College boy meets college girl. College boy and college girl like each other. College boy and college girl are old fashioned and they wait and wait and wait and … finally, you know, they have sex. So far, we’re not thinking this is a exactly a big news story.
But it is, when the boy is Brandon Davies, starting center for Brigham Young University’s nationally ranked basketball team, because BYU was founded and is owned by the The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, better known to most people as the Mormon Church. BYU has a very strict honor code. No coffee. No tea. No pre-marital sex. Students are expected—nay, not expected, required—to lead a “chaste and virtuous life.”
So Brandon is suspended from the team for the rest of the season and his future at the school has yet to be determined. And perhaps because we’re heading into the annual frenzy known in the U.S. as “March Madness,” the media is freaking out.
We’re definitely feeling bad for Brandon. Lord knows, we’ve got no problems with premarital sex. We wouldn’t have suspended him from our team. But we’re not Mormons. We don’t want to live by their rules. We get annoyed, maybe, when Mormons knock on our door and want to tell us all about what they do and how great it is. (And they aren’t the only people of faith who do that kind of thing, of course.)
But we don’t want to tell them what to do, either.
We look over at the web page for the BYU Honor Code Office and the first thing we notice is: No big press release about Brandon Davies. The second thing we notice is that there is apparently a “process for obtaining a beard exception.” Strict stuff! But not our business, really. Not our problem.
I may watch a little basketball this month. It’ll be almost hard to avoid. But when I do, part of me will be thinking of Brandon Davies, and hoping that someday he’ll look back on his “first time” and be able to laugh a little.
You know?