My husband has wanted me to anally penetrate him for quite some time. The whole idea really excites him, but I've been truly nervous. I dread hurting him and turning what should be an adventure into a nightmare.

I bought a Feeldoe slim with the idea that he'd want to start small. I chose to practice my technique before springing my "erection" on him, and I'm glad I did. The Feeldoe is *heavy*, and even though I do plenty of Kegel exercises, I found it very difficult to maintain my fake erection. The bulb is large, and I didn't find it hard to hold on to, but it was the weight that made it bob around unsteadily. It pushed against my vaginal walls uncomfortably, and I couldn't seem to keep it facing forward.

The ridges are in the wrong spot for me. I've found this to be the case with other sex toys as well - my clitoris seems to be higher than those of other women. These ridges are tough too, and I got a little bit of irritation and chaffing while wearing it. The little insertable vibe feels pretty darn weak when it's inside the stiff silicone, and the batteries didn't last very long at all. I think I got a grand total of 90 minutes out of it (I removed it from the Feeldoe to use separately, which is a nice feature).

I decided not to risk hurting myself or my husband, so instead of holding it with my vagina, I used my hand that first time. I'm so glad I did - he found the angle to be awkward, the silicone to be too stiff, and the diameter a little too much to start with.

Perhaps we were rushing things by going straight to the Feeldoe. I've got it tucked away in the toy drawer for some future date when we've got a vagina and buns of steel. More experienced couples might enjoy the challenge, but my next anal toy purchase will be a sturdy harness and a very thin strap-on.