Help! My Friend Over Shares!
A few months ago, I found myself in an interesting place with a long time friend. Over the years we've known each other, she has experimented a lot with her sexuality. She's tried every toy under the sun, tested the waters of same sex and opposite sex relationships, attended bondage clubs, and more. As she began her experiments, I admired her. I thought to myself, who is this brave, brave woman who is so open to learning more about herself even if the ideas are taboo?
As it continued and increased my admiration turned to questioning. Why does she do that? Does that actually feel good for her? Would I enjoy something like that?
Then, to my dismay, my questioning turned to judgement. I thought she was a bad person. I was afraid to be seen with her in certain circumstances. I even viewed some of her activities as a form of prostitution.
Of course, none of this would be an issue if I didn't know all the issues of what she was doing. But no, I knew every hairy detail down to which positions she experimented with, which toy she used where and how hard she liked to be hit.
Eventually, after talking to her about it and trying to change the conversation every time she brought something up that made me uncomfortable, I ended the friendship. I just did not feel the relationship was mutually beneficial and we just had too many differences. It was not a decision I made lightly, but I just couldn't comfortably go out in public with a girl who was confidently wearing see-through pants and a g-string.
As it continued and increased my admiration turned to questioning. Why does she do that? Does that actually feel good for her? Would I enjoy something like that?
Then, to my dismay, my questioning turned to judgement. I thought she was a bad person. I was afraid to be seen with her in certain circumstances. I even viewed some of her activities as a form of prostitution.
Of course, none of this would be an issue if I didn't know all the issues of what she was doing. But no, I knew every hairy detail down to which positions she experimented with, which toy she used where and how hard she liked to be hit.
Eventually, after talking to her about it and trying to change the conversation every time she brought something up that made me uncomfortable, I ended the friendship. I just did not feel the relationship was mutually beneficial and we just had too many differences. It was not a decision I made lightly, but I just couldn't comfortably go out in public with a girl who was confidently wearing see-through pants and a g-string.
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