Sex toys are such an individual thing. My absolute favorite sex toy might not do anything at all for another person. I'd say it, that 'everybody is different," but it has been said so many times, it's starting to mean less than nothing.

See, I hated the Clitoral Dancer Massager by California Exotic. It did very little for me. In fact, I got frustrated with trying to bring myself to orgasm and finally switched to one of my old favorites to finish the job.

Sure, the bullet shaped vibrating tip for the Clitoral Dancer is powerful. If you hold it in your hand at high speed it's both quiet and very energetic - two desirable qualities. If you turn it on when it's laying on you desk, like I did, it jumps around amusingly like a Mexican jumping bean high on speed. The rattling sound against the wood was impressive.

The troubles began for me once I inserted the vibrating attachment into the Jel-Lee shaft. The vibrations felt OK against my clit but the lack of stiffness in the 7 inch long shaft was frustrating to say the least.

When I held it at the end of the shaft, it was too floppy for firm contact with my clit. The word flaccid comes to mind. Moving my hand down closer to the head, where the vibrator is inserted into the jelly shaft, was awkward. What's the point of having a nice long handle if you can't use it?

The head of the shaft also felt awkward for me. It reminded me of a butt - complete with a crack down the center. Personally, I'd rather have a bit of a hill or a point in the center because that's the place I'd like to come into direct contact with my clit.

All in all, I can't say I'd recommend this clitoral massager to anyone. On the other hand, one satisfied customer did comment saying she was in "LOVE, LOVE, LOVE!!" with the toy. So there's your proof that not everybody feels exactly like I do.