We would all like to think that peer pressure doesn’t exist; after all, we make our own decisions based on our own wants and needs, right? While this is true, we are impacted by those around us, maybe even more so than we think. And our sex life is no exception to this. Our interactions with friends can impact our bedroom in both positive and negative ways, depending on certain situations and interactions.
One of the most positive ways our friends can influence our sex life is through basic conversations. For instance, think of a girls’ night out. You and all your lady friends go out and have a few drinks. The conversation turns towards sex: good sex, bad sex, kinky sex, vanilla sex. Sex, sex, and more sex. Add a few more drinks into the equation and things can get a bit frisky. You get home a few hours later, and you have done nothing but think and talk sex. There is nothing that’s going to stop you from jumping your partner and riding him to dawn. Hello, added benefit of girls' night out!
Another bonus your friends can add to your sex life is with experimentation. Imagine you and a friend are out for coffee, and she shares with you how her hubby tied her to the bed last night, how fantastic it was and how it let her give up control and have an earth-shattering orgasm. It just may get you thinking about trying it yourself. Her disclosure may encourage you to try some of those kinky things you’ve always thought about in the privacy of your own mind, but never had the courage to ask for or initiate in the bedroom. But after your conversation, you may realize that you are not alone in your desires. Knowing what’s going on behind her bedroom door may allow you to expand your sexual horizons as well.
But not all interactions with friends can be beneficial to your sex life. We all have those friends who seem to have it all: a great job, the perfect body, a spotless house, and a shinny car. They’ve also got a sex life that leaves them hanging from the ceiling and they love to tell you all the raunchy details. Situations like this can end up with you comparing yourself to them, and your sex life with theirs. And you may feel that yours does not compare. This can lower your self-confidence or make you feel that your lover is not as good as he could be. Often in these situations, instead of this leading to a much need conversation, it ends up making us dissatisfied with our sex life and our relationship, and thinking that everyone else out there is screwing like bunnies or having orgasms that leave them unable to walk the next day.
It’s important to remember to always keep things in perspective. If you and your partner are both satisfied with your sex life, then it’s perfectly fine. If a friend tells you about a new technique or toy, and you are interested in incorporating it into your bedroom play, then do it. But don’t ever let someone else’s stories or experience put a damper on yours. Don’t let anyone make you think that things aren’t right just because the sex they're having sounds too good to be true. It just might be. Remember, kinky sex is not always good sex and quantity does not out rank quality.