For partner play, the best way I have found to use this toy is buttoned into an O-Ring harness. Once in the harness, it is secure and stable. If you are looking for a great anal play toy, this is the one. With its flared base and silicone material, it is easily pliable. This toy is also great for vaginal play as well. Its length can hit all the right spots. This toy also has a great vibrator bullet that you can insert into the bottom. The vibrations for anal insertion are not too harsh and when using the Mistress Vibe with vaginal insertion, the vibes give it that extra something.

When using this toy, a water-based lube is recommended. The toy stays slippery and wet and the water-based lube will not destroy the silicone material. The toy is waterproof itself; just take out the vibe first.

This toy is semi-realistic. I mean, after all it is blue. The toy is entirely made of silicone and because of this it has its pluses and minuses. Plus: bendable, great for anal insertion and for inserting into ones mouth, great for vaginal insertion, and no scent. Minus: The silicone is sticky. Lint and dust get stuck to it easily, so once the toy is cleaned off, promptly put it back into the plastic tube casing it came in.

The toy itself feels pretty realistic. It is softer on the outside and firm on the inside. When paired with a lubricant this toy can be great for gender play.

The design of the Mistress will suit the average user. With 6" insertable length, it is realistic in size but not suitable for travel. The toy has a realistic ridge up the back and has a realistic head as well. The length works well for insertion into the vagina. It is long and thick enough to hit all of the right spots.

The flexibility is also key. It can be a little tricky at first getting the Mistress into tight places, but once it's in, the outcome and sensations are very nice. The smooth texture and silicone material allow for a very pleasurable experience.

I think the best thing about this toy is the size and the bullet that is inserted into the bottom. The vibe adds that extra excitement to a toy that already has many uses, without being too loud. There is no suction cup on this toy, but it is O-ring harness compatible and is very sturdy once in place. The only reason the toy moved at all during play was because the harness loosened.

Because this toy is 100% silicone, do not use a silicone-based lube. Doing so will break down the toy and allow bacteria to grow within the newly created pores. I prefer a water-based lube that cleans off very easily.

For sterilization, soap and water work well, as well as boiling water (yes this toy can be boiled). Once clean, because silicone is sticky, I have found the easiest place to store the toy is in the clear plastic tube casing it came in.