Depression
First, there are many symptoms for depression, and if they last more than a few days or weeks straight, you may want to make an appointment with your doctor to discuss this. Here is a list of the symptoms (from WebMD) that would most disturb your intimacy:
- Feeling sad, lethargic, or apathetic during the day, especially after waking up
- Feeling fatigued or weak almost every day
- Having a lack of self-worth or feelings of shame almost every day
- Inability to concentrate or make decisions frequently
- Having less pleasure in acts that were previously pleasurable, or having no interest in them at all
- Sudden changes in eating which cause rapid weight loss or weight gain
That sounds like a perfect stew for low to no sex drive. I can testify that before I was on medication, I felt this way and my poor husband would go days and sometimes a week or more without intimacy because I would be too fatigued, too distracted, totally not interested in it, or feeling unworthy of intimacy. Others who suffer from this can have a lot of trouble getting in the mood while feeling like this.
It doesn't help when people always make light of your serious condition. They say things like “Just get over it” or “We all get sad from time to time” or “Man I’m so depressed today” without realizing how those things hurt a sufferer who has no control over the feelings they have to swim through every day. Sometimes I would break down and cry and miss who I was before the depression crept up on me. The fatigue made me so weak and sickly I had to quit my job because I couldn't hold up to the standard I had set and my supervisor didn't understand how a not physically ill person could be on the verge of passing out from cashiering. I can’t control the hormones and chemicals inside of me which cause this. What is wrong with me? My depression almost made me decline treatment because it would be pointless to waste money on someone as stupid and ugly as myself and I should crawl up and disappear and never bother anyone with my unwanted feelings anymore. Therein lies the good news; medicine helps balance the chemicals. When I take it I am almost back to normal, though I still feel it under the surface. I can take pleasure in intimacy again. I can start searching for a job now that I’m not as fatigued.
- Feeling sad, lethargic, or apathetic during the day, especially after waking up
- Feeling fatigued or weak almost every day
- Having a lack of self-worth or feelings of shame almost every day
- Inability to concentrate or make decisions frequently
- Having less pleasure in acts that were previously pleasurable, or having no interest in them at all
- Sudden changes in eating which cause rapid weight loss or weight gain
That sounds like a perfect stew for low to no sex drive. I can testify that before I was on medication, I felt this way and my poor husband would go days and sometimes a week or more without intimacy because I would be too fatigued, too distracted, totally not interested in it, or feeling unworthy of intimacy. Others who suffer from this can have a lot of trouble getting in the mood while feeling like this.
It doesn't help when people always make light of your serious condition. They say things like “Just get over it” or “We all get sad from time to time” or “Man I’m so depressed today” without realizing how those things hurt a sufferer who has no control over the feelings they have to swim through every day. Sometimes I would break down and cry and miss who I was before the depression crept up on me. The fatigue made me so weak and sickly I had to quit my job because I couldn't hold up to the standard I had set and my supervisor didn't understand how a not physically ill person could be on the verge of passing out from cashiering. I can’t control the hormones and chemicals inside of me which cause this. What is wrong with me? My depression almost made me decline treatment because it would be pointless to waste money on someone as stupid and ugly as myself and I should crawl up and disappear and never bother anyone with my unwanted feelings anymore. Therein lies the good news; medicine helps balance the chemicals. When I take it I am almost back to normal, though I still feel it under the surface. I can take pleasure in intimacy again. I can start searching for a job now that I’m not as fatigued.
I have bi polar with depression and until I found the rite medication to work my sex life could have been better, I had tried prob every medication to treat bi polar disorder until I started taking lamictal bi polar medicine, I have been on that for ten years now and I would tell anybody trying to find the rite medicine for bi polar disorder to try it and my sex life is better than ever
I feel both of those, so maybe I have both. It's hard to deal with, it can be very lonely. I feel bad for my partner because I tend to be as described in the paragraph under the bi-polar symptoms.. All over the place, constantly changing and shifting emotions. It's insane.