When I decided to get a strapless dildo, I asked around. I was surprised at how many people I knew had tried one or more. After comparing all the stories and feedback I received, I decided to go with the Share. Purple was the easy part of the choice to make. My housemate bought the black one, a friend of mine bought the pink, and we are still giggling about lining up and taking a photo together with them in.

When the box arrived, I opened it eagerly, then slowed down- the packaging for the toy itself was very pretty and worth taking a moment to appreciate. I opened it carefully and joyfully pulled out what turned out to be a surprisingly heavy toy. The surface was soft to the touch, entirely odorless, and quite firm. I devoured the instruction pamphlet and then proceeded to giggle with my friend and housemate about how one could hold the pony end and flop about the penis. Really, if this toy ever dies to internal use, I may very well turn it into a funny, and quite thuddy, impact toy.

The pony end seems large but will fit people quite differently. One size doesn't fit all, but with some practice it can work for everyone. My housemate, who is built small, found that it took her dedication, time, and lube to get it inserted, and once in it was tight enough that taking a moment to drum my fingers rapidly beneath her new "big black cock" caused her to make faces of astonishment and buckle at the knees. I, on the other hand, have given birth twice and putting it in is very quick and easy. When I wear my Share it stays well until I self lubricate, at which point it is a major effort to keep it in. If I want to actually use it on someone, my best bet is girl-on-top so I can cross my legs to keep it in. Trying to use it on someone with me on top requires a harness to have any chance at all of success. Another friend is a large woman but has not given birth and has no trouble at all. Yet another is a small girl but has given birth, and she gets by with a pair of men's underwear and the cock end pulled through the flap in front.

That said, wearing my Share about the house to get used to it has led me to understand why men spend so much time with their hand on their penis- it just feels good! I find that when I'm wearing it, I cannot seem to help but play with it idly. I can feel what I do to the outside of the Share on my insides, and I'm assured by friends who have the experience to know that the Share, and its famous counterpart the Feeldoe, are the closest thing to having an organic penis I, as a cis gendered woman, will ever experience. In fact, if you or someone you know is a woman with flexibility issues (as I am), I highly recommend this as a gift. The ability to jerk myself off on "bad movement days" without having to try to reach my vulva and clitoris, much less inside to my g-spot, is a godsend. I also highly recommend having someone give you head while wearing this, the sensation is amazing.

The one downside is that the surface, while pleasing to the touch, collects lint like you would not believe! I, and those I know with one, have learned that no matter how we store it, we should plan a few minutes into our lovemaking schedule to take it in the bathroom and clean it with soap and water just before we play with it. That said, it is amazingly easy to clean and dries quickly. I love that it has no nooks and crannies to collect ick; a quick wash and it is ready to go. Condoms are easy to put on it, easier than most penises actually, since it stays firm no matter what, and I'm assured by those who have ridden it that it is an experience to remember.

It is a pricey toy, but it seems sturdy, and no one I know with one has had any problem that would cause them to stop using it. I'm told a small vibe placed between your Share and your clitoris can add to the fun, but I haven't bothered to try that. Pick a color you love, get a Share, and enjoy. My girlfriend loves to tell me how much she is looking forward to *sharing* time with me, wink wink nudge nudge giggle blush. This is a worthwhile investment that you will not regret.

Being able to sit back and watch my girlfriend ride me to her orgasm, while my own g-spot orgasm builds, is worth the price of the toy all on its own. Having no previous experience with strap on or strapless dildos, I do find that using this in any position other than "girl on top" results in me giving women the sort of pleasure they might expect with a virgin, but the number of them lining up to help me practice should solve that problem in no time.