This strap-on is perfect if you are not a BBW! You can use the harness, or you do not have to. I prefer without so that the other dildo can go inside. It is perfect for pegging or just having sex since you both get pleasured by it. You can take the harness off by twisting the vacuum lock. You can also make it vibrate or not, which is nice. It is super comfortable and flexible. Both dildos vibrate, giving powerful sensations, and they both are realistic. The silicone is so soft, and the cock is so big that it just gives you mind-blowing orgasms without the vibrations. It also has a curve that reaches just about any spot, whether it is the G-spot or the P-spot.