Here's What Not To Do.

Don't be so self-conscious. I myself am guilty of this. It's something I still struggle with. I can tell you 101 things that I wish I could change about myself. On the other hand, my fiance thinks I'm the most beautiful creature to ever walk this earth. If your lover says you're sexy, run with it. The very last thing your lover wants to hear while you're rolling around in the sheets is how much you hate your body. There's a time and place for everything and when you are in the heat of the moment is the most inappropriate time to vocalize your insecurities. Confidence is the sexiest thing about a woman. Chances are, your lover thinks your body is amazing just the way it is. So enjoy the moment and focus on feeling good.

Don't lie about what you do and do not like. This happens to the best of us. For example: If there is a new position your lover has been absolutely dying to try and you don't like it as much as they do, tell them. If you pretend to love it they will end up working it into their regular routine and you have to endure his lackluster move rather than enjoy it. It's understandable that you don't want to hurt his ego, so break it to him nicely. Tell him that you love the fact that he is willing to try new things but his "Bucking bronco" move just wasn't your thing.

Don't fake one for your lover's benefit. Cliche I know but it's true. If you fake an orgasm he will know. It comes off disingenuous and rehearsed. In the end, they haven't been giving you what you want in bed. Talk about it. Instead of faking it, tell your partner what they can do in bed differently to get you there.

Don't do anything you are uncomfortable with. No matter how excited they are about it, don't do anything for the sole reason of pleasing your partner. If you give in, it'll more than likely feel weird or awkward. If it's something you'd consider, work up to it at your own pace. The golden rule here is to just be honest and communicate with one another.

From my fiance's point of view: As a man, we are under a lot of pressure when it comes to pleasing our lovers. At least, that's how it seems from our perspective. Every man wants to know that he is able to perform well in the bedroom and send his girl away with an ear to ear smile on her face. I find that a woman who is happy with her sex life is generally happy about everything else. Who knew? So I ask myself all the time, what can I do to satisfy her?

First of all, you must know what you are doing. If you are trying something for the first time, discuss this with your significant other before jumping into it. This is to prevent disappointment just in case this action goes wrong. You do not want to be overly aggressive. It is okay to take charge but try not to dominate your partner. Some people may like this but this is definitely a turn-off to most. Everybody wants to feel like they can take control.

Last bit of crucial information, neither side should ever complain about ANYTHING during sex. It could make the other person lose a great bit of confidence in their skill. This is a guaranteed way to prevent yourself from getting any sex.

I don't know about other guys, but I want my woman to smile when people ask about our sex life. It makes me feel good to know that I can satisfy her needs. We encountered a few issues ourselves a few times before, but learning is definitely part of growing up together.

In conclusion, communication is the key to having a happy and healthy relationship and sex life. I hope this information was helpful. Thanks for reading!!