Ah, the Share. Think of it as the luxury car of dicks. Soft seat covers, deep cushions and it rides as smoothly as it seduced you in the car dealership. Pros over the old model include a piece that goes inside the wearer and stimulates the g-spot and the potential for strapless action. You can imagine how excited I was to get this particular toy in the mail.

When I opened my new package, I was first struck by its size. I really like deep penetration, so the lengthy, curved shaft looked exciting. With that said, there’s no getting around the fact that the end intended to be inserted in the penetrator is huge. Huge. But, hey, size can feel great. So I pulled out two smaller dildos (the Acute and a silicone Doc Johnson dick which I got years ago as My First Dick) which came in at 1.25 and 1.5 inch diameters, respectively. I wanted to try masturbating with the Share in me so I warmed up with those before sliding in the Share. With the time I allowed myself to loosen up and the two smaller dildos, the Share’s shorter part didn’t feel too big though that should come with a grain of salt—I’m a fan of large toys and use them often.

My solo joy ride on the highway was pretty good. I’m still waiting for the miracle dick that I can jerk off and feel inside me, but this came damn close—I had to grip it and move it around inside me, but it still offered many more options than any dick without an insertable piece. When I gripped it with my kegels, I felt it hit my g-spot, which it continued to hit when I started to pull and push it towards me repeatedly. I also really appreciated the realistic angle which the Share juts out in, once it’s inserted. It has a realistic curve to it and, if not for the unrealistic color choices (bummer!), would look incredibly realistic from afar (up close, you can see how beautifully smooth and soft the silicone is- a true pleasure, but not really common in your standard non-detachable-dick). I also appreciated that it wasn’t hard to slip my fingers in to rub my clit. Solo orgasm? Check plus.

When my sexual partner, who generally doesn’t play with big toys, came over, we knew that it would take some time to warm her up enough to accept the shorter, thicker end. For her, we stuck with fingers, which didn’t seem to work as well as using other toys, in terms of loosening her up—she still felt some discomfort when she put in the Share’s wearer end. She found, though, that after a few minutes, the discomfort lifted and it felt really good, particularly when it was jolted or shifted around as she penetrated me.

For my partner, though the act of getting me off gets her off, she had been less physically stimulated by strap-on sex before this toy. Boy, did that change. Unlike some other users, she found that it felt best when she was on top of me, penetrating me from above (others have written that they enjoyed it when their partners rode them—we tried that, but she preferred topping). She mentioned that, though it felt amazing, the sensation was less focused than other toys she had used, likely because of its size. She didn’t have any trouble with the Share popping out, likely because it was a snug fit to start with, and because we used the Harness the Pleasure for some extra stability. With the help of the harness, though, my partner had no trouble controlling her dick, though it is heavy and may pose that trouble for others.

On my end, the Share’s long, curved shaft was every bit the pleasure I expected. I especially enjoyed riding her (figures, we’d prefer different positions) because of the extra control it gave me to direct that soft shaft to my g-spot and, more generally, to various deep places which short fingers can’t reach. It was also a huge turn on to look at my partner and realize that what felt good for me felt good for her too. This is one toy that defies mathematical reason: sharing the experience produced twice the pleasure. Go team Share.

The Share is made of 100% super safe silicone (that’s medical grade, if you want the formal name). It can be cleaned with warm water and soap and can be sterilized by popping it in a pot of hot water.