Many girls (including myself) like to be dominated during sex. To have our partners dominate us, control us, and do whatever they selfishly want with us, no questions asked. To be spanked, fucked rough, and just have them go all beast-like on us. But to what extent is that true? What is the limit before it becomes too much?

Domination is a form of control. Submissive girls like guys who are masculine, in control and taking charge. In fact that is quite a turn on since they want a "man" in bed. Although sex can be sweet and nice, sometimes you just want the physical part of it, to just be an animal and go crazy. I personally like to have my hair pulled during sex. I am not saying rip it off, but a semi-firm grab is amazing. I like to get spanked during doggy and having my boyfriend grab me tightly and firmly and even pin down on my front side while he is doing me from behind. It is all a great way to make me just flow and flow nonstop.

The problem though is that some guys don't understand when to stop, or to what extent submissive people like to be dominated.

I remember that before starting to date my boyfriend I had this guy that I hooked up with all the time. The guy was good at sex. Problem was that he was a little too selfish. Now selfish can be good, but when you start inflicting pain then that's a problem (or at least for me, I don't enjoy painful sex).

I remember one time, I asked him to spank me, and he slapped my ass cheeks so hard they were blue/purplish the next day. Also, when I asked him to go rough he would do it in such a way that I would just start crying from pain. That's why I stopped asking him to do such things and just kept it simple sex.

With my current boyfriend, I actually enjoy it. He understands what I want. Sometimes I even let him go further and just literately treat me all dirty and be the total master. I just love it!

Also, girls like to dominate the guy sometimes. Girls like it when they flip the power dynamics around and become in control, treat the guy as a sex slave and their "boy toy". The cool thing is that most guys like it. They might not all admit it, but they like it.

Guys like to be teased. They like it when the girl fucks with their mind and just makes them go crazy. A girl on top taking control and riding that dick is also quite the turn on for them. It is also a turn on for the girl, to be in power, to do what she wants, and what she likes, being all selfish and caring only about her own needs.

But all has to be balanced. Especially if we are talking about relationships. Because in the end, hook ups and random sex is not the same as it is when you are with someone you like. You see, in random sex you are purely selfish, with full intent to just please yourself and satisfy your needs. On the contrary, sex is more intimate in a relationship and although you need some element of selfishness in sex to have it spicy, you still need to have a good balance.