Sexis Social: A publication by EdenFantasys community

"From Ancient Empires to Modern Boudoirs: Unveiling the Timeless Magic of the Rabbit Vibrator – The Greatest Sex Toy for Women Ever Made!"

Hey incredible readers!

Let me begin by saying that if I could start a cult of a rabbit vibrator, I would. It is a life-changing, powerful statement way more than it is a sex toy. As a woman-oriented sexual wellness researcher who, above all believes in women's empowerment, I'm here to once again talk about the relevance of the rabbit.

Why Vibrating Dildos Deserve More Recognition in LBGTQA+ Community

I don’t know about your world, but in my world, sex is important. I believe it is essential to acknowledge and celebrate the diverse range of sexual experiences - within the queer community especially. I am a femme presenting she/her, a lesbian in a long-term relationship with a very male-presenting partner. And I am the one who firmly believes in the importance of embracing pleasure and fully exploring our desires. Also, I love vibrating dildos and frequently get *looked down on* because of it.

Why Vibrating Dildos Are The Most Inclusive Sex Toy Out There: A POV By A Disabled Person

As a wellness activist and a staunch advocate for inclusivity, I firmly believe that disabled folks should be a part of conversations about intimacy and sex. It's time to break down the barriers and stigmas that have excluded disabled people from the world of sexual wellness. Sex toys as a whole are a very important tool for people with disabilities all over the spectrum, but I feel like vibrating dildos are up there as a crowning jewel. Let me explain!

Penis Play Orgasms Are Next-Level - And It’s Not About BDSM

In the realm of sexual exploration, there are countless avenues to embark upon. From vanilla experiences to those that push the boundaries of kink, the spectrum of pleasure is vast and diverse. Today, we delve into a practice that is often misunderstood and misrepresented: Cock and Ball Torture (CBT). Let me begin with a disclaimer - it's not for BDSM folks only.

Unleashing Pleasure: The Power of Sex Machines for Plus-Size Women

As a proud plus-size woman who revels in the delights of adult toys, I am here to challenge conventional notions of pleasure. In this article, I will explore the realm of sex machines and make a passionate case for why they are the best sex toys for plus-sized women. Eradicating the limitations of traditional sex toys and even real human partners, sex machines offer unique advantages and adventures that little old me couldn't've even imagined for myself.

How to Enjoy Sex Machines & Be Discreet About It: Practical Tips

Sex machines have become popular in many couples' sexual experiences, offering unique sensations and very kinky fantasies to explore. However, the biggest concern about these fantastic pleasure beasts remains - they are FAR from being discreet, they are big, need set up, etc. So, it's important to navigate taking a sex machine into your home with care, sensitivity, and a few handy tips.

Do I Like Sex Machines? As a Man, I Love ‘Em

Hey there, fellow seekers of passion! I'm a 50-year-old retired guy. In my 27-year-long loving relationship with my amazing wife, Laura, we've discovered something extraordinary - we're not afraid to embrace our adventurous side when it comes to sex.
Let me begin by saying that I'm in love with sex machines. The motorized dildo, the thing that thrusts on its own, the toy that had changed everything.

Fuck Machines Are Not Porn-Exclusive Anymore

In the world of adult toys, sex machines have long been associated with the realm of pornography, often considered bulky, vulgar, and exclusively catering to niche desires. However, the time has come to challenge these perceptions and take sex machines at face value - as tireless pleasure automatons that are simply a little bigger than your average dildo. Let me walk you through the basic wonders of sex machines so you can see for yourself - one doesn’t have to be a pornstar to have fun.

5 Sensational Sex Skills Every Couple Should Practice

Good sex is always about free emotions. You enjoy the most when you feel physically and emotionally connected with your partner, isn’t it?

Why is Sex an Integral Part of Married Life?

Sex is an act of making love to your partner, it an expression of affection, and a medium to build deep physical intimacy with your partner, and it is also a way to reproduce.

Things that I have learned to help keep all types of sex fun, freaky, and interesting.

I have many suggestions, helpful ideas, and all sorts of neat things to do to make sex (oral and otherwise) fun and even tasty.

Sex toys aren't a replacement for real sex!

When it comes to first getting into using sex toys, sometimes there's a few concerns that may come into people's minds. You may worry that it will lower your desire to have real sex, your partner may worry it means they are inadequate. I thought I'd try to help clear some things up.

5 Reasons Why Every Woman Should Try a Vibrator

Using a vibrator for sexual pleasure alone might, on itself, already be reason enough to try one. But the fact is that vibrators treat you to so much more than purely pleasure. Few of us may know it, but using a vibrator actually brings along a number of health benefits both physically as well as psychologically - giving every woman a good reason to try one. Below, we have listed down the 5 main reasons why we believe every woman should try a vibrator at least once.

Sex with transmen.

Sex with a transman, what’s that like? They have a vagina, right? So it’s like a butch girl?

No.

There’s plenty of assumptions cisgender people tend to have about sex with transgender people, and of course there is no right answer. However, there are a lot of wrong answers.

The most important thing to note is that sex with a transman is not the same as sex with a ciswoman.

Pegging Your Boyfriend Is Good and Healthy

Pegging has been a taboo for quite a long time, mainly practiced in secret, and to the eyes of the public, by sexual freaks only. As you can see on the graph below, it got more popular in the last 15 years. Probably thanks to internet, mostly Pornhub, this amazing way of having sex has been democratised. Is pegging really only for freaks? Can a non-submissive man enjoy pegging? Can a non-dominant woman enjoy pegging? Find out our experience with pegging by reading more below.

Bringing a sacred touch to your sex life

Here are a few tips and ideas to bring sacredness to your sex life through simple rituals and tantric practices

FIRST TIME/Virginity Story

LOSING YOUR VIRGINITY IS NOT ALWAYS SCARY. IT CAN BE DONE THE RIGHT WAY SO THAT YOU CAN ENJOY SEX.

Creative Ways to Incorporate Candy in the Bedroom

Ever heard of a candy bra, or an edible penis shaped lollipop? Once you can get past the inevitable bachelorette party feel of some of these creative bedroom items, you'll realize that they shine a whole new light on food play with your significant other.

Watchdog Timers: The importance of having a dead man’s switch when partying with strangers.

I was always paranoid that if something happened to me while I was out having a sexy good time no one would ever know what happened, how I got where I got to and why.

Why Do Men Love A Blowjob?

It's a question women often wonder about, or maybe that's just me!! If my hubby's ever looking for some sort of reward for being nice or doing something nice he always opts for a blowjob as his prize, not that he needs a prize for doing anything nice, but that's the way men think. They think "one good turn deserves another" and that equates to a blowjob in their minds.

Reading Erotica Makes Me Horny

Erotic books aren't for everyone, but we all like to get horny and in the mood. Even if we don't have a partner, there's nothing wrong with getting horny to pleasure yourself.

They Finally Meet...an erotic short story

This is a short fantasy of mine that I don't mind sharing with the community. Just a little erotic bed time story. Hope you enjoy...

Toxic Lube

A personal lubricant is just that... personal. But with all the options out there, it's important to make an informed decision and know what is safe for you and your partner.

How to Write Smut

Whether it's an erotic story or a single sext, coming up with words that get you and your reader hot can be a challenge. Here's how to start.

I Don't Like It....And More Lines to Avoid Oral

Oral sex is no less secretive, or elusive, today as it was when I became sexually active. The excuses to avoid it, also haven't changed. Here's why I've decided I should probably, someday, blow my Husband.

Floggers

So you want to buy a flogger....It can be pretty intimidating with all the different types out there! Hopefully this guide will clear up any concerns

The Married Mom’s Guide to Toy Hiding

Running out of places to hide your toys? You children, roommate, or pet find them no matter where you put them? Don't fret! Here is a list of possible places to hide your precious toys.

Interview with Jamie Maclean at Erotic Review

Interview with Jamie Maclean, editor and founder of Erotic Review: a website committed to giving sex a good name.

Review: The Art of Erotic Writing

A review of contemporary author Jess C Scott's "Art of Erotic Writing" eBook.

Fan Fiction: As Good as Porn?

While fan fiction is widely accepted as being something that only geeks do, writing themselves into elaborate sci-fi scenarios, or something that twelve year old girls write (badly) about their favorite male characters kissing, some people would rank it above live action porn as far as masturbation material goes. Why?

Our Lives Are Who We Are

I never noticed how events that have happened in my life influenced my life in bed.

Seeking Help as a Survivor of Sexual Violence

Rape, abuse, and sexual assault are crimes that overwhelmingly target women, so I will be speaking primarily about women who have survived these things, and from my own experiences as a woman who has been assaulted. Through this series of articles, I hope to provide survivors and their supporters with resources, wisdom, and understanding, using myself as an example.

BDSM 101--Orgasm Denial

Today we are going to discuss orgasm denial. What is it? How do you do it? Why do people like it?

Vibrator Envy

Today’s article focuses on a problem that many men face with the introduction of a toy, and that is envy and feelings of inadequacy in the face of a vibrator. We will discuss how to overcome this and why you will never be replaced by a vibrator.

Myth Busters: "Females will always know when they are having an orgasm"

In movies and magazines and on tv and websites, I've heard this idea of orgasms being the most obvious thing in the world. Sometimes they are so mind blowing that they are impossible to miss: my body seizes, pleasure surges through me blinding and deafening. Afterwards, I am so high off of oxytocin and endorphins that I am giddy and giggle, slightly drowsy. Then it is the most obvious thing in the world, but not all orgasms are alike, not for me and certainly not from one person to another.

How Orgasm Focus Almost Ruined A Relationship

Today’s article focuses on how sex focused around an orgasm can put a lot of stress on both parties, and even lead to break ups in some cases. We will discuss what the goal of sex really should be.

In Praise of Fisting

There is nothing about fisting that doesn't sound terrifying, but it has become one of my favorite treats during sex. It is safer than you may think, and it is incredibly intense (physically and psychologically) on so many delicious levels. Don't write it off without at least doing a little research first!

Getting Away Without Leaving Home:

This article is going to focus on how to get that “get away sexy feel” without ever leaving your home and keeping it cheap and inexpensive.

First Time Tips

Sex can be a wonderful experience that allows us to bond, explore, ignite and surrender to a person in ways nothing else can. It can also be the cause of heartache, regret, disappointment and life altering choices that leave us questioning why we did it in the first place.

BDSM 101—Wax Play

Today I want to talk about what wax play is, what you need to do it, how to clean up after it, and some safety concerning it.

Masturbation doesn't have to be alone

For me, I find masturbating with someone else, whether it be in-person or in the virtual world, to be a much more fulfilling experience than being solo. There is a thrill and shared intimacy in sharing the build-up and climax of an orgasm with another person.

BDSM 101—Mummification

Today we are going to discuss what mummification is, what you need to do it, and some safety tips you should know about.

Spicing up your sex life!

If you want to learn new ways to make your sex life better, then read my article. I have more than one suggestion that may help you.

BDSM 101 — Household BDSM Toys

Today we are going to look at various household items that be used for some BDSM fun. These are items that you likely have sitting around your house right now, too. We will discuss what you can use, and the pros and cons of each item.

Being Large and in Charge!

This article is for all the "big girls." Whether you're shy and withdrawn or really loud and proud of who you are, I think all girls should see themselves as beautiful. It took me a very long time to like myself, but I did learn that self-confidence can grow overnight!

Making Friends With the Ladies Downstairs

I've lived my life perpetually jealous of women who have an easy going relationship with their clit or g-spot. I always felt like I was in some kind of cold war with my body. I have decided to try to accept what my body likes instead of trying to trick it into liking what others do.

6 Ways To Stay a Healthy, Sexy Mom

Feeling sexy isn't always high on a mom's to-do list, but there are simple steps she can take to keep feeling sexy through motherhood.

Ideas for a Sexually Satisfying Lesbian Relationship

I'm 21 and in a lesbian relationship. It's also the first completely sexually satisfying relationship in my life. Every relationship has ups and downs. Here are some of the ways we keep our sex life exciting. Straight couples can benefit from this as well!

Basic Tips for Giving Great Hand Jobs

Here are a few tips to spicing up the average, and sometimes boring hand job. All it takes is a little imagination, combined with these tricks of the hand!

Sex Toy Envy

Men masturbate. Women masturbate. That's just the way it is...

The Cuddle-Sutra: 7 Common Sleeping Styles

Have a partner who takes up all the bed space? Or steals all the blankets? What about whacking you (by accident) in your sleep? Here are 7 common sleeping styles you or your partner may have and how to handle them.

Returning To Intimacy When Cancer Has Changed Your Body Image

What happens after the diagnosis and the treatments? You have to find a new normal. That includes accepting your body changes. Whether you are single or in a committed relationship, things will be different. HOW different depends on YOU.

Splash! It's Not Pee! (Or Why Squirting Is Vastly Different From Urinating)

Many people believe that the stuff that comes out when a woman "squirts" is urine, but most women who have experienced it will tell you otherwise, myself included. I took it upon myself to bust the myth, so without further ado, I present to you, my lovely reader, the difference between squirting and urinating, and how to tell which you're doing.

Define This - That Marvelous Moment Right before He Cums

It doesn't have a name and it doesn't last long. But there's that sudden moment where you know it's going to happen - and paying attention can make you feel great!

Another How-To Guide for the Aspiring Deep Throater

Lesson one: Throw away the how-to guides.

Losing Faith In Words

How what we say and the way we say it can make all the difference in the world.

You Always Remember The First Time

There's a first time for everything, and it may not be the greatest. But it's always the time you remember the best....

A Rekindling

My boyfriend and I found ourselves in a bit of a rut, and this is how we worked our way out of it.

Define This: The Frenulum Delta

Finding the sweet spot that is a penis' neatest secret.

A boost of confidence

Being shy in the bedroom can sometimes feel like you're just plain boring; even if you have an amazing imagination, you are too reserved to share. Here are some tips on how to spice things up, and how not to feel like you're putting yourself out there to get embarrassed and let down.

It's Only Premature If He Cums Before You Get There

Taking the sting out of premature ejaculation

These Feet Were Made For... Jerking?

You've used your hands, your breasts, your mouth, and he keeps on coming back for more. Now it's time to let your feet do the talking.

Is Sex Addiction Real?

Most definitely yes! I was reminded of this subject over the weekend, while hearing a judgmental indictment of Tiger Woods' infidelity and divorce.

Take your Sex Toys to Work Day

It often has been the case that my non-vanilla-ness has lead to people looking at me in another light, and not in a good way. I thought this would be the case every time I brought it up in conversation, and had almost resigned myself to be considered a pervert every time. As luck would have it, though, things changed quite dramatically a few weeks back, when an unexpected conversation lead to my sex toys taking an unexpected trip to my workplace.

Who's responsible for sex education for kids?

Where should the burden fall? The schools? The parents? The Church? The internet?

College Sex Revisited

A while back, I wrote an article about sex during times of stress in college. As I come to the end of one of my busiest years of college, I have a little bit more to say.

Define This: Popped Cherry

Often used as a term to indicate that one's virginity has been lost or taken, this term has brought about many misconceptions about the hymen. This irrefutably sexist term has grossly led to shame and anxiety about first-time sex. But wait, there’s more to it than that...

How to Raise Your Pain Tolerance

If you're into S&M, or have a partner you fancy who is, having a higher pain tolerance can definitely be beneficial. So here's some information on how to raise your pain tolerance.

Size Only Matters If He's Too Damned Big

It wasn’t the angle, it wasn’t the mood, it wasn’t any of the things we normally blame. The fact is, he was just too huge. Some thoughts on why you shouldn’t click the Penis Enlargement links on that website.

The Years of Living Dangerously

We all did things in our youths that we are now slightly alarmed by (or, at least, I hope we all did!) And now, in adulthood, maybe we'd like to again. A look back at the years of "I just wasn't thinking," and how not thinking again could be the best thing you've done.

No Need To Hide My Sexuality (And How I Found It Out)!

Recent events in my life pretty much threw my sexuality out for my family and friends to see. In the end, things didn't turn out how I assumed that they would.

Life As An Aspiring Cam Girl

I am a 20 year old Canadian female. I am also an aspiring cam girl. As a cam girl, I'll take you into my experience; weird viewers, awkward situations, hilarious moments, and voyeuristic orgasms. Sure, there are ups and downs. Mostly, they happen while riding a toy. Being a cam girl isn't nearly fun as you think. It's a lot of work; building a fan base, working out, making yourself presentable, listening to demands, dealing with creeps... Well, that's a whole other article on its own.

Boys Like Boobies

A lot of guys dream of a girl with big tits. However, even with a flat chest, you can make those dreams come true.

What is Sexual Healing?

Sexual healing encompasses three
broad, interrelated categories of work.

The Nice Girl's Guide To The One Night Stand - Part Two: The Hook-up

We left our lovers on the dance floor, on the verge of their very first kiss. You’ve decided to go through with it... actually, you decided before the first dance even started, but now it’s time to let him know. Read on!

Great Expectations (part four)

The final part of our look at the pros and cons of giving head.

Great Expectations (part two)

In part one, we looked at how expectations about blowjobs differ between male and female participants, and who expects what from the experience. This time we look at the experience itself, and the preconceptions that naturally arise.

Great Expectations (part one)

“The problem I have with blowjobs,” a friend once confided, “is that guys expect to get them.” But do they really? Or are girls just conditioned to expect them to expect them? This is the first of four articles looking at the role of fellatio in the modern relationship, from a variety of viewpoints... pro and con.

The First Lie

What is the first lie a guy ever tells his girlfriend? “I promise I won’t cum in your mouth."

And what is the first lie she tells him? "Good”.

BDSM 101—Electrosex Part 1

Today we talk about a new type of play called electrosex. Electrosex uses electrical stimulation to cause pleasurable sensations.

Sub-Space: How it felt for me.

If you're kinky, you may have heard of sub-space, or a sort of euphoric state that subs occasionally cross into during a scene. When I first found my kinky side, I thought just being part of a scene was causing me to dip into sub-space, but then I actually fell flat into it, and it was amazing.

BDSM DIY -- Spreader Bars

So you're interested in BDSM and you go to buy some gear. You see prices of 100, 150, and 200 dollars and your heart sinks a bit. There's no way you can afford that, but have no fear. Below is a guide on how to make a very effective, but also very cost efficient, spreader bar.

Miscarriage and Marriage

Like millions of women in Australia and around the world, I have suffered the pain and heartache of a miscarriage. I understood the pain, the grief and the loss of what had happened, but what I wasn’t expecting was the way in which my husband began to react to me sexually after and me with him as well.

Solo Sexuality

When most people think of the term "Solo Sexuality", it probably has a negative connotation to them. I, on the other hand, have always found it fun, interesting, and often an exciting alternative to engaging in sex with someone else. Masturbation has always been one of my favorite pastimes.

Shame Free Sex and Spicing Things Up

Introduce a little whimsy into your sexual encounters,and find out where your true passions lie. Come in, leave your worries and your cares. Exploring your sexuality is natural and healthy, so let's find out what suits you, from toys to partners. Be yourself; I won't judge...

Prostate Massage (II): Prostate Orgasms

A lot of men have what they call "prostate orgasms". But what are they?

Oral Sex and Swallowing: How good is it?

Many girls love to blow their boyfriends or partners before intercourse, or just for the sake of the activity. But sometimes guys cum during oral, and the question is: should the girl swallow or not?

Single vs. Involved

The grass isn't always greener, whichever side of the fence you are on, though it often may appear it is. It's all a matter of perspective.

Fantasy and Reality

Many of us fantasize about a certain person, sexual activity or anything that makes us get turned on. But is fantasy the same as reality?

How to Spice up Your Sexual Life

Many couples suffer from a lack of sexual interest in one another over time, causing sex to become less appealing and exciting. This is natural, but it doesn't mean that you can't fix it.

Rough sex and domination

Many people like sex to be rough and vigorous, to be dominated and taken over by someone else. But to what extent?

The Proper Way to Talk Dirty During Sex

Many people like to dirty talk during sex to spice thing up, but it is important that you know how to dirty talk. You also need to know the limits of dirty talk.

Broaching the Subject: Introducing Your Girl to the Joys of Prostate Play

Do you love the tingling, wavelike feeling of prostate play? Do you want to include your significant other but don't know how to bring it up? In this article I will discuss the way I broached the subject and reinvigorated our sex life.

Mind Kink: Exploring Consensual Non-Consensual

Consensual non-consensual (C.N.C.) is sometimes thought of as 'rape-play.' When done correctly and with respect for your partner, C.N.C. can be a very passionate and enjoyable thing. We've all had fantasies of being home alone and suddenly our partner dressed as a burglar comes in and 'burgles' us. The very idea of a trusted partner taking us forcefully and making us enjoy it can be highly erotic. C.N.C is a way to safely explore these fantasies and enjoy them fully.

How to prepare yourself before anal sex or anal play

Many girls want to try anal sex but are afraid that "something" might happen that will embarrass them. Here are some things, that you can do before anal sex, to help you feel more prepared.

Does Size Really Matter?

Many people are hyped up over the idea that the size of your penis affects your sexual performance. Is that really true and if not why do people think this way?

Men: Don't Feel Worried About Your Woman's New Sex Toy

Many men feel anxious and uncomfortable when their woman gets a toy. I am here to tell them why they shouldn't feel that way.

She Plays, He Plays: The Key To The G

So why exactly did Jopen cover one awesome material with another? We weren’t sure, either. Then we read the Johnsons’ review. Read on to find out what Susan and Rydell think about Jopen’s Key Comet G!

The Forbidden Fruit

Anal sex is one of those things that are considered a "taboo", but that is what makes it so interesting.

Control Yourself During Sex

Many guys suffer from premature ejaculation. Here are a few tips and tricks I've picked up from my personal experiences with my boyfriend.

A Gentlemen Always Lets The Lady Cum First.

Call it common courtesy. Call it being a gentlemen. Call it whatever you like. If you're allowing your lady to cum first, you, my friend, are a prime example of the refined, exquisite gentlemen of sex etiquette. Alas, many men out there refuse their lady this fine privilege. Hell, some don't even know if their partner has cum. This, my readers, can not go on any longer. Not in the year 2013!!! We outlived the Mayans for Christ sakes! Surely this too shall pass. I hope...

You don't have to be gay to enjoy anal play.

This article is less of a "how-to" and more of a demonstration that the enjoyment of anal penetration or stimulation has no bearing on one's sexuality. It is a common misconception by many hetero females and males alike that any man who likes his ass penetrated is "gay" or at a minimum, bisexual. That is simply untrue.

In Defense of Monogamy: It's Not Selfish

In modern society, many people think monogamy is outdated, restrictive, and most of all, selfish. But is it really?

Our Agreement or How I Learned to Stop Stressing and Enjoy Sex Again

My fiancé and I have an agreement about sex. Our agreement is that we will not engage in sex of any kind unless I am the one who initiates it. I know, it sounds a little bit strange, doesn’t it? Maybe even a little bit draconian? I thought so too at first, but this agreement has changed not only our sex life, but our relationship as whole for the better. But maybe I should back up a bit and start from the beginning.

Define This: Pheromones

You're scanning through various massage oils and lotions here on Edenfantasys, and you see that word again. Pheromones. But what are they? What are they doing in your massage lotion? And most importantly, do they work?

The Fine Line Between "Wanna F@ck?" and "F@CK ME!!!"

I make it no secret that I have had many sexual encounters in my lifetime. Some of them were more memorable then others. This is largely due to the things that were said during coitus. I wish I could tell you that it was all hot, sexy and really got my motor running, but alas, I can not. Nine times out of ten it was pure rubbish. I'm here to tell you now that talking dirty is an art form.

Masturbation: It is Perfectly Fine!

Flicking your bean, flogging the dolphin, jerking the gherkin...Whatever you call it, it is perfectly safe. It's also healthy!

Losing innocence while gaining perspective.

I was young, impressionable and I just really didn't wanna be the last virgin in a group of supposed Sex Goddesses (my friends).

Losing Your Libido At 35

I hear people complaining about becoming 40 all the time. Hell, they made a movie about it for God's sake. I'm not 40 yet, but I still feel the strain of my libido slipping away. I feel the urge for sex slowly fading. My energy is not there. I'm here to tell you turning 35 kind of sucks! However, it doesn't have to.

The boys' club and porn culture

The verbal-visual porn dichotomy demystified. Or: do women like porn?

Long Distance Relationships and Sexual Desire

Many people may experience a long distance relationship but how to deal with sexual desire and lust is a problem that many face.

Porn For the Rest of Us: Top 5 Reasons to Read Fanfiction

The phrase “porn for women” is thrown around a lot these days, sometimes mockingly accompanied by a photo of a man doing the dishes, but you might be surprised to learn that there is a massive community of porn – real, explicit, kinky, delicious porn – created by women, for women. I'm talking about fanfiction.

SexIs Subjective: Gifting Pleasure

Sex toys are a great way to show someone you care about their pleasure, but it is necessary to use personal judgment and respect others’ boundaries before gifting a sex toy.

The power in your feet - A guide to giving a fantastic foot job

Did you know that the most common fetish in the western world is the foot fetish? Odds are good that your significant other likes your feet too. Or maybe you already know he does and you want to knock his socks off with a hot surprise. Or he asked if you would do it. If so, here are some tips for you to make your man moan and groan!

Define This: Vore

Have you had the desire to eat someone today? Whole? There's a rare fantasy fetish floating around the web called Vore. Frequently compared to cannibalism, vore has many different categories that appeal to vorarephiliacs.

Feminish: Sex Pozzies

Think feminists don't like sex? Think again. One feminist's discovery of sex positivism.

SexIs Subjective: ‘Tis a gift...and ‘tis the person

Think twice before you wrap that Fleshlight! Reasons you might want to reconsider giving someone that particular gift.

Clearing the hurdles: Our struggle to conceive a child (Part Six)

Before we get into this, does anyone else see sex toys wherever you go? I think once you're around them long enough, you just naturally start to see dildos and vibrators in every day objects. Going to see a doctor will bring this out ten fold. Everything just eventually looks like a vibrator. Then suddenly the whole thing becomes something pulled from the pages of an erotic novel. Maybe it's just me. Probably. Have I mentioned that I am a little twisted? Anyway...let's move on.

SexIs Subjective: Giving Sex Toys as Gifts

If there are people on your shopping list, who you know could benefit from a few sex toys and a few good orgasms, open up your mind to the idea. You may just become their favorite gift giver!

BDSM 101: Aftercare

When you start planning your first scene, you want to do everything you can to make it as perfect as possible. What you might forget is to plan what will happen after the scene is over.

BDSM 101: What websites to join and which ones to avoid

When you first find the world of BDSM, one of the things that you probably want to do is learn as much as you can. A good way to do that is join a fetish website so that you can connect with like-minded individuals. But like with everything else, there are both good and bad websites.

Clearing the hurdles: Our struggle to conceive a child (Part Five)

I just realized that I have dragged you all in to a story that has no ending. It's still unwritten. This could have a tragic ending. Or hopefully, God willing, a very happy one. Either way, I'm sorry I lead you to this. I'm sorry you're here for the ride. Just be with me here, that's all I ask. No matter what, please know, I do not want to hurt you. Hopefully it will never come to that.

SexIs Subjective: Toys for Private, Sweaters for Family

The holidays are about love and family, and family is all about respect.

Clearing the hurdles: Our struggle to conceive a child (Part Four)

The worst part of our struggle was about to unfold. It would change us forever and leave us wondering if this foolish wish was truly outside our grasp.

Clearing the Hurdles: Our Struggle To Conceive a Child (Part One)

My wife and I have been together for a little over eleven years now. In that time, we have had our ups and downs. A lot more downs then ups, to be honest. One of our constant struggles is the inability to get pregnant. Over the course of eleven years, we have had our fair share of heartache, near death experiences, and an unbelievable miracle that has has now become my lil' six year old whirlwind of energy. Even so, we still wish it was easier on us to conceive a child.

BDSM 101: Not Everyone Needs To Know

People that are new to kink often ask "how do I explain my kink to my family and friends?" Whenever I see this question, I wonder why they feel the need to tell people.

BDSM 101: How to find your limits

When you're new to the world of BDSM, you might find it difficult to pick out your limits when there are many types of play you've never been exposed to.

BDSM 101: BDSM Myths

There are many things that you may hear when you start researching about BDSM that might make you tilt your head and go "huh?" Here are a few of them that aren't always true.

The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend "Part Four" THE END

A year later and things were looking up. We were engaged, I was saving up money for the honeymoon in Vegas, we were looking at houses and planning on having a child. Things were really picture perfect. Despite a few minor shouting matches, I seriously thought we had this beat. On the other end, I alienated myself from my friends. I spent every waking hour with “Tara." She became my world. She was my everything. It would take a a lot to snap me out of it.

The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend "Part Three"

The road I was on was looking bleak. I couldn't turn back, I could not give up on her. No matter what my friends had to say, I would stick by her side. Thick or thin, I had a point to prove. No matter how stupid it seemed to anyone else. I would make this relationship work, even if it killed me.

The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend "Part Two"

"Tara" had become my project. My goal in life. To show the rest of the world around us that a person could be changed for the better through the power of love. She would see how much I cared and loved her, simply by me not giving up on her. Surely it would work. I just had to stay by her side no matter how many trips to the ER it took.

My Discovery Of The Big "O"

"Oh! I give up trying to achieve orgasm it is too much work!" "My health problems are the reason I cannot achieve orgasm so I am a helpless cause!" "I am to busy to think of sex right now!" Do these sound like you? Do you want answers? I did too. This is how I began my search for the big "O".

The Tale Of "Tara" Or How I Survived 3 Years With A Violent Girlfriend Part One

For three years I was in a violent relationship. The biggest struggle with it all wasn't the abuse, but rather explaining my situation to family and friends. No one could believe that a 5' 2” 120 pound girl could do that much damage to a 6' 4” 190 pound man. It wasn't until the 3rd visit to the ER that my “awaking” happened. It was then that I realized that even men can be victims of abuse. Mental and physical, and I didn't need to take it anymore!

Bringing a Fantasy to Life

Each month, SexIs Social asks us to look at different topics. This month's focus is "Wish Lists" and this week is specifically about "Fantasy." We all have that favorite fantasy that we return to, I know I certainly do. One of my favorite repeat fantasies has helped me expand my own sex life.

Have You Been Naughty?

Are you dreaming of a naughty Christmas? You are not alone. Thanks to the "50 Shades of Grey" trilogy, 2012 has officially become the year of kink. Moreover, women seem to be the driving force behind this sexual explosion. LELO, a leading designer of personal pleasure objects, recently released their yearlong global survey. With 19,000 women respondents from 8 countries, the results may surprise you, unless you already have your grey silk tie.

The Virgins of the Modern World: Different Classes of Virginity in Today's Society

Today, a virgin is not simply a virgin. It is no longer as simple as deciding what sexual acts you want, or don't to want to engage in. In our society, virginity means one thing for one virgin and a completely different thing for another, it's a debatable topic. So the question is - what makes someone a virgin and who can claim to be a "True Virgin," in this twisted world filled with varying descriptions and deceptions?

Giving and receiving oral!

Are you a little iffy about trying oral or even giving it? Well read my article and I will try to help you the best I can.

Adding toys to your sex life.

Are you curious about bringing a little bit of spice to the bedroom?

SexIs Subjective: Sex Toys as Gifts: Yes for Bridesmaids, Maybe for Grandmas

Are you wondering about giving a gift of orgasmic goodness to your loved ones? Read about the pleasures and perils of sex toy gift-giving.

Understanding The Female Orgasm.

If you've been having trouble reaching the big "O," it may not be your partner's inability to please you. It may be a misunderstanding as to what part of your lady bits needs to be manipulated for an earth-shattering climax.

Why Most Men Are Afraid of Sex Toys.

Even in today’s day and age, most men still shy away from sex toys. They see them as a threat to their manhood, or even worse, a replacement for their god given penis. I'm here to tell all men to shut the funk up! Sex toys are not a dangerous thing that will destroy your relationship with your partner. Sex toys will enhance your love life tenfold. As long as you learn to stop worrying and fall in love with the joy that is a sex toy filled love life.

SexIs subjective: Toy presents??

Are they accepted? or not...

It's hard out there for a sex toy lover, especially if you're straight.

Why on God's green earth is it hard for people to grasp that straight men can love sex toys too? Or why do they think you must be gay?

Kinky Sex Club

Harvard College approves a kinky sex club as a new student organization.

How to influence the taste of your semen

Ever wondered what it would be like if your partner swallowed your cum? Maybe even tried it? And did you ever wonder what it would be like for your partner to swallow it?

The power in his hands - a guide to fingering a girl

So you decided you wanted to treat your girlfriend better and enhance the experience for her – good decision! Women like to be pampered and appreciated, and they are able to reach several orgasms during one act – so yes, why not?

SexIs Subjective: What's In The Box?

Everyone loves receiving gifts, but what about giving or receiving sex toys as gifts?

Two Lovers and A Vibrator.

Have you been wanting to introduce a toy into the bedroom but aren't entirely sure how to do it? If you want to know the benefits of using toys in the bedroom or exactly how to introduce the toy itself...keep reading!

Words have power - a guide to talking dirty

So talking dirty makes your blood boil, but you do not know where to start. Or your partner whispered in your ear to do it. Or simply you’re curious. Then this is the right place for you to start – as words have power and they can spice things up!

Coming out as a Cam girl

When you just can't lie about such a big part of your life anymore...

Understanding Premature Ejaculation

Learn a little about premature ejaculation as well as some possible ways to remedy the situation!

Define This: Dyspareunia (Painful Sex)

Do you ever experience pain during sexual penetration? Have you ever thought about why you feel that pain? Well there is a name for painful intercourse. It's called Dyspareunia.

Brr! How To Stay Warm With Your Lover This Winter When It Is Too Cold To Play Outdoors.

I absolutely dread the winter time, as well as many others! If you're like me and you are tired of the same 'ol "drink hot chocolate and wait for the blizzard to pass," try one of these saucy things to occupy your time.

You Want Me To WHAT?!

I'm sure many of us remember the introduction of toys and possibly porn into our current relationships. For some of you it may have been a fun adventure, others a continuation of your life as a single person, but for those like myself who were a bit naive, it was...an experience. Luckily, I had a patient husband who did not give up on me and I think we know the end of the story, but let me tell you how we got there.

If At First You Don't Succeed...

Becoming intimate with anyone is a process. You're two different people with one common goal: sharing closeness.

Here's What Not To Do.

It seems as though sex and rocket science are on the same level of complexity. Yes it is fun, pleasurable, and exciting but without the right knowledge it could also be tricky. To avoid awkward silence and enjoy sex to the fullest, here is what NOT to say and do in the bedroom.

Eat. Make Love. Repeat.

We all know that eating certain foods can put you in the mood for a bit of love-making. But after having done some research, you may be surprised the effect that some of these edibles will have on your sex life.

The Extra Pleasure Spot: Cervical Orgasms

While some of us are busy still trying to achieve orgasm during penetration, there are the few, blessed rest of us who have found a whole ‘nother type – the cervical orgasm, also known as the X-orgasm. In this article, I want to share with you the X-orgasm, what it is, how it happens, and even better, my own experience.

How I Deal With Holiday Stress

My family get-togethers are few and far between. I don't look forward to them. My blood pressure goes up just thinking about it. Fist fights, arguments, down right mean behavior and that is all before we even eat!

Sex - the absolute and relative availability of information

Today we live in the age of sexual freedom as well as the age of information and the internet. Anything you might want to learn or know about is pretty much a click away. But is it, really?

Getting what you really want out of sex.

I know a lot of couples who have fallen into the boring sex life routine, I was one of them! Finding your way out can be a hard road, but it can be done!

Fantasies and Friends with Benefits: an Exploration in Communication

Does casual sex have to change the way that you communicate fantasies with your partner? This is a look into answering that question from the perspective of a girl who thought she was the kinkiest girl in her cornfield town, and the friend-with-benefits who proved her very, very wrong.

The power in your hands - part II

So you already know the basics of a handjob, and maybe even have a few techniques you can vary, but you're looking for more options? Read on to learn how to make your guy smoking hot for you.

Want to see my D?

Nowadays it seems like showing your D is easier than saying hi.

Is anal really worth it?

The answer is Yes.

Introducing porn into a relationship!

Are you trying to get your partner to watch porn but don't know how? Well read my article. I'm here to help you.

The power in your hands - What makes a good handjob good?

A hand job can be just a quick jerking off and release - but it can be a sexy, hot experience if done well. With blowjobs becoming more common and less the exclusive treat, hand jobs have lost some of the appeal. But with a little concentration your hands can gain power again!

BDSM 101: Sadists and Masochists

When it comes to pain lovers there are two types of people: the givers and the receivers.

BDSM 101: Safe Words

Especially if you're new to BDSM or even just playing with a new partner, it's a good idea to have a safe word.

BDSM 101: Risk-Aware Consensual Kink

RACK is the counterpart to SSC in the BDSM world. In some ways they are very similar and in other ways they are very different.

Dealing With My Kink

How does a person figure out that they like sex differently from what is thought of as "typical"? The stories are as unique as the people who enjoy BDSM. Each person takes their own path. Some paths are scarred with abuse. Surviving an abusive relationship leaves many wounds. All too often, it affects many areas of life for years to come. One area that was difficult for me after leaving my ex, was intimacy. For me, it has taken years to accept my own kink; to let go and let myself enjoy it.

Homosexuality: The Nature vs Nurture Debate

We've all heard of this debate. Were you born gay? Or did your environment nurture you to be gay? My answer to those who ask me is, "I chose to be gay the moment you chose to be straight." I've always known. The only choice I had was if or when I chose to "come out of the closet." This article is about sexual orientation and my opinion on whether or not sexual orientation is based on nature, nurture, or both.

Make sex a priority this year...

If the intimacy in your relationship is seemingly absent then it may time to take the initiative and reignite that spark.

Yes, 'Good Girls' DO Have Sex (and we like it, too)!

When the time came for 'The Talk,' my mother decided to inform me about the differences between 'good girls' and 'those girls.' Let's just say, the thought of being one of 'those girls,' not to mention the effort to avoid becoming one, was... inhibiting.

Sex workers speak out ~ Interview with a Pimp.

There are many different sectors of the sex industry. In those sectors there are many different faces. And each of those faces belong to a real person, with a real story. Here is one of them.

I Am a Woman Who Has No "Window"

As I get older, I find that more and more women are disinterested in sex. I however, have the opposite issue.

Confessions of a Stripper: The Champagne Room Unveiled - Part 3 - The rest of the story.

Day after day and year after year, I went to work. Each night, I ran the same hustle on a different man. For years, I was their play toy and took their money; it all began to grow old. There was no big light bulb that went off in my head. However, there was one night when my thinking began to shift; when I found myself standing at a cross road. This was the night that I was slapped in the face with the reality of what my actions had caused. That night will be burned in my mind forever.

SexIs Subjective: Sexual freedom--It is found in the last place you would ever look.

Sexual freedom. Two words that, when paired together, mean many things to people. Once I realized what sexual freedom honestly meant to me, I felt liberated and truly free. Sexual freedom has nothing to do with legal issues, moral battles or input from other people. Sexual freedom comes from within. It is an important and overlooked truth about who you are as a person and how honest you are with yourself.

Unusual Fetishes

If you have a fetish that seems weird or unusual, I feel your pain. Read on to see how I integrate cannibalism, alien abductions, and incest into my everyday life.

Achieving Great Sex: All of Your Relationships in Life Need To Be Re-evaluated.

We all know that great sex is more than just physical- it is mental and emotional as well. Most of us cannot enjoy sex as much when we are not mentally and emotionally satisfied. Sexual satisfaction can be tied to a lot of aspects within our lives. Read my story and apply it to your own life. Take the steps that I took to achieve the freedom and satisfaction you deserve.

BDSM 101: Safe, Sane and Consensual

SSC is probably the most common principle followed in regards to safety in the BDSM "world."

You're as Unique as Your Vagina

I bet you don't know that your vagina is one of a kind. You are made up of an intricate network of nerves that is unique to you and your reproductive system. No two females are the same.

Intimacy - You Can't Fake it

Bombarded by imagery of sex and death, politics and disaster, life - like the movies - sometimes feels like it's lost all grip on what matters. Some ruminations on the meaning of intimacy, seen through the lens of a forty-five year old subtitled Swedish movie.

Confessions of a Stripper – The Champagne Room Unveiled: Part 2

With an open credit card at the bar, the game begins. If she can skirt around his obvious desires while stringing him along, she can make a lot of money tonight. This game is not a one man show. It takes a team to pull off a successful champagne party. From the waitress, to the bartender, and even including another dancer, each is vital for a party to continue all night long.

Love Your Body! Out Of The Image Box!

I never had anyone tell me I was pretty growing up. I never had any support from my family. My body self image was horrible. I hated myself so badly that I have no pictures. I didn't look in a mirror. I believed that no one could love me or even look at me.

Group Sex For Monogamous Couples: The Devil Is In The Details

When my wife and I were offered a foursome by a couple of very close friends, it brought up more questions than I ever thought possible

Love Is in the Air

Sometimes love is in the air – literally. Long distance relationships always existed, but with our accelerating world, those distances can stretch out to thousands of miles, and all that connects the lovers is the net or a few telephone calls. Some relationship wilt under such duress, and some live through it to flourish. But what is the secret to that?

Foods That Make You Horny

Ever wonder what foods will get you going or turn you on? Better yet did you ever wonder why they do that...?

Peer Pressure: How our friends impact our sex life

We all may think that we're adults, and therefore no longer affected by peer pressure, but the influences of our friends can impact our sex life in both positive and negative ways.

Accepting My Kink

How can submitting to a spanking possibly build confidence?

Our Young Teen Girls. How Young Is Too Young?

Girls today are going through puberty so early. When do you start talking to them about grooming? What grooming is okay at that age?

Talking About The First Time

I think we all remember the first blowjob we ever gave. But do we remember why we gave it?

Collars and Pets OH MY!

I recently spoke with a friend of mine who was having trouble with her "Owner." She's a pet, an actual pet, a Nekko, as it is standard to be called. However, when her Owner started dating a new woman, things around her house changed rather quickly. The relationship that they had has degraded.

Fang-tasy: Vampire, Werewolf, and Supernatural Play!

Are you Team Fangs or Team Claws? Either way, spook-tacular fantasy play has been everywhere from Renaissance Faires, Cons, and now most recently, the bedroom! Here will be some tips to let your claws out during intimate moments.

It's raining men

The third in a series of interviews with some of the sex industry’s lesser-known and occasionally least understood practitioners.

Bukkake is one of those sex acts that most of us discovered on the internet and, the occasional fleeting fantasy aside, we're content to leave it there. But what if it had a different name? Or if it didn't have a name at all?

Note: I've chosen to present this strictly in the words of the interviewee, removing my own questions and prompts.

The weighing game

Struggling with body issues is no laughing matter and can be a serious problem for many, but I may be able to help someone with overcoming the obstacle that is weight in the bedroom.

Winter Cold Causes Pain. How to Continue Having Sex.

Winter is cold and uninviting. Most of us have joint pain and back pain. This can be an every day thing. When winter moves in it can be even worse. We want to have sex but pain can keep you from your needs.

Size does matter!

How big is yours? 6 inches? Maybe 10? What about how deep is mine? Have you ever thought of how much dick a girl can really take? No, of course not, so let's discuss.

Beyond the Dungeon - the "other" secret life of a Dominatrix

The second in a series of interviews with some of the sex industry’s lesser-known and occasionally least understood practitioners.

Immortalized in fiction, fetishized in art, and lionized in some of the internet’s most fascinating corners, we probably think we know everything about the life of a Dominatrix. In which case, we are in for a few surprises.

Note: I've chosen to present this strictly in the words of the interviewee, removing my own questions and prompts.

Are We Being Overexposed to Sex?

Are we all becoming sex addicts or are we just really hung up on getting, having, and experiencing sex?

No Love Without the Glove: Forget That!

I've always been the type of girl to strictly believe that condoms were the best way to go. Birth control has too many side effects and I never wanted to take the risk. But oh was I pleasantly mistaken!

Sex in someone else's house

In a moment of passion, would you have sex while in your family's house?

Sex Feed: An advocate for cervical cancer screening

She waited 7 years, and it almost cost her life.

First Time Tips

While many feel society falsely portrays ‘the first time’ as magical and are consequently disappointed, I was led to believe the opposite and was happily surprised. I am here to tell you that giving away your virginity can be a positive experience if it is with the right person and if you prepare properly.

Sexy Me, Sexy You

We all want to feel sexy, but sometimes in our daily life we lose touch with that sexy side of ourselves. There are some easy ways to help you get your sexy back though, read on for more.

Beginner's Guide to Anal Play

Anal sex can be an exciting addition to your bedroom. And although it may seem overwhelming, with a little preparation and patience, it can be an enjoyable experience, perhaps one that you'd like to make a regular occurrence.

Light and Sex

Does turning off the lights actually contribute to us being turned on? This article is all about how light affects our bodies, our mood and by extension, our sexual experience.

All The Crap That Can Go Wrong With Our Cooches

STD testing: a necessary evil that all sexually active people must partake in at least once in their lives. Fortunately I am disease free today at 36 years of age. But that's because of my horseshoes up my arse, so to speak. For females there are a number of things that can go awry in your reproductive system. Some are STDs while others just mimic the symptoms. Here's my personal account of a bunch of issues I and my body have had to face.

Things To Do To Help With Chronic Pain.

Dealing with chronic pain can put anyone off to sex. What do you do if you still have the desire? Here are things to help out with the daily discomfort.

A beginner's guide to Sexting

Panic-stricken social commentators tell us it's the latest evil craze to be turning our children into sex-mad monsters. But not only has sexting always been with us, it doesn't care how old you are, either. So, a noobie's guide to getting it on in three or four characters, tops.

Role-Playing – probably not the kind you’re thinking.

Plenty of couples have tried their hand at role-playing – anything from a sexy nurse to a police officer. But have you ever tried acting as a specific character? Don’t laugh yet – it can be a lot more fun than you think!

Study Suggests “Horny” Trumps “Ick” in Most Women

What can your arousal make you forget today?

The Dichotomy of Me

My daily and bedroom personalities don't match. What does that say about me? Does it say anything at all?

Huge Mood Killers

There are so many things that affect our moods in the bedroom, so many of them under our control.

How Far is Too Far?

A recent French movie shattered mainstream cinematic expectations by incorporating scenes of real sex in place of the usual simulation. And a lot of people got very upset. Were you one of them? A few thoughts on a theme of the movie world’s final frontier.

You know your boyfriend's been watching porn when...

Kicking the cliche out of blowjobs

Top 8 Movie Sex Scenes of 2011

What were the sexiest flicks in 2011? Find out here.

BDSM 101

So you're interested in learning more about BDSM or even ready to start going down that road? Read on and I'll describe a few of the things that you might want to try out, without sending you running for the hills.

Looking to try something new? It's not as scary as you think.

Many think about trying new things in the bedroom, especially with the 50 Shades of Grey craze going on throughout the country right now. It's time to stop being afraid of what might be too weird or freaky and give it a shot! Easing into new territory might not be as hard as you're imagining.

Sexbot and Robots, or Coin-Operated Hookers.

I was recently asked (or the question was referred to me) if I thought sex robots were a thing I would see in my life time. I replied simply, "I already have." Granted these are not the robot nymphomaniacs of current movie magic, more like the clunky things you might expect, but they are getting better. However what does that mean, for humanity, and are these for men only? How close to the cool ones? These answers will surprise you.

Feelin' Sexy, Inside and Out

You don't have to be a perfect Hollywood bombshell to feel like you're sexy, both in and out of the bedroom.

Variety is the Spice of Life

Sex is a huge part of any relationship, whether you're sexually active all the time or tend to be the kind of couple that only gets it on every so often, sex is important. While the cuddly, cute, "let's make love" kind of sex is enjoyable, spicing things up can be just as much fun if not more. I've recently decided to take my sexual relationship and turn up the volume a few notches, and DAMN is it making a lot of noise.

Anal play!

This is just a quick guide for anyone who's interested in anal play or penetration, with some tips I've picked up on through personal experience.

Common Myths About Sex Toys

There I was standing in front of the glass case of beautiful toys for the first time. The lingerie we originally came there for was forgotten. I couldn't believe what I was seeing. They looked more like works of art than sex toys. Could my negative opinions about them have been wrong? I was in heaven, and determined to test my theories.

Blowjob Tips!

This is just a quick little guide along with some tips for how to get better at giving blowjobs, based on personal experience.

Variety Is the Spice of Life

Trying new things can be scary, and so some people stay in their comfort zone. But trying new things, especially in the bedroom, can be a lot of fun. By carefully and thoughtfully introducing things to your lover, the sky is the limit when it comes to fun in the bedroom.

Mysteries of the Male Ejaculate: A Matter of Taste

There is so much that goes unasked and unspoken between a man and woman. Since orgasms really begin and end in the mind and so much of sex is psychological, understanding each other's sexual needs, wants, fantasies and expectations can be a wonderful turn-on, and create a deeply passionate connection.

@%#*ing Zombies, or Stress Relief in the Zombie Apocalypse.

It seems like these days more people have more Zombie Survival plans than they have pairs of socks. I fully support this activity but everyone always seems to forget something really important, sex during the end times.

How Young Is Too Young?

Following up on my last article I wanted to make a point that I do not believe that every raging hormone, sex crazed, young teenager should be having sex. The people I preached for were that of ages 20 or higher. But here is now an interesting point: how young is too young for teens to be sexually active?

Coming Out Of My Cocoon!

Before I made my way to EdenFantasys, my sex life was not something I talked about. I have really come out of my cocoon and have learned so much, not only about myself but about my husband and best friend as well.

Making Noise

Who doesn’t like positive feedback? I mean, when you are working hard, it’s really nice to know that you are making a good impression. For some, it is hard to vocalize their enjoyment. I have oscillated from being a talker, moaner, and silent companion depending on what my relationships are like. I have found that the more feedback I give and receive; the better the sex is for everyone.

Talking about it.

I am an American. I am a woman. These two things mean that I was socialized to be ashamed of being a sexual being. That shame didn’t last long, but it was an intense few years learning to shrug it off.

My "No Sex" Education

Is abstinence really the best way? Find out how the Abstinence Only approach to sex education has impacted my life and what I'm doing about it. Get my tips on your recovery and how to teach your teens about sex.

The Young and The Sexless

Nowadays there are a lot of young and generally attractive men who have virtually little to no sex lives. What's the reason for this? Is it their looks, personalities, or is it both? For those who are labeled as unattractive or seemingly unworthy of a sex life, how do we change the perspective of billions who believe that tall, tan, and physically fit is the ideal looks of someone who is attractive?

All That’s Wickedly at Stake with Jessica Drake

What does Jessica Drake do on her birthday? Why does she do what she does? How does she feel about her fans? Dave Gammon asks all that and more in this interview with “the wickedest girl” in porn.

Role Play: Nerdy or Sexy?

Some people find role play too nerdy for the bedroom, but what's really holding you back?

Talk Dirty To Me Baby

Dirty talk, it isn't just for porn is it? Have you ever been in a public place and gotten totally turned on by something your lover whispered in your ear? Or gone nuts when they cried out something in bed? If not, then we need to have a talk.

Why I Like Anime Porn

Alright. So, anime porn. I know this might not be a very popular subject but I'm not sure anything else I do is, so I will just smack the 'Remember, this is just what's in my head' sticker on the article and send it to market.

Are you sitting comfortably? Well then let us begin.

To Make a (NSFW) Music Video

I have made various music videos, and all from porn clips.

HOLY MOTHER OF...STOP!

Safe words are an iconic part of BDSM play for a reason. They maintain the integrity of the role play while still giving the individuals a way to end play immediately. Safe words are an important thing to think about.

Vocalizing Pleasure: Is louder better?

He was still a peachy-cheeked, lanky-limbed, soprano-voiced child who happened to be getting on the same elevator with us. Nothing about his appearance would have grabbed my attention except for the message on his shirt: ‘Sexual Expert, First Lesson Free.’

Bondage Around the House

So you want to try bondage? You don't want to go out and buy fancy handcuffs or rope from a hardware store? That's ok, there are everyday household items you can use for your little fantasy!

A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: When worlds collide

The lighting is set, the camera is ready to go live. You are dressed and everything is ready to go...And then your child wakes from a nightmare and is crying for you.

Real Men Eat Pussy—and Kiss Ass

I don't believe that all things must be equal in a sexual relationship—few things in life in general, much less in any kind of human relationship, are truly equal. We all have ways in which we intentionally or unintentionally get over on someone else or receive more than another person in the course of human dynamics.

What's wrong with me?

After years of feeling down and depressed, wondering what was wrong with me, I've finally come to terms with the fact that my body doesn't work quite the way I would like it to.

When "Doing Your Wifely Duties" Becomes a Chore

When I first discovered EdenFantasys, I hadn’t read or even heard of the 50 Shades of Gray series. Now seven months after placing my first order, who would ever imagine I would be living my own series; that my whole sexual being would be change.

Thank You, EdenFantasys

How has EdenFantasys changed my life? I would love to say that I have always been sex positive, open, free and knowledgeable but the truth is the person I am today is a direct result of the community at EdenFantasys.

My Favorite Outdoor Location

I’ve recently rediscovered the fun from having sex outdoors can be. When I was a teenager, this was an ordinary occurrence, but as I grew older and became married sneaking around like a couple teenagers wasn’t a necessity anymore.

SexIs Social Writing Contest: And the winners are...

We put out the call. You answered. We were amazed by the response and raw talent we received. And now? We find we're forced to choose winners.

A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: The Unveiling

So you want to know what a successful cam girl looks like? You wanna see just what I am made of? This is the line of questioning I have been getting lately, So, Why not. Ok then, Lets get down to the glitter and glam of... ME.

In Praise of Uncut Cocks

One girl, one fetish, and her quest for enlightenment. Am I alone in my love of uncircumcised penises?

Music to Set the Mood

Music is something that can elevate, or totally destroy a sexual encounter. Everyone has their own idea of music to create a vibe, and almost everyone's is different.

Your favorite movie can be a great sex enhancer.

How can an action movie get you some action?

A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: Sex Sells

If you have read my other articles, you got the details in a perky, upbeat, sometimes sarcastic way. Tonight, it is coming from the other side of me, the depressed single mother that feels like things will never change. This will prove that being a cam girl, or a mom, is not all glam and glitter.

Confessions of a Stripper: How it all began.

With the days of the Red Light District long gone, the back bone of the sexual atmosphere in the French Quarter is the Exotic Dancers who fill its numerous clubs. Over a hundred Ladies of all ages and back grounds work every night year around to entertain the tourists.

So, you want to be a Cam Girl?

Lots of requests have been coming in about what it takes to be a cam girl. Well, Let me tell you...

A New Awakening: The introduction & acceptance of porn in my relationship.

Have you ever had an epitome? One that has changed your outlook on a very minor area of your life and then turned it into a major part of your relationship? A realization so profound that it changed your sexual relationship with your partner?

Spicing Up Our Sex Life

July 19th 2012 is my husband and I ninth wedding anniversary and thirteenth year we have been together. In this time we have experienced many different things together. We have found jobs and quit them to do something different, had two children, went back to school, I became a stay at home parent, lost family members, but through it all we have stuck by each other and helped each other through whatever we may be experiencing at the time.

Our Lazy Afternoon

During a lazy afternoon in, my boyfriend and I figured out a new way to make each other feel good.

An Understanding and Introduction to Porn

Porn is very hit-or-miss for a lot of people. If you'd like to find out some ways you could engage in it more (and like reading rants), read on!

Orgasms: You're not a freak.

No one ever told me what a normal orgasm was like, and so I spent years feeling like a freak for the way(s) that I orgasm.

So You Wanna Try Bondage?

Maybe you've wanted to try it for a while, or you just read some spicy erotica that spiked your interest, but either way you want to try bondage. Now the only thing you're trying to do is figure out where the heck to start, right?

Sex and College Stress

How to use orgasms as a weapon against those stressful college days and days to come.

50 Shades of a Cam Whore in love with a Vampire?!?!?

Warning : This is more of a rant opposed to a stimulating article!

Community Commentary: Wait...there are still "The Rules"?

Love, relationships and romance can be difficult and confusing enough, but take a trip to your local bookstore and you might wind up even more topsy-turvy than when you entered.

Long Distance Love: Sex Without Contact

Do you remember the first time you spent an extended period of time away from your partner? How do you maintain intimacy when you're thousands of miles apart?

Embracing Kink

How do you find a partner who's into kinky sex? You may already have the answer!

Exploring our Sexual Vocabulary: Today’s Word Starts with ‘C’

The words we use to describe the things we do in bed can say a lot about us, and the society we live in. When we talk sex we usually are talking about something “dirty” or “nasty” or if it drips with raw animal desire, it might even be “filthy.” Why is that?

How To Have Amazing Sex

I was fortunate enough to attend a course that was in part taught by leading sex therapist and sex researcher, Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz. One of the things she discussed was a study her and her fellow colleagues conducted to learn about what components tend to be involved in reaching “optimal” sexuality.

Food and Sex: Sexy, Yummy, Edible Stuff

Food? In the bedroom? Really?

Really. PuddlePuppy's here to tell you all about it.

Teenage Sex With A Dose Of Heartbreak

Teen angst at its best. I wrote this when I was nineteen years old. He was my first love. He broke my heart. I broke his right back, and in the worst way. He ended up marrying the girl in the end, but that is how many of my fairy tales work out. He was my first true love, but he wasn't my last. He was her last true love. They are happily married with a baby, and another on the way. I thank the higher power that I didn't end up with him and found my own fairy tale.

Why does Gender matter?

A three part examination of Gender Identity in the 21st Century. Or as I like to think of it, I'm going to take your concept of normal and toss it out the window.

Move Over, G-Spot: The Anterior Fornix is Here

For decades, the G-spot has reigned supreme as the marvelous, magical, mystical erogenous zone inside the vagina. But did you know there's an often-overlooked hot spot just a couple of inches north of the G-spot? It's called the anterior fornix, and it just might change your life.

A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl : It's all in the Attitude.

Whether we are talking about Mothers, Cam Whores, or sexual fetishes; it all comes down to attitude. And as much as people believe, attitude is everything. I am here to tell you, you are full of shit. Attitude means nothing if you can't back it up with the rest of you.

Sexy dysfunctions that can destroy your life: Part One -- Sexsomnia

Sexual conditions that sound sexy but could destroy your life.

Erotica in The Mainstream (Or how "50 Shades of Grey" Has Helped Loosen Us Up)

"50 Shades of Grey" is everywhere. No matter what you think of the writing, the books have brought erotica out from the shadows in the publishing world. With the way erotica is being viewed currently and the advent of E-readers, there has never been a better time to love erotica.

Playing with (Human) Dolls - Dollification

"Will you let me dress you up and play with you?" she asked. It was a question that no one had ever asked me before, but which started my exploration into the world of human dolls, a fetish known as "dollification." Playing with dolls isn't just Ken and Barbie anymore.

Masturbation or a Lack Thereof

I’ve always read that the key to knowing what turns you on is masturbation. You won’t know what you’ll enjoy with a partner until you masturbate and find it on your own. What happens when neither partner in a relationship is interested in masturbation?

Everybody Kinks

Whether you like it bent over the bed and spanked or missionary with the lights out, everyone has something that gets them going. Just remember, at the end of the day we are all doing it to get off.

The First Time

No one's first time is what everyone imagines it will be. We as a society put so much emphasis on the first time that it is nearly impossible to meet the expectations that accompany your first sexual experience.

A Day in the Life of a Cam Girl: Mood Based Pricing

How can I tell you who I am in the cam world, if you don't know who I am for real. I want to show you everything involved in being a Cam Girl. And by everything, I mean who I am, what I do, and who (and what) I deal with. So from now on, I am going to be doing 3 part articles. I hope you enjoy!

You wanna do what?!?

Years ago, before I was serious about anything in my life, I was involved in a relationship that was purely focused on carnal needs. We certainly didn't imply catching a movie when we said, “Hey, you wanna hang out tonight?” The agenda was sex. What's funny to me isthat it isn't the sex that I remember. It's something so insanely simple he said so long ago that dug in and made a home in my mind.

EdenFantasys, how I love thee. Let me count the ways.

Everything that has been positive in my sex life within the last ten months has been because I found a wonderful place called EdenFantasys. EdenFantasys has been the center of my growing sexual confidence, and I am so thankful for stumbling upon them.

How to Come Into Yourself

I discovered EdenFantasys just about a year ago. I was reading a blog that I follow and someone had posted a link to where they purchased their latest sex toy. I clicked on the link, and I won’t say that my life was transformed from that moment on, but my sex life has definitely never been the same. Between the selection of toys, the ways I interact in the community and the writing that I do here on SexIs I’ve been able to really come into my own sexually.

When The Bread of Your Relationship is Getting Stale and Dry

Let’s be honest; there are always new products and ideas for spicing up your sex life, but what about the non-related sex aspect of the relationship? It’s like a loaf of bread. After awhile of just sitting there, it becomes hard, perhaps a bit moldy, and just unappealing all around. So what can we do?

The Diary Of A Girl Who Just Wants To Be Loved

This is a story about a girl who is trying to live each day without going insane. She is up, she is down, she is all around. She makes choices and fights battles with herself and others. She likes hard extreme kinky sex and wants it more often but can't seem to find the courage. She is trying to find herself, and I'll let you know when she does. Who is this girl? She's driving in the rain. She wants some sunshine out of it all.

A little BDSM finally helps me to orgasm - followed by lots of "self love!"

As an older teenager/young adult, I was sexually dysfunctional due to past issues. In addition to thinking masturbation was "disgusting," I also never understood why men found me attractive. It wasn't until a partner tied me down and "made" me orgasm, that I truly realized what I had been missing.

Suck It!

Who really likes giving head anyway? I do, I do! Let me help you like it too.

The Relationship Between Sexual Desire and Romantic Love

Sexual desire and romantic love have often been mistaken for two separate, opposing entities. While reading articles written by great philosophers such as Sartre, Blackburn, and Fromm, I noticed that they all use the two terms as if their meanings were like day and night. This article will explore the interconnecting relationship between desire and love, and consider the fact that Fromm’s writings may not be as accurate as his readers may have presumed.

Makeup-Breakup-Repeat: Facebook Style

We all know at least one couple that sticks to the pattern of breaking up, making up, and repeating. Heck, I’ve even had a relationship (or two) in the past that followed this pattern. It was pretty ridiculous and pointless. Now that we’ve got social media websites like Facebook, it seems that these couples are making their personal dramas public for all to see. Seriously, I’m like, “what the eff?”

I Want Your Love, I Want Your Disease. I Want You Open Mouthed And On Your Knees.

Love. Passion. Lust. Kink. Fetish. These five words have such meaning for the BDSM community and those whom only fantasize of living the dream. It has always been about love. It has always been about fetish and kink. It will always be about giving up that control that you didn't know you could, and just embracing it. It makes my toes curl just thinking about everything involving love and kink. You and me could write a bad romance.

You're Into WHAT?!

Foot fetishes, golden showers, rimming, pony play, slave and master, role playing, faeces play, whipping, spanking, pegging, needle play, asphyxiation, and oh so much more! You don't have to practice or even like the idea of these activities but many people thoroughly enjoy them. Just because they may seem different doesn't make them wrong.

Dare to Be Seduced by Your Senses

That we are universally skin-hungry and primal in our basic urges bears out in our private conversations, our media obsessions with other people’s sex lives, our ferocious reading of erotic, how-to sex books, even the collective gasp at Fifty Shades of Grey. Harlequin-esque BDSM may be the gateway drug to fetishized sex in vanilla bedrooms. It could be the wake up call that women’s erotica is a literary genre worth taking a private peek at, or it could be a sign of the times.

Am I a Freak? (A Formal Introduction)

Nobody can tell you better if your turn-ons make you a freak, than the expert on taboo... Tessa Taboo.

Sex Not Going as Planned? Here are Three Steps to get Back to Pleasure.

It happens to the best of us. You're in the moment, fully enjoying every kiss, stroke, and lick...until you're not. You start thinking about the laundry that needs to get done or that fight we had with whoever or the bills that need to get paid and before you know it, you are just over it. Sex? Not anymore. These three steps are my sure-fire way to move through those moments and back to your pleasure...fast.

When Those Boots Come On

The world of the Dom/Domme/sub is a very intriguing world, whether you are into the lifestyle, or simply curious about it. It is a completely different world from the one that we live in, or the vanilla world that most accept. So, through this article, come with me on my journey into the BDSM world, and peer into the life that I've begun.

When the BDSM Lifestyle gets abruptly put on hold, what happens next?

You are deeply into the BDSM lifestyle with your significant other and life makes those unexpected changes on you. Where are you to go next? You always move forward. You keep living from day to day and hope that one day, the answer to all your questions will just glow on the top of your head like a light bulb. You begin to get into the passion and have these uncontrollable urges to do incredibly taboo things with your lover at ridiculous times of the day/night.

A day in the life of a Cam Girl: Welcome to my world!

Hello, My name is Lillie. How can I serve your credit card today?

When A Website Changes It All

We didn't expect our life to be thrown for a loop after having a baby. What we expected even less was for a website to turn it all around for us.

My Transformation Into A Super Soaker

EdenFantasys has done many things for all of us. Most of us can agree that Eden has improved our sexual well being. This is my story!

It's Okay to Shout, But if You Want to Whisper That's Okay Too

Coming out doesn't have to be huge. It's different for each person.

Sex and The World

Are you fooling you self by thinking you're a different person behind closed doors?

Fearlessly Optimistic about Sensual Kink

The Lights are low, the music is playing in the background. The massage oils are warm, and your partner is waiting.

Fear Factors

I do a great deal of speaking. On stage, as an actor. In front of crowds, as a storyteller. In the classroom, as a BDSM educator. All over the USA, in Europe, Canada, wherever. Much of what I share is intensely personal, and I often receive comments from folks who have been gracious enough to listen to me nattering on or watch me do my thing about how they wish they could be as brave as I am.

Top Ten Things We Don’t Need

A friend of mine sent me a picture of a piano she saw and I was all “Nice piano,” until I looked a little closer and realized it was a VAGINA PIANO.

Just What the Marriage Counselor Ordered

This month, our parent company EdenFantasys is celebrating 10 sexy years of business! To honor the anniversary, we asked the EdenFantasys Community to tell us what being a member of our community has done for them. This is what SexyStuff had to say.

Letter from the Editor: Introducing SexIs Social!

We've been talking about major changes since March. You've waited so patiently. We're ready now. Are you?

Sensing Summer

I grew up poor in New York City, so my relationship to nature is…tenuous, at best.

Unselfish Hands

I looked into coming back to write some new articles for EdenFantasys and saw that Touch is the theme for this month. More specifically, how hands relate to touch. I couldn’t wait to write this article.

Hot Sex: How to Avoid Heat Stroke in the Bedroom

“Don’t touch me.” I can be heard using this phrase on a fairly regular basis in the summertime.

Smokedawg’s Adventures in Wanking Part 1: A Hand’s Best Friend

I’ve never lived or worked on a farm, but I’ve choked many a chicken. Never played one of those Indian flutes while wearing a turban, but I’ve charmed a snake thousands of times. Never worked at a BDSM-friendly water park, but I’ve been known to frequently flog the dolphin.

More Than Looks

The evening news comes on to report about the protests in New York – the 1% protests. The reporter clutches her microphone as she gestures with her other arm at the crowds behind her with a serious and solemn expression.

Thoughts During Terrible Sex

Once again, twitter has gone crazy with the bad sex trends and has basically written my column for me. This time there were a few gems worthy of sharing and a whole lot of shit that makes me glad I’m not single.

The Suspension Accident: It Finally Happened...

Kinksters talk quite a bit about the inherent risk of bondage and other kinky play. They learn the proper procedure, to mitigate that risk — but rarely do you hear about the stark reality that no matter what precautions you take or how safe you play, people can still get hurt.

BDSM’s Dirty Secret – The Real Risk of Kinky Sex

As kinky folks, most of us have heard of the risks associated with certain activities we like: rope cuts off circulation, bruises invite suspicion and speculation, infected wounds or bites just plain suck and breath play can flat out be deadly... but there's more.

“Yesterday, I blew a 500 pound man.”

The Whore Journals, Part 22: The end is at hand.

Vagina Hair. It’s Tricky.