I am a femme. I am very femme. Some would argue I'm high femme. They're right. And as much as I've always liked the look of this harness, I've always passed it up for something more, well, femme.

I bought the Joque on a whim. I had wanted it for a while, drooled over it, but figured that it wasn't really the kind of harness that fit with my femmeness. It looks like a jockstrap, it was pricey, it was completely lacking in any frills or frippery. But my first choice harness wouldn't fit my woman hips (50") and so I shrugged and said "Oh, why not," picking the Joque up instead.

I'm so glad I did. I mean, I put it on with a nice cock, and felt so comfortable and natural in it that I immediately started exploring butch. It looked right! No bulging over the straps, no shifting uncomfortably - just a harness, a cock, and a grinning me.

There're some velco straps that adjust on either side, and they're brilliantly designed to prevent velcro hooks abrading your skin and getting tight without feeling uncomfortable. It's a double strap harness, which gives access to the ass and vulva if you want that - it also means you can use this harness with a double-ended dildo like the Share or the Nexus if you'd like. It also has a built in O ring, which I like because I seem to lose them a lot! It can stretch to fit something up to 2" in diameter, but you have to really work at it. As long as you have a decent base, you can have a dildo as thin as you'd like.

When I got this, it was recommended that I wrap the base of my dildos in a condom to prevent the dye seeping into my cocks if I was wearing them for a longer period of time (like packing). I've washed it (it's machine washable, hurray! But don't put it in the dryer, let it hang dry) and haven't experienced any issues with the dye yet, but I've read warnings about it, so beware. The material is a spandex/poly blend that's pretty nice against the skin.

I did try it out with a packing cock, and while it was certainly workable, the softness of a packer makes it a little too easy for it to slip out of the O ring. Good in a pinch, though, if you'd rather wear one harness for day and night use.

I got a black one myself as I liked the way it looked, but you can also get baby blue or baby pink. And it comes with a little storage pouch for when you're not wearing it. Best purchase I've made in a while! And my boyfriend loves it on me. I might experiment more with masculinity with this baby against my skin keeping me company.

When I first tried this on, I put my packer in - it was really hot watching my boyfriend sucking my cock. After a bit I wanted something a little firmer, and found switching out the soft pack for a dildo to be pretty easy - important for sudden flares of passion!

LOVE. Lovelovelove. This is the most comfortable harness and I still love it more than any other one I've ever used. I love it enough to want to try another one of their designs. This is my go-to harness.