To put things in context, I'm a very happily married man. When it comes to sex, my wife's a total gamer with a phenomenal skill set :) However, when it comes to talking about sex or taking initiative to try different stuff, there is very little game. Not sure why, but she's really, really uncomfortable doing so. This means I introduce all the sex toys we (I mean "I") have purchased and I do so with no input.

After some trial and error (mostly trial and success thanks to the reviews of EF), I've gotten a decent handle on what makes her tick sexually and what toys she'll like. One thing that's become apparent is that she likes firm penetration, a little bit larger than average size in her toys, and g-spot stimulation. She's also not a big fan of realistic looking toys. And while she prefers external vibration over penetration, she needs more vibration than a typical battery-powered insertable vibrator can give her (i.e., she needs the venerable Hitachi Magic Wand). So when I was looking to try another toy to use for penetration (a stinky, non-silicon, cold, realistic dildo was, except for the size and concept, a failure), this led me to look for a glass dildo to use along with the Magic Wand or while I'm performing oral sex on her.

I chose this particular model because of the reasonable price point, the slightly longer length (so long as you know how to handle the toy and aren't battering her cervix, I've learned it's always better to have more length than you need, than not enough :)), the substantial weight, and the nicely sized and shaped head. Another big deciding factor was that this dildo, including the packaging, was "pretty"; so I hoped it would be a little less threatening and, unlike the Icicles No. 24, less likely to make me look like a big crazy sex freak if the idea of a glass dildo was a complete failure.

Thankfully, the Icicles No. 21 made me look like I was a thoughtful husband with my own phenomenal skill set :) - as opposed to a crazy sex freak who missed the boat.

When you think dildo, you typically think internal penetration. What I found was that this was even more effective for external stimulation. Compared to my fingers, the glass was totally smooth with less resistance on her; the head stimulated more area and the pointier tip on this dildo was ideal when I wanted to use some more precise stimulation; she also could feel the texture of the flowers on the shaft and liked that feeling on her clitoris; and since the dildo is shaped like a penis and I've had lots of practice handling my own, it was easy to stroke the dildo on her at a very quick pace while keeping a good rhythm. The weight of the dildo also made this easier and faster.

So let's get to the good stuff, what about the internal penetration? It was a hit, but not quite as well received as when used externally. The bigger size of the head and curve worked nicely to stimulate her g-spot. Like another reviewer said, I found this was much more effective when moved very slowly. She also enjoyed the feeling of the big head spreading her when entering and then, right after she "adjusted" around the head, pulling it back out. The extra length was nice, because I could go deep when she wanted (not that often) and still had enough of handle to hold it comfortably with control. The flat base was nice, because she's enjoyed riding it. I also found that even with the pretty large head, very little (and sometimes no) lube beyond her own wetness is necessary.

The first time I used this on her she was left breathless and asked how the hell I knew how to use that thing on her like that. I told her it was the result of me watching how she was responding. This is partly true. It also was the result of how easy this was to use on her with its long shaft, big head with pointy tip, textured flowers, and the smooth and substantial weight of the glass.

This has become a toy we use whenever we have more time than just a quickie. Last time we used it resulted in her first ejaculation. We spent a lot of time concentrating on her g-spot. Like usual, she stopped me right before she was about to have a g-spot orgasm; she is still freaked out by the overwhelming feeling and loss of control associated with this type of orgasm. We then immediately started having sex with some shallow thrusting and the Magic Wand on her clit. She had a really strong orgasm that caused her to let loose the ejaculate that she had built up from the prior stimulation. Fun stuff.

After having used it for awhile, I've learned that it goes a long way if I warm the dildo up beforehand (I typically put it in a heating pad on its highest setting for 15-20 minutes). I also think she'd like more texture on part of the dildo that can be used on her clit.

My wife still enjoys this a lot (especially when it is warmed up) and we use it anytime we're not limited to a quickie. The more we use it, the more I've been able to really dial in the g spot stimulation. I could probably give her a g spot orgasm with just two or three minutes of stimulation with this toy, if I wasn't more interested in extending the pleasure. The extra length and base have also been nice when she's wanted some deeper penetration or to ride it.

Having said all of this, and while I don't own it (yet) and don't regret having purchased the 21 as our first glass toy, I think Icicles No. 18 probably would have been better for us. She's discovered that she really enjoys some texture on the glass toys, which the 18 has more of. The two-bulbed end of the 18 would also provide another unique feeling that I think she'd enjoy.