d made won a great battle when the court decided that eHarmony did need to create a site for gays, but the eHarmony founders didn’t tap into our market sooner for a reason: they have conservative/religious backgrounds. Now that they’re being forced to cater to gay clients against their will, can we expect them to use their newfound disposable income to fight challenges like Prop8? Or will they hold a grudge, and instead fund legislation forbidding gay marriage? Perhaps the loftier goal for the lawsuit-filing gays would have been to launch a gay-centric dating service of their own.
Another fight for gay love—and marriage—that backfired was the Perez Hilton vs. Carrie Prejean/Miss California debacle. Perhaps Perez wasn’t totally out of line in asking about her views on gay marriage, since she is supposed to represent all people of the state (what-EVER!). Not crowning her the winner should have been satisfying enough for Perez—and sent a clear message that gays can fuck with your life path just as much as you can fuck with theirs. Instead, Perez took to his blog to call Prejean a dumb bitch, which began a name-calling cat fight that led to many to see her as the victim—actually bolstering her point of view!
Still, it’s problematic to reside in a place where we assume that if any straight person so much as utters the word “gay,” his or her intentions are negative. Oversensitivity leads to the wrong battles being fought, which can lead to backlash and negative press. A trivial example would be when gay activists cried homophobia upon the 2001 release of Jay and Silent Bob Strike Back. When I viewed the film, I thought it was one of the most PRO-gay movies ever, filled with one joke after another that basically poked fun at how the comedic duo’s “bromance” is basically a gay relationship.
Or consider the gays who took it upon themselves to sue eHarmony because the dating service didn’t offer partner matching for gays. They must have believed they’d made won a great battle when the court decided that eHarmony did need to create a site for gays, but the eHarmony founders didn’t tap into our market sooner for a reason: they have conservative/religious backgrounds. Now that they’re being forced to cater to gay clients against their will, can we expect them to use their newfound disposable income to fight challenges like Prop8? Or will they hold a grudge, and instead fund legislation forbidding gay marriage? Perhaps the loftier goal for the lawsuit-filing gays would have been to launch a gay-centric dating service of their own.
Another fight for gay love—and marriage—that backfired was the Perez Hilton vs. Carrie Prejean/Miss California debacle. Perhaps Perez wasn’t totally out of line in asking about her views on gay marriage, since she is supposed to represent all people of the state (what-EVER!). Not crowning her the winner should have been satisfying enough for Perez—and sent a clear message that gays can fuck with your life path just as much as you can fuck with theirs. Instead, Perez took to his blog to call Prejean a dumb bitch, which began a name-calling cat fight that led to many to see her as the victim—actually bolstering her point of view!
Very good read