So, I'm going to start off by saying that I'm a trans*guy and have been packing for a long time. I cannot remember such an uncomfortable packing experience as I had with the Private. The silicone definitely has its advantages -- safe, easy to clean (seriously, boil that thing) but it is just to stiff for my liking.

It feels really heavy to me as well. I know it doesn't actually weigh more than most packers out there but there is something about the way the weight is distributed in this packer that makes it feel heavier than it is.

Also, that flat ridge at the top? Yeah, it's just as uncomfortable as some of the comments speculated it would be. I tried it with different pairs of underwear, different packing straps, different pants and it felt like I had a small piece of plywood in my crotch no matter what. A good packer, in my opinion, should be able to cup you comfortably and shouldn't apply any pressure unless you want it to. I know it's there to make it o-ring compatible but I don't pack that way so, for me, it's also completely unnecessary.

Let me also say, for those of you who do not experience any sort of gender dysphoria, that aesthetics can be really important to someone who is in the wrong body. This packer, while relatively convincing from a distance, is really shiny up close. That was a real problem for me during foreplay. The look of the bulge it creates is also unrealistic because of the squared off ridge at the top; it pushes the base of the cock away from you making it bulge more at the top and it just looks weird.

For the record that it also has a strange and very prominent smell and taste. This may fade over time as is the case with many other dildos but still -- ew. No one wants to smell like this while they're trying to be comfortable in their own skin -- never mind sexy.

My partner - who has been with people all over the gender spectrum - and has cupped, fondled, nuzzled, sucked, fucked and gazed longingly upon many cocks over the course of her life has this to say, "It looks like it's perpetually sweaty and swollen, not in a good way but in an 'I might have a weird STI sort of way'".

All of this is my personal experience and opinion and everyone's body and comforts will differ. This one MIGHT work for you but I would say pass it over.