This is a great harness for beginners who do not want to spend a great deal of money. This is the harness that you buy to experiment with and if you like using a harness you upgrade to a nicer version. The harness can certainly be used for strap on sex, gender play, and for pegging. You can change out the dildo as long as it is a dildo that is designed for a vac-u-lock system. The harness can be worn over clothing or on bare skin. The dildo that came with the harness is very stiff and I think it would be a challenge to wear this harness under clothing with the dildo attached. However, I think the harness could be worn and the dildo would quickly snap into place. You can adjust the harness ahead of time to ensure it fits appropriately, but it does take a few minutes to get it on and the buckles fastened.

I found that this harness was more comfortable for me to wear over a pair of boy cut underwear. I have sensitive skin and due to it being a little tight it was just more flattering for me to wear it over the underwear. It was easier to take off then it was to get it on. The first time I used it I put it on alone and I had a challenging time getting it fastened. The second time I had someone assist me and it went more smoothly. It is very easy to secure the dildo to the harness and to take it off. However, the vac-u-lock system was amazing at keeping the dildo attached to the harness. Some harness designs allow the dildo to move around more, but this one keeps it firmly in place. I think that makes it perfect for beginners who are figuring out how to use a harness with different sexual position. The harness did great in a variety of sex positions and I had no concerns about the dildo coming off or the harness moving around.

The dildo that comes with the harness is silicone. To care for it you can clean it with soap and water, boil it for 5 minutes, or even put it in the top rack of your dishwasher. I am a fan of the dishwasher method if I am in a hurry and this dildo has now been through my dishwasher twice with no incident. It has help up just fine. The harness is easy to wipe off and store. I do not keep the dildo attached to the harness when I store the harness.

The packaging was very minimal for this item. It came in a bubble shipping envelope with the shipping order inside. There were no instructions, but the harness is pretty self explanatory. The packaging was very discreet, but I will say that you could feel the harness and dildo through the package so not something you would want to leave around for children or house guests to touch.

Overall I was happy with the harness. I think I personally need something that is more friendly to curvy folks and something a little more advanced. That being said I had a really good time and used this harness multiple times. It will certainly stay in my toy box and is great for a partner who has not used a harness before.