So, I'll be honest. I haven't been on the sex market again for a while. If some of you read my Ethical Slut review, you'd know that I took myself off the dating market for 2 years for deep introspection. Now that I'm dating two gorgeous guys, I need a severe brush up! So I invested in a few how-to guides, going to be writing reviews for them here, and putting them to the test! This one had my eye for a while, I want to say it's because of the hunky cartoon guy and his nice hips, but that's a lie. I actually typed in "tantra starter books" on Amazon and this was one of the first three things that showed up.

At first glance online, the book looked small and a bit thin, however I was surprised that it was the same size as the second edition of Ethical Slut (I bought them together, shipped together), so I was pleased. I always do a cursory look through to see bullet points, bold text, and chapter headings before I read an item and everything was pleasing to the eye. It starts with a very small introduction to various Eastern methods: tantra, acupressure, and yoga. The author, Dr. Fulbright, assures us that while the journey she's going to take us may be awkward and different from what you're used to, she promises great outcomes. Now, these philosophies are not unheard from me (I practice Shiatsu as well, which is acupressure, as a certified massage therapist), and was somewhat curious as to how they could help my sex life. I mean, I did yoga regularly and never thought to mix work with pleasure. But I was willing to go on a little faith, and kept reading.

The book wasn't what I expected. I thought she was just going to give us the zones and hot spots and go, "Okay, have at it!" with me left in front of my partner looking dumbfounded. She didn't! She went on little tips and hints on great ways to stimulate the spots. I used to consider myself a G-spot aficionado but boy, I learned quite a few new tricks! The men's spots are even more exciting, and she goes on to discuss that P-spot stimulation is perfectly natural. She goes over the ways men and women orgasm, and all the anatomical stuff. The only thing I didn't like was she initially spoke about anal sex lubes such as "Anal Eze" and other numbing lubes but then in a few pages she quickly states something along the lines of "Oh, wait, you know, those lubes have lidocane, and you might not be able to use them, so use them with caution" as opposed to "Don't use them". The book is a bit heterocentric, but any male or female bodied individual (gay, straight, or bi folks too) can take a lot of information from here too.

Since I am female bodied (but don't like vaginal insertion, it's just icky), I tried a lot of the erogenous zone spots that was outside rather than internal. Boy, they were awesome! I relied on masturbation for two years, and hell, these sessions were the best by far!