Sorry for such the long delay between the initial and follow up review. We still love the Share XL but we have learned a few trick along the way that people will hopefully find useful. First off, the Share XL doesn't show any signs of wear so it for sure is a quality product. As for the tips we learned...at times, during play, the Share XL would slip out of her so we would need to pause to get her end back into place. We found out that if she inserted Anal Beads that issue went away. Now for my end of the Share XL, yes, there is some flex to it so initial insertion is a cooperative effort. I personally reach back and guide the Share XL while holding so it can be stiff enough for insertion. Once we get past that we generally don't have any issues with flexing. I don't know if this will be of assistance to anyone out there but I wanted to share what we have learned along the way.