Orgasm Focus
When I look at forums online that discuss sex, I have come across numerous posts where people ask for help on making their partner have an orgasm. Learning sexual technique and having discussions on what feels pleasant is fine by me. I completely agree with understanding anatomy and how understanding that anatomy can lead to better sex and more pleasant feelings, but oftentimes these posts have more to them. There are women who feel inadequate because they are unable to make their boyfriend cum from a blowjob. There are men who feel self conscious about their penis because their girlfriend does not have an orgasm from penetrative sex. There are numerous occasions where I see people judging their self-worth on their ability to give their partner an orgasm. And this is the problem I have seen. The problem is that some people focus on sex purely around an orgasm, and I think that causes some issues.
I want to share a personal story. My girlfriend and I were spending an afternoon together alone. We were watching television and she decided to try something adventurous and pulled down my pants. She told me to just keeping watching t.v. She proceeded to give me a blowjob for quite a while. Sometimes a blowjob is used for warm-up for us. So I was unsure if she was going to want penetrative sex shorty. So I held back a bit and prevented myself from ejaculating. I was unaware that she wanted me to finish and that it was meant to be a surprise gift. So after a while, her jaw got sore and she stopped. But when she stopped, she was crying and very upset. At this point I asked her what the problem is, but she is extremely upset and doesn’t want to talk. So I hugged her and just waited. Eventually we started to talk and she said she feels like a bad girlfriend and that she just is not good at sex. We talked about a lot of stuff and this article is going to focus on what we talked about, because I think it is applicable to all couples. It can help if a similar situation happens to you.
I want to share a personal story. My girlfriend and I were spending an afternoon together alone. We were watching television and she decided to try something adventurous and pulled down my pants. She told me to just keeping watching t.v. She proceeded to give me a blowjob for quite a while. Sometimes a blowjob is used for warm-up for us. So I was unsure if she was going to want penetrative sex shorty. So I held back a bit and prevented myself from ejaculating. I was unaware that she wanted me to finish and that it was meant to be a surprise gift. So after a while, her jaw got sore and she stopped. But when she stopped, she was crying and very upset. At this point I asked her what the problem is, but she is extremely upset and doesn’t want to talk. So I hugged her and just waited. Eventually we started to talk and she said she feels like a bad girlfriend and that she just is not good at sex. We talked about a lot of stuff and this article is going to focus on what we talked about, because I think it is applicable to all couples. It can help if a similar situation happens to you.
beautifully written, i like all of what sex has to offer, not just the orgasms, before reading this i felt bad becasue my friends all cum from the simplest things and i dont, i felt inadequate , unfortunately i have left my boyfriend for these reasons already so it cant help me in that department but it will in the future, so thank you .