It is great for beginners; it helped a lot when I was just starting out. Now, though, my girlfriend is asking me to get a bigger toy to put in the harness.

The harness is the best part of this product. You can use it with other harness-compatible toys. It allows for other stuff to go on for the wearer and it isn't complex to put on or take off. It's also machine-washable (but I put it in a garment bag). I do sometimes get red marks, but they fade and it doesn't hurt, plus I think the way the harness looks on my hips/thighs/butt is sexy. I definitely recommend that the wearer plan for something extra to stimulate themselves, which is easy since the harness is open at the crotch. The harness is no-frills, but it looks good, unlike some other harnesses out there. I'm not too big in the waist and I'm short, so there is a lot of extra straps-wise that hang down, but they do not get in the way and they make it so that the harness is highly adjustable.

The toy is silicone, so don't use silicone-based lubricant. If you are looking for a "realistic" color, obviously shiny dark purple does not fit that, but it is good for what it is. It is also pretty small, so if the person being penetrated is a size queen, they might not be satisfied. But the small size makes it perfect for beginners, and it is a good size for an inexperienced butt. It is smooth and does not vibrate, so it does not have a whole lot going on for it, but it is easy to clean and it is made out of quality silicone. Also, due to the shortness, thinness, and smoothness of the dildo, condoms do not like to stay on it very well. I recommend putting the condom on and then putting the dildo through the o-ring so that the ring holds the condom in place. Either that, or use a female condom.

I (female-bodied) usually wear it to penetrate my (male-bodied) partner, but she has worn it before with her junk "bound down" in order to deprive herself while still pleasuring me. The harness works for both of us, though it sometimes loosens on her waist.

I still like using this strap-on! It was my first one and I've gotten a lot better and a lot more comfortable using it.