Get active!
Exercise really helps my sex drive and my partner's. This past winter we were both feeling drastically less like having sex and more like couch potatoes! When it started to affect her mood I suggested we start going to the gym together. It's become one of our favorite things to do together. Not only do we get out of the house but we get to do something good for our bodies. I like to do cardio and she likes weight lifting. We start out with some time on the elliptical machines and then head up to the weight room to pump iron! She looks super sexy when she works out.
Put on something sexy!
I love putting on some sexy lingerie to treat my honey. It makes me feel really sexy and gets her excited. Even something as simple as a pair of stockings can spice things up. Even better, go out separately and buy something for the other to wear. My partner really likes it when I wear teddies and I really like it when she wears chemises. There are lots of options for all different shapes and sizes out there, so pick out something sexy for yourself!
Try out a new toy!
We both had toys before we got together so it wasn't strange to incorporate them into our sex life. I had plenty of toys that I liked but when she used them on me it was completely different. After she helped me have my first g-spot orgasm and squirt for the first time I bought more g-spot toys so we could continue to explore that together. We've also added simple things like vibrating tongue rings to oral. Simple, cheap, and sexy!
Strap it on!
Strap-ons are a great way to explore your sexuality and experiment with toys. It's not something we do regularly so it makes for a good special occasion. There are many different options for harnesses and harness compatible dildos. I'm stunned by some of the beautifully crafted pieces available. They can almost be a piece of lingerie all on their own!
Make it tasty!
Flavored lubricant is great way to ease your partner's mind if they're concerned about the way they taste. It also turns sex into dessert! I'd recommend a sugar free lubricant for everyone and a glycerin and paraben free lubricant like Sliquid Swirl for people with more sensitive skin. Even if you already have lots of oral sex it's a great way to mix things up!
Get sensual!
Get physically closer to your partner with a sexy massage or a steamy bath. Massage candles and oils are great for getting things slippery. If you're going on the cheap route lotion will work as well. You can also take the party to the bathtub. Add bath oils or salts to scent your water, turn down the lights, light some candles, and relax together.
Get visual!
Some couples might feel nervous about watching porn together. The first porn I watched with my partner was a parody so that took a lot of the pressure off. Even if what we're watching doesn't necessarily turn us on it gets us thinking about what we'd like to do to each other!
Remember: You never know until you try!