Violet Blue’s The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Strap-On Sex is more heterosexually focused than I expected a book about strap-on sex to be. I would prefer a book about strap-on sex to be less focused on explaining how my boyfriend is not homosexual because he enjoys anal penetration. I felt that the second chapter was a little too insistent on this information. Because actually, my fiancé and I are both bisexual. So we fit in between the typical heterosexual relationship and something a little more deliciously creative in terms of gender roles. Anal penetration is something that my fiancé enjoyed in sex with men. We have decided on a monogamous relationship and so strap-on sex would be a good compromise for us both. He receives a sexual act that he enjoys, but that I don’t have the physical equipment for. I suffer from vulvodynia, which makes it painful to have normal intercourse. Because of this my sex drive has plummeted and this could be a good outlet to allow me to give him pleasure without pain. I chose to review this book because purchasing a strap-on dildo is something we have both been interested in, but aren't entirely knowledgeable about.

The explanation of the penis and its components in Violet Blue's book became slightly monotonous to me. This may be from reading quite a few books on sex and the physical characteristics of the male and female anatomy. I did, however, enjoy the explanation about the mechanics of the orgasm in a male body with emphasis on how an orgasm effects the prostate and anus.

In Chapter 8 it becomes more of the how-to guide that I expected, with good information on foreplay and techniques to get your partner ready for “pegging”, the term she uses for strap-on penetration|DP fantasy & strap-on kit. I enjoyed Violet Blue’s descriptive wording and explanation of erotic technique. Chapter 10 involves more information on purchasing the right harness and dildo and describes how the harness itself should fit on the female frame. This section will certainly come of use when my fiance and I look for our first dildo and harness.

But I was put off by one of the fantasies given as an example scenario for play: “Gender play where you reverse gender roles and he becomes a female character and has to 'learn the ropes' as a woman". Perhaps I am looking too much into this phrasing of words, but the implication seems slightly sinister and borders on violent behavior toward women.

In between chapters there were erotic stories using strap-on|Strap-on sex fantasy sexual encounters as the theme. Personally I wasn’t as enamored of these stories. The first one including a man being “pegged” in roller skates in their garage seemed slightly confusing and less fluid than I like my erotica to be. It was not a scenario that I could imagine in my head or fuel any sort of eroticism inside of me.
While The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Strap-On Sex has its informative and interesting points, I believe it could have been scaled down to a shorter version and excluded repetitive information and the erotic stories.