The Share is ideal for, you know, sharing. I can use it to fuck without a strap, which I really like, and it provides a really different kind of stimulation for the wearer than the usual strap-on cock, since it easily gets both my G-spot and my clit as I'm fucking. Most dildos aren't designed do much for the wearer, although I've seen good things in the way of clit stimulation from nice, thick bases strapped on.

Being selfish pays too, though, and I actually had an equally good time NOT sharing. I put it on and lounged around having dick with no visible straps for awhile, played with my cock, jerked off and enjoyed the G-spot stimulation with every pull and the clit stimulation with every push. When I fucked myself with it, taking the longer end like I'd take any cock, the end usually worn internally provided a convenient handle.

This cock is also great for ass fucking. It's smooth and slender. The base is wide and safe, and given that the other end is likely to be firmly lodged in someone's pussy as they give it to you, it's probably fair to assume it's not going to get lost in your intestines.

As far as gender play/gender expression goes, the Share could be great for some people, but won't be great for everyone. If what you want is to be able to feel something when you're fucking with your dick, if you want to come with your cock but need G-spot stimulation/more reliable clit stimulation to get there, then this might be for you. Some people can use this cock without a strap, which can also be nice for realism. On the other hand, the verisimilitude of having a cock is incompatible with being penetrated for a lot of people, and while the shape of the Share is gorgeous, it's not realistic and nor are the colors.

Smooth, high quality silicone, the material leaves nothing to be desired. It's quite firm, with a bit of give when squeezed. Lubed up, the Share slides magnificently. The Share won't retain odors or tastes, and since it's silicone you can sterilize it. This is important since it's not very compatible with condoms, and you'll want to sterilize if it's been up someone's ass (and with that slickness...you probably want it up someone's ass) before putting it in pussy, or if you're sharing it with someone with whom you aren't fluid bonded.

My friends, in the grand tradition of German designers, Fun Factory is genius. With the caveat that I haven't actually used any of the Share's competitors, it's hard to imagine that any of them fulfill their intended purposes (potential for strap-free fucking; fun for the fucker and the fuckee) better than it does. In terms of functionality, there are two key design features: the bulbous shape of the wearer's end, and what I'm calling the pussy-cupper. These people understand the power of grinding! The Share in profile is shaped like a wave; the crest is ideally placed to hit the wearer's clit, or at least the general area, which for many is an effective way to stimulate the clit. On one side of the crest, the cock extends from a wide base that provides solid back-up to the other side of the crest, where the wearer's entire cunt can slip and slide. It's kind of like lubing up and using the entire palm of your hand to grind against. The shape of the bulbous end helps your cunt defy gravity: it's fat, so your muscles grip it tightly, and the G-spot-hitting curves also hook back behind the pubic bone a bit.

This brings me to potential drawbacks of the design. The bulbous end is FAT, maybe too thick for some people. Admittedly, my two partners get fucked far less often than I do, but among the three of us, I'm the only one who can count on being able to get it in and fuck with it. I imagine that if I were to try it without much of a warm-up and plenty of lube (natural or otherwise), it would be a bit of a challenge for me. I can fuck with this toy without a strap, but many people likely won't be able to, and though I can hold it in while standing, I definitely have to be mindful of position so I don't end up fucking in a way with too much downward pull that might cause it to pop out. For carefree banging, strap it. Finally, the Share is hard to use with condoms. On the bulbous end, it's a stretch to get the condom on, and then the ring end folds and gathers, which can chafe the wearer. On the cock end, the condom tends to roll up from the base, since it's so thick. I don't think this is a huge drawback, because silicone is sterilizable, but it might be for people who want to use it with many partners with whom they aren't fluid-bonded, or who want to use it regularly for both anal and vaginal sex.

The cock end of things is not at all realistic, with only the merest suggestion of a head and two soft ridges running lengthwise along the bottom, as if it has two thick veins along underside of the shaft. Length and width are probably suitable for most fuckees; though slightly smaller than the cock I've deemed my Goldilocks cock (the Mustang, from Vixen) the Share is by no means a disappointing ride. These dimensions, combined with it's silky texture, make me eager to get it up my ass, and make it a good one to take down your throat. Given the fat base and the fact that the other end is likely to be tightly lodged in someone's pussy as they give it to you, the Share is a pretty safe bet not to get sucked in and lost in your intestines.

Appearance-wise, the Share is flawless. It's extremely graceful, all sleek lines and curves that flow together - none of the awkwardness of the Nexus, which looks like two separate cocks stuck together, and it lacks the Feeldoe's annoying bullet vibe protrusion. For some, vibration is important, but bullet vibes that stick out are one of my main sex toy pet peeves. With the vibrator in, you have an annoying lump that pokes; with the vibrator out, the hole gets messy or allows for buckling in odd ways.

Finally, yes, there is a seam that is visible on the Share, and no, you can't feel it at all when fucking with it.

The reason I love the Share is that I can fuck with it sans strap, and it provides more stimulation than I would get with your usual strap-on dildo. That said, don't expect to shove it and start banging away like you were born with it. You definitely have to think about holding it in and avoid fucking in positions that pull downward too hard. For example, if you're kneeling or sitting on your heels to fuck someone lying on their back, you probably want their hips elevated no matter what cock you're fucking with. However, with something strapped on, it's easier to forgo the pillow grab and make it work anyway. With the Share, the downward angle can cause it to start sliding out of the wearer. If you want to fuck all footloose and fancy free, strap it on.

As mentioned above, the Share isn't very condom compatible, but in my opinion the trade-off is worth it, since the design features that make condoms difficult are the ones that make the Share such a successful model of this type of toy.

High quality silicone means post-sex clean-up is easy. Mild, unscented soap and water in between uses, and boil, bleach (1 part to 10 parts water), or dishwasher (top rack, no soap) to sterilize it. Condoms are a pain in the ass with the Share, so it might be a bit more high maintenance for those who plan to use it with tons of people or for anal sex as well as vaginal sex, since it should be sterilized between non-fluid-bonded partners and after assfucking, before pussy. Water-based lube is your friend; avoid silicone lube since silicone-on-silicone can degrade your toys. Same goes for storage - put it anywhere that's not right next to your other silicone toys. It collects lint, dust, and hair like most silicone toys do, but not enough to really be an issue, and far less than plushier silicone like Vixskin or Tantus O2.

The Share comes in a tidy cardboard box with a plastic window in the front, ideal for hanging and displaying in a store. The packaging was much smaller than I expected, given the unusual shape, which I appreciated since I bought it while on a trip and was flying back with only carry-on luggage. For the record, airport security didn't bat an eyelash at its presence in my suitcase, as far as I could tell. You could store it in this box, but it's not particularly durable or pretty. It would definitely make the Share a hell of a lot easier to giftwrap, though.

The first times I used the Share I was solo, since it arrived right before my partners left on a two-week trip. I was pretty stoked on the whole having a dick possibility, so the first time, I lubed it up, slid the bulbous end into my cunt, and proceeded to jump, walk, dance, and roll around in bed. My first impression was that it was hot; black is a nice color against really fair skin, I like the shape, and I like the lack of straps. As expected, your boner doesn't really stay up in any position other than supine, but the floppiness was still fun. I could jerk it off and each stroke upward pulled the bulb against my G-spot, or get a good grip and grind it against my clit. Later, I used the cock end to fuck myself, which was also pretty fantastic, and the wearer's end provided an ergonomic handle to grip. Unsurprisingly, partner sex with the Share was great, but it was the somewhat less expected upsides to being selfish I wanted to explain here.