My husband and I are conservative Christians of the Mormon variety, and as such we waited until we were married to have sex. On our wedding night, he was 25 and I was 24, so you can imagine the anticipation that had built up over the years.
We went into it with so much excitement and plenty of book knowledge, but zero experience. Sadly, the night was a huge disappointment. Sex was painful for me, and did not seem to get better with time.
For me, there was very little pleasure in it – mostly a horrible burning sensation that would last for hours after. I went to see a doctor, but received no help or instruction. At first I tried to grin and bear it, but I harbored resentment toward my husband.
Eventually, I got to the point I would avoid sex whenever I could. That hurt and confused my husband. Was this what everyone had been making such a big deal about? Would it ever get any better? A rocky year passed, and I think we both had moments where we wondered if our marriage would make it.
It was obvious we needed to make some changes, but sex was such a sore topic that any conversation was sure to lead to a huge fight. I did some research on my own, and purchased lube and simple toys at the drugstore. These were not very effective, but they got me started on a search that ended in EdenFantasys.
Almost from my first order, things in our relationship started improving drastically. Reading the detailed reviews on Eden would get me excited to try a new toy or lubricant. In some cases, reading the ‘Experience’ portion of the reviews would teach me how to use a toy I would be otherwise clueless about. I would anxiously watch for the mail to come, then happily accost my husband when he returned home from work.
Forum posts directed me to trying out cock rings and bullet vibrators, so soon I was able to orgasm during intercourse. That was really the turning point. All of a sudden, I understood what everyone liked about sex! It took time to reset our habits and mindsets, but after a few months of research, experimentation, and near-daily sex, we finally were enjoying the intimate relationship we had been looking forward to for so long.
Becoming a reviewer made it easy to introduce new items to the bedroom that we might have otherwise been reluctant to try. For example, a month ago we reviewed a male thong. Not something my husband would have picked out, but since it was for the review he gamely agreed to try it on. We ended up really liking it! I’ve also really enjoyed giving back by helping others with my reviews and in the forum.
I learned that when you have issues with the sexual side of your relationship, it influences all other sides as well. When the sexual side improved, so did everything else in our marriage. We rarely fought anymore, and we returned to the sweet and lovey-dovey couple we had been in our dating days.
I attribute so much of our wonderful relationship today to the influence of EdenFantasys. Thank goodness for their selection of quality lubricants and toys for intercourse, as well as the wealth information in the reviews and forums. It has completely improved my marriage, and thus my life.
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