This book is definitely worth reading if you are curious about the BDSM lifestyle. Whether you think you are a bottom or top, this is still a great book to get your hands on. This is written by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy who are very knowledgeable in the BDSM lifestyle and community.

This book is written as a first step book into kink. You do not need any knowledge of BDSM or kink prior to reading this. You do not need to be a bottom for this book to be helpful for you. For a bottom, this book teaches what it means to be a bottom and how to be one safely. For a top, this book teaches what a bottom is looking for and will help a top understand how to be more responsive to their bottom.

Dossie and Janet did an amazing job writing this so that it can be read by anyone. This book makes no assumptions on the reader's gender or sexual orientation. Nothing in this book is based on stereotypes; it is based completely on what is realistic in the kink world. This teaches that you can still get what you want even when you are a bottom.

Janet and Dossie use most of the book to talk about the most important topic in the BDSM world, which is safety. The book is very detailed on how to find, set, and negotiate your limits. It also talks in depth about how to be aware of your and your partner's feelings, how to find a safe partner, and how to prevent uncomfortable situations.

This book does not tell you how to do different types of play, what equipment to use, or where to get your equipment. The reason for this is because this book is designed as a guide of what you need to know before you go into the BDSM lifestyle, not what to do once you are a part of the kink community.

This also makes sure that you understand the thought process of others so that you can be respectful of their emotions. I highly recommend this book to anyone curious about the kink lifestyle.

I still recommend this book to everyone! It does not matter if you are a bottom or a top, you should read this! This gives great information to bottoms to help them start out in the scene. Even though this book was written for bottoms, I recommend tops read this as well; this will help them understand what bottoms are looking for and how you can better top your bottom.