""As couples we need to speak up about sex in the bedroom""
About a month or so ago my husband decided to change up our sex routine. For our 30 day challenge, we decided to make our own rules.
#1 Have sex 1 once a week
#2 masturbate in front can each other
#3 go shopping for toys
#4 watch porn and more.
Amongst other ideas, this is what we came up with, and we learned so far about our sexual, emotional, physical, and mental connection to each other.
This all started because our sex life was getting boring. He had a vasectomy 19 years ago. I had a hysterectomy and miscarriage 7 years ago. We all deal with everyday stress. We as couples need to communicate better in today's society. In today's world, couples really don't really have time for themselves as they did back in the day.
It is ok to talk to your partner about what you want in the bedroom. This is a big connection that you need in the bedroom or, just in general, your relationship. This could teach you skills you thought you never had. Learn to appreciate the comfort and the safety of each other. Making the time to reconnect with each other is better than you think. You both see your relationship as stronger.
I love that we got out of our comfort zone and explored each other in so many ways. From shopping for toys to watching porn, watching each other use toys, touching each other in so many different ways that we asked. This was an amazing experience that we did. Now we are still having fun and going over our 30 days. My favorite thing now is to masturbate while he's watching. If one of us finishes first, then the other goes jumps in and helps the other one finish.
We love our toys! Experimenting with them, we use lube. That's another messy but fun-to-learn mess. There are so many brands and types out there. We just need to find what type of lubes we like or what we need for our toys. Shopping at stores and online is something we both got into. I love anything that sets my clitoris off. My husband prefers a vibrator fleshlight to the standard fleshlight.
Then porn. We have the TV on, the tablet, and both phones. I'm a bisexual, and he's straight. We decided what we both wanted to see and get turned on. He likes fast and gets to the point scenes. As I love watching Italian, Russian, and American women on women. He downloads the movies to a USB so we can watch them together. I like to find adult movies on DVDs.
With this experience as couples, it gets fun as time goes by. You might pick a public place to make out. Buy sex games you both enjoy. Have hot steamy, raunchy sex in the backyard. Use costumes for foreplay. You can do so much to spice up your relationship with this challenge. Have fun and good luck!
Brandi Troxel
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