For once, there's truth in advertising. The New Comers strap-on kit is very definitely for new comers to the world of dildos. The purple silicone dildo isn't intimidating in any way. It's even kind of cute and fashionable for those of us who love purple. The harness that comes with it is very comfy and fairly easy to adjust. It is designed to fit most people (hip size up to 60"). I wear a size 3x, so I was concerned about finding a harness that would fit. This one did, with plenty of room to spare. The harness is machine washable--a definite plus for busy men and women. The O ring on it will fit a dildo up to 1.5".

As I said earlier, this harness is very easy to adjust and comfy to wear for long periods. I found that I didn't even want to take it off after a while. However, it is hard to get out of once you have it adjusted to fit your body. You need to fit the dildo into the harness before putting the harness on. People with small hands may not have as much trouble with this as I did, but I found it very hard to put the harness on first and then fit the dildo in.

I tried a variety of positions to fix the fact that I kept slipping out during use. Some positions did work better than others, and I am willing to credit some of the problems to the fact that I'm a beginner. However, my partner and I just needed a longer dildo than the one provided. Bottom line. (Again, pardon the puns.) This dildo may be just fine for you if you are really intimidated by the idea of strap-ons and want to try something very basic and tame.

The harness is machine washable. You should not put it through a clothes dryer. I simply hang mine over my shower rod to dry. I love the simplicity of that. As for the dildo, it is super easy to clean because it's silicone. Soap and water will do in a pinch, though you may be more comfortable with using an antibacterial spray or wipe (or even boiling with a bleach solution) if you're a bit of a germophobe, as I confess I am.

The kit comes in a pink and white box with the words "Strap On and Dildo Set" prominently displayed. There is a picture of a scantily clad heterosexual couple on the front of the box, and the woman is wearing the harness and dildo. The man is looking up at her, almost as if he will put his head in her lap in a moment. It's a sturdy box with instructions for care and adjustment of the harness on the back (including some how-to pictures.) The dimensions of the harness are listed in about 8 different languages on the side of the box.

I like the fact that this package comes with lots of easy to follow instructions, and the box itself is sturdy. However, it is not discreet in the least. Nothing too risque, but the purpose of this toy can't be disguised either. If you live in an adults only home, the box the set comes in would stand up to lots of use and would likely be fine for long term storage. If, like me, you have a curious kid or two (or some nosy neighbors) you may want to ditch the box and invest in a toy chest instead.

My husband and I had a lot of fun using this harness. This is a great set for getting your feet wet, so to speak, in the world of strap-ons, anal play, and dildos. However, it isn't likely to satisfy if you are more experienced. Even if you are a beginner, if you are pretty sure you'll like this kind of thing, you may want to purchase a set with a little more girth and length. Even though this set didn't have the dimensions we needed, I think it was a decent investment because the harness is likely to last and get reused a lot.

We had a lot of fun playing with gender roles and new positions using the New Comers Set. I think almost any combination of male and female partners could have fun with this. (Keep in mind, of course, that you should always clean your dildo between uses and when going from vaginal play to anal play or vice versa. I personally use fear of germs as an excuse to get his and hers dildos, but your budget may not allow this.)