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The writing style is clear and this book is easy to read quickly. She uses plenty of examples and antidotes which illustrate her points beautifully. She obviously tries hard to address women with a wide variety of challenges and experiences. My biggest objection to the writing style is that she is constantly referring to examples from films she has directed and relating things to how a director approaches creating a porn movie. While I'm sure the author acquired much of her ideas that way, I didn't feel like these were the best parallels to draw. I got very sick of reading "In my movie XXX..." every page or two.

Overall, I thought this (|How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do) could be a helpful book for the right person(s). I would recommend it to couples looking to add some zing to their relationship and women who are dating and would like to show their lovers how to be more adventurous. It is a great manual describing how to create every aspect of a special romantic and erotic date.