I wasn’t really sure how I was going to break it to my wife that I wanted a spreader bar. We have messed around with cuffs before. I didn’t even know something so great existed. Like most of the toys we buy, we picked this out together. We added it to our basket and waited a few days for it to arrive.

It’s always a special day when our box comes in the mail knowing it’s about to be a fun night. The box was very nice, I don’t know why that is important, but it’s better than being packaged in some poorly made box. That would automatically make me think that the product is going to be cheap.

So this is going to be the part where I am going to be honest. It was a lot smaller than what I thought it was going to be. In length it is only about 14 or 15 inches. In the photo it looked like it was about 36”. The cuffs and the bar itself is covered with a comfortable soft cloth. The cuffs are easy to use. The Velcro didn’t get in the way, or touch our skin. I know sometimes when the rough part of Velcro touches your skin it's very irritating. The bar isn’t super stiff, it does have a little give to it. So if you are struggling to get out, it might be possible to bend the bar. Though, for the price, you can’t beat it.

Like a lot of things we buy on this site, we are always ready to upgrade to something bigger and better. This is a great way to start bringing some more serious toys into the bedroom. I don’ t know how I would feel if my wife just walked into the room with a three foot spreader bar. So if you are curious and want to lock your partner down, try this out. If you don’t like it you won’t lose a lot of money and you can always use it as cuffs and a bar to put behind a pole or chair.

Honestly we didn’t know how to use the spreader bar. I knew I wanted to hold her legs open and she wanted to keep me locked up in the fetal position. Letting her take charge first, I got into position and let her lock me in. Both my ankles in the outer most cuffs and my wrists in the inner cuffs, I really felt like I couldn’t move. Well I couldn’t, the bar and cuffs were holding up well.

I wasn’t trying to get out either though. As things got hotter I started to pull on the cuffs a little more, still no sign of the cuffs or bar letting me free. It was a great first experience with the spreader bar. Now it was her turn to be cuffed in. I didn’t use all four cuffs for her, I wanted to make sure her knees didn’t close. So I used the outer cuffs just below her knees. Sitting back and seeing her not able to close her legs was pretty hot. It gave me a very empowering feeling.

It worked but not as well as a longer spreader bar could have. Honestly the only thing to make this bar better is if it was longer. There are bigger spreader bars out there, but they are way more expensive. So this bar will get the job done. But if you plan on making this a regular activity in the bedroom I would skip this smaller one and get a bigger one. It seems there is a trend here, once we have the intro toys we always want to move onto the bigger better stuff, but we all have to start somewhere.

Do I think this product is worth it? Yes, for the price and the quality of the cuffs, it’s worth it.