The Loving Touch Body Lotion|Loving touch™ body lotion is currently my lotion of choice to work into my partner's back (she loves back massages), generally as a prelude to sex. It works in well and has a pleasant scent.

A sensual massage can often set the proper mood when one of you is largely indifferent to sex (at the time) and the other one is leaning towards wanting it. Start with her back, working from her shoulders to the small of her back and then to her butt, slowly working the lotion in. Many women are particularly sensitive right between their shoulder blades, so be careful! Actually, try to get a feel for what she likes and doesn't like as you run your hands up and down her body. Once done with her back, continue down to her thighs and then her calves and feet. Finish up by flipping/rolling her over and gently rub lotion into her legs and working your way up. Skip her vulva for now and come back to it later. Once you get back up to her chest, do a little more work on her shoulders and then finally her chest, effectively playing with her breasts (and massaging the muscle beneath) and begin the foreplay, going down to her vulva as the final piece.

The particular type we have is the Green Tea lotion, which smells rather nice to both of us. It hasn't triggered an allergic reaction (but check the ingredient list before you put any on if you know you have particular issues) in either of us. Yes, it's suitable for male masturbation, but I'd honestly prefer to not waste it on that.

The "secret sex-inducing ingredient" in this is an extract of Blue Lotus. As far as anecdotal evidence is concerned, I know I'm hard after working this into her skin (front and back) and she's about ready for sex.