Come Into My Parlour....
Mental and verbal abuse is an area that many people refuse to acknowledge. The biggest lack of acknowledgment seems to be from those that are inflicting this type of abuse on other people, and especially on those they claim to love. How do they get away with his? Easily emotional abuse leaves no visible wounds, is easily explained or joked away, and often the victim does not realize it has been inflicted until it is too late and the damage has already been done.
Is the abuser a bad person that has no redeeming qualities? No, the abuser is actually an intelligent person who is a master manipulator of other people. Often, they are repeating patterns from their own lives and insecurities and are placing them onto others unintentionally. There are some abusers who knowingly treat others with this form of abuse to gain a sense of power and to lift their own egos up by destroying another person's confidence. Both types of abusers are hard to spot and are both very damaging to the people they have chosen to abuse.
Unlike physical abuse, where there are obvious wounds and bruises, emotionally abused victims are not easy to spot. The victim often may not even realize the situation they are in until it becomes intolerable or until a certain climactic incident happens to make them understand what has happened. The point of realization is different for everyone. It could be an innocent comment, bout of depression, or suicide attempt; but at some point it does become apparent that there is a problem and that it needs to be dealt with.
Mental and verbal abuse both constitute emotional abuse. It preys upon the emotions and well-being of the person being abused. It contributes to a person's stress level, physical health issues, and lack of mental well-being. It erodes the person being abused from the inside out, often taking time for the signs to be apparent. It can also create mental issues that may never go fully away during the victim's lifetime unless they are addressed & treated by a trained professional. The scars of emotional abuse are long term or permanent.
Emotional abuse is a long term, subtle abuse that is not very apparent. The abuser is very good at masking and hiding their attempts at control, manipulations of the victim's feelings and the erosion of the victim's confidence. They have infinite patience for extolling the damage and will allow time for a partial recovery from a previous attack before starting a new one. This is very similar to a cat and mouse, but we always know the cat is going to win and that is one thing that the abuser knows as well.
Is the abuser a bad person that has no redeeming qualities? No, the abuser is actually an intelligent person who is a master manipulator of other people. Often, they are repeating patterns from their own lives and insecurities and are placing them onto others unintentionally. There are some abusers who knowingly treat others with this form of abuse to gain a sense of power and to lift their own egos up by destroying another person's confidence. Both types of abusers are hard to spot and are both very damaging to the people they have chosen to abuse.
Unlike physical abuse, where there are obvious wounds and bruises, emotionally abused victims are not easy to spot. The victim often may not even realize the situation they are in until it becomes intolerable or until a certain climactic incident happens to make them understand what has happened. The point of realization is different for everyone. It could be an innocent comment, bout of depression, or suicide attempt; but at some point it does become apparent that there is a problem and that it needs to be dealt with.
Mental and verbal abuse both constitute emotional abuse. It preys upon the emotions and well-being of the person being abused. It contributes to a person's stress level, physical health issues, and lack of mental well-being. It erodes the person being abused from the inside out, often taking time for the signs to be apparent. It can also create mental issues that may never go fully away during the victim's lifetime unless they are addressed & treated by a trained professional. The scars of emotional abuse are long term or permanent.
Emotional abuse is a long term, subtle abuse that is not very apparent. The abuser is very good at masking and hiding their attempts at control, manipulations of the victim's feelings and the erosion of the victim's confidence. They have infinite patience for extolling the damage and will allow time for a partial recovery from a previous attack before starting a new one. This is very similar to a cat and mouse, but we always know the cat is going to win and that is one thing that the abuser knows as well.
I JUST started writing an article on this same topic a couple days ago. :/ Great job!
thanks for sharing!